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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I was out with a friend at lunchtime and we were chatting about everyday things as you do with your friends. Got chatting about her sex life.. Wont bore you all but at the end of the conversation she said she wouldn't care if she never had sex again as it did absolutely nothingfor her anymore..(aged 41)..WTF!

Driving home i just thought shit, what if you could never have sex again

Honestly how would you feel if you could never have sex again..?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I’d be pretty peeved to put it mildly and life as a Buddhist Monk just doesn’t appeal to me sadly

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I could do it. I'd be pretty unhappy.

There'd better be a fucking good reason for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d be pretty peeved to put it mildly and life as a Buddhist Monk just doesn’t appeal to me sadly

"

You took that better than I thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s been over 11 years now (medical reasons) and it took me way over two years to get over the loss of my only hobbie and past time.

Hence why we are on here.

You learn to live with it and find other ways to enjoy each other !!!!!

T

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I could do it. I'd be pretty unhappy.

There'd better be a fucking good reason for it."

Exactly..I'd be devastated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s been over 11 years now (medical reasons) and it took me way over two years to get over the loss of my only hobbie and past time.

Hence why we are on here.

You learn to live with it and find other ways to enjoy each other !!!!!

T"

Oh im really sorry...

Feel bad now.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s been over 11 years now (medical reasons) and it took me way over two years to get over the loss of my only hobbie and past time.

Hence why we are on here.

You learn to live with it and find other ways to enjoy each other !!!!!

T

Oh im really sorry...

Feel bad now.x"

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Cake & chocolate substitute??? It would certainly ease it pain of no sex

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

Just north of Bristol

I’d really rather not stop but if I had to I’d find other things to fill my life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We can all still wank though I guess..

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I could do it. I'd be pretty unhappy.

There'd better be a fucking good reason for it.

Exactly..I'd be devastated. "

Right now, pandemic is fucking good reason. It's starting to get me down, but I can deal.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

I'd be dry humping everything to see I could bump start my sex drive again like a car

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could do it. Have done it in the past for stretches (over a year at the moment) and it looked like I'd never have sex again.

I'd be more annoyed if it was purely because no one was interested but more accepting if it was medical/age related.

But there are always options.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cake & chocolate substitute??? It would certainly ease it pain of no sex "

Yes and putting weight on wouldn't bother me as much if I knew I couldn't have sex lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can all still wank though I guess.."

Just not the same though ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d really rather not stop but if I had to I’d find other things to fill my life. "

You could still show us your willy Vine

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By *rambuie100Man
over a year ago

essex/suffolk border

That would be torture !! . I’d have to leave Fab too. Couldn’t admire all the gorgeous ladies ( including yourself) OP... and not to be able to do anything if opportunity arose.

And would need new trousers, as balls would be like space hoppers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t cope with a month without so a lifetime would be Horrific

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd be dry humping everything to see I could bump start my sex drive again like a car "

Haha.. love it

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

Just north of Bristol


"I’d really rather not stop but if I had to I’d find other things to fill my life.

You could still show us your willy Vine "

Is that a request?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d really rather not stop but if I had to I’d find other things to fill my life.

You could still show us your willy Vine

Is that a request? "

Its an option

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live


"So I was out with a friend at lunchtime and we were chatting about everyday things as you do with your friends. Got chatting about her sex life.. Wont bore you all but at the end of the conversation she said she wouldn't care if she never had sex again as it did absolutely nothingfor her anymore..(aged 41)..WTF!

Driving home i just thought shit, what if you could never have sex again

Honestly how would you feel if you could never have sex again..?

"

No. Just no.

Not even considering it! Lol

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

She may change! I could take it or leave it at that age tbh up till 3 years ago I had just 2 sexual partners and was mediocre sex ! When I reached 60 and found myself I've never looked back since experimenting and enjoying stuff I never thought I would! And am up to 13 penetrative partners now! My fave thing to do which I love is suck cock love precum the taste everything x

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

Just north of Bristol


"She may change! I could take it or leave it at that age tbh up till 3 years ago I had just 2 sexual partners and was mediocre sex ! When I reached 60 and found myself I've never looked back since experimenting and enjoying stuff I never thought I would! And am up to 13 penetrative partners now! My fave thing to do which I love is suck cock love precum the taste everything x "

I love it when I hear this. Sexual liberation is never too late!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell your friend to get down to her GP. Drugs, drugs, drugs are the answer.

I've been in that state and it was fine because I genuinely didn't want it. But I knew something wasn't right.

She may find it comes back with a hell of a bang!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Broken.

Sex and intimacy are huge parts of my identity and I don’t know what I’d do if I couldn’t have sex or feel close to someone in that way. I really think it would break me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tell your friend to get down to her GP. Drugs, drugs, drugs are the answer.

I've been in that state and it was fine because I genuinely didn't want it. But I knew something wasn't right.

She may find it comes back with a hell of a bang! "

I hope it does for her sake..

Trying to tell her im 50 and still a dirt bag she just couldn't digest..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Broken.

Sex and intimacy are huge parts of my identity and I don’t know what I’d do if I couldn’t have sex or feel close to someone in that way. I really think it would break me. "

I'd feel exactly the same i know I would. I nearly cried when she said it..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She may change! I could take it or leave it at that age tbh up till 3 years ago I had just 2 sexual partners and was mediocre sex ! When I reached 60 and found myself I've never looked back since experimenting and enjoying stuff I never thought I would! And am up to 13 penetrative partners now! My fave thing to do which I love is suck cock love precum the taste everything x "

Go girl!!

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Is she in denial? Maybe she just hasn't met someone she can trust enough to be that intimate.

I can live without it, for a while, but I do need that intimacy....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is she in denial? Maybe she just hasn't met someone she can trust enough to be that intimate.

I can live without it, for a while, but I do need that intimacy...."

Been married 14 years..She said she feels nothing when having sex other than for godsake hurry up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm okay going without for a few months as it's often by choice... If it was something that was permanently taken away? I would be one bitchy, angry little Geordie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is she in denial? Maybe she just hasn't met someone she can trust enough to be that intimate.

I can live without it, for a while, but I do need that intimacy....

Been married 14 years..She said she feels nothing when having sex other than for godsake hurry up.. "

Could be depression which can affect your libido.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is she in denial? Maybe she just hasn't met someone she can trust enough to be that intimate.

I can live without it, for a while, but I do need that intimacy....

Been married 14 years..She said she feels nothing when having sex other than for godsake hurry up..

Could be depression which can affect your libido."

She's far from depressed honestly..

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"So I was out with a friend at lunchtime and we were chatting about everyday things as you do with your friends. Got chatting about her sex life.. Wont bore you all but at the end of the conversation she said she wouldn't care if she never had sex again as it did absolutely nothingfor her anymore..(aged 41)..WTF!

Driving home i just thought shit, what if you could never have sex again

Honestly how would you feel if you could never have sex again..?

"

It’s really an eye opener isn’t it my ‘vanilla’ friends are all - nope we have had the kids now I’m done. I let him have a fiddle once a month. Just amazing really how different women view sex differently. If anything I’ve become more interested in my 40s than less although I always had a high sex drive.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I felt like that in the last 18 months of my marriage and the subsequent 16 months after I left

Fast forward to May 2018 and never looked back

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"So I was out with a friend at lunchtime and we were chatting about everyday things as you do with your friends. Got chatting about her sex life.. Wont bore you all but at the end of the conversation she said she wouldn't care if she never had sex again as it did absolutely nothingfor her anymore..(aged 41)..WTF!

Driving home i just thought shit, what if you could never have sex again

Honestly how would you feel if you could never have sex again..?

It’s really an eye opener isn’t it my ‘vanilla’ friends are all - nope we have had the kids now I’m done. I let him have a fiddle once a month. Just amazing really how different women view sex differently. If anything I’ve become more interested in my 40s than less although I always had a high sex drive. "

Totally agree with this but from a mans view

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’ve done it for 7 years before now and just got used to that is normal life. Like now I don’t miss the sex as such it is the intimacy you share with someone I miss and you can have that without the sexual side when that goes away

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"I’ve done it for 7 years before now and just got used to that is normal life. Like now I don’t miss the sex as such it is the intimacy you share with someone I miss and you can have that without the sexual side when that goes away "

When you’re not driving I take it lol afternoon by the way

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"So I was out with a friend at lunchtime and we were chatting about everyday things as you do with your friends. Got chatting about her sex life.. Wont bore you all but at the end of the conversation she said she wouldn't care if she never had sex again as it did absolutely nothingfor her anymore..(aged 41)..WTF!

Driving home i just thought shit, what if you could never have sex again

Honestly how would you feel if you could never have sex again..?

"

You know what I think I could cope fine with out it, I mean I've gone without it since March I haven't killed anyone yet

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs

I did 4 years of it, went through quite a few rabbits

I would miss intimacy more than actual sex though, not being able to touch would be devastating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell your friend to get down to her GP. Drugs, drugs, drugs are the answer.

I've been in that state and it was fine because I genuinely didn't want it. But I knew something wasn't right.

She may find it comes back with a hell of a bang!

I hope it does for her sake..

Trying to tell her im 50 and still a dirt bag she just couldn't digest..

"

Maybe she genuinely isn't bothered by it

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

I suppose if you have never had good sex you don't miss it, I would, recently had some health problems & could not wait to check everything was still working

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I was out with a friend at lunchtime and we were chatting about everyday things as you do with your friends. Got chatting about her sex life.. Wont bore you all but at the end of the conversation she said she wouldn't care if she never had sex again as it did absolutely nothingfor her anymore..(aged 41)..WTF!

Driving home i just thought shit, what if you could never have sex again

Honestly how would you feel if you could never have sex again..?

It’s really an eye opener isn’t it my ‘vanilla’ friends are all - nope we have had the kids now I’m done. I let him have a fiddle once a month. Just amazing really how different women view sex differently. If anything I’ve become more interested in my 40s than less although I always had a high sex drive. "

Yeah definitely an eye opener how women view sex to others..

Hit 50 and im worse than ever,but as you ive always had a high sex drive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I felt like that in the last 18 months of my marriage and the subsequent 16 months after I left

Fast forward to May 2018 and never looked back "

And im not sure if this is what she was trying to tell me tbh..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt bother me now like it use too.

if it comes along ,great.

if not, no worries i got plenty of other things to be doing with my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did 6.5yrs through choice so it's doable but would rather not repeat it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d probably get a lot more done around the house to be honest.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I’ve done it for 7 years before now and just got used to that is normal life. Like now I don’t miss the sex as such it is the intimacy you share with someone I miss and you can have that without the sexual side when that goes away

When you’re not driving I take it lol afternoon by the way "

I’m bemused.... I don’t drive

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"I’ve done it for 7 years before now and just got used to that is normal life. Like now I don’t miss the sex as such it is the intimacy you share with someone I miss and you can have that without the sexual side when that goes away

When you’re not driving I take it lol afternoon by the way

I’m bemused.... I don’t drive "

Draw ops

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I could live without penetrive sex but not intamacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was out with a friend at lunchtime and we were chatting about everyday things as you do with your friends. Got chatting about her sex life.. Wont bore you all but at the end of the conversation she said she wouldn't care if she never had sex again as it did absolutely nothingfor her anymore..(aged 41)..WTF!

Driving home i just thought shit, what if you could never have sex again

Honestly how would you feel if you could never have sex again..?

"

You get use to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is she in denial? Maybe she just hasn't met someone she can trust enough to be that intimate.

I can live without it, for a while, but I do need that intimacy....

Been married 14 years..She said she feels nothing when having sex other than for godsake hurry up.. "

She might be asexual. There's nothing wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Broken.

Sex and intimacy are huge parts of my identity and I don’t know what I’d do if I couldn’t have sex or feel close to someone in that way. I really think it would break me. "

I went without sex for almost 20 years. You adapt and find interest in other things. It's the loss of touch and intimacy that's the killer, not the sex.

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