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By *icola2202 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

Hi to everybody that is clearly not sleeping

Me and my husband have been looking for a lady to join us but still no luck ??

I’m now questioning everything is it the profile, our looks or maybe were just not interesting

People say the unicorn is hard to find and you better believe it

Any honest tips are greatly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you given clubs a try?

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By *icola2202 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chatham


"Have you given clubs a try? "
no we were thinking about it then lockdown hit

Just having no luck at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you given clubs a try? no we were thinking about it then lockdown hit

Just having no luck at all "

Having been both the illusive single bi woman and part of a couple seeking one I can honestly say clubs are your best bet.

A few are open for socially distanced socialising atm, might be worth a go?

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By *icola2202 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chatham


"Have you given clubs a try? no we were thinking about it then lockdown hit

Just having no luck at all

Having been both the illusive single bi woman and part of a couple seeking one I can honestly say clubs are your best bet.

A few are open for socially distanced socialising atm, might be worth a go? "
thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was looking for couples I would be worried about meeting such a inexperienced couple. A lot of people don’t know how they will react until they are in the situation and even experienced couples it can go tits up. Club scene, get to know people etc is where you need to aim in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the female half should join another experiened couple.. See if you like it?

Agree with the club advice too

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Maybe the female half should join another experiened couple.. See if you like it?

Agree with the club advice too"

That’s some good advice there Midnight

D.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the female half should join another experienced couple.. See if you like it?

Agree with the club advice too

That’s some good advice there Midnight

D."

All these couples waiting for sexy girls to fall across their laps... Get out and find your own laps

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Maybe the female half should join another experienced couple.. See if you like it?

Agree with the club advice too

That’s some good advice there Midnight

D.

All these couples waiting for sexy girls to fall across their laps... Get out and find your own laps "

D.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm about as far from what you're looking for as it's possible to be but looking on as an outsider so to speak I'd wonder what any woman joining you might expect. There seems to be no enthusiasm for what you're asking more a kind of reticence and an "oh well let's get this thing done" attitude.

There are hundreds of profiles looking for what you want and very few of the kind of woman you're after. This puts you on the position of needing to appeal to them.

Having read your other thread I wonder if N id a bit unsure about certain aspects of her body, hence the doubt in the op. Don't be, we're all different and nobody's genitals are perfect.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We have met or been in message contact with several single women who have expressed interest in getting together with us. That includes women whose profile says they are straight and aren't looking for couples, but have told us privately that's just so they don't get bombarded with messages from couples.

For us it's about forming friendships. From what we have read, most single women don't want to be talked to because you have a sexual fantasy to fulfill. They have desires of their own. For most women, it all starts in the mind, so you have to touch that sexual organ first.

We seek only friendships, but friends on here are open to things going in a sexual direction. So prioritise getting to know people, then doors can open up. Approach people because you like them, not because you have an agenda.

We have a particular female Fab friend who we have spent months getting to know and chatting largely about non-sexual stuff. She knows that we would like her and hanging around with her regardless of whether she was interested in us sexually or not. Having put time into developing that connection, we are all now chomping at the bit to tear each other's clothes off.

My serious advice to you is to play the long game. Prioritise making connections with people you like over ticking a box on your sexual bucket list. Many women who feel they are just a check list item will run a mile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi to everybody that is clearly not sleeping

Me and my husband have been looking for a lady to join us but still no luck ??

I’m now questioning everything is it the profile, our looks or maybe were just not interesting

People say the unicorn is hard to find and you better believe it

Any honest tips are greatly appreciated "

Could you do a pic with both of you together? You both have face pics on. A 'couple' smiley pic would be nice.

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By *icola2202 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chatham


"If I was looking for couples I would be worried about meeting such a inexperienced couple. A lot of people don’t know how they will react until they are in the situation and even experienced couples it can go tits up. Club scene, get to know people etc is where you need to aim in my opinion "
thank you

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By *icola2202 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

Thank you all x

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By *inky and the brain 1Couple
over a year ago

near Halesowen

Something I've noticed, on here at least,is that my partner (female) seems to go for a different body type than I'm generally attracted to. Also I read recently and it makes total sense when you consider it,is that both you and us are increasing the difficulty by 50% due to fact there's 2 of you,and obviously you both should be attracted to the woman and she needs to be attracted to you both too! As stated by others your best bet would be a club,although by no means are they a free for all,by going on a couple's and single female night at least you know there may be a woman who MAY be receptive to the possibility . Either way you will meet some lovely people and you 2 can always play together in a group room and go from there

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By *inky and the brain 1Couple
over a year ago

near Halesowen

In my humble opinion it comes down to this....in a club environment ,in the heat of the moment,'things' can happen fairly easily,with permission of course! where as on here, it's a more intimate meeting due to being one on one or two on one ,to be factually correct it's actually more like dating together really ,but you see people's genitals before their faces

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By *inky and the brain 1Couple
over a year ago

near Halesowen

I feel I should point out in both clubs and here, it's far more likely 'she' will be part of a couple..in a club ,you can chat face to face ,we have met some lovely people and not played with them and we've both just played with a woman,who had a male partner, who we never had a proper conversation with and don't know their names but obviously your experience will vary from ours and boundaries must be set of what you are both comfortable with doing,as EVERYONE involved should always be enjoying themselves.

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