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Guys - Tips (not tits) on getting a message read/standing out in the Inbox (no - not THAT box!)

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Hola and happy Bank Holiday Monday!

Firstly - yep - I know ladies have it easier (or differently anyway) on here because of the difference in male:female ratio - so here - in a response to all this e ‘why can’t I get a reply’ threads - are a few hints to adopt/ignore as you wish!

A chap on another thread said we get so many messages we can afford to ignore or just delete them unread. Please be aware that it’s not a case of ‘affording’ to ignore them - it’s a case of not physically having the time to open them all - and therefore glancing through to try to find the ones that MIGHT be worth replying to and MIGHT be worth meeting.

So let’s start - I have five minutes to spare before I walk the pup:

Your profile pic is VITAL!!!!!! I can’t stress this enough! Have a silhouette or a cock pic as your profile and the message is irrelevant - it’s unlikely to get opened. To me the best profile pics are a nice torso pic (Bare if you work out a lot - clothed in a nice suit if you have an ‘average’ body like me!) Or a face pic (if you’re brave enough) that’s smiling/pleasant.

You don’t have to be drop dead gorgeous to get a reply from most ladies - just interesting - and perhaps local enough if they’re looking for local meets - to pique their interest.

The message is also important - longer than ‘hey’ but not an essay - and definitely not a cut and paste.

Personally I put the effort into my profile - so in the message I just send a few recent face/body pics and ask them to get back to me if they’re interested.

My profile I put a LOT of effort into!

If you don’t have a face pic in public - send a face pic with the message - you can always delete it later if you’re worried about privacy.

None of the above will guarantee getting your message read/replied to - but it will give you the best chance possible.

If other ladies/couples (or successful males) wish to add more ‘tips’ to this - please feel free!

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish

*those - not this e!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont msg " come over to my place and sit on my dick" at 4am

Because I AM very likely to take the piss outta ya.

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"*those - not this e! "

Slippy fingers there Peachy?

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Dont msg " come over to my place and sit on my dick" at 4am

Because I AM very likely to take the piss outta ya. "

How about 5am? #askingforafriend

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"*those - not this e!

Slippy fingers there Peachy? "

Yep - currently trying to type whilst constantly throwing a toy for a six month old pup to chase. His way of telling me it’s time for the park!

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"*those - not this e!

Slippy fingers there Peachy?

Yep - currently trying to type whilst constantly throwing a toy for a six month old pup to chase. His way of telling me it’s time for the park! "

“Walkies” Peachy!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Nice thread Peachy

I agree with all the above but, for me I also prefer to read a message complied with a degree of thought, to have at least read my profile. Don’t assume we will want to meet just because you do!

Don’t as for a face pic if you haven’t included one yourself and even then it’s not obligatory to receive one back

Please, please! Write you message in English and not in txt spk! Those are instantly deleted along with photos that include all your clutter in the background

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NEVER double message. Ever.

Unless you've forgotten the "keyword" from their profile but, even then, I would advise resending your WHOLE original message with the addition of the keyword.

Why?

Well when somebody sends you a second message you cannot see the first, long, message you are supposed to reply to whilst typing out your reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely don't do cut and paste messages.

Don't send long winded scenario's, or short ones for that matter.

Speaking on a "friends" behalf, not from experience

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally I'm more likely to spot someone if they seem interesting from the forums or the local updates. I sometimes scroll through the local updates and decent pictures and interesting/well manered/correctly spelt statuses stand out a mile.

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Some great advice there - thanks - and some good male profiles have responded if anyone wants hints on those!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the profile and message are a clue to the kind of lover you are.

If there's no apparent thought or care gone into either, if they look rushed and unconsidered and there's no sign of a subtle sense of humour then I draw my own unfavourable conclusions.

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Personally I'm more likely to spot someone if they seem interesting from the forums or the local updates. I sometimes scroll through the local updates and decent pictures and interesting/well manered/correctly spelt statuses stand out a mile. "

True - and the ones who whine about the site/time wasters etc or ask for a late night bj stand out too - for opposite reasons!

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"For me the profile and message are a clue to the kind of lover you are.

If there's no apparent thought or care gone into either, if they look rushed and unconsidered and there's no sign of a subtle sense of humour then I draw my own unfavourable conclusions.

"

Very true - thanks for your input!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read her profile and check what she wants.

I state very clearly what I'm after, with a big point about being local. So don't waste your time asking for a meet if you're not the lady's type. It just shows you haven't bothered to read her bio, which she put effort into writing.

Also don't start by asking for a meet!

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Read her profile and check what she wants.

I state very clearly what I'm after, with a big point about being local. So don't waste your time asking for a meet if you're not the lady's type. It just shows you haven't bothered to read her bio, which she put effort into writing.

Also don't start by asking for a meet! "

And if it’s Kitty you’re messaging - don’t start by telling her what amazing tits she has!

I tried that and it didn’t work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent thread great input and great advice x

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