FabSwingers.com forum: People on Fab you know dilemma?

By *omLooking OP Man
over a year ago

Deal, Kent

Has anyone found people on here that they know that didn’t know they were into this and then met with them? And did it work?

I as a Dominant has been contacted by a couple to meet with the female who is Sub and I know them but I didn’t know they were into this lifestyle and I’m positive they don’t know I am either.

I certainly would enjoy meeting with her but should I take the opportunity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say yes, go for it. They're here for the same reason you are. Say hello, see what they think. Worst case scenario, they say "no thanks".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it I say

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

In what context do you know them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say yes go for it

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By *omLooking OP Man
over a year ago

Deal, Kent

"In what context do you know them?"

They are friends of a sibling?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Do they know it’s you?

Because if not it might get awkward when you rock up and they hadn’t realised it was you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"In what context do you know them?

They are friends of a sibling?"

Has the potential for awkwardness then. I think only you know if its likely to work well

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

How is you know its them and they dont know its you? Did they send you photos?

As you are in a D/s relationship I would assume you appreciate consent as well as the need for open and honest communication are key to a healthy dynamic.

With this in mind I would ensure they know its you before considering moving forward.

The other consideration is around what happens with your sibling if it goes wrong?

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By *omLooking OP Man
over a year ago

Deal, Kent

"Do they know it’s you?

Because if not it might get awkward when you rock up and they hadn’t realised it was you.

That’s the dilemma

They don’t know yet.

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By *omLooking OP Man
over a year ago

Deal, Kent

"In what context do you know them?

They are friends of a sibling?

Has the potential for awkwardness then. I think only you know if its likely to work well"

That’s is what I am thinking atm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That would be pretty awkward if you turned up on their front doorstep and they were like we are expecting someone else. Cough you're not expecting anyone else we are who you are expecting

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By *omLooking OP Man
over a year ago

Deal, Kent

"How is you know its them and they dont know its you? Did they send you photos?

As you are in a D/s relationship I would assume you appreciate consent as well as the need for open and honest communication are key to a healthy dynamic.

With this in mind I would ensure they know its you before considering moving forward.

The other consideration is around what happens with your sibling if it goes wrong?

Yes they provide pics and me sending mine is the next step.

I certainly do appreciate being honest and open and think the relationship with my sister is something that is too close to home probably

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes they provide pics and me sending mine is the next step.

Don't you think they will be wondering why it is taking you so long to send a pic ?

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By *omLooking OP Man
over a year ago

Deal, Kent

Yes they provide pics and me sending mine is the next step.

Don't you think they will be wondering why it is taking you so long to send a pic ?"

No as they are looking into a few scenarios at the moment that a pic would ruin.

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By *omLooking OP Man
over a year ago

Deal, Kent

"That would be pretty awkward if you turned up on their front doorstep and they were like we are expecting someone else. Cough you're not expecting anyone else we are who you are expecting

I am leaning towards not meeting and just being honest and explaining I know them and how I do may become awkward.

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By *omLooking OP Man
over a year ago

Deal, Kent

"In what context do you know them?

They are friends of a sibling?

Has the potential for awkwardness then. I think only you know if its likely to work well"

This is what I’m thinking tbh

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By *iceButtSlimMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I guess on the flip side of things, there is potentially a better feeling of mutual trust, or neither of you are an axe murderer.

I guess that neither of you would want your sibling to know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one asked the most important question.

Do they drive a ford explorer ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes they provide pics and me sending mine is the next step.

Don't you think they will be wondering why it is taking you so long to send a pic ?

No as they are looking into a few scenarios at the moment that a pic would ruin."

Then you should walk away from it. It's really unfair to enter into something like this aware that you know them while they don't. If it was me and I discovered I'd be quite angry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they provide pics and me sending mine is the next step.

Don't you think they will be wondering why it is taking you so long to send a pic ?

No as they are looking into a few scenarios at the moment that a pic would ruin.

Then you should walk away from it. It's really unfair to enter into something like this aware that you know them while they don't. If it was me and I discovered I'd be quite angry."

This. They need to be on the same page as you. If your plans would be ruined by a photo (presumably anonymity is key), then their friend's brother rocking up is also going to ruin it.

If you tell them up front, they might still be into it, or they might not. If you don't tell them, they will almost certainly be furious.

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By *omLooking OP Man
over a year ago

Deal, Kent

Yes they provide pics and me sending mine is the next step.

Don't you think they will be wondering why it is taking you so long to send a pic ?

No as they are looking into a few scenarios at the moment that a pic would ruin.

Then you should walk away from it. It's really unfair to enter into something like this aware that you know them while they don't. If it was me and I discovered I'd be quite angry.

This. They need to be on the same page as you. If your plans would be ruined by a photo (presumably anonymity is key), then their friend's brother rocking up is also going to ruin it.

If you tell them up front, they might still be into it, or they might not. If you don't tell them, they will almost certainly be furious."

At the moment their scenarios are firm, if was then there would be no question about having the conversation before progressing but after seeing the comments (which ty everyone) it’s as I expected that it’s all very twisted and tangled for it to even turn out worth it.

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By *omLooking OP Man
over a year ago

Deal, Kent

*Aren’t firm (grrrr)

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