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Why am I not getting any message from women and couples.

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By *esire in Sheffield OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Hi all.

I guess actually I’m very sure many guys are thinking the same. So I don’t know if this topic will be trend but I would like to know why women are not sending me message or I even hardly get reply from them.

All feedbacks are very welcomed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you ever heard the term grafting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to fab as a single male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe upload a few more varied pics.

Your profile is a bit generic. You need to tell others what exactly you're looking for, and/or what you offer them (as a person).

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p join in with forum chat and visit the cam rooms. Good luck!

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

You’ve not directly asked for feedback on your profile so I can’t really comment on aspects of that which put me off.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Because you’re just another middle aged guy, on a site full of middle aged guys. Seeking the elusive meet

Also it’s ‘safe’ not save

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a numbers thing

Doubt there are many fellas getting first contact mail from girls and couples.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Hi all.

I guess actually I’m very sure many guys are thinking the same. So I don’t know if this topic will be trend but I would like to know why women are not sending me message or I even hardly get reply from them.

All feedbacks are very welcomed. "

Why should they?

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Welcome to the meat market

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

A small percentage of guys will receive messages from females and couples, most guys will have to do the leg work to get noticed. The more effort, the tone of your messages and how you sell yourself will all factor in your success.

Good luck

and treat everyone as an equal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the club OP - my own mailbox is empty as well

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By *aylorsFlameCouple
over a year ago

North West

Just had a look at your profile... as someone else says, a bit generic. There are also a few typos which although not the end of they world, it says to me you’ve not taken much care or effort to read it back and check it.

Is 40 your actual age?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t be so impatient!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get messages from them either

but I also don't message them

plus most women don't like guys like me

that dress

some woman sent me a message about one of my threads and I think she tried to take a dig at me for saying fatties shouldn't wear leggings

she said I wasn't a woman

I don't consider myself to be a woman or want to be one

I like my cock and balls thanks

I also like lingerie

I'm into forced sissification and feminisation too

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Take a look at your profile OP and ask yourself (and answer honestly) is it appealing? Does it really entice you in? Pique your interest? Make you want to find out more?

If you answered "No" to *any* of those then there's your first thing to change.

Then ask yourself this - on a site that is heavily loaded with men can I really expect to get people contacting me? Or favouring my profile over other guys?

Again if you answer "No" to either then you have your answer.

It's not impossible to get noticed and get replies etc on here, even as a past it fifty something like me, but it takes finding an approach that works for you and adapting to make the site work for you without expecting it to work with little effort or thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cant comment on your profile as you didnt ask, but why do you think women or couples would be messaging you???????

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By *esire in Sheffield OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Thanks for correcting I guess I really should pay more attention to my profile

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

You're not in the clique. There, I said it.

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By *esire in Sheffield OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Yes I know I look older but I’m really 40

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By *esire in Sheffield OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not in the clique. There, I said it. "

what clique is that then?????

and how do we join

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By *esire in Sheffield OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Honestly you are totally right

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"You're not in the clique. There, I said it. "

true true

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Women in general tend to send out fewer first messages than guys. I am a woman that did used to send first messages but i would have to find the profile appealing. On a positive you do have face pictures and id only message guys with face pictures. But i liked profiles that i could sink my teeth into ones where the guys showed personality and gave me information i wanted like like what they where looking for and what they had to offer.

Your profile comes across as very generic and doesnt stand out. You might have a long wait if your expecting women to message you

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"You're not in the clique. There, I said it. "

I have always considered that a positive

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By *esire in Sheffield OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Yes forum is fun at least better then private chat

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

Turn on your 'who's near?', that will give you a quick idea of your local competition, I can guarantee that there will be way more males than females or couples.

There are loads of threads on the forums where people have asked for profile/messaging advice, read through some of those to get pointers on how to make the most of your profile. A lot of females & couples will look at profiles before they even open a message, if your profile does not capture their interest then they will move on to one that does.

It takes lots of effort and patience to get results on here.

Good luck OP

K

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"I don't get messages from them either

but I also don't message them

plus most women don't like guys like me

that dress

some woman sent me a message about one of my threads and I think she tried to take a dig at me for saying fatties shouldn't wear leggings

she said I wasn't a woman

I don't consider myself to be a woman or want to be one

I like my cock and balls thanks

I also like lingerie

I'm into forced sissification and feminisation too"

You are incorrect in your assumption.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all.

I guess actually I’m very sure many guys are thinking the same. So I don’t know if this topic will be trend but I would like to know why women are not sending me message or I even hardly get reply from them.

All feedbacks are very welcomed. "

One of your photos clearly shows members of the general public, in a public place in the background. That is not allowed on Fab

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By *esire in Sheffield OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

One of your photos clearly shows members of the general public, in a public place in the background. That is not allowed on Fab "

Sorry didn’t know that deleting now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get messages from them either

but I also don't message them

plus most women don't like guys like me

that dress

some woman sent me a message about one of my threads and I think she tried to take a dig at me for saying fatties shouldn't wear leggings

she said I wasn't a woman

I don't consider myself to be a woman or want to be one

I like my cock and balls thanks

I also like lingerie

I'm into forced sissification and feminisation too"

Fatties! Really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

One of your photos clearly shows members of the general public, in a public place in the background. That is not allowed on Fab

Sorry didn’t know that deleting now "

Might be worth having a look at the site rules. Also the FAQ section is useful.

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