FabSwingers.com forum: Today is not good

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Gf found me curled up in front room not knowing where I was..she got me back to bed and listened to my tears from the past...this shit doesn t ever go away but it does go quiet for decent long periods and I manage it..no meds...but todsy wont stay bad it will rise to be a good day as I will be amongst the trees and helping someone out of a big problem with a busted roof. That nature and that smile will heal the damage. A " friend" said, a few months ago..I thought you d stopped with all that silliness. Mental health does not go away, theres no miraculous cure, what there is is management and understanding oneself. So to all those with such problems I send hugs and wish you all the very best. Today will be a good day as today I will bring a smile and relief to another, what more can make life a good life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sending hugs treemonkey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get up

Get out

Face life full on

Live your best life

Best of luck

But if you need help be strong enough to take it!!!

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Sending hugs make time for yourself to xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"sending hugs treemonkey

Xx"

Hey thanks...just quiet in my thoughts at the moment but once I hear the trees talking and focus on a very difficult job all will be well...and the sounds of the birds..live music

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its evil but you can get through it, accept what help you can get, aint easy but dig deep

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get up

Get out

Face life full on

Live your best life

Best of luck

But if you need help be strong enough to take it!!!

Thats the plan..same as always..the roof job is an awkward bugger so focuses the mind...as I said today will not stay bad, it will end in smiles

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sending hugs make time for yourself to xx"

Helping others in need is making good use of my time..its seeing the smiles and relief..

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Hope the day does indeed improve fellow simian

You're right, it never goes, it's how you manage it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Power to you tree monkey.

My take is, there’s a new battle to be fought everyday, can’t win them all but you can take strength from the victories and the defeats to face the next fight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sending massive hugs OP..You will have a great day.The sun is shining and your already winning with your positive thread...

Im an ex partner now to someone highly medicated and suffers with terrible anxiety and depression. Such a cruel disease. I remember he always said to me he thinks he's a fraud because you can't see it.

Every day was a massive fight just to get up in the morning...

Don't be alone and talk always. Message me anytime you want a chat...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending hugs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its evil but you can get through it, accept what help you can get, aint easy but dig deep

It hinders me but doesn t get me anymore...no doubt I ll find a quiet spot as usual and shed a few tears but this is not a problem..its a release...like when the sky is crying...it has its time then sunshine follows...well mostly

tis the UK after all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Power to you tree monkey.

My take is, there’s a new battle to be fought everyday, can’t win them all but you can take strength from the victories and the defeats to face the next fight"

Yup..each battle won is a lesson learned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending loving energy my friend xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big love and hugs to you

The brightest sunrise always comes after the darkest storm

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"sending massive hugs OP..You will have a great day.The sun is shining and your already winning with your positive thread...

Every day was a massive fight just to get up in the morning...

Don't be alone and talk always. Message me anytime you want a chat...

xx"

Thank you. It is one of the biggest failings with mental health issues. I ve had friends see me right on the edge..I mean teetering and then after a few months of good times they are suprised and often put down thinking it was all done with. At times it can make you feel that others don t really believe you. For me Im lucky. I work and play amongst nature and she does not have an opinion, she s just there giving all that she has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's highs and lows tree monkey

If they can take you at your lowest they don't deserve you at your best

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Big love and hugs to you

The brightest sunrise always comes after the darkest storm

Such is the nature of things

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's highs and lows tree monkey

If they can take you at your lowest they don't deserve you at your best"

Being a monkey Im very good at both...today I will touch the sky and feel refreshed..providing the roof dont give and I touch the floor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sending loving energy my friend xxxx"

Hey thanks...Im cool...aint no sunshine got something to do with it

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

You’re gonna carry that weight forever same as me. Just keep moving one step in front of the other.

Suns poking through the clouds here. Woke up to lots of fallers in the paddock so that’s my job for the day. Will blow the cobwebs away nicely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You’re gonna carry that weight forever same as me. Just keep moving one step in front of the other.

Suns poking through the clouds here. Woke up to lots of fallers in the paddock so that’s my job for the day. Will blow the cobwebs away nicely. "

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By *ilkyladyWoman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Hope you are getting continuing help or some kind of therapy too? Its a lifelong struggle. I find podcasts help too for low days. The Overwhelmed Brain is a good one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect treemonkey

I’ve been in similar places myself in the past

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Respect treemonkey

I’ve been in similar places myself in the past

Many have...often without others knowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sending hugs treemonkey

Hey thanks...just quiet in my thoughts at the moment but once I hear the trees talking and focus on a very difficult job all will be well...and the sounds of the birds..live music

Nothing beats the sound of nature.... Hope you get through the day, sending love and positive thoughts xx

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Sending you lots of positive energy OP. You're right, mental health issues don't ever go away. You find a way to manage them sure, to minimize the impact but they still rear their ugly head at the most unexpected of times and can be debilitating. Show yourself the kindness today that you show to others Tree. x

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Total respect to you, I have days where things come to haunt me again.

We have to fight them as hard as it is sometimes.

You are lucky you have someone to pull you back.

Look after yourself fella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending hugs to you. My partner has severe depression and I have had to cope with watching the love of my life turn into a near recluse over the last 10 years. It will never go away and is not only a daily battle for him but also for me. Depression is a medical condition. It’s not a flaw or weakness as some people think. Take care fixing the roof and whilst you are up there on the roof, please do a sun dance today and make this flipping gloomy wet weather go away x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Big hugs mate ..you can only repair that roof one tile at a time .. similarly ..walk a journey one step at a time...and live life from moment to moment....the sum of the tiles is the rebuilt roof ..the sum of your steps is your journey ..the sum of your moments is your life ... savour those moments

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sounds like you have a good way of dealing with things, to get out and into the trees. A run in the woods is my coping mechanism.

Hope things get better for you, and you have a lovely weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer with mental health issues to,it never goes away but for me the good days out number the bad though it's taking awhile to get here,enjoy your day out in the open,smile and tell yourself it's great to be alive x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remembering that times like this will pass OP, although hard to see at the time, in the moment. I am sure being outdoors will be a good boost for you, and remind you of where you are now and how far you have come from being in a darker place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending you lots of love and strength.

Be kind to yourself today please

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thaks all..thats one happy person, roof all patched up just in time for more rain. Slowly slowly coming out of my numb headedness...slow in, slow out..best way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sending you lots of love and strength.

Be kind to yourself today please

Hey thanks will do..headache may drive me into comfort of the bed x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Remembering that times like this will pass OP, although hard to see at the time, in the moment. I am sure being outdoors will be a good boost for you, and remind you of where you are now and how far you have come from being in a darker place.

Natural world is my medicine bud and yeah I do accept how far, I guess similar to so many others buts times like this that you may question ones progression. Upside I am alive which is a miracle and I am generally in a happy place, very happy...there are so many out there that carry a horrible weight..my best wishes and respect to all and remember....QUITTING IS NOT AN OPTION

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I suffer with mental health issues to,it never goes away but for me the good days out number the bad though it's taking awhile to get here,enjoy your day out in the open,smile and tell yourself it's great to be alive x"

Hey life can be a sod eh but as you say, in my case also, the good days outnumber the bad and life is for living. Take very good care of yourself x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like you have a good way of dealing with things, to get out and into the trees. A run in the woods is my coping mechanism.

Hope things get better for you, and you have a lovely weekend "

My therapy was living among the trees with not a wall or roof to my name, just trust in mother nature to see me through and provide me with that which I needed but also I therapeutically ran mountain ultra marathons...worked wonders. Enjoy your runnings x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Big hugs mate ..you can only repair that roof one tile at a time .. similarly ..walk a journey one step at a time...and live life from moment to moment....the sum of the tiles is the rebuilt roof ..the sum of your steps is your journey ..the sum of your moments is your life ... savour those moments

So very true my friend...minutes and seconds are all I know as I never look at times, dates, months etc..its pretty cool...living life spontaneously

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sending hugs to you. My partner has severe depression and I have had to cope with watching the love of my life turn into a near recluse over the last 10 years. It will never go away and is not only a daily battle for him but also for me. Depression is a medical condition. It’s not a flaw or weakness as some people think. Take care fixing the roof and whilst you are up there on the roof, please do a sun dance today and make this flipping gloomy wet weather go away x

Hey you..its the one thing that truly bothers me in the sense that ifva sufferer is in a relationship then the issues affect both massively. It can t be easy for my gf when she sees me curled up in a corner not aware of anything..who or where I am...she s fantastic but sometimes I feel I have no right to be with her and should remain in solitude....so let me please say....we do understand our other halves, it possibly occupies as much of our thinking at times as do the actual issues. My greatest respect and love and everything else good for you...people like us often survive because of people like you...so many thanks to all of you out there xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Total respect to you, I have days where things come to haunt me again.

We have to fight them as hard as it is sometimes.

You are lucky you have someone to pull you back.

Look after yourself fella."

Thank you, such are the lives of many and I know lucky I am as two years or so ago I had a sleeping bag, stove etc to my name...nothing else...but I had a freedom and it was that freedom and my sense of life and living that got me talking to my girl.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sending you lots of positive energy OP. You're right, mental health issues don't ever go away. You find a way to manage them sure, to minimize the impact but they still rear their ugly head at the most unexpected of times and can be debilitating. Show yourself the kindness today that you show to others Tree. x"

This is the hardest part for me to deal with...the belief that I am worthy of such a thing..this isn t a woe is me..its just fact and I deal with it. I treat others lives like they are diamonds but struggle to do the same so to feel good I solve peoples problems with nature by using my understanding of nature. Then when they smile I smile with them and feel good.xx

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

Sending hugs x hope the day is going ok for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"sending hugs treemonkey

Hey thanks...just quiet in my thoughts at the moment but once I hear the trees talking and focus on a very difficult job all will be well...and the sounds of the birds..live music

Nothing beats the sound of nature.... Hope you get through the day, sending love and positive thoughts xx "

I will always get through the day..I have the whispering trees and the singing of the birds, the roar of the winds and the crashing of the sea..all of which makes me feel good inside

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