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"Sex is always better when there is a connection and regular too." What if you don’t had the connection But had a mind blowing sex? | |||
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"Won’t have sex without one but that’s no guarantee it will be compatible sex." You could have a great connection, but not the greatest sex! | |||
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 Just to get on well and a have a laugh together suits me fine | |||
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"Won’t have sex without one but that’s no guarantee it will be compatible sex. You could have a great connection, but not the greatest sex!" Connections more important but it wouldn’t work longer term of the sexual chemistry wasn’t strong enough. | |||
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"I'd rather have a mind blowing orgasm with my vibrator than with a man I don't connect with" But you don’t connect with the vibrator.. if you get what I mean x | |||
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"Sex is always better when there is a connection and regular too. What if you don’t had the connection But had a mind blowing sex?" That is just 2 skilled people. Don't need a connection somewhere like this, but it helps. Personally I wouldn't meet someone again if we didn't click, even if they were mind blowing. But that's just me. | |||
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"Won’t have sex without one but that’s no guarantee it will be compatible sex. You could have a great connection, but not the greatest sex! Connections more important but it wouldn’t work longer term of the sexual chemistry wasn’t strong enough." Good point x | |||
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"Won’t have sex without one but that’s no guarantee it will be compatible sex." That is very true - compatibility is also important for it to be great sex, you can have all the connection in the world but if you're not on the same wavelength sexually, then chances are it won't be great - although there's a train of thought that if you truly had that connection you'd be able to talk about it and find something that worked | |||
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"I'd rather have a mind blowing orgasm with my vibrator than with a man I don't connect with But you don’t connect with the vibrator.. if you get what I mean x" Yes. but I feel better knowing I've used that for great sex, rather than using a man for sex | |||
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"But what about if you connect on an every day level and they are the perfect person,but shit at sex? Would you compromise?" If I'm not attracted to him then its friend zone, if I'm attracted to him then I'd encourage and work with him to improve our sex life | |||
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"But what about if you connect on an every day level and they are the perfect person,but shit at sex? Would you compromise?" Takes two people to be shit at sex for sex to be shit - if there's no compatability sexually then chances are it won't work - but as I said further up if there truly was a connection it would hopefully something that could be talked about to find what did work, if both people truly wanted to. The art of great sex is partly down to being able to read a partner or learn from them what works for them, and adapt to that, for both/all people involved | |||
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"But what about if you connect on an every day level and they are the perfect person,but shit at sex? Would you compromise?" To me that’s friendship. Shit sex is a chemistry thing not a one person crime.. | |||
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"Is great sex better than a good personal connection. What happens if you don’t get both "Then it probably won't last if you're looking for a long term thing in my opinion. | |||
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"But what about if you connect on an every day level and they are the perfect person,but shit at sex? Would you compromise?" Yes, I would. If we connect we'd understand each other in bed. | |||
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 but if I had a proper connection I'd probably be dating the person rather than just keeping things casual.
I kind of think of it similar to relationships with work colleagues, I have the ones I click with and like to socialise with in that context, but they don't really migrate over to my home life and we can move on from each other without emotion or any hard feeling. | |||
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I've done both, and generally prefer the latter as that bit of trust allows you to push boundaries. | |||
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"There should also be a connection for the sex to be good." Not all the time, you can have a one night stand, with stranger and absolutely blow your mind and never forget about it x | |||
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"How is everyone defining connection though? I feel like the odd one out but if I had a proper connection I'd probably be dating the person rather than just keeping things casual.
I kind of think of it similar to relationships with work colleagues, I have the ones I click with and like to socialise with in that context, but they don't really migrate over to my home life and we can move on from each other without emotion or any hard feeling. "That's actually a very good analogy for meets from here in some respects - and every now and then there's a work colleague you really connect with that you spend more time with, go out for lunch or get invited to their parties etc Connection can vary on here from getting along in messages and deciding to meet, having a great time but it goes no further, to something a bit more deep and meaningful that isn't necessarily a relationship (but can be) and everything else in between and beyond that | |||
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"How is everyone defining connection though? I feel like the odd one out but if I had a proper connection I'd probably be dating the person rather than just keeping things casual.
I kind of think of it similar to relationships with work colleagues, I have the ones I click with and like to socialise with in that context, but they don't really migrate over to my home life and we can move on from each other without emotion or any hard feeling.
That's actually a very good analogy for meets from here in some respects - and every now and then there's a work colleague you really connect with that you spend more time with, go out for lunch or get invited to their parties etc
Connection can vary on here from getting along in messages and deciding to meet, having a great time but it goes no further, to something a bit more deep and meaningful that isn't necessarily a relationship (but can be) and everything else in between and beyond that "Very valid point  | |||
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"There should also be a connection for the sex to be good. Not all the time, you can have a one night stand, with stranger and absolutely blow your mind and never forget about it x" No you may be able to but lots of others can’t. I can’t | |||
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"How is everyone defining connection though? I feel like the odd one out but if I had a proper connection I'd probably be dating the person rather than just keeping things casual.
I kind of think of it similar to relationships with work colleagues, I have the ones I click with and like to socialise with in that context, but they don't really migrate over to my home life and we can move on from each other without emotion or any hard feeling. "Mine are all emotionally intelligent connections, we need to be in order to fully create the trust bonds for our kinks. I used to have associate sex friends but as I was building my stable friends they grew less important and the natural drift was welcomed | |||
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"There should also be a connection for the sex to be good. Not all the time, you can have a one night stand, with stranger and absolutely blow your mind and never forget about it x No you may be able to but lots of others can’t. I can’t " I don’t think there is a right or wrong in this subject, I think it’s more about the person and how they feel about it x | |||
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"Personally I don't see really good sex happening without the connection. " But which one come first, in your opinion x | |||
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"Sex is always better when there is a connection and regular too. What if you don’t had the connection But had a mind blowing sex?" I've never had mind blowing sex without the connection so thats why i need some kind of connection too. | |||
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"Personally I don't see really good sex happening without the connection. But which one come first, in your opinion x" The connection as that's when I want to have sex with them. | |||
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"Personally I don't see really good sex happening without the connection. But which one come first, in your opinion x The connection as that's when I want to have sex with them. " But will you ever start it backwards? As in having a good sex and then feel connected to the person x | |||
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"Got to have connection & humour.. 
No sex?  "Lol...  yes sex too.. | |||
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"Personally I don't see really good sex happening without the connection. But which one come first, in your opinion x The connection as that's when I want to have sex with them. But will you ever start it backwards? As in having a good sex and then feel connected to the person x" I doubt it | |||
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"Personally I don't see really good sex happening without the connection. But which one come first, in your opinion x The connection as that's when I want to have sex with them. " Exactly that - without the right type of connection they're no more than friends - it's finding that connection that takes it beyond that | |||
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"Got to have connection & humour..
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Lol... yes sex too.. "Good answer x | |||
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"Is great sex better than a good personal connection. What happens if you don’t get both "This is why I take my time getting to know someone before we meet, so that I can have both. | |||
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"How do people have sex in clubs then ? " We rarely do and when we have it’s been because we drank too much and did it for a laugh. We go to clubs for a social and to meet our friends It’s no enjoyment if there’s no connection, would rather have a date, nice meal, good wine and pass on the sex. | |||
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"How do people have sex in clubs then ? " This is a very good point x | |||
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"How do people have sex in clubs then ? " I’ve never been to a club and that is one of the reasons why | |||
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"How do people have sex in clubs then ? " yep and gang bangs, glory holes etc. No way of doing this is better than another | |||
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"I've had good connection and great sex and bad sex. I've had no connection and great sex and bad sex. Connection in a relationship can be strong at the beginning and produce great sex. That connection may start to fade and the sex life fades with it or vice versa. But I've also had great sex with no connection, or very little, because the person was very skilled and did what I enjoyed. But I've also had bad sex in that situation. It can also depend on my mood and their mood. There will always be other factors involved and not just be about connection. Great sex is great sex and bad sex is bad sex - with or without connection." that about covers it! | |||
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"How do people have sex in clubs then ? " Even in clubs it's possible to form a connection...it's a little more superficial but it's a connection all the same - is built in the social areas before moving into the play areas. There's also the thing (certainly where couples are concerned) that it's more about their connection with each other - so that's slightly different and possibly the exception to the "connection" thing | |||
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