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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Oh interesting. I only do this with really good friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh heavens yes , fingers interlocked and kissing are such intimate sensual things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this alot I feel it adds to the experience xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I instinctively do this with fwb's but I don't think I do with randoms.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It’s really good, I know we’re all knee-deep in advanced fetishes and things but stuff like kissing and holding hands while you do things can add real intimacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugely sensual, love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had women hold my hand like that when I'm giving them oral and I'll interlace with their fingers.

I think it adds to the intimacy of what you are doing and I always imagine it's because they are losing themselves to the pleasure and just reacting without thinking.

It then adds to my pleasure. It's hot.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I do that quite a lot come to think about it. I'm very tactile in general though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually grab their head during oral sex, but hand holding can be pretty intense too.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I do this and often its a purely impulsive act in the more intense moments or when sex is more intimate than animalistic fuckery.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Oh interesting. I only do this with really good friends."

Maybe a factor is the level of at least friendship I have with nearly everyone I have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hand holding during sex is very sensual and erotic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally happens when pinning or being pinned down spur of the moment but hot

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By *urse234Woman
over a year ago

somewhere in Essex

I do this when im near Cumming. I really like it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a hand grabber at times

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "

When swinging, it's not unusual for me & Anita to hold hands intermittently whilst having sex with other people.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "

Generally happens when I'm pinning her down, but not limited to it.

Sometimes can be a "no you not gonna use your hands" thing, sometimes it's more of an affectionate thing - normally during foreplay

Either way it's perfectly fine and love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a complete touchy-feely person. I see this, like kissing, an essential part of sex, passion, intimacy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I said I don't kiss or hold hands.

I think people feel intimacy in different ways and have varying limits on who they're prepared to feel that intimacy with.

I'm a very private person anyway and don't share much in the way of intimacy with many people, that includes physical and emotional intimacy. I'm happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m pretty tactile and passionate however Hand holding and kissing i find very very intimate. I will probably only hand hold with my close FWBs or partner. Kissing - yep - love it!

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I said I don't kiss or hold hands.

I think people feel intimacy in different ways and have varying limits on who they're prepared to feel that intimacy with.

I'm a very private person anyway and don't share much in the way of intimacy with many people, that includes physical and emotional intimacy. I'm happy. "

You being happy is all that matters . I'm probably near polar opposite though I think that's part of my attitude towards relationships as a whole and not necessarily having clear, defined lines between romantic and casual relationships and having different behaviour expectations for each. I tend to see every connection as its own thing that we can pick and and mix all the options available to suit us. People outside of them are often very confused by me .

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

I love hand grabbing and holding.

I am a very touchy feely person anyway

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I said I don't kiss or hold hands.

I think people feel intimacy in different ways and have varying limits on who they're prepared to feel that intimacy with.

I'm a very private person anyway and don't share much in the way of intimacy with many people, that includes physical and emotional intimacy. I'm happy.

You being happy is all that matters . I'm probably near polar opposite though I think that's part of my attitude towards relationships as a whole and not necessarily having clear, defined lines between romantic and casual relationships and having different behaviour expectations for each. I tend to see every connection as its own thing that we can pick and and mix all the options available to suit us. People outside of them are often very confused by me . "

People are often confused by me too.

I have a friend of over 20 years, we started hugging last year

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I don't like to tie hands up because i like to be touched and to touch.

Whether that's hand to hand or hand on their body.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I love it!

Either D or me being on top then linking hands to use each others strength and grip to have the most intense close orgasm.

Jo.Xx

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Hand holding and the interlocking of fingers - as simple a gesture as it may seem, adds an incredible augmentation to the level of intimacy; be it simply walking side by side or else indeed, during lovemaking.

It’s a thumbs up from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually do like to hold hands. Am I pure vanilla

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We like it

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I generally feel more comfortable when this happens. You're sharing bodies, fluids, intimacy, so it's like an acknowledgement, aand recognising each other's appetite for open minded intimacy. I understand the boundaries, but for me personally it would diminish the experience if this was a no go area. Especially so in a one to one meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the idea of it with someone I'm close to but thinking about it, I'm not sure it's ever actually happened which is strange because I'm naturally very tactile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i love grabbing hands..Makes it more intense when needed and I find it very personal for some reason..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I’m a hand holder. Like you, sometimes it’s a reaction when receiving oral, other times it’s being pinned down by them, and sometimes if I’m feeling extra gooey I’ll hold hands while making love and it’s romantic af

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

It’s very natural and common, when two people are this close and intimate it’s going to happen

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I absolutely love it (and no one could have guessed my stance on it I'm sure).

I think hands are incredibly sensitive to touch, a gentle caress as you're kissing or a slightly firmer grip on yours as he slowly enters you for the first time - it adds a level of sensuality and intimacy that's very erotic and passionate. I like showing affection (to varying degrees) to those I'm with because, for me, it makes the experience better. Do I want to marry you because I squeezed your hand when I had a particularly intense orgasm? No. But I will remember how all of my body responded to you and that level of bliss.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"I love it!

Either D or me being on top then linking hands to use each others strength and grip to have the most intense close orgasm.

Jo.Xx "
.. this ..it's very intimate

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I definitely am a hand holder, when being intimate with someone it often just feels right.

That said, it's not all the time and not everyone. Sometimes my hands are busy

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By *estinyIsAllCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I love this and in a few scenarios too;

• If I'm on top, I enjoy grabbing hands and pinning them down.

• If I'm on the bottom, I love them grabbing my hands and restraining me.

• When they're "down on me" much like you (the OP) says. Interlocking fingers, passion, oooft.

This has got me a bit flustered thinking about it xx

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hold their hands when I'm on top pinning them down but not in a romantic way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a very tactile person, I like sensual, passionate and intense sex so handholding is something that generally happens without me giving it much thought but I definitely like the intimacy.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

again I think it adds to the "connection"

An extra layer of touch and becoming one.

As part of a couple when we did meet, I didn't have the urge to hold the hand of the person that I was engaging with, it was my ex who's hand I would be reaching for.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes I’ve done it. Never really crossed my mind that I shouldn’t do it.

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

I have no issues with this. If she's grabbing my hands then it means I'm doing something right.

As long as they are washed and sanitised from now on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At my time of life hand holding is usually confined to being helped to cross a busy road!

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Hand holding is lush during sex, arms above my head pinned down holding hands, him slowly thrusting away and lots of kissing perfection

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

…

I don't intentionally but if the mood is there and it happens I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happens a lot to me, love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "

This sounds very sensual and it's something I like to do too. It's just another form of sharing closeness with someone during play and it shouldn't be taboo considering what else is going on during play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I’ve done it never crossed my mind either I enjoy the passion and intimacy kissing locking hands touching it’s all part of the moment

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s just something that happens naturally, whether it be walking down the street or sat in a pub, it’s the simple I know you are there.

During sex again it is instinctive and I find myself interlocking hands a lot of the time and you can feel the intensity of each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanna hold your haaaaaannd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "

Love it. Also during most sex positions that allow it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love this and in a few scenarios too;

• If I'm on top, I enjoy grabbing hands and pinning them down.

• If I'm on the bottom, I love them grabbing my hands and restraining me.

• When they're "down on me" much like you (the OP) says. Interlocking fingers, passion, oooft.

This has got me a bit flustered thinking about it xx

Lou x"

This, especially like doing it on top, then lesning down and pushing my boobs in their face!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably do during oral.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Hand holding is lush during sex, arms above my head pinned down holding hands, him slowly thrusting away and lots of kissing perfection "

Oooffttt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah! I’m a hand holder. I’m a big fan of hands in general anyway.

Hands grasped in pleasure, hands caressing, kissing and sucking fingers, holding hands afterwards and talking... ahh! I’m getting all hot and bothered thinking about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I tried to grab my meet's hand the last time we met. But as my own hands were tied that didn't really happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and while being on top! My fingers laced with theirs as I ride them... grrr!!!

Ok... I’ll be in the corner sorting myself out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and while being on top! My fingers laced with theirs as I ride them... grrr!!!

Ok... I’ll be in the corner sorting myself out "

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Oh and while being on top! My fingers laced with theirs as I ride them... grrr!!!

Ok... I’ll be in the corner sorting myself out "

Such a simple thread topic seems to have had quite an effect on a few people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If everything goes right and I am about to come .I am also a hand grabber as tingly and shake from head to toe .

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I like it when I lady braces one hand at the top of my thigh when giving me oral. I usually take hold of it.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I like it. Adds to the connection. Though I usually do it to then pin arms down when I'm on top x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

At that moment, during that time I don't think of anything as being too intimate....I enjoy the intensity of it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "
I must say I do like that x

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I especially like it in the spoon position hands and arms entwined as he holds me tight and we massage my clit with both of our fingers at the same time

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

Mmmm yes, I enjoy this, sometimes maybe just for balance, or leverage. Combined with unbroken eye contact, it can be intense

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Something as simple as holding hands adds to the intimacy.

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

We love the intimacy in swinging. Without feels a little hollow.

Just so long as others don't misunderstand it for romantic intent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a lovely lady recently, and spent the day together.

Early on, when it felt right to me, I reached to take her hand in mine. It was a slightly awkward reach, and when her hand responded, and matched my hand, and together they interlocked made for an incredible moment. That first touch, that knowing, once that connection is made. I don't think we let go for the rest of the day. Proper good that was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own but i like it when the feeling and timing is right. You are both sharing emotions as well as each other bodies. Mind you sometimes you fuck with the devil in your eyes and a bit of hair pulling and ass spanking is more L'Ordre du jour

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Handholding to me is just as important as that first kiss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s great, a natural reaction, a sign of pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "

I do this too. I've never really thought about it before

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Definitely a fan of hand holding both in and out of the bedroom - as P said further up it's a further sign of connection and togetherness between two people - whether that be just casually holding hands walking down the street, or seeking each others hands out during more intimate moments, clasping them and becoming one

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Quite like the interlocked fingers thing when her hands are in the surrender position and am generally a hand holder

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Fuck yeah. Hand holding & kissing are super important.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

We always hold hands, in public or being intermit.

I’m really tactile and he is too. It’s the best feeling

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Wonder if you'll understand/

It's just the touch of your hand/

Behind a closed door"

Only You - The Flying Pickets

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

yes please love the sensuality of intimacy kissing and touching and holding each other x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes please

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im a hand holder. Never used to be used to be a cold fish

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

I'm very handsy and enjoy the tactility. Interlocking is a subconscious reaction but i'm occasionally holding hands anyway when pinning the woman down or held behind their backs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never given it any thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a hand holder. Never used to be used to be a cold fish"

You're back! Hope you're well.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Im a hand holder. Never used to be used to be a cold fish

You're back! Hope you're well. "
so are you Im a lot better than i was thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a hand holder. Never used to be used to be a cold fish

You're back! Hope you're well. so are you Im a lot better than i was thanks"

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