FabSwingers.com forum: Overcoming anxiety

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I have an interview coming up and I am literally shitting myself - it’s something I really want and will change my whole career for the better but because I want it so much I’m a bit of a anxious knob right now.

Any tips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to keep your mind of it as much as possible the more you think about it the more you will fuck up not really sure what else could do good luck anyway !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where a hair bobble and when you feel yourself feeling anxious, snap it on your wrist! Will take your mind off it! Good luck!

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By *rambuie100Man
over a year ago

essex/suffolk border

"So I have an interview coming up and I am literally shitting myself - it’s something I really want and will change my whole career for the better but because I want it so much I’m a bit of a anxious knob right now.

Any tips? "

When you get into the interview, imagine them sat on the loo.. then you realise that the are just another human being and we all sit down down for a poo

Also dont fret it right now. The human brain needs controlling. Let it run riot and you will get yourself stressed waayy ahead of time and be in a tizz on the day.

Deep breath as you walk in and tell yourself “ I deserve this, i am right for this “

Best of luck, go on.. knock it out the park

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

They wouldn’t have given you the interview if they didn’t think you could do the job. Start from that assumption and use the interview to highlight why you would be capable of doing it.

Mention similar things you’ve achieved or organised in previous jobs as examples.

Do some breathing exercises to calm yourself down, use the buzz of adrenaline to get you motivated and careful during the interview, keep your concentration levels up.

And good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s a little more difficult as the interview is on Microsoft’s teams and I know it’s very over subscribed. I have got through the first assessment no problem but feel I’m crumbling a little now. I’m usually ok in interviews but this one has thrown me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't rehearse your answers, it's unlikely you're that good of an actor so it will come off as robotic.

Note down a few points that you definitely want to make that display you at your best and find a way to work them into your answers and then just let your passion do the talking for you to expand on it. This has helped me, certainly, in the past couple of interviews I've had.

Also, don't get inside your own head too much. You know how good you are, so use that as a selling point.

Good luck OP

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By *ntheroad 123Man
over a year ago

Naunton

Deep breaths think positively keep telling your self this is my jod. Show them you are the one. Best of luck go get it

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By *oTouchPleaseAndTeaseMan
over a year ago

Harlow

You are a confident enough lady to be on this site with some nice public photo's as well

If you are happy to be here, no problem with an interview - that's got to be an easy step

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably some immodium if you are literally shitting yourself?

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By *uksungCouple
over a year ago

wednesbury

Remember they want you as much as you want the job. You are just there to sell yourself. The worst that can happen is they say no then you can move on. Have a list of questions you can ask them next to your laptop. The more you ask them the less they can ask you. Good luck.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Have some questions prepared to ask them at the end - I've been the interviewer and good questions and evidence that they've researched the job and department /company have often swung it in their favour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meditation for anxiety is very helpful and the people interviewing you will be nervous as well.

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"It’s a little more difficult as the interview is on Microsoft’s teams and I know it’s very over subscribed. I have got through the first assessment no problem but feel I’m crumbling a little now. I’m usually ok in interviews but this one has thrown me "

I had to do a video interview recently and they’re actually surprisingly easy!

All of the facts and research you’ve done for the role, you can have just in eye sight - on a piece of paper behind your camera, or out of view - saves you fretting over memorising or remembering stuff, so that can make it easier.

I did this and placed it so that I looked at the camera, but was actually reading a handful of facts behind the camera.

You can do the same thing with bullet points for qualities or topics you think you might want to bring up in the interview.

Other than that, just try to stay calm and be your best self!

I’m sure you’ll be fantastic! Good Luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks so much for all the tips.

I had already planned to stick buzz words behind the camera and I’m preparing early as I have to do it from work as they couldn’t spare me the time off. It’s within the same place I work but different area in a developmental role so I really want this. I’m proud of myself for getting as far as I have but the nerves are kicking in now as it’s been so quick I don’t feel I have time to prep properly

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I was recently on an online interview panel. I'd say take your time, really listen to the questions and ask for any clarification you need before you start to answer. As others have said, remember that if they didn't think you were suitable for the job, you wouldn't be being interviewed so don't doubt yourself

Good luck!

Mrs TMN x

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Calm tablets helped me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey Vivacious

I interview all the time , and most of the advice already given is really good. A few thing I'd add :

1. Try and shift your mindset ; rather thinking it's an interview to assess you for the role , try and think that its an opportunity to assess the them and position they have available.

2. When it comes to asking them questions try and stay away from things that the company can do for you - instead prep some questions and offer your opinions on specific topics.

3. Show passion for what you do or want to do , and in all your conversations try and portait that passion.

4. Prep really good examples of what you've done previously and how that might be relevant to the role.

5. Last but not least use this opportunity as a conversation and learn from the experience - incase you don't get it.

I hope that helps, and good luck, we are all behind you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could send you a pic of my semi-cock. If you're feeling anxious, just think of that pic and giggle inside and let out a little smile of confidence. Then remember why you want the job and make the bastards give you what you DESERVE, innit....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any tips I'm afraid but good luck

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't think it is a good idea to go for an interview if you are "literally shitting yourself". Very unhygienic.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I don't think it is a good idea to go for an interview if you are "literally shitting yourself". Very unhygienic. "

Well unless the interviewer has a fetish!

Look up NLP mirroring, it should give you some clues, people like to be around people like themselves.

Also anchoring positive states.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Go through the job competencies. See if you can get an example for each of the competencies. Your past behaviors predict future behaviors.

2. Be mindful and stay in the present. Don't focus too much on the interview. Focus on the outcome of the interview and how you could add value to the company.

3. Stay genuine and authentic during the interview. Try to understand the company values and try demonstrate how you practice that in your current or previous employment.

4. Make sure you control the onterview. If they talking too much about your past experiences, the interview may not be going well. Try to talk about more about the future of the company and what role you could play for it's success.

Good luck.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Prepare, prepare, prepare!

Think about what questions you would ask if you were in their seats.

Remember you would not have got to this stage if you weren't capable.

Then turn it around. They are the ones who are nervous because they need to find the best person for the job. You are definitely that person but they are just trying to find that out. You need to help them to realise that.

Good luck! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Go through the job competencies. See if you can get an example for each of the competencies. Your past behaviors predict future behaviors.

2. Be mindful and stay in the present. Don't focus too much on the interview. Focus on the outcome of the interview and how you could add value to the company.

3. Stay genuine and authentic during the interview. Try to understand the company values and try demonstrate how you practice that in your current or previous employment.

Good luck.

Interview*. Please excuse my typos and grammer. I am eating lunch and typing at the same time.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Kipling's If offers some good advice:

"If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those two impostors just the same"

I take this to mean that you should focus on the process rather than the outcome. There can be a myriad of reasons why things work out or not and as an individual you have very little control over the reasons other people use to make their decisions.

All you can control is the preparation that will give you the best chance of success. So I agree with those who have said to focus on preparing well. Ultimately, whether you get the job or not you will still be the same person with the same abilities afterwards. Success or failure don't define you unless you let them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks so much for all the advice I’m taking notes. Like I say it’s a little bit more difficult as it’s a huge organisation in the public sector and I already work within it but this is a role that’s come up that’s developmental and a training role and will mean part time university too so a lot riding on it with my career so some of the usual tips wouldn’t work for this role and as it’s a newish role it’s hard to research

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

You are mostly likely to be asked ‘ what would do in your first 100 days in this role’

Prepare for that...

I’ve done two assessment centre interviews with 20 min presentations you don’t know what they are until you arrive

usually given 30 mins prep. The aim was to see how fast you think on your feet and your applied skill set.

Competency questions usually have buzz words that tick boxes.

I’m sure you will do fine - GOOD LUCK X

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

Everyone is nervous in interviews, it is quite natural, even the people interviewing you.

They invited you to the interview because they think that you can do the job, they just want to find out how good you are.

Show them that you are really good, and you are!

Look at your CV, the important stages in your career and why you progressed.

Why do you think you will be good for the new company? Short answer and a nice slogan is good, proper explanation is better.

Close your eyes and have a deep breath, then exhale and open your eyes.

You will make it and you will shine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to get across that you understand the bigger picture, the helicopter or top down view if you like, ensure you show great technical competency and experience but most of all imagine them all naked.

I've used those tactics consistently throughout my life and is probably why I work for myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who’s written the stages of the recruitment process from job advert to final interview so many times, my advice is read the ad again, identify the main skills and qualities they’re looking for and think of an example from your life where you’ve demonstrated competence. Go in with the mindset that they need you more than you need them and a couple of decent questions to ask them.

Best of luck. I’m keeping everything crossed for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are mostly likely to be asked ‘ what would do in your first 100 days in this role’

Prepare for that...

I’ve done two assessment centre interviews with 20 min presentations you don’t know what they are until you arrive

usually given 30 mins prep. The aim was to see how fast you think on your feet and your applied skill set.

Competency questions usually have buzz words that tick boxes.

I’m sure you will do fine - GOOD LUCK X "

Thanks lovely but that definitely wouldn’t be asked in this role hard to explain without telling everyone what I do for a living. I had a 30 minute assessment where I had to think on my feet already by email I passed that and got to this stage

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I've got no advice OP, sorry, but good luck to you and fingers crossed it goes well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are mostly likely to be asked ‘ what would do in your first 100 days in this role’

Prepare for that...

I’ve done two assessment centre interviews with 20 min presentations you don’t know what they are until you arrive

usually given 30 mins prep. The aim was to see how fast you think on your feet and your applied skill set.

Competency questions usually have buzz words that tick boxes.

I’m sure you will do fine - GOOD LUCK X "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any tips? "

Just remember you’ve got this! You’re totally perfect for the role, just get all prepared and practise.

Good luck!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As someone who’s written the stages of the recruitment process from job advert to final interview so many times, my advice is read the ad again, identify the main skills and qualities they’re looking for and think of an example from your life where you’ve demonstrated competence. Go in with the mindset that they need you more than you need them and a couple of decent questions to ask them.

Best of luck. I’m keeping everything crossed for you

Agree with you 100% on that as long as you don't come across as too pushy, like some of us men on fab.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Everyone is nervous in interviews, it is quite natural, even the people interviewing you.

They invited you to the interview because they think that you can do the job, they just want to find out how good you are.

Show them that you are really good, and you are!

Look at your CV, the important stages in your career and why you progressed.

Why do you think you will be good for the new company? Short answer and a nice slogan is good, proper explanation is better.

Close your eyes and have a deep breath, then exhale and open your eyes.

You will make it and you will shine.

Odd, I’ve never felt nervous in either situation.

I just embrace the energy it creates and use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your thoughts to mind court and judge them for their rationality.

Good luck for the interview. You are nervous because it matters. I hope you find something what eases your worries and get the job

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