FabSwingers.com forum: Why do people hide their verificatiions?

By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

First time poster on here

I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.

Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.

I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.

I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I don’t hide mine, the ones that I am missing is because the people have hidden their profile or have left the site

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By *riendlyStarMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Im not too sure tbh.

I joined during lockdown. So no proper meet has happened yet. I went to cam but i cant get that working either. Im not a signed membership etc so im not hiding any i just dont have any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My business is my business

I personally don’t want to be seen as a ‘rating’ so to speak

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I hide most of mine because people are too quick to judge. I have met alot of people over the years at socials and clubs but folk just look at the high number and presume i have had sex with them all.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Hi

First time poster on here

I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.

Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.

I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.

I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?

Why not ...

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

not entirely hidden. you can see i've met women.

some people here are very judgemental, so i keep hidden.

i'll periodically unhide to those who ask to see them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would keep mine up to give people an idea of my personality as my veris on my past profile didn't mention any specifics of play. I think Fab arent displaying any atm though due to Covid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see verifications as pretty crass on here and they all sound the same.

“Knows how to suck and fuck”

“If you get the opportunity don’t miss out”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal choice really, if they wish to keep them private they can.

Its a problem I don't have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see verifications as pretty crass on here and they all sound the same.

“Knows how to suck and fuck”

“If you get the opportunity don’t miss out”"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My business is my business

I personally don’t want to be seen as a ‘rating’ so to speak

This answer.

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

You can tell I’m new in here ! I sent a private msg instead of post!

I didn’t realise past members verifications become hidden

Tha is helpful thank you

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

There's a not inconsiderable number of profiled out there that are willing to verify (either for free or for a fee) to enable new "single" guys to get verified. It's quite possible that those verifications then get hidden.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I like to have them to say I'm genuine. But I don't really like the trip advisor aspect to it.

If someone left a veri, it's going to be decent anyway, it doesn't need to be left out there for everyone to read.

And some that you read are just cringe too, not mine of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris are supposed to prove a person is real so I like the ones that do this. However, I dislike my lovers rating me like a toaster on Amazon. For me, it’s not a badge of honour as it is for some, but rather cringeworthy. My opinion only.

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

If verifications received before covid were displayed then hidden there is no option to now display them, any new meet verifications also can't be displayed.

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

It’s more for the guys where it shows they have verifications but they are hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't been able to meet anyone since I signed up. So no verifications for me. Hopefully someone will be kind enough to verify me through cam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place is a gossip factory at times and people do strange things with the knowledge of who you have met.

For me verifications, if we even exchange them are more mementos of a special moment than a Trip Adviser review and I keep them private as I feel who I have met, whether than was for a coffee or sex is between us. I also recognise that others are free to do what they like with theirs. However most of the verifications I send after an intimate encounter are unlikely to be published, because they are personal.

I meet so infrequently it is a moot point anyway.

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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago

warwickshire

We hide the older verifications but show the latest ones

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

I get what you are saying about it being your business.

I hadn’t even considered the “popularity contest” thing.

Thank you!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I like to read people I might meets verris I display mine in fact at one time loved ti collect them! Loved that green strip across the top! Most of mine are cam verris x

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"I hide most of mine because people are too quick to judge. I have met alot of people over the years at socials and clubs but folk just look at the high number and presume i have had sex with them all."

It’s nuts that people would judge you on that.

I would look at a high number as 100% genuine and active in the scene

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

I think its a bit weird to read what said person got up to on their last meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many reasons!

Whoever verified them may have asked them to. Maybe it was more detailed than they wanted to be public. Maybe they no longer want to meet people like them.

Verifications disappear when a member leaves site too.

And atm, any meet in person veris written since lockdown aren't being displayed either.

People don't tend to leave negative verifications so as long as they're verified, that's as much as I need to know personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rate her 4 and a half stars out of 5 on strip advisor..

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

There's also the unnecessary drama that people like to avoid - I've had unpleasant behaviour from people in the past because I've met someone they fancy, and I know people that have been told they won't meet them because they've previously met someone they don't like. All very childish, and in my opinion there shouldn't be a place for unmanaged jealousy on a swinging site, but we're all different

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"It’s more for the guys where it shows they have verifications but they are hidden "

I guess for some they take the view that their summary shows they have met and been verified - which is the point of a verification - who they have met and what happened is of no importance to others.

My summary and visible veris don't add up, some are missing because people have left the site, some have been hidden because they're between me and the person I met (but don't contain anything salacious) but I leave enough social meet ones visible to give a flavour of me as a person

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Op...I hide mine because they are personal, and, as others have said, people judge.

If you look at someone's profile, the white tick in the green circle means that they have been verified.

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By *eeling0880Man
over a year ago

Pennines

I wouldn’t tell my current date in a vanilla situation about what happened on a previous date I went on in detail about how good she was and what she did! So what’s the difference...just keep it classy

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Hi

First time poster on here

I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.

Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.

I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.

I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?

Why not ..."

Have have seen lots and lots of women’s and couples profiles which states they won’t even reply to unverified people.

Specifically guys, if they want a better chance of meeting why hide them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet a married couple on here who hide verifications on here. They like to meet single guys too but if they display them, they get bombarded by guys so they keep them hidden. I completely understand and respect that.

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"not entirely hidden. you can see i've met women.

some people here are very judgemental, so i keep hidden.

i'll periodically unhide to those who ask to see them."

That’s fair enough. I’ve encountered a couple of people recently who where 100% fake profiles. They all had verifications.

The ones which where hidden, I possibly should just ask in future to see them.

Just feels a bit cheeky !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one from my friend Helen because I just wanted a green tick when I came back. If I displayed it then ppl might think I've only shagged my friend Helen, who I actually haven't shagged, but the have shagged other ppl, honest....

I think veris are bollocks really, I've never given a bad one but I probably should have.....

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By *enedict2020Man
over a year ago

London

"Hi

First time poster on here

I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.

Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.

I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.

I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?

Because, why not?

I can do what I like, much the same as you. I often think that verifications can skew someone’s perception so it’s best to leave them private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a very easy solution, request to see verifications.

I do, if a guy will not obliged then move along.

I'm happy to share mine, but as you say alot of fakes and time wasters.

I'm not interested in the "1-10" kind of verification, just a simple "yes we met, yes hes real and genuine " all the rest is down to personal experience and not significant.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Hi

First time poster on here

I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.

Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.

I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.

I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?

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Have have seen lots and lots of women’s and couples profiles which states they won’t even reply to unverified people.

Specifically guys, if they want a better chance of meeting why hide them?

Because the green tick shows they have been verified - or their verification summary if they've chosen to show it - so just because veris are hidden doesn't mean they're not verified and don't show that they are

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"There's a not inconsiderable number of profiled out there that are willing to verify (either for free or for a fee) to enable new "single" guys to get verified. It's quite possible that those verifications then get hidden."

No waaayyy!!

See I said I’m pretty new.

I had no idea!!

Thanks for that x

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I have come to the conclusion that verifications are best kept private. It’s no one else’s business. It’s enough to know that I have them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our couples profile we hide / display verifications for multiple reasons many of which have already been mentioned above.

We also don't like it when guys try to contact people that we have met, and therefore as soon as we are made aware we hide that verification for a while.

I don't want a verification from me or us to be a badge of honour. A guy recently messaged my HW profile to say that having a veri from me would boost his chances on the site...that's not something I am interested in.

For some social events you may need 3 verifications, on our couples profile we have that and I am not interested in receiving more even if we do meet people.

I rather like keeping who I have sex with as a private matter between me, my boyfriend and the people who we play with. For me it suits the discretion ethos.

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't use the verification system. I literally dry heave at some of the ones I have read. It appears that the site is full of, girls who are awesome fucks and chilled out guys, with magic tongues. Vom.

Interact with a potential play partner. Oh welcome to the forums OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My business is my business

I personally don’t want to be seen as a ‘rating’ so to speak

This..

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"I see verifications as pretty crass on here and they all sound the same.

“Knows how to suck and fuck”

“If you get the opportunity don’t miss out”"

I get that. All I’m looking for is that they turned up on time. I don’t need the ins and outs x

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By *1TykeMan
over a year ago

morley

I think it may be because some of the verifications are not from their target demographic.

Eg feedback from a meet with a guy when they want to put across that they are looking for ladies/couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What goes on between me and the person I meet is between us and no one else.

When reading verifications I take them with a pinch of salt, much the same with everything on this site.

People lie about things, big themselves and their meets up.

I’d rather form my own opinion of someone.. but then I’m quite choosy on who I meet.

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Personal choice really, if they wish to keep them private they can.

Its a problem I don't have."

That’s fair enough

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The other thing is, veris shouldn't be the be all and end all that some make them out to be - for me they're a bonus feature that I rarely pay any attention to of people that I have met - I tend to use my own judgement and spending time getting to know people to lead me to decide whether I want to meet someone, not the views of others - so veris of other people are of minimal importance to me.

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"I like to have them to say I'm genuine. But I don't really like the trip advisor aspect to it.

If someone left a veri, it's going to be decent anyway, it doesn't need to be left out there for everyone to read.

And some that you read are just cringe too, not mine of course

I will have to go and read yours haha

Yup that’s all I need, “ genuine”

Do people give poor verifications ??

Not ever read any

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I only show my social ones, it proves who I am. Everything else is hidden as between me and the individual.

I used to show them all until I got some unnecessary comments on who I’d met, so now they are hidden, easier life stop for myself & the other individuals.

You’ll find your way OP and what works best for you.

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Veris are supposed to prove a person is real so I like the ones that do this. However, I dislike my lovers rating me like a toaster on Amazon. For me, it’s not a badge of honour as it is for some, but rather cringeworthy. My opinion only.

I completely agree that is all I’m looking for.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"My business is my business

I personally don’t want to be seen as a ‘rating’ so to speak

This .... I’m not an attraction on trip advisor just the fact I’ve been verified and meet is all I need to show.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

Also the person who has messed me about the most on here no show, rearrange cancel, disappear etc had the most veris so they’re not worth anything imo.

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"If verifications received before covid were displayed then hidden there is no option to now display them, any new meet verifications also can't be displayed.

Thanks for this, I didn’t consider this either x

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

A few reasons i met someone once who kept getting messages from a local asking questions about me

Another is some men don’t like when you meet someone else and it’s not them

And it’s my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few reasons i met someone once who kept getting messages from a local asking questions about me

Another is some men don’t like when you meet someone else and it’s not them

And it’s my business

Omg,yeah,the weird repeat ten times a day views you get once you display a new one!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

"The other thing is, veris shouldn't be the be all and end all that some make them out to be - for me they're a bonus feature that I rarely pay any attention to of people that I have met - I tend to use my own judgement and spending time getting to know people to lead me to decide whether I want to meet someone, not the views of others - so veris of other people are of minimal importance to me."

Now I do place importance on them as one of my safety checks - us single ladies are in a pretty vulnerable situation on a meet. It just gives me peace of mind if there is a visible verification trail, and means I can enjoy the meet with less of a worry that I'll be cut up and turned into a lampshade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a previous life I had 2 verifications by folks that were Completely incorrect.

1 was obviously meant for someone else as we didn't do things I was getting verified as good at. Lol

The other was from someone I never even met, nor would I. Again that must have been meant for someone else

Some can be super cringey especially if they detail every little detail that went on and include horrendous spelling and grammar.

I hide mine on here as I have met 2 folks I reAlly wish I hadn't. Lol.

People hide their verifications for whatever reason they choose to. Don’t be judgey. Just chat with them if you want to. Trust yer gut feelings.

You can tell if someone is on the same wavelength pretty quickly....usually.

Happy fabbing folks

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

We have yet to receive a verification and the much coveted little tick. When we do finally get one it will entirely depend on the content as to whether or not we display it.

I do look at verifications and find the ones that describe personality and sense of humour more telling than those that give a blow by blow account in graphic detail of an intimate meet.

Let’s just be grateful that there is no star rating system

“arrived on time and well packaged, showed some signs of previous use. 4 out of 5”

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"not entirely hidden. you can see i've met women.

some people here are very judgemental, so i keep hidden.

i'll periodically unhide to those who ask to see them."

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never thought of it like that before. That’s a very good point.

I would make mine visible if someone asked. But nobody has.

I shall maybe consider asking folks if they’d like to see my veris if we are getting towards sorting a meet.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I only show social ones as they are memories of a great party

My sexual ones are memories just for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cus I’m a crap shag innit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only show my social ones, it proves who I am. Everything else is hidden as between me and the individual.

I used to show them all until I got some unnecessary comments on who I’d met, so now they are hidden, easier life stop for myself & the other individuals.

You’ll find your way OP and what works best for you. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because of how much you can be judged based on the people you've met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just realised if your veris were previously hidden you can't unhide them currently. Just tried to do that but got a Covid related message saying thats not permitted currently in fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like their sex life to stay private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as above...I know what this site is about but still want a bit of privacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they don't want to be judged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of respect for the privacy of my playmates. There is too much emphasis on the verification system.

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham/Telford

Hey wait til youve met a couple... they split up.... it becomes a male profile and you end up being verified by a man..... then they leave the site and you cant change it....

Thats always a nice one for me to try and explain

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Hey wait til youve met a couple... they split up.... it becomes a male profile and you end up being verified by a man..... then they leave the site and you cant change it....

Thats always a nice one for me to try and explain

Oops

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"I think its a bit weird to read what said person got up to on their last meet."

All I’m looking for is that they are genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because life on here is easier if people don’t know who you’re meeting or have met. I learnt that the hard way. I’ll show a couple of social ones when we’re allowed. To me they’re to prove you’re genuine. I don’t really leave them or ask for them unless someone really wants one and even then I’ll only leave a social one.

I do like other people to show theirs though

. I just don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its a bit weird to read what said person got up to on their last meet.

All I’m looking for is that they are genuine."

I’m genuinely a crap shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like ebay reviews cringey a bit and everyone has the right to hide/ show as they please.

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"There's also the unnecessary drama that people like to avoid - I've had unpleasant behaviour from people in the past because I've met someone they fancy, and I know people that have been told they won't meet them because they've previously met someone they don't like. All very childish, and in my opinion there shouldn't be a place for unmanaged jealousy on a swinging site, but we're all different "

As I said I’m new! I had no idea this even goes on!!

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Because life on here is easier if people don’t know who you’re meeting or have met. I learnt that the hard way. I’ll show a couple of social ones when we’re allowed. To me they’re to prove you’re genuine. I don’t really leave them or ask for them unless someone really wants one and even then I’ll only leave a social one.

I do like other people to show theirs though

. I just don’t. "

I had no idea this goes on and it seems so wide spread too!

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Hey wait til youve met a couple... they split up.... it becomes a male profile and you end up being verified by a man..... then they leave the site and you cant change it....

Thats always a nice one for me to try and explain

Ohhhh dear!

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Maybe they don't want to be judged"

I think I must be coming at this from a different angle. I had no idea people are judged on their verifications.

All I want to see is that the person is genuine.

I don’t care where they put it previously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because i can choose to do so, i leave the verification summary up so people can see I’m verified.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Because this isn’t TripAdvisor

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"I wouldn’t tell my current date in a vanilla situation about what happened on a previous date I went on in detail about how good she was and what she did! So what’s the difference...just keep it classy "

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham/Telford

"Hey wait til youve met a couple... they split up.... it becomes a male profile and you end up being verified by a man..... then they leave the site and you cant change it....

Thats always a nice one for me to try and explain

Oops

Haha shut it you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

That's a fair point and totally understand, but as has been shown veris actually prove not a great deal, you never see a serious negative one so to your point they are to an extent worthless - although agree the veri trail *can* be revealing at times.

And to take your point and slightly turn it back on you

Whilst I'd agree that women are in a pretty vulnerable situation (and definitely more so than men for the obvious reasons), does that not also apply to men to a degree? Whilst physically we may be stronger, there are any number of vulnerabilities that we all, regardless of gender, leave ourselves open to when meeting.

Which all comes back to my point about veris not being the single most important factor in deciding whether to meet, as opposed to taking time to get a "feel" of people for yourself and using gut instinct rather than relying on the verification of another, usually, stranger.

Know it's not quite as simple as that, and totally see your point, just adding another perspective.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"Hi

First time poster on here

I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.

Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.

I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.

I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?

Simple, it’s my business not anyone else’s!!

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Because i can choose to do so, i leave the verification summary up so people can see I’m verified. "

That is a fair point. I could well be being too picky

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

As I said I’m new! I had no idea this even goes on!!"

Welcome to Fab - it's always nice to see new faces (and bums and breasticles

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It's not all bad, there are some lovely people and lots of fun to be found x

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

And to take your point and slightly turn it back on you

Know it's not quite as simple as that, and totally see your point, just adding another perspective."

Absolutely, and I would encourage more men to follow safety checks rather than thinking purely with their small brain

As I said, it's only one of my safety steps - I do the usual sending details of where I am and who I'm with to a safety buddy, and check in at an agreed time. As well as getting to know people and listening to my gut instinct. But as someone who's had a couple of stalkers (including one where police were involved), it's just another level of security to make me feel safer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because i can choose to do so, i leave the verification summary up so people can see I’m verified.

That is a fair point. I could well be being too picky "

Absolutely not! Stay picky!!

Use your instincts, and their profile as a filter.

A guy I began talking to refused to upload a clear recent face picture, so its game over for me at that point. If I dont find them physically attractive, and they are sending or using very old pictures, its a red flag. Be careful, be selective, and above all, have fun!

Welcome to the lounge btw, I hope you stay, we need fresh faces xx

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"In a previous life I had 2 verifications by folks that were Completely incorrect.

1 was obviously meant for someone else as we didn't do things I was getting verified as good at. Lol

The other was from someone I never even met, nor would I. Again that must have been meant for someone else

Some can be super cringey especially if they detail every little detail that went on and include horrendous spelling and grammar.

I hide mine on here as I have met 2 folks I reAlly wish I hadn't. Lol.

People hide their verifications for whatever reason they choose to. Don’t be judgey. Just chat with them if you want to. Trust yer gut feelings.

You can tell if someone is on the same wavelength pretty quickly....usually.

Happy fabbing folks"

No judgement here, if that is what my post suggest well that’s not my intention.

Like a fair few people on here we are here to meet for sex.

We have encountered a lot of fake profiles , and time wasters.

Again, like most we don’t have a unlimited amount of time to spend on here. So, we like to quickly work out the genuine ones.

I don’t care what they previously did, I don’t want detail.

I’m

People are right , it’s not trip advisor, a popularity contest, no stars are needed..

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

I show about half of mine. I change which ones are visible from time to time.

I don't see the need to show them all.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

And to take your point and slightly turn it back on you

Know it's not quite as simple as that, and totally see your point, just adding another perspective.

Absolutely, and I would encourage more men to follow safety checks rather than thinking purely with their small brain

I'll also add that I'm not interested in what the verifications say, and won't judge about previous meets, for me it's just the safety side that they've met others and there's been no untoward behaviour...and yes, I know nobody would display a bad verification, but if they have a few good ones then, in my mind at least, it shows they're less likely to be an axe murderer

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

So I pass the test then?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

My best verification is the only one I show. Please have a look and feel free to comment.

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Because i can choose to do so, i leave the verification summary up so people can see I’m verified.

That is a fair point. I could well be being too picky

Absolutely not! Stay picky!!

Use your instincts, and their profile as a filter.

Welcome to the lounge btw, I hope you stay, we need fresh faces xx"

Thank you

I’m going to be honest I feel like a right twat now posting this. Haha

I have got a much better understanding to why people hide them now.

I am getting good at spotting the fakes now.

Like the extremely hot guy who msgd me showering me with compliments. He had hidden verifications .

I asked to video chat , he couldn’t so we had a telephone chat. The pic’s and vids were of this big black guy in his 30’s from Bristol.

His voices was that of a high pitched lad from west wales who seemed to be early 20’s.

He got quite nasty when I wouldn’t send him vids or anything else until we had video chatted.

My first filter was the verifications and that failed !

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Because they can cause all sorts of issues?

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Hi

First time poster on here

I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.

Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.

I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.

I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?

Simple, it’s my business not anyone else’s!!"

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

manchester

"Hi

First time poster on here

I am wondering why to people hide their verifications, specifically single guys.

Like everyone we have encountered a few fake people and a lot of time wasters.

I look to see if people have been verified and read through them very early on.

I’ve found a lot of single guys are hiding them, I don’t understand why?

Meet ones where hidden by admin at start of lockdown

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

So I pass the test then?

Nah, you seem like all sorts of dodgy to me... I'm just nice to you so you use a sharp axe rather than a blunt one

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

As I said I’m new! I had no idea this even goes on!!

Welcome to Fab - it's always nice to see new faces (and bums and breasticles

)

It's not all bad, there are some lovely people and lots of fun to be found x"

Thank you!

I love reading the forum posts.

Very entertaining x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t hide mine, the ones that I am missing is because the people have hidden their profile or have left the site

This goes for mine too... and i don't chase veris either

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"I show about half of mine. I change which ones are visible from time to time.

I don't see the need to show them all. "

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I keep mine visible as it is a means of standing out from the crowd.

The only bad veris I've seen were deliberate piss-taking ones between some Fabbers who were obviously great friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because i can choose to do so, i leave the verification summary up so people can see I’m verified.

That is a fair point. I could well be being too picky

Absolutely not! Stay picky!!

Use your instincts, and their profile as a filter.

Welcome to the lounge btw, I hope you stay, we need fresh faces xx

Thank you

I’m going to be honest I feel like a right twat now posting this. Haha

I have got a much better understanding to why people hide them now.

I am getting good at spotting the fakes now.

Like the extremely hot guy who msgd me showering me with compliments. He had hidden verifications .

I asked to video chat , he couldn’t so we had a telephone chat. The pic’s and vids were of this big black guy in his 30’s from Bristol.

His voices was that of a high pitched lad from west wales who seemed to be early 20’s.

He got quite nasty when I wouldn’t send him vids or anything else until we had video chatted.

My first filter was the verifications and that failed !

Don't feel like a twat, everyone was new at some point!

Questions are good, that's how we learn new things.

I think your first filter should be your gut feeling. If it doesn't feel right just walk away. Sounds like your gut is working fine.

Top tip- don't send pics, vids or do any sex chat before you have met them in person. Some people are just looking for wank chat and won't ever meet. Some will post the pics and vids on other sites.

Welcome to the forums.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Tom Hardy told me to take his down

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Hello OP, welcome to the forums

There's been a lot of negatives flagged up on here about veris. I have to say I've never had a negative experience related to our veris, that I know about at least! We used to display them all but as we got a few more I cut it down to just a representative selection. You do whatever feels right for you - same goes for how you run your profile, what pics you put up, how you use fab in general. If people want to make assumptions about you based on veris or anything else without talking to you, then that's on them. Chatting to people and going with your instincts has always served me best

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tom Hardy told me to take his trousers down

Wayhayyyyy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My business is my business

I personally don’t want to be seen as a ‘rating’ so to speak

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what this lady said x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

So I pass the test then?

Nah, you seem like all sorts of dodgy to me... I'm just nice to you so you use a sharp axe rather than a blunt one

Damn you've seen through me...

....now put the lotion on the skin or you get the hose again

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"On our couples profile we hide / display verifications for multiple reasons many of which have already been mentioned above.

We also don't like it when guys try to contact people that we have met, and therefore as soon as we are made aware we hide that verification for a while.

For some social events you may need 3 verifications, on our couples profile we have that and I am not interested in receiving more even if we do meet people.

I rather like keeping who I have sex with as a private matter between me, my boyfriend and the people who we play with. For me it suits the discretion ethos.

Her x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I leave one it tends to be for their eyes only. Rather than a rating or retelling the evening I tend go for humorous or private jokes. Most of the veris I leave are just for socials.

If/when I receive them? It's my business and I wouldn't go round telling everyone what had happened so I don't want to display it for the world to read.

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Hello OP, welcome to the forums

Mrs TMN x"

Hey!

Thanks for that. There is certainly a lot I hadn’t considered, and lots I had no idea about.

But ultimately, going forward, if I have a suspicion they are not what they say they are, verifications or not ... then it’s a waste of time. I won’t make the assumption anymore that a verification makes them real. I’m not particularly here to make a ton of friends or be active in the scene, just here for sex end of.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Hello OP, welcome to the forums

Mrs TMN x

Hey!

Thanks for that. There is certainly a lot I hadn’t considered, and lots I had no idea about.

Sounds like an excellent approach. Have fun

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By *ustyMilfxxx OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Because i can choose to do so, i leave the verification summary up so people can see I’m verified.

That is a fair point. I could well be being too picky

Absolutely not! Stay picky!!

Use your instincts, and their profile as a filter.

Welcome to the lounge btw, I hope you stay, we need fresh faces xx

Thank you

I’m going to be honest I feel like a right twat now posting this. Haha

I have got a much better understanding to why people hide them now.

I am getting good at spotting the fakes now.

Like the extremely hot guy who msgd me showering me with compliments. He had hidden verifications .

I asked to video chat , he couldn’t so we had a telephone chat. The pic’s and vids were of this big black guy in his 30’s from Bristol.

His voices was that of a high pitched lad from west wales who seemed to be early 20’s.

He got quite nasty when I wouldn’t send him vids or anything else until we had video chatted.

My first filter was the verifications and that failed !

Don't feel like a twat, everyone was new at some point!

Questions are good, that's how we learn new things.

I think your first filter should be your gut feeling. If it doesn't feel right just walk away. Sounds like your gut is working fine.

Top tip- don't send pics, vids or do any sex chat before you have met them in person. Some people are just looking for wank chat and won't ever meet. Some will post the pics and vids on other sites.

Welcome to the forums.

Thank you!

I don’t often send them , but 100% won’t be sending any more

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Hey wait til youve met a couple... they split up.... it becomes a male profile and you end up being verified by a man..... then they leave the site and you cant change it....

Thats always a nice one for me to try and explain

Could just hide the verification summary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are hidden because they can cause drama, there's nothing sexually descriptive in them it's more about who I've met. Although some have left the site too so they won't show anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Some ladies get very territorial

2. Why do you want to read about someone elses meet?

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

We hid ours just as lock down started. Then found out now they are hidden, due to the site restrictions they cannot be displayed again. A message pops up saying they can be displayed once site restrictions have been lifted.

Guess due to the restrictions it cannot differentiate between existing Verifications and new ones. Summary displayed instead.

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

"Tom Hardy told me to take his down

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"This place is a gossip factory at times and people do strange things with the knowledge of who you have met.

I meet so infrequently it is a moot point anyway."

This is me too. For me they are a memento to look back on, they are not to boast of who I’ve met and what we did! Displaying your verifications can also cause friction between females!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t it’s because they all block me after meeting as I’m a pain in the star

Ps that’s not true... I came back during covid so I can’t show them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t it’s because they all block me after meeting as I’m a pain in the star

Ps that’s not true... I came back during covid so I can’t show them

Arse not star ffs although...

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"I don’t it’s because they all block me after meeting as I’m a pain in the star

Ps that’s not true... I came back during covid so I can’t show them

Arse not star ffs although..."

Thought you meant "marmite star"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t it’s because they all block me after meeting as I’m a pain in the star

Ps that’s not true... I came back during covid so I can’t show them

Arse not star ffs although...

Thought you meant "marmite star"

Chocolate starfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People hide verifications for all different reasons. May be they don't want you to know, it's as simple as that. For example, you might see a gorgeous guy who has met someone you might consider a bit risky. If you don't see that veri, his chances of more meets may increase not decrease. People judge, they really do. At the end of the day, verifications mean jack as you will never know how many or who a person has met! People lie or hide stuff. For me, I don't show all mine as women can be real bitchy and jealous so I like to keep them private.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Hiding them isn't enough for my meets, they go UNLOS. The only way to feel clean again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hiding them isn't enough for my meets, they go UNLOS. The only way to feel clean again. "

Or you consume them like a praying mantis after sex.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Privacy, people judge unfortunately.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"My business is my business

I personally don’t want to be seen as a ‘rating’ so to speak

Good answer. Maybe the question should be why would you not hide them ? We’re hiding more and more and seriously considering hiding them all but a few socials

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Hiding them isn't enough for my meets, they go UNLOS. The only way to feel clean again.

Or you consume them like a praying mantis after sex."

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I don’t.. I’m genuinely that shit at meeting

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"I don’t.. I’m genuinely that shit at meeting

Me also

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I don’t.. I’m genuinely that shit at meeting

Me also

drive for miles, ate cake and shook hands...

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If verifications received before covid were displayed then hidden there is no option to now display them, any new meet verifications also can't be displayed.

This is ludicrous. It’s happened to me today.

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