FabSwingers.com forum: Definition, nympho, slut, slag

By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

So I've often wondered what ppl perceive in their own way, the definition and difference between a slut, a slag and a nympho.

My interpretation would be

A slut/slutty

Person that can have anyone, but is their choice to.

Can be Sexy and slutty, dress so or be seen as such, but has the control as all eyes on her{him?}

Selective in sexual partners

A slag.

A crude word but used quite a lot.

I see this person wanting sex, chasing it and getting it anyway they can.

Sometimes not safe and not as selective, but wants it, and can boast about it, but not seen in a positive way by all.

The nympho.

Addicted to sex, or just happy to have it.

Wants it more than most, and needs it to fulfill their sexual longing.

Can tire 1 person out and seeks another, but is the selection of their next conquest important?

Can they have, and will get everyone to satisfy there lusr. And do they care who knows how sexually aggressive and active they are?

I've often wondering and not trying to offend anyone.

Do you agree?

What would be your definition?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

People's definition depends largely in what part they are playing in the sex part.

If they're involved she's a slut, if they're denied she's a slag, if they're in a relationship she's a nympho.

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"People's definition depends largely in what part they are playing in the sex part.

If they're involved she's a slut, if they're denied she's a slag, if they're in a relationship she's a nympho. "

Oh wow, different way of seeing it there

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"People's definition depends largely in what part they are playing in the sex part.

If they're involved she's a slut, if they're denied she's a slag, if they're in a relationship she's a nympho.

Oh wow, different way of seeing it there "

Ask any woman on here how quickly they go from the sexiest woman alive to a fat slag when they turn a guy down....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with your definitions. Especially because you said 'person'. Often those words are used about women but they can fit men too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on level of intellect. For some, slag is the generic term in their vocabulary for any woman who doesn't do as they want due to their limited capacity for learning.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

All words that are thrown as insults (mostly) at women who have the cheek to have a sex life.

Generally used by morons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If used as a insult it’s derogatory. The word slag is horrid

Slut is great when it’s an agreed term. When I’m seeing someone regular I like to be called their slut

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"All words that are thrown as insults (mostly) at women who have the cheek to have a sex life.

Generally used by morons

That’s a definition I’m familiar with too, unfortunately. Funny how there are many derogatory terms like this for women but not for men

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

They’re gendered insults for sexually actively women, with no derogatory male equivalents.

OP you can add whore, loose, wanton, hussy, tart, prozzie and many others to your list.

Personally, I prefer to be called “a sexually active adult woman who make her own choices about the type of sex she has, and the frequency, without regard for the judgment of a patriarchal society that seeks to control women’s sexual freedom”.

Granted, it’s a bit wordier but it’s a much better description, don’t you think OP?

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"All words that are thrown as insults (mostly) at women who have the cheek to have a sex life.

Generally used by morons

Yes the terms do seem get thrown at women more.

If a woman has sex with a lot of ppl, men say 'that slag or slut'.

If its a man that does it, he's a legend.

I think a woman can be slutty in an attractive way.

But I wouldn't respond well to a slag. If that makes sense

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"They’re gendered insults for sexually actively women, with no derogatory male equivalents.

OP you can add whore, loose, wanton, hussy, tart, prozzie and many others to your list.

Granted, it’s a bit wordier but it’s a much better description, don’t you think OP? "

Its a description you choose for yaself, and if you like it go with it.

Society has a way of labelling in many ways, and we choose our own way of describing it as well.

But it does seem women get the worst part of the definition.

Was that declared by a man or by a woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with your definitions OP. Quite like them in fact. Love me a man slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All words that are thrown as insults (mostly) at women who have the cheek to have a sex life.

Generally used by morons

Yes the terms do seem get thrown at women more.

If a woman has sex with a lot of ppl, men say 'that slag or slut'.

If its a man that does it, he's a legend.

I think a woman can be slutty in an attractive way.

But I wouldn't respond well to a slag. If that makes sense"

You wouldnt respond well to a slag?

Can you elaborate please?

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I don’t like to be defined and I certainly don’t like being called a slut

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"All words that are thrown as insults (mostly) at women who have the cheek to have a sex life.

Generally used by morons

Yes the terms do seem get thrown at women more.

If a woman has sex with a lot of ppl, men say 'that slag or slut'.

If its a man that does it, he's a legend.

I think a woman can be slutty in an attractive way.

But I wouldn't respond well to a slag. If that makes sense

You wouldnt respond well to a slag?

Can you elaborate please?"

Basically if there's a woman dressed slutty for me, I would respond well.

If its a woman, known around as a bit of a slag, no respect for themselves and offering it up on a plate for me and the other 2 or 3 that said no, then I wouldnt respond well.

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"I don’t like to be defined and I certainly don’t like being called a slut

And wouldn't want to. Your perception of the word is not seen or defined in a good way, and if anyone would say that of you, you have every right to smack them upside the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t like any of the terms and see them as degrading really, there’s other terms you can use in the bedroom. Stay classy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All words that are thrown as insults (mostly) at women who have the cheek to have a sex life.

Generally used by morons

Yes the terms do seem get thrown at women more.

If a woman has sex with a lot of ppl, men say 'that slag or slut'.

If its a man that does it, he's a legend.

I think a woman can be slutty in an attractive way.

But I wouldn't respond well to a slag. If that makes sense

You wouldnt respond well to a slag?

Can you elaborate please?

Basically if there's a woman dressed slutty for me, I would respond well.

If its a woman, known around as a bit of a slag, no respect for themselves and offering it up on a plate for me and the other 2 or 3 that said no, then I wouldnt respond well.

How would you determine that they " had no respect for themselves?"

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"I agree with your definitions OP. Quite like them in fact. Love me a man slut

Oh my, heart a flutter.

You get your desired man slut and go crazy

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Society has a way of labelling in many ways

Just picking up on this point - which part of society do you think came up with derogatory terms like this for women? I’ve had a quick chat with the entire female population and they say it wasn’t them.

Perhaps another way that sexism carries on; the fact that it’s not even blamed on a patriarchal system but “society” so is excused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People's definition depends largely in what part they are playing in the sex part.

If they're involved she's a slut, if they're denied she's a slag, if they're in a relationship she's a nympho. "

Difference between a slut and a bitch?

A slut will shag anyone...

A bitch will shag anyone....apart from you!

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"All words that are thrown as insults (mostly) at women who have the cheek to have a sex life.

Generally used by morons

Yes the terms do seem get thrown at women more.

If a woman has sex with a lot of ppl, men say 'that slag or slut'.

If its a man that does it, he's a legend.

I think a woman can be slutty in an attractive way.

But I wouldn't respond well to a slag. If that makes sense

You wouldnt respond well to a slag?

Can you elaborate please?

Basically if there's a woman dressed slutty for me, I would respond well.

If its a woman, known around as a bit of a slag, no respect for themselves and offering it up on a plate for me and the other 2 or 3 that said no, then I wouldnt respond well.

How would you determine that they " had no respect for themselves?""

Well, as an example from the past.

Drinking in a pub with friends, male and female alike.

And as night goes on, the 'slag', as ppl coined the phrase, is drinking, getting d*unk and half out of clothes, trying to get any man's attention.

One point was sobering up, we thought OK calmed down but then coming over to us again, trying Snog one guy, gf not amused, right in front of her and pushing away, trying grab my cock much to some ppls amusement. Then loudly announcing ' I'm anyone's, take me home and ill have you all night'.

We all turned away, I didn't see the rest.

We talked about it, no self respect and would see her again probably next week.

That's the definition of 'slag' I saw and grew up with

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"Society has a way of labelling in many ways

Perhaps another way that sexism carries on; the fact that it’s not even blamed on a patriarchal system but “society” so is excused"

Yes, and the phrases are all from historical or popular male writers of the time. That has since passed on and down thru history to be used often by one and all.

Its a part of history, or literal history I think will be hard to erase from our vocabulary.

Until ppl use it as less derogatory and in another way to promote it positively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Society has a way of labelling in many ways

Perhaps another way that sexism carries on; the fact that it’s not even blamed on a patriarchal system but “society” so is excused

Yes, and the phrases are all from historical or popular male writers of the time. That has since passed on and down thru history to be used often by one and all.

Its a part of history, or literal history I think will be hard to erase from our vocabulary.

Until ppl use it as less derogatory and in another way to promote it positively "

" historical or popular male writers of the time?"

What time? I'm not sure I understand

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"People's definition depends largely in what part they are playing in the sex part.

If they're involved she's a slut, if they're denied she's a slag, if they're in a relationship she's a nympho.

Difference between a slut and a bitch?

A slut will shag anyone...

A bitch will shag anyone....apart from you!"

Ah see, do you view the slut as I would see the slag then?

Your perception of the word is different than mine.

What is a slag in your eyes?

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"Society has a way of labelling in many ways

Perhaps another way that sexism carries on; the fact that it’s not even blamed on a patriarchal system but “society” so is excused

Yes, and the phrases are all from historical or popular male writers of the time. That has since passed on and down thru history to be used often by one and all.

Its a part of history, or literal history I think will be hard to erase from our vocabulary.

Until ppl use it as less derogatory and in another way to promote it positively

" historical or popular male writers of the time?"

What time? I'm not sure I understand"

Shakespeare, Oscar wilde, past poet laureates, playwrites of the 14,15,16th centuries, the writers or creators of the kama sutra or books that suggest 'the woman serves the man to please', the Bible describing Mary Magdalene,

Kings, emperors and dictators from many countries and nations

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"That has since passed on and down thru history to be used often by one and all. "

I hate to be Mr Picky again, but the way you excuse others from using the derogatory language is very revealing. It’s not used by “one and all” generally, is it? Who uses it and why?

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“Its a part of history, or literal history I think will be hard to erase from our vocabulary.

Until ppl use it as less derogatory and in another way to promote it positively”"

I’d say you’ve got some catching up to do

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

I like being called a slut when it's appropriate ie when having sex . using the word in everyday language to describe someone seems derogatory to me .

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"That has since passed on and down thru history to be used often by one and all.

I hate to be Mr Picky again, but the way you excuse others from using the derogatory language is very revealing. It’s not used by “one and all” generally, is it? Who uses it and why?

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“Its a part of history, or literal history I think will be hard to erase from our vocabulary.

Until ppl use it as less derogatory and in another way to promote it positively”

I’d say you’ve got some catching up to do

Well until the words. Slag slut whore harlot hussy are not used to describe a woman in ways ill conceived, by everyone, then I would have caught up with everyone else myself.

Original post was way I saw the words, how I perceived and defined it.

The words still exist today, in good or bad ways depending on who uses and owns the use in their own vocabulary and who to/is spoken to.

If your saying your definition of slut is not to mean a woman who sleeps around, is promiscuous, is 'selling herself', then I ask you to prove that point.

Simply state to someone, a stranger, you belive that person there looks like a slut, or looks slutty and gauge their reactions, to be anything but what I stated above and others for that matter

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"I like being called a slut when it's appropriate ie when having sex . using the word in everyday language to describe someone seems derogatory to me ."

Yes, I agree their.

You can be 'someone's slut' and used in a sexual way between ppl.

Using in a derogatory or mean way is something else entirely

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Simply state to someone, a stranger, you belive that person there looks like a slut, or looks slutty and gauge their reactions, to be anything but what I stated above and others for that matter"

I think I hang around with strangers who are classier than you do. Their reaction would be stop using such horrible, offensive language.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Simply state to someone, a stranger, you belive that person there looks like a slut, or looks slutty and gauge their reactions, to be anything but what I stated above and others for that matter

I think I hang around with strangers who are classier than you do. Their reaction would be stop using such horrible, offensive language."
I wouldn't consider this offensive tbh I'd be tempted to say my dad's bigger than your dad na na

It's childish to me

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

I like the term "ethical slut", coined by the two ladies who wrote the book. As long as you're an 'ethical' slut, then it's all good, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be more inclined to describe a nymphomaniac as someone who cannot be satisfied sexually and goes from one person to the next searching for that satisfaction but never gets it.

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"Be more inclined to describe a nymphomaniac as someone who cannot be satisfied sexually and goes from one person to the next searching for that satisfaction but never gets it. "

Ooh I like that.

So they are always searching for the elusive true satisfaction.

They are always close, maybe enjoying but never as close, and moves on.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I don't think Jack Regan ever said "You're nicked, you sluuuuuut"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be more inclined to describe a nymphomaniac as someone who cannot be satisfied sexually and goes from one person to the next searching for that satisfaction but never gets it.

Ooh I like that.

So they are always searching for the elusive true satisfaction.

They are always close, maybe enjoying but never as close, and moves on."

Which one are you OP?

Have you found true satisfaction?

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"Simply state to someone, a stranger, you belive that person there looks like a slut, or looks slutty and gauge their reactions, to be anything but what I stated above and others for that matter

I think I hang around with strangers who are classier than you do. Their reaction would be stop using such horrible, offensive language."

Yes, which is why it's said or stated, by different ppl and walks of life, in different ways and definitions.

As an example, some ppl years back stated miley cyrus was a slut,taylor swift was a perfect princess.

Miley changed, dressed and acted out, being slutty. And Taylor was a 'girl next door' type.

Yet someone commented that miley stuck with same person for years, in a relationship.

Where Taylor was jumping into multiple different ones, and declared she was the slut!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Words and their meaning change over time or the context in which you use them English as a language is very flexible with words and has always been so. This is 2020 though I don't think we really need to think too long or hard over labels though.

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"Be more inclined to describe a nymphomaniac as someone who cannot be satisfied sexually and goes from one person to the next searching for that satisfaction but never gets it.

Ooh I like that.

So they are always searching for the elusive true satisfaction.

They are always close, maybe enjoying but never as close, and moves on.

Which one are you OP?

Have you found true satisfaction?"

Well I'm no nympho.

I honestly had a slut/slag phase after my 7 half Yr relationahip ended. Not my proudest moment I can openly admit to, a year of interesting choices for sure.

I cooled off and tried to get into the dating game, but decided to concentrate on time with my daughter. Do I choose to go see this woman, or see my child? I chose my child of course.

As she grew up, I tired dating again but think I'm stuck in singleton mode.

So im here. Single by choice, missing the intimacy and sex, but not jumping into bed with any woman or 1st that comes by.

I'd say partially satisfied but not nympho style here

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Simply state to someone, a stranger, you belive that person there looks like a slut, or looks slutty and gauge their reactions, to be anything but what I stated above and others for that matter

I think I hang around with strangers who are classier than you do. Their reaction would be stop using such horrible, offensive language.

Yes, which is why it's said or stated, by different ppl and walks of life, in different ways and definitions.

As an example, some ppl years back stated miley cyrus was a slut,taylor swift was a perfect princess.

Miley changed, dressed and acted out, being slutty. And Taylor was a 'girl next door' type.

Yet someone commented that miley stuck with same person for years, in a relationship.

Where Taylor was jumping into multiple different ones, and declared she was the slut! "

I’m not sure that citing examples where nameless idiots make offensive comments to celebrities is really making your case totally watertight

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By *tokeman4str8fun OP Man
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"Words and their meaning change over time or the context in which you use them English as a language is very flexible with words and has always been so. This is 2020 though I don't think we really need to think too long or hard over labels though. "

Very true.

Are labels used when you have sex, or are we screaming nmaes and 'oh god' out loud?

If a lover asked 'be my naughty slut' or 'a dirty girl', will that stop the moment, or is it naughty enough to be a turn on moment?

Labels are everywhere unfortunately, even now.

More so in fact