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Wife’s that almost want to play

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so my wife wants to play loves the idea but when push comes to shove she’s scared any advice on how to have out first 3 some meet please x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont force her or you could end up with all kinds of trouble.

She has her doubts for a reason!!!

Mixing fantasy with reality doesn't always go well.

Maybe try a club together with NO PRESSURE.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes agree as we talk all the time about it send texts about it and both think a sex club will be best way forward thank you

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't knoe try a social first maybe.

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

We still haven’t met yet but we are getting closer to it.

Has she got an account on here? I found that I started to feel more comfortable once I got chatting to people. Admittedly there are some pushy people and odd balls but on the whole people on here are lovely and full of good advice.

Mr has always let me decide the pace as I was less sure than him.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Have you told her you are on a sex site and have met two women for sex? Maybe a good honest talk is needed. Swinging based on lies and decipt is doomed to fail. If she does decide that she wants to try it then it's only a matter of time before the truth will out. You have more at risk than just your swinging lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No she don’t know I’m on here this site has become like a drug to me

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Have you told her you are on a sex site and have met two women for sex? Maybe a good honest talk is needed. Swinging based on lies and decipt is doomed to fail. If she does decide that she wants to try it then it's only a matter of time before the truth will out. You have more at risk than just your swinging lifestyle. "

Yeah that's a bit sh*t if she doesn't know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree it’s not what I want I just want her and me meeting people

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"No she don’t know I’m on here this site has become like a drug to me "

Well I hope your wife does what is right for her, with or without you.

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By *kblokenorthMan
over a year ago

Any


"Ok so my wife wants to play loves the idea but when push comes to shove she’s scared any advice on how to have out first 3 some meet please x

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If she loves the idea as you say, you could start by dipping your toe in gently so to speak.

Maybe go to eg a social where she can have a no-strings casual chat with other swingers. Where she can feel quite normal and realise there’s no pressure etc.

There may be folks there she quite fancies. When she takes that thought home you have the beginnings.......

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand


"I agree it’s not what I want I just want her and me meeting people "

Clubs are your best option also you can open a joint account here and maybe join cams good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with the flow..you shouldn t force it. My gf is same. She s played years ago with 3 and 4s but now she wants to but has lost the confidence to go all the way. Mines an interesting one as she s happier to play away but doesnt, without me playing as where I can switch off she thinks, with me, she d get jealous...the mind is a curious thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave the subject alone.

If you keep pushing for it, it won’t happen. Leave it alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are so many people messaging me about this.

I’ve been there. I was the wife. And know what my husband did? Respected me, let me think about it in my own time. If he even dared rushing me or whatever, I’d have never have joined fab. Fuck that.

Plus, sounds more like a fantasy for the OP anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not fantasy I have always wanted but now she is coming round I feel I can got to the next step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not fantasy I have always wanted but now she is coming round I feel I can got to the next step "

That’s what I mean. That it’s more for you, not for her. Just based on the OP and previous posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel sorry for her already.

You're on a swinging site without her knowledge and meeting.

Some honesty is needed here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately OP when posing such a question you leave yourself open to criticism.

You are in a relationship and are on here with a single profile, have successfully used the site and had meets. Yet you ask for advice on how to introduce your partner.

Swinging as a couple is an extension to an already solid relationship. Trust, loyalty and outstanding communication is essential for it to work by enhancing an already brilliant sex life.

What if you brought your partner on here and someone messaged you both who you have previously met or chatted with under your single/secret profile? Think about how your selfish actions could impact the person who you love.

So, back to your question.... my advice is to discuss swinging with your partner and maybe think of attending socials when they are back up and running. Or possibly a sex club as they are currently social based and just chatting with such friendly and experienced people will give her knowledge to make her own informed decision on this lifestyle.

For you, I feel that you too will have an opportunity to see for yourself the strong bond between couples and learn the fundamental skills of being in a swinging couples relationship.

I do not recommend bringing your partner on to Fab until you are sure that she is not going to be hurt by your double life being exposed....or you could always open up and be honest with her.

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Book an independent escort and let the ladies discuss the rules and scenario, thats what we did for the first time and haven't looked back. Giving your wife full control of the situation should help her feel more relaxed.

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"I agree it’s not what I want I just want her and me meeting people "
both have to be 100% with it all or just causes arguments. Think about doing it together or not at all

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ok so my wife wants to play loves the idea but when push comes to shove she’s scared any advice on how to have out first 3 some meet please x

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Threesome with another man or woman?

Make a couples profile, get photo verified and message people you'd like to meet as a couple. Chat via message until covid regs allow meeting strangers for sex and as importantly, your wife feels able to go ahead. Then have a relaxed, no pressure social. If your wife feels OK about it make a date to meet for sex.

If you feel making a couples profile on here is too risky (I'm assuming she knows nothing of your activities) you will have to go to clubs with her. Is anyone likely to recognise you? Be prepared to explain if so.

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