FabSwingers.com forum: So many negative rule-laden profiles on Fab!

By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

So many profiles on Fab full of wont’s and dont’s. So many profiles with screens and screens worth of rules and regulations. So many profiles that, when you read between the lines are vitriolic and bitter. What happened to the fun? There are vanillla dating sites which are much more fun than Fab. What happened to carefree, fun-loving swing g?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Yeah, definite skip for me, they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it’s because they know what they want/like?

Or have had bad experiences in the past and want to minimise them?

I don’t know?

Ask them?

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I suppose it’s because they know what they want/like?

Or have had bad experiences in the past and want to minimise them?

I don’t know?

Ask them?"
so why don’t they say what they like, rather than want they don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seen profiles like this. But I wouldn’t use the words “so many”. There are so many awesome profiles!

And there is nothing wrong with them. Some people like that. You obviously don’t and it helps you quickly identify that you won’t be a match surely?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Must be able to play baa baa blacksheep on your banjo string and have pricisely 4.3cm diameter testicles. If you do not meet these requirements and message me I will fill all your condoms with jalapenos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I can do the banjo .. but the balls are 6cm .. still qualify ?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to see someone reads profiles. Well done OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have seen profiles like this. But I wouldn’t use the words “so many”. There are so many awesome profiles!

And there is nothing wrong with them. Some people like that. You obviously don’t and it helps you quickly identify that you won’t be a match surely? "

Well said!!!

Kudos to the OP for reading profiles tbf. So many dont read and just message anyway!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Well I can do the banjo .. but the balls are 6cm .. still qualify ?

Sorry balls are too big

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

You have choices.

They’re modal operators of necessities, closed minds.

They’re modalities operators of possibilities, open mind.

You choose or dream.

Not difficult.

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"I suppose it’s because they know what they want/like?

Or have had bad experiences in the past and want to minimise them?

I don’t know?

Ask them? so why don’t they say what they like, rather than want they don't like. "

We did and I one took notice and experiences over Months of frustration have lead to our profile being as it is. We are real. Sadly our experiences have shown there are so many fantasists. We are not negative but honest. If people don't like the profile there are many others they can Contact. We try and make it clear so messages are from those that meet the criteria not delusionists

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Some are too negative

Some are too short

Some are badly written

Some include ridiculous "legal" warnings

None of that is ever going to change..

...and that still leaves plenty of interesting profiles to enjoy.

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Must be able to play baa baa blacksheep on your banjo string and have pricisely 4.3cm diameter testicles. If you do not meet these requirements and message me I will fill all your condoms with jalapenos. "
precisely my point - what's wrong with a 4.4cm banjo string - quite often knocked out post-coital rendition of Duelling Banjos on my mine. Having said that I am alone in bed to right. Maybe should Learn to tune it a bit better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Must be able to play baa baa blacksheep on your banjo string and have pricisely 4.3cm diameter testicles. If you do not meet these requirements and message me I will fill all your condoms with jalapenos. precisely my point - what's wrong with a 4.4cm banjo string - quite often knocked out post-coital rendition of Duelling Banjos on my mine. Having said that I am alone in bed to right. Maybe should Learn to tune it a bit better!"

The problem is that she wanted 4.3cm diameter testicles. Not a banjo string

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Must be able to play baa baa blacksheep on your banjo string and have pricisely 4.3cm diameter testicles. If you do not meet these requirements and message me I will fill all your condoms with jalapenos. precisely my point - what's wrong with a 4.4cm banjo string - quite often knocked out post-coital rendition of Duelling Banjos on my mine. Having said that I am alone in bed to right. Maybe should Learn to tune it a bit better!

The problem is that she wanted 4.3cm diameter testicles. Not a banjo string

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I can do the banjo .. but the balls are 6cm .. still qualify ?

Sorry balls are too big

Haha ... that’s alright

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

People have their reasons, I guess.

I prefer the lighthearted , fun ones

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Some are too negative

Some are too short

Some are badly written

Some include ridiculous "legal" warnings

None of that is ever going to change..

...and that still leaves plenty of interesting profiles to enjoy. "
yes, what is that with the legal warnings. Very odd. Do people really think that will make any difference. And do people think that issuing legal proceedings will make it less likely that they will be exposed in the press as a swinger. Would never contact anyone with a legal disclaimer on their profile.

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"People have their reasons, I guess.

I prefer the lighthearted , fun ones

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well you certainly have a light-hearted name, and some seriously sexy arm-pit hait!

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Must be able to play baa baa blacksheep on your banjo string and have pricisely 4.3cm diameter testicles. If you do not meet these requirements and message me I will fill all your condoms with jalapenos. precisely my point - what's wrong with a 4.4cm banjo string - quite often knocked out post-coital rendition of Duelling Banjos on my mine. Having said that I am alone in bed to right. Maybe should Learn to tune it a bit better!

DOH! I have saggy testicles - any use?

The problem is that she wanted 4.3cm diameter testicles. Not a banjo string

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suppose it’s because they know what they want/like?

Or have had bad experiences in the past and want to minimise them?

I don’t know?

Ask them?"

I was just about to say the same

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Nice to see someone reads profiles. Well done OP

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Thank you incandescent. That’s the first Fab compliment I ever had - feeling emotional, but that may be because of the picture of you wearing your red corset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suppose it’s because they know what they want/like?

Or have had bad experiences in the past and want to minimise them?

I don’t know?

Ask them?

I was just about to say the same

How funny so was I

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

"So many profiles on Fab full of wont’s and dont’s. So many profiles with screens and screens worth of rules and regulations. So many profiles that, when you read between the lines are vitriolic and bitter. What happened to the fun? There are vanillla dating sites which are much more fun than Fab. What happened to carefree, fun-loving swing g?"

For some the control is part of the kink. For others, reflecting hard experience. Don't like don't read is one position. There is also an irony in writing this thread, which is pretty negative.

Perhaps the way to see them is that they have a small list of things they won't do, but a much bigger unstated list of things they will!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some the control is part of the kink. For others, reflecting hard experience. Don't like don't read is one position. There is also an irony in writing this thread, which is pretty negative.

Perhaps the way to see them is that they have a small list of things they won't do, but a much bigger unstated list of things they will!

Agreed, everyone has their preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do occasionally come across a profile that is just a list of “what We don’t like” or “don’t bother messaging me if...” my biggest bugbear though are profiles that state “if you message without having pics on your profile you will be blocked” and yet they themselves have no photos and a fairly mundane profile.

As others have said though there are plenty of interesting profiles out there so don’t get hung up on the bad ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People read profiles

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

For some the control is part of the kink. For others, reflecting hard experience. Don't like don't read is one position. There is also an irony in writing this thread, which is pretty negative.

Perhaps the way to see them is that they have a small list of things they won't do, but a much bigger unstated list of things they will!

Good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is my profile too negative?

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Is my profile too negative?"
No - we need more like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is my profile too negative?"

You made me look!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is my profile too negative? No - we need more like that!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PSML - you tell em Lacey Red LOL

Guys - is this really a huge issue ? Everyone has requirements. Ladies are in a position to be picky , that's their perogotive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice to see someone reads profiles. Well done OP

Thank you incandescent. That’s the first Fab compliment I ever had - feeling emotional, but that may be because of the picture of you wearing your red corset."

Whatever it takes to make you happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suppose it’s because they know what they want/like?

Or have had bad experiences in the past and want to minimise them?

I don’t know?

Ask them? so why don’t they say what they like, rather than want they don't like. "

Because its their profile and they can write what they like, if you don't like what you see then move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is my profile too negative?

You made me look! "

Haha. Do you like Let Loose?

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Is my profile too negative?

You made me look! "
Think Erect-Jim owes me a thank you!

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

PSML - you tell em Lacey Red LOL

Guys - is this really a huge issue ? Everyone has requirements. Ladies are in a position to be picky , that's their perogotive

There are so many cock double-entendres in that comment. Not rising to the bait.

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Nice to see someone reads profiles. Well done OP

Thank you incandescent. That’s the first Fab compliment I ever had - feeling emotional, but that may be because of the picture of you wearing your red corset.

Whatever it takes to make you happy

Your status - words to a song?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice to see someone reads profiles. Well done OP

Thank you incandescent. That’s the first Fab compliment I ever had - feeling emotional, but that may be because of the picture of you wearing your red corset.

Whatever it takes to make you happy

Your status - words to a song?"

Yep. One that could have been written for me

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Is my profile too negative?"

Jim, it makes you sound like a cad and a bounder. Not a deviant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile is to put off the imbeciles who can’t be arsed to read and potentially attract someone with a brain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can write what the fuck we like though right?

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Nice to see someone reads profiles. Well done OP

Thank you incandescent. That’s the first Fab compliment I ever had - feeling emotional, but that may be because of the picture of you wearing your red corset.

Whatever it takes to make you happy

Your status - words to a song?

Yep. One that could have been written for me

Words by?

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"We can write what the fuck we like though right? "
Yes, you can write whatever the fuck you want - as can I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is my profile too negative?"

I noseyed also but there was that much to read I just skipped that and perved the photos.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I personally wouldn't pay too much attention to the profiles that don't interest you, just skip ahead to the next one that does. It's up to people to run their profiles however they feel suits them, and we all are different.

If you don't like what they say then it's likely that you wouldn't be suited to each other anyway or have different interests, so onwards to the next....

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"My profile is to put off the imbeciles who can’t be arsed to read and potentially attract someone with a brain "

You're profile is quite positive- in my humble opinion !

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Then perhaps rather than start a bitter thread just leave fab and stick to the "fun" sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're tiresome, sure. But it really is no great effort to simply ignore the profiles that bore you to death and instead focus on those that might be more to your tastes. Remember, this site is just a cross section of society...scary!

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Is my profile too negative?

I noseyed also but there was that much to read I just skipped that and perved the photos. "

Seriously - people don't read the profiles and just perv over the photos? Sorry I started this post. Everything I have believed in is starting to turn to dust!

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Then perhaps rather than start a bitter thread just leave fab and stick to the "fun" sites

Is a bitter thread, or a thread talking about bitter threads?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Then perhaps rather than start a bitter thread just leave fab and stick to the "fun" sites

It's not bitter why not leave the guy alone he has a voice like everyone else

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

simple.... their bodies, their rules!!!!

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Then perhaps rather than start a bitter thread just leave fab and stick to the "fun" sites

It's not bitter why not leave the guy alone he has a voice like everyone else "

Thank you - lovely pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then perhaps rather than start a bitter thread just leave fab and stick to the "fun" sites

Oi you, chill! He’s not being bitter, just grumbling a bit

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Then perhaps rather than start a bitter thread just leave fab and stick to the "fun" sites

It's not bitter why not leave the guy alone he has a voice like everyone else

Thank you - lovely pics!"

Thanks xx

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Then perhaps rather than start a bitter thread just leave fab and stick to the "fun" sites

Oi you, chill! He’s not being bitter, just grumbling a bit

Quite right - just being a bit of a curmudgeon !

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Then perhaps rather than start a bitter thread just leave fab and stick to the "fun" sites

Oi you, chill! He’s not being bitter, just grumbling a bit

Quite right - just being a bit of a curmudgeon ! "

I blame the Malbec!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

what happened to carefree and fun loving?

It left the building when it cost me confidence, trust and heart.

It may come back, it may not.

But for now, my carefree-ness is allowing myself time to heal and put myself first.

If anyone can't understand that especially after reading my profile then they ain't the kind of person I'm interested in meeting when the time is right for me anyway

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester

"I suppose it’s because they know what they want/like?

Or have had bad experiences in the past and want to minimise them?

I don’t know?

Ask them?"

Interesting and probably very true observation.

I found(or to be more accurate,she found me) on t****. But that was probably a one off? Go fab!!!

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've been told my profile is ranty, demanding and too long. I've tried to condense it but end up putting bits back in that I'd removed. No one has to read it, I think it gives a clear insight to who I am and what I want. 90% of the messages I get, they havent read it, but they're usually from the 'meet now' brigade. I like it, I'm happy with it. It reflects me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been told my profile is ranty, demanding and too long. I've tried to condense it but end up putting bits back in that I'd removed. No one has to read it, I think it gives a clear insight to who I am and what I want. 90% of the messages I get, they havent read it, but they're usually from the 'meet now' brigade. I like it, I'm happy with it. It reflects me x"

I like this. In essence, an in-depth and by virtue, long profile is a great way to filter out the chaps that can't be bothered to learn about you before messaging. Succinctly put!

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't that the beauty of the world we live in? We are all different and we see the world through different lenses. We all wear tinted glasses through which we view life. Those glasses are our suppressed emotions and feelings. When we drop those glasses and the beauty of the world becomes clear.

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Have you sent that big bag of underwear to Sydney Uni yet? Because if you haven't...

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively"

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively"

From a man who has ’fuck off’ on his profile

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Mine but could do an update but yours is great. I was chuckling at the end

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

Just to go off topic for a second - where is Marianna Trench - it sounds like the coolest place in the world to live.

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

From a man who has ’fuck off’ on his profile

That was for you hope you listened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amen to this.... too fuckin true

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Mine but could do an update but yours is great. I was chuckling at the end

Thank you x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

Just to go off topic for a second - where is Marianna Trench - it sounds like the coolest place in the world to live."

It's where no-one can hear you scream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

Just to go off topic for a second - where is Marianna Trench - it sounds like the coolest place in the world to live."

Yeah good luck living there mate

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

From a man who has ’fuck off’ on his profile

That was for you hope you listened

’only here to flexy my sexy cock’ ??. Did you oil it before you took the pic, or does it always glisten like that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

Just to go off topic for a second - where is Marianna Trench - it sounds like the coolest place in the world to live.

Yeah good luck living there mate

Bwhahaha, shhhhhhh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

Just to go off topic for a second - where is Marianna Trench - it sounds like the coolest place in the world to live.

Yeah good luck living there mate

Bwhahaha, shhhhhhh. "

Haha

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

From a man who has ’fuck off’ on his profile

That was for you hope you listened

’only here to flexy my sexy cock’ ??. Did you oil it before you took the pic, or does it always glisten like that?"

Lmfao feels like I'm catching a rat with these traps. from your first post I got the vibe you like to creep on profiles and judge em, for what reason? And yeah the cock is nicely moisturised i take care of it ygm

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Amen to this.... too fuckin true"

Or would it be even more true that if people were respectful, patient, lost their sense of entitlement, showed grace and care, listened to preferences, didn't lie or attempt to manipulate and treated others in messages the way they would in person, then maybe, just maybe people wouldn't feel they need a profile that has to lay things out clearly, concisely and in some cases, expressively angsty head against wall bangingly. That deserves an Amen, but alas, it far too much to ask or expect

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

From a man who has ’fuck off’ on his profile

That was for you hope you listened

’only here to flexy my sexy cock’ ??. Did you oil it before you took the pic, or does it always glisten like that?

Not really - just like to communicate, have a bit of fun and banter. Apologies if you're feelings have been hurt.

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

From a man who has ’fuck off’ on his profile

That was for you hope you listened

’only here to flexy my sexy cock’ ??. Did you oil it before you took the pic, or does it always glisten like that?

Not really - just like to communicate, have a bit of fun and banter. Apologies if you're feelings have been hurt."

Now i feel bad for sending you to the shadow realm so I apologise too

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

From a man who has ’fuck off’ on his profile

That was for you hope you listened

’only here to flexy my sexy cock’ ??. Did you oil it before you took the pic, or does it always glisten like that?

Not really - just like to communicate, have a bit of fun and banter. Apologies if you're feelings have been hurt."

Ooooh Fun and Banter... Dont say that, one man's banter is another man's bully. We might have to start reading between the lines!

Apropos Marianna Trench? Think she used to be on here. She had a thought provoking profile you would have loved. Really deep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rules? What's rules? Yes Fab is becoming such a lefty site. There's too many rules in your society last thing you want is more RULES!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They aren't negative they have enough info to filter people out. You see it that way because it affects you negatively

From a man who has ’fuck off’ on his profile

That was for you hope you listened

’only here to flexy my sexy cock’ ??. Did you oil it before you took the pic, or does it always glisten like that?

Not really - just like to communicate, have a bit of fun and banter. Apologies if you're feelings have been hurt.

Ooooh Fun and Banter... Dont say that, one man's banter is another man's bully. We might have to start reading between the lines!

Apropos Marianna Trench? Think she used to be on here. She had a thought provoking profile you would have loved. Really deep.

Yes I done a thread about the 'banter' that goes on in here, becomes a bit personal at times. Don't know what's wrong with people. Probably just looking for attention and a reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice to see someone reads profiles. Well done OP

Don't think hardly anyone will read mine! Well not all of it anyway

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Profiles like what you describe are usually from experienced women and couples on the scene. Those that know their own worth and aren't afraid to set their own rules. This annoys entitled people. Tough! 'Come and fuck me boys' profiles are usually naive newbies or fake. Years of being in the scene teaches you what you want. Maybe point your scorn at the pushy men who chase newbies away.

If people don't like our profile, great, they aren't for us.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I've found the longer you've been on here the more you know what you want and don't want,the less rubbish you'll put up with. Some men like to give you abuse for the fact you don't want to meet married cheating men etc sad sad people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found the longer you've been on here the more you know what you want and don't want,the less rubbish you'll put up with. Some men like to give you abuse for the fact you don't want to meet married cheating men etc sad sad people. "

Men who are not happy in their marriages... Think cheating is disgusting! The worst pain you can go through is heartache!

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Their profile, their approach. Although I find whole list of rules on a profile a little off putting, I'm left in no doubt about what that person is looking for and know if I meet their requirements or not.

Quite frustrating though, when I've 'ticked' positively 29 of the 30 'boxes' and fail on the last one - normally cock size, colour or body type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find rules cut down on the fakes kind off testing something this time around

Been on and off fab for 10 years and normally I have a set off rules posted about like swapping phone numbers and such before meet

Normal I get very high profile views and fabs on my pics but don’t get to meny messages

This profiles I not got the rules posted in box is flooded ever day with message

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Men who are not happy in their marriages... Think cheating is disgusting! The worst pain you can go through is heartache! "

Oh I don't know if someone sawed my leg off really slowly I may find that worse.

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes, met quite a few ladies that have told me the same thing. Seems like an odd thing to do - abuse someone who doesn't want to meet you. Kind of confirms your instincts were correct in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dam !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men who are not happy in their marriages... Think cheating is disgusting! The worst pain you can go through is heartache!

Oh I don't know if someone sawed my leg off really slowly I may find that worse."

Yeah but that will heal, you'll have a nice scar and it's a cool story... heartache sometimes never heals completely and it's not something you wish to share.

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

If people don't like our profile, great, they aren't for us."

Don't think it's about entitlement at all. Think it's more about tone and approach. I would never message anyone who had a long list of rules attached to a meet, so don't feel entitled. Just seems that on Fab, and also in swinging clubs, you come across people who appear to have been damaged by their swinging experience, but struggle to give it up and the sense of affirmation being sexually desired can bring. Those issues - for want of a better term - 'sometimes' spill onto the page.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's a bit of a catch 22. Sometimes it's very tempting to just do a no nonsense ranty profile when you're pissed off enough by people, but in doing so you probably put off more of the decent, fun folk and end up left with only the undesirable options you were trying to dissuade in the first place!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

If people don't like our profile, great, they aren't for us.

Or people have worked out what they want and are not prepared to compromise. If that comes across as ranty and demanding then good, at least it is clear what we want. So many men on here think with an entitled attitude....all they have to do is send a quick message to a single fem/couple of their choice and they will be shaggin before tea time and cry like babies when it doesn't happen. Well it doesn't work like that. Those single men that understand the scene know that, ranty profiles don't bother them, they either fit the requirements or not. Those that don't understand(and what a good filter this thread is ladies!) will fail to see the issue.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Whilst I think it can be an interesting discussion, I do find it amusing that people feel the need to comment on something over which they have no control whatsoever i.e. other peoples profiles and how they manage them - and also find it quite interesting that more often than not it's those that are ruled out by those profiles that feel the need to comment negatively about them.

I find my experience of Fab far more positive if I focus on my use of it rather than worrying about how others choose to - if I see a profile that doesn't appeal to me, I wouldn't want to engage with the owner in terms of meeting, so why would I have a need to comment on it unless asked to e.g. on a profile advice thread.

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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Whilst I think it can be an interesting discussion, I do find it amusing that people feel the need to comment on something over which they have no control whatsoever i.e. other peoples profiles and how they manage them - and also find it quite interesting that more often than not it's those that are ruled out by those profiles that feel the need to comment negatively about them.

It's a Forum - clues in the name? I don't feel ruled-out by those profiles as I wouldn't message anyone with that kind of profile. Just thought it would make a good forum discussion point, and I am interested to hear other peoples views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes it really annoying is when you read the list of wants and can literally say yes to everything so send them a message - only for it to stay unread for a few weeks before the "bulk delete as I've got too many". What's the point???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes it really annoying is when you read the list of wants and can literally say yes to everything so send them a message - only for it to stay unread for a few weeks before the "bulk delete as I've got too many". What's the point???"

You're not a woman and don't get 1000s of messages you simply can't reply to all of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we don't do anal, bondage, pain, piss, poo, hotels, dogging or car meets. It's better to put it on profile than not. It's not rules, it's preferences x

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

The way others choose to write their profile, is entirely up to them.

I'm a positive kind of person, so would not be attracted to a negative profile, but I do understand why some feel that it's necessary.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I know it's a forum which is why I opened my post by saying what I did - even so it still amuses (and to an extent bemuses) me that how others choose to run their profiles is so often a topic of discussion, and more often than not led by people that are ruled out by those profiles, either by their own choice or the "rules" laid out in them.

Ultimately the answer is the same, if you don't like a profile, move on to the next one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile lists what I don’t like and some that I do.

It’s an attempt to stop the guys that like what I don’t from messaging and wasting both of our time.

I still get messages from people that have clearly not read it though so..

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Just because you match a list of "wants" though doesn't mean you are what they are looking for or entitle you to a reply though - add to that the sheer number of messages women get, all of which apparently match their wants and you start to understand why it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because you match a list of "wants" though doesn't mean you are what they are looking for or entitle you to a reply though - add to that the sheer number of messages women get, all of which apparently match their wants and you start to understand why it happens"

Not saying I feel entitled to anything, just annoying to take the time to read a profile, jump through the hoops and take the time to write a personalised message for it to not even to be read. I can see now why so many guys use copy and paste messages. Still, all part of the game I guess!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

But this is entitled....you are thinking you are entitled to a reply cos you read a profile, jump thro the hoops, and write a personal message. You are not entitled to a reply, or even open your message. That is the decision of the recepient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair op,it's the individuals profile so it's there right to ,put what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The longer I'm on Fab the arsier my profile gets. I'm just so fed up of getting messages with no face pics or ones with sunglasses etc. Plus non meet verified people still keep messaging and it makes me go into bitch mode.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The thing is, if you see it as a game it will become a game and every game has winners and losers, so you have to accept that if you're not very good at the game you will lose more than you win.

What's more one of the rules of that game is you won't always get replies no matter how well you may think you match - remember too that while they may not have read your message, they may have read your profile and decided not to read your message based on that.

Either way it's not worth getting "annoyed" about - it's far better to take a more laid back approach, accept that most of the time sending messages "cold" you won't get a reply, and look at others ways you can interact with the site and hopefully other users.

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