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"Why is it that most ladies will not respond to a compliment on pics, response to profiles.. but are quite quick to respond to negative moans. If you took the time to say thanks bug no thanks or just smile at a compliment this place would be so much nicer.... Is it just me?" Hang on, I’ll just check with my admin assistant | |||
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"Why is it that most ladies will not respond to a compliment on pics, response to profiles.. but are quite quick to respond to negative moans. If you took the time to say thanks bug no thanks or just smile at a compliment this place would be so much nicer.... Is it just me? Hang on, I’ll just check with my admin assistant "  | |||
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"Why is it that most ladies will not respond to a compliment on pics, response to profiles.. but are quite quick to respond to negative moans. If you took the time to say thanks bug no thanks or just smile at a compliment this place would be so much nicer.... Is it just me? Hang on, I’ll just check with my admin assistant "   | |||
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"Because they don't want to talk to you... If they reply it means, unless they block you, even when they apply filters, you would still be able to message... Also, alot of men see a reply as interest... It's why alot don't fab pics either... We don't owe you a reply" | |||
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"We are all not that shallow. No harm in saying thanks but no thanks. I would because its just common decency....no one owes anyone anything x" No one is saying everyone is that shallow but as usual the few spoil it for the many. | |||
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"We are all not that shallow. No harm in saying thanks but no thanks. I would because its just common decency....no one owes anyone anything x" It's common decency to read the site rules and FAQs, which you clearly haven't or you wouldn’t be saying it IS common decency to reply to a compliment. You got a spare few hours every day saying thanks but no thanks to everyone who messages even though your profile states you rarely read them and are mainly here for the forums? | |||
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"We are all not that shallow. No harm in saying thanks but no thanks. I would because its just common decency....no one owes anyone anything x" Compliments are 200 a penny and have almost zero value As you rightly say no one owes you a reply To reply takes time and is absolutely a pure waste of it to reply 100 times a day | |||
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"Ok- here's your answer. Snapping point and an attempt to educate dickheads in how to communicate to save the next unsuspecting message recipient from the same bullshit. Why would you send someone negativity or nastiness in the first place? OK if you have personal history with them and feel it's necessary, but not a total stranger." Exactly what I am talking about, you have locked on to the negative....nothing about being complimented  | |||
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"Ok- here's your answer. Snapping point and an attempt to educate dickheads in how to communicate to save the next unsuspecting message recipient from the same bullshit. Why would you send someone negativity or nastiness in the first place? OK if you have personal history with them and feel it's necessary, but not a total stranger. Exactly what I am talking about, you have locked on to the negative....nothing about being complimented "The thing is, women get lots of compliments, if we were to reply to them all, that would take time, and then we have to reply to that reply, often with a rejection, which can in some cases lead to abuse. | |||
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"Ok- here's your answer. Snapping point and an attempt to educate dickheads in how to communicate to save the next unsuspecting message recipient from the same bullshit. Why would you send someone negativity or nastiness in the first place? OK if you have personal history with them and feel it's necessary, but not a total stranger. Exactly what I am talking about, you have locked on to the negative....nothing about being complimented "I was answering a question that you asked. I thought the answer to not replying to compliments was obvious considering it's in the site FAQs, but as I later realised, you hadn't read them. | |||
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Jamie-
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “how’s you”
Stranger 1- “fucking fat slag”
Jamie- “learn your take rejection”
Stranger 1- “sorry there’s just so many time wasters”
Stranger 1- “hey”
*end scene*’ | |||
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"I always reply to compliments. Maybe i miss one or two but hopefully not as compliments are very much appreciated.x" | |||
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"I made the mistake the other day to reply thank you to all the messages I received saying nice pictures/profile, nothing more just 'thank you ' and most of those guys then took this as a reason to then keep messaging me even though I don't reply to further messages, some I even had to block because they wouldn't stop and the tone becomes a bit aggressive, 1 I even had to report. " Perfect example of why most women don't do it OP. | |||
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"*Scenario* Stranger 1: “Hey, I know you’re inundated with messages, but I just wanted to say you’ve got a lovely smile” Jamie- “Thanks! Hope you enjoy Fab, best of luck with your search” Stranger 1- “So how’s you how’s lockdown treating you” Jamie- “Hey, I’m actually just here for the forums” Stranger 1- “So a guy cant even compliment a women with her thinking he’s trying to get in her pants lolol ”
Jamie-
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “how’s you”
Stranger 1- “fucking fat slag”
Jamie- “learn your take rejection”
Stranger 1- “sorry there’s just so many time wasters”
Stranger 1- “hey”
*end scene*’"Ouch! And wow sorry you guys gotta deal with dickheads like that | |||
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"Why is it that most ladies will not respond to a compliment on pics, response to profiles.. but are quite quick to respond to negative moans. If you took the time to say thanks bug no thanks or just smile at a compliment this place would be so much nicer.... Is it just me?" Believe me. It’s just not worth answering on here sometimes... | |||
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"*Scenario* Stranger 1: “Hey, I know you’re inundated with messages, but I just wanted to say you’ve got a lovely smile” Jamie- “Thanks! Hope you enjoy Fab, best of luck with your search” Stranger 1- “So how’s you how’s lockdown treating you” Jamie- “Hey, I’m actually just here for the forums” Stranger 1- “So a guy cant even compliment a women with her thinking he’s trying to get in her pants lolol ”
Jamie-
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “how’s you”
Stranger 1- “fucking fat slag”
Jamie- “learn your take rejection”
Stranger 1- “sorry there’s just so many time wasters”
Stranger 1- “hey”
*end scene*’"Brilliant Jamie! | |||
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"Ok- here's your answer. Snapping point and an attempt to educate dickheads in how to communicate to save the next unsuspecting message recipient from the same bullshit. Why would you send someone negativity or nastiness in the first place? OK if you have personal history with them and feel it's necessary, but not a total stranger. Exactly what I am talking about, you have locked on to the negative....nothing about being complimented
The thing is, women get lots of compliments, if we were to reply to them all, that would take time, and then we have to reply to that reply, often with a rejection, which can in some cases lead to abuse. " | |||
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"*Scenario* Stranger 1: “Hey, I know you’re inundated with messages, but I just wanted to say you’ve got a lovely smile” Jamie- “Thanks! Hope you enjoy Fab, best of luck with your search” Stranger 1- “So how’s you how’s lockdown treating you” Jamie- “Hey, I’m actually just here for the forums” Stranger 1- “So a guy cant even compliment a women with her thinking he’s trying to get in her pants lolol ”
Jamie-
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “how’s you”
Stranger 1- “fucking fat slag”
Jamie- “learn your take rejection”
Stranger 1- “sorry there’s just so many time wasters”
Stranger 1- “hey”
*end scene*’
Ouch! And wow sorry you guys gotta deal with dickheads like that"And imagine that many many times a day, every fucking day. | |||
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"I made the mistake the other day to reply thank you to all the messages I received saying nice pictures/profile, nothing more just 'thank you ' and most of those guys then took this as a reason to then keep messaging me even though I don't reply to further messages, some I even had to block because they wouldn't stop and the tone becomes a bit aggressive, 1 I even had to report. " Sorry to hear that. So I guess the real answer is.. there are a lot of men on here that just spoil the whole thing, so the back lash goes to all..understandable ladies truly understandable | |||
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"The conversation can go one of several ways. The following are not real messages. Fab gent: Hey, great pics Us: Thanks Fab gent: would you like to meet? Us: no thank you Fab gent :why did you rep!y then, you're just a time waster. Or Fab gent: Hey, great pics. Us: Thanks but we won't be meeting Fab gent: I wasn't asking, don't flatter yourself Or Fab gent: Hey, great pics Us: Thanks Fab gent: would you like to meet Us: no thanks Fab gent: that's fine, best wishes. So in two out of three cases we'll be in the wrong. We still try and answer most people though " | |||
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"Opened a can of worms now " not really, men being men don't actually say its frustrating so rather than moaning I've asked the question, now I know why I can move differently | |||
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"Opened a can of worms now
not really, men being men don't actually say its frustrating so rather than moaning I've asked the question, now I know why I can move differently "Always be yourself that’s what I say ... if they reply they do .. but never sweat it pal .. | |||
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"*Scenario* Stranger 1: “Hey, I know you’re inundated with messages, but I just wanted to say you’ve got a lovely smile” Jamie- “Thanks! Hope you enjoy Fab, best of luck with your search” Stranger 1- “So how’s you how’s lockdown treating you” Jamie- “Hey, I’m actually just here for the forums” Stranger 1- “So a guy cant even compliment a women with her thinking he’s trying to get in her pants lolol ”
Jamie-
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “hey”
Stranger 1- “how’s you”
Stranger 1- “fucking fat slag”
Jamie- “learn your take rejection”
Stranger 1- “sorry there’s just so many time wasters”
Stranger 1- “hey”
*end scene*’
Ouch! And wow sorry you guys gotta deal with dickheads like that
And imagine that many many times a day, every fucking day.
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"Opened a can of worms now
not really, men being men don't actually say its frustrating so rather than moaning I've asked the question, now I know why I can move differently
Always be yourself that’s what I say ... if they reply they do .. but never sweat it pal .. " | |||
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"Guy: Hi, great pictures Me: Thanks Guy:You meeting ? Me: No Covid, plus you’re straight Guy: I have to put that or I can’t get a shag on here Me: sorry not interested, but happy fabbing Guy: you’re a .....fat tranny..wouldn’t....if you were on fire That was one ...I’ve bleeped out the bad language " | |||
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"Guy: Hi, great pictures Me: Thanks Guy:You meeting ? Me: No Covid, plus you’re straight Guy: I have to put that or I can’t get a shag on here Me: sorry not interested, but happy fabbing Guy: you’re a .....fat tranny..wouldn’t....if you were on fire That was one ...I’ve bleeped out the bad language "A real scumbag, I honestly can say I did not know people would be that nasty on here. Rest assured my question has been answered | |||
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"We are all not that shallow. No harm in saying thanks but no thanks. I would because its just common decency....no one owes anyone anything x" Exactly, nobody owes you a reply. | |||
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"Guy: Hi, great pictures Me: Thanks Guy:You meeting ? Me: No Covid, plus you’re straight Guy: I have to put that or I can’t get a shag on here Me: sorry not interested, but happy fabbing Guy: you’re a .....fat tranny..wouldn’t....if you were on fire That’s usely how it gose My new one is to start questioning they sexually and tell them they definitely not straight for looking at my profile and if they keep going I am screen shoting and send to they frends usely shuts them up pretty fast lol That was one ...I’ve bleeped out the bad language " | |||
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"I've been complimented on many things, including my body, and in the same message the sender tells me exactly what they want to do to the bits they've complimented, and usually started with "hey babe" Now... in my profile it clearly states I don't wanna hear that shit. I don't wanna be called babe. So, is that message a compliment, or as I see it, a whacking great insult." Fair play, you gotta do what you gotta do. I hear what you guys are saying, I don't badger nor do I insult, I've asked and it has been answered. I'm not here to personally attack anyone, hence the question, not here to question the rules neither. If I was in your shoes, and from what I have now been told you guys are well in you right yo refuse to answer...let's hope we lose these dickheads spoiling if for us. | |||
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"I've been complimented on many things, including my body, and in the same message the sender tells me exactly what they want to do to the bits they've complimented, and usually started with "hey babe" Now... in my profile it clearly states I don't wanna hear that shit. I don't wanna be called babe. So, is that message a compliment, or as I see it, a whacking great insult. Fair play, you gotta do what you gotta do. I hear what you guys are saying, I don't badger nor do I insult, I've asked and it has been answered. I'm not here to personally attack anyone, hence the question, not here to question the rules neither. If I was in your shoes, and from what I have now been told you guys are well in you right yo refuse to answer...let's hope we lose these dickheads spoiling if for us. " The knobheads make the good ones shine. | |||
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"Guy: Hi, great pictures Me: Thanks Guy:You meeting ? Me: No Covid, plus you’re straight Guy: I have to put that or I can’t get a shag on here Me: sorry not interested, but happy fabbing Guy: you’re a .....fat tranny..wouldn’t....if you were on fire That was one ...I’ve bleeped out the bad language
A real scumbag, I honestly can say I did not know people would be that nasty on here. Rest assured my question has been answered "Actually it’s all credit to you, that you now understand, once a few examples have been given.
In my case I do try and answer most of my messages but on occasion, the above does happen | |||
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"I've been complimented on many things, including my body, and in the same message the sender tells me exactly what they want to do to the bits they've complimented, and usually started with "hey babe" Now... in my profile it clearly states I don't wanna hear that shit. I don't wanna be called babe. So, is that message a compliment, or as I see it, a whacking great insult. Fair play, you gotta do what you gotta do. I hear what you guys are saying, I don't badger nor do I insult, I've asked and it has been answered. I'm not here to personally attack anyone, hence the question, not here to question the rules neither. If I was in your shoes, and from what I have now been told you guys are well in you right yo refuse to answer...let's hope we lose these dickheads spoiling if for us. The knobheads make the good ones shine. " so true | |||
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"Because a response can be taken as wanting to start a conversation which isn't always the case. A thanks but no thanks can then be followed with abuse. " I think us guys need to see things from the ladies point of view. They have so many messages coming in, they can't respond to all - it's just not feasible. And as sparks said , it can be taken as an invitation to start a conversation, which may not always be the case. I'm new to this but a no response or delete basically means thanks but no thanks. | |||
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"Guy: Hi, great pictures Me: Thanks Guy:You meeting ? Me: No Covid, plus you’re straight Guy: I have to put that or I can’t get a shag on here Me: sorry not interested, but happy fabbing Guy: you’re a .....fat tranny..wouldn’t....if you were on fire That was one ...I’ve bleeped out the bad language
A real scumbag, I honestly can say I did not know people would be that nasty on here. Rest assured my question has been answered
Actually it’s all credit to you, that you now understand, once a few examples have been given.
In my case I do try and answer most of my messages but on occasion, the above does happen "Nice one | |||
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"Just another eye opener when it comes to messages, when you first join as a female, you are in no way, shape or form prepared for what's about to happen. In the first 24 hours and before you even have a picture up and minimal profile text you receive hundreds, and I'm talking multiple hundreds of messages calling you beatiful and paying you all sorts of "compliments" when the sender has absolutely fuck all to go on other than that you have a vagina. You feel like you've been sliced open and fed to an ocean of sharks. It's at that point you realise it's the desperate men that are the shallow ones that see you as nothing more than a wet hole that they hope they can manipulate or fake charm into bed. From that point on, compliments from most are deemed meaningless, and it's sad from both perspectives. " Yeah, the first 24 hours are a sea of flaccid wangers thrown into your inbox. | |||
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" if we replied to everyone we would never be able to do anything else imagine how the forum would be who wants to be my personal assistant "I would apply a strict algorithm to filter out all messages but my own | |||
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" if we replied to everyone we would never be able to do anything else imagine how the forum would be who wants to be my personal assistant
I would apply a strict algorithm to filter out all messages but my own "Then I’d never get any | |||
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" if we replied to everyone we would never be able to do anything else imagine how the forum would be who wants to be my personal assistant
I would apply a strict algorithm to filter out all messages but my own
Then I’d never get any "Trust me, the floodgates would open | |||
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