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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sometimes you get those days when you really Lee don't feel good enough about yourself it's not about the rejection that you received, it's not about the negative messages that you receive just sometimes you feel like you wish you could be something better

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Just be yourself. You're more than good enough.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just be yourself. You're more than good enough.

Jo.Xx "

Thank you for that nice I greatly appreciate it

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

I get this all the time. Especially when couples are just tolerating me to get to Rhiannon. Mainly because I'm a fat guy. It's actually a bit soul destroying

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Sometimes you get those days when you really Lee don't feel good enough about yourself it's not about the rejection that you received, it's not about the negative messages that you receive just sometimes you feel like you wish you could be something better "

I got gym jacked, massively improved the way I felt about myself, and it was totally life changing,would recommend to anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes you get those days when you really Lee don't feel good enough about yourself it's not about the rejection that you received, it's not about the negative messages that you receive just sometimes you feel like you wish you could be something better

I got gym jacked, massively improved the way I felt about myself, and it was totally life changing,would recommend to anyone "

Before this lockdown happened I used to love going to the gym but the only problem with me is I just love to eat

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think with age comes acceptance. Don't start feeling you aren't good enough it's self destructive and leads nowhere unless you use it as a drive to make changes

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I have massive low self esteem at the moment.

Feel fat and ugly. The fatter I feel the more I crave chocolate.

Need a good kick up the arse!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have massive low self esteem at the moment.

Feel fat and ugly. The fatter I feel the more I crave chocolate.

Need a good kick up the arse! "

I think we've all of this virus we really only need a kick up the backside I used to be this confident young guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think with age comes acceptance. Don't start feeling you aren't good enough it's self destructive and leads nowhere unless you use it as a drive to make changes"

Well I do it mate I was very depressed at the start of last April trying to get myself through it

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I feel like this most days it’s important to just be yourself and take time out for yourself even if it’s only a short walk it clears your head and makes you feel better about yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey OP, you are doing OK for a guy from Manchester anyway (just kidding). We have an expression over here in Liverpool "fuck em!" Everyone has good days and bad days, it's OK not to be ok and some days I am happy with just doing nothing and that's OK too. Don't be so hard on yourself,you are doing great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time, if you feel you could have done better there isn't any point thinking about it because you can't change it. (simple advice but very hard to follow)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey OP, you are doing OK for a guy from Manchester anyway (just kidding). We have an expression over here in Liverpool "fuck em!" Everyone has good days and bad days, it's OK not to be ok and some days I am happy with just doing nothing and that's OK too. Don't be so hard on yourself,you are doing great. "

I know what you mean just sometimes you feel like that sometimes you just feel like you're on a high and then someone can in a split second and put you on a low

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All the time, if you feel you could have done better there isn't any point thinking about it because you can't change it. (simple advice but very hard to follow) "

Any advice that I received of people I greatly appreciate it I've always said that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel like this most days it’s important to just be yourself and take time out for yourself even if it’s only a short walk it clears your head and makes you feel better about yourself "

Just got to keep smiling and hope things will improve easier said than done these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get that a lot

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"I have massive low self esteem at the moment.

Feel fat and ugly. The fatter I feel the more I crave chocolate.

Need a good kick up the arse! "

Or a fist? Well the whole arm like that guy at Pandemonium was having

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That 's me every single day. It's a full time job and more tiring than people would think..

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"I have massive low self esteem at the moment.

Feel fat and ugly. The fatter I feel the more I crave chocolate.

Need a good kick up the arse!

Or a fist? Well the whole arm like that guy at Pandemonium was having "

rib tickler!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you get those days when you really Lee don't feel good enough about yourself it's not about the rejection that you received, it's not about the negative messages that you receive just sometimes you feel like you wish you could be something better "

Feel like this pretty much everyday I feel I will never be good enough and really don't like myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

But I'm sure that you can love people interested in you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But I'm sure that you can love people interested in you "

That was supposed to say I'm pretty sure that you get a lot of interest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get that a lot "

What do you get a lot?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That 's me every single day. It's a full time job and more tiring than people would think.. "

I just think we all have to to try and pull ourselves together even though it is hard of said than done

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

yes. My past relationships including the one with my own mother haunt me.

The thoughts creep in that maybe they were right, maybe I am worthless, maybe just maybe I've been wrong all this time and I've been kidding myself that I'm anything other than someone to be taken for granted, used as a punchbag, a target for verbal and emotional abuse.

Then, after a few minutes I remember.

They're wrong.

What I am is too fucking special to be bound by their fears and own insecurities. I was a threat to them, I highlighted their misgivings and shitty behaviour and attitudes.

They don't deserve me, my patience, or even my thoughts and by letting them in I'm doing myself a huge disservice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get that a lot

What do you get a lot? "

the feeling that im crap,second best, not good enough ......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"yes. My past relationships including the one with my own mother haunt me.

The thoughts creep in that maybe they were right, maybe I am worthless, maybe just maybe I've been wrong all this time and I've been kidding myself that I'm anything other than someone to be taken for granted, used as a punchbag, a target for verbal and emotional abuse.

Then, after a few minutes I remember.

They're wrong.

What I am is too fucking special to be bound by their fears and own insecurities. I was a threat to them, I highlighted their misgivings and shitty behaviour and attitudes.

They don't deserve me, my patience, or even my thoughts and by letting them in I'm doing myself a huge disservice."

The last serious relationship I was in I completely understand where you're coming from I was in a very abusive relationship which it took me a long time to get out of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you get those days when you really Lee don't feel good enough about yourself it's not about the rejection that you received, it's not about the negative messages that you receive just sometimes you feel like you wish you could be something better "

Oof! This is my mood in life right now...definitely feeling a bit worthless and in a rut right now!!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Get that a lot

What do you get a lot? the feeling that im crap,second best, not good enough ......"

I hear you completely. I've had it forever it feels like, but I'm not. I'm not second best to me, and it's high time I started putting myself first.

You're allowed to ya know.

Don't get me wrong I'm not gonna be a completely selfish bitch, but I'm drawing lines, having limits and like fuck am I gonna let people walk all over me or manipulate me again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m really sorry you feel like this OP. Just because you’re not right for one person, doesn’t mean you’re not the perfect one for the next person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get that a lot

What do you get a lot? the feeling that im crap,second best, not good enough ......

I hear you completely. I've had it forever it feels like, but I'm not. I'm not second best to me, and it's high time I started putting myself first.

You're allowed to ya know.

Don't get me wrong I'm not gonna be a completely selfish bitch, but I'm drawing lines, having limits and like fuck am I gonna let people walk all over me or manipulate me again "

ive good days and bad ,im better than i ever was but i will always have it there.

Sending you a hug and you go girl xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m really sorry you feel like this OP. Just because you’re not right for one person, doesn’t mean you’re not the perfect one for the next person... "

And I totally get where you're coming from I think that there are million two women out there it's just whether or not you got the bottle or not to actually going speak to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m really sorry you feel like this OP. Just because you’re not right for one person, doesn’t mean you’re not the perfect one for the next person...

And I totally get where you're coming from I think that there are million two women out there it's just whether or not you got the bottle or not to actually going speak to them "

Yes you do. Practice makes perfect

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m really sorry you feel like this OP. Just because you’re not right for one person, doesn’t mean you’re not the perfect one for the next person...

And I totally get where you're coming from I think that there are million two women out there it's just whether or not you got the bottle or not to actually going speak to them

Yes you do. Practice makes perfect "

Well fingers crossed out there someone actually in boxes me and tells me that they fancy me just hopefully it's the right sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m really sorry you feel like this OP. Just because you’re not right for one person, doesn’t mean you’re not the perfect one for the next person...

And I totally get where you're coming from I think that there are million two women out there it's just whether or not you got the bottle or not to actually going speak to them

Yes you do. Practice makes perfect

Well fingers crossed out there someone actually in boxes me and tells me that they fancy me just hopefully it's the right sex "

I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you

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