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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sometimes in life I always think it's always best to be truthful don't play with someone's heart strings so to speak if you don't like that person ASAP let them know. It's happened to me on many occasions. I know very hard to believe lol but plenty more tanks in the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes in life I always think it's always best to be truthful don't play with someone's heart strings so to speak if you don't like that person ASAP let them know. It's happened to me on many occasions. I know very hard to believe lol but plenty more tanks in the sea "

Yes indeed!!

Plenty of tanks in the sea!!!

T

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I did that on purpose for a change instead of saying Plenty of Fish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did that on purpose for a change instead of saying Plenty of Fish"

It works well and I think that it will indeed catch on.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe be honest from the start in what you want. I always have been. Life’s too short for arsing about and I’d rather be clear!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I believe be honest from the start in what you want. I always have been. Life’s too short for arsing about and I’d rather be clear!"

There is too many people on here that wants to play a game with you they will tell you that they like you you but truthfully they can't stand you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not going to tell someone I don't like them but I won't pretend I do like them either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe be honest from the start in what you want. I always have been. Life’s too short for arsing about and I’d rather be clear!

There is too many people on here that wants to play a game with you they will tell you that they like you you but truthfully they can't stand you "

It can sometimes be difficult as I have a lot of friends on here too who I love chatting to and I’m a social person so would have a drink and a chat with anyone! But I wouldn’t want to go further with them. So it can get confusing sometimes in that way. I do try to be as straight as I can though without hurting feelings.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I believe be honest from the start in what you want. I always have been. Life’s too short for arsing about and I’d rather be clear!

There is too many people on here that wants to play a game with you they will tell you that they like you you but truthfully they can't stand you

It can sometimes be difficult as I have a lot of friends on here too who I love chatting to and I’m a social person so would have a drink and a chat with anyone! But I wouldn’t want to go further with them. So it can get confusing sometimes in that way. I do try to be as straight as I can though without hurting feelings. "

I think in many ways everyone's going to have to hurt people's feelings one Way Or Another sometimes I do get a little bit close to someone doesn't mean that I want them in a relationship but sometimes it's like do they really like you or do they just want to pretend to like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe be honest from the start in what you want. I always have been. Life’s too short for arsing about and I’d rather be clear!

There is too many people on here that wants to play a game with you they will tell you that they like you you but truthfully they can't stand you

It can sometimes be difficult as I have a lot of friends on here too who I love chatting to and I’m a social person so would have a drink and a chat with anyone! But I wouldn’t want to go further with them. So it can get confusing sometimes in that way. I do try to be as straight as I can though without hurting feelings.

I think in many ways everyone's going to have to hurt people's feelings one Way Or Another sometimes I do get a little bit close to someone doesn't mean that I want them in a relationship but sometimes it's like do they really like you or do they just want to pretend to like you "

Yeah I do know what you mean.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I believe be honest from the start in what you want. I always have been. Life’s too short for arsing about and I’d rather be clear!

There is too many people on here that wants to play a game with you they will tell you that they like you you but truthfully they can't stand you

It can sometimes be difficult as I have a lot of friends on here too who I love chatting to and I’m a social person so would have a drink and a chat with anyone! But I wouldn’t want to go further with them. So it can get confusing sometimes in that way. I do try to be as straight as I can though without hurting feelings.

I think in many ways everyone's going to have to hurt people's feelings one Way Or Another sometimes I do get a little bit close to someone doesn't mean that I want them in a relationship but sometimes it's like do they really like you or do they just want to pretend to like you

Yeah I do know what you mean. "

Anyway I hope that you have a great day today with whatever you get up to and I do hope that you stay smiling

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Honesty is the key..even on here ..we are both 100% honest with others and each other !!like admitted she likes custard donuts more than the jams ones ?? that ind of honesty is a relationship breaker ..ok with her liking young slim males or even the odd female but custard over jam how much honesty can a relationship take plus she's a man utd fan ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be a bit tricky though because you may not always know you arent going to get on until you have maybe chatted a while or met a few times. I dont think anyone would pursue you that really couldnt stand you,that seems counterproductive even for fab. But I do agree if caught feelings aren't mutual you should let them know, but accept that they could be dissapointed, or you will be if its the other way round.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It can be a bit tricky though because you may not always know you arent going to get on until you have maybe chatted a while or met a few times. I dont think anyone would pursue you that really couldnt stand you,that seems counterproductive even for fab. But I do agree if caught feelings aren't mutual you should let them know, but accept that they could be dissapointed, or you will be if its the other way round. "

I've always said honesty is the best policy and now sound like an old man but it's true

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honesty is the key..even on here ..we are both 100% honest with others and each other !!like admitted she likes custard donuts more than the jams ones ?? that ind of honesty is a relationship breaker ..ok with her liking young slim males or even the odd female but custard over jam how much honesty can a relationship take plus she's a man utd fan .."

Well if she's a Manchester United fan then she's always got to be right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just can't be honest but yes always the best way

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I believe be honest from the start in what you want. I always have been. Life’s too short for arsing about and I’d rather be clear!

There is too many people on here that wants to play a game with you they will tell you that they like you you but truthfully they can't stand you "

Why do you think they do that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone isn’t keen on me, I’d rather them say from the outset instead of avoiding me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people just can't be honest but yes always the best way"

It's like when people ask why but they're not interested in you sometimes it's best not to say anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clear post. ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been with tanks who have been completely clear and brutally honest, and tanks that are full of murky water and leave you feeling like you dont know where you stand. Honesty is always the way to go I feel, for the continuation of a healthy working relationship or to end one that isn't working for one reason or another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest and clear from the start and also be polite too unless it needs a stiffer word or two...

Not liking isn't the same as not my preference though so wording is key.

I'd say "Sorry, your not what i'm looking for rather than "Look, i don't like you now jog on"..but that's me, everyone will handle the words or situation differently i guess...

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