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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There's often comments on here about men and their ability to be honest truthful.

But I'm not referring to them sharing opinions or the occasion where they've been deceitful for ulterior motives, but rather the ability to clearly share feelings and what you want.

If you struggle, do you have a reason?

What are others experiences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm too good at it....! ....I think most women are used to grunty stuffy men and they get really confused with me....

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I think a lot of men grew up being told that emotions were for girls and it is a hard thing to change your thinking on. Unfortunately it does lead to problems between men and women as women have traditionally been allowed to be emotional and in some cases encouraged.

These days there is a tenancy towards encouraging children of either sex to be more open with their feelings and emotion, and that can only be a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of men grew up being told that emotions were for girls and it is a hard thing to change your thinking on. Unfortunately it does lead to problems between men and women as women have traditionally been allowed to be emotional and in some cases encouraged.

These days there is a tenancy towards encouraging children of either sex to be more open with their feelings and emotion, and that can only be a good thing. "

Thanks for unbreaking blues thread....

(I was about to issue an apology )

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think a lot of men grew up being told that emotions were for girls and it is a hard thing to change your thinking on. Unfortunately it does lead to problems between men and women as women have traditionally been allowed to be emotional and in some cases encouraged.

These days there is a tenancy towards encouraging children of either sex to be more open with their feelings and emotion, and that can only be a good thing.

Thanks for unbreaking blues thread....

(I was about to issue an apology )"

I've been mulling my response....

And you know how I like to be under you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always had the tendency to overshare emotionally, but it's helped me help some mates out over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of men grew up being told that emotions were for girls and it is a hard thing to change your thinking on. Unfortunately it does lead to problems between men and women as women have traditionally been allowed to be emotional and in some cases encouraged.

These days there is a tenancy towards encouraging children of either sex to be more open with their feelings and emotion, and that can only be a good thing.

Thanks for unbreaking blues thread....

(I was about to issue an apology )

I've been mulling my response....

And you know how I like to be under you

"

Shuddupppppp with your emotions and truths....!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I think a lot of men grew up being told that emotions were for girls and it is a hard thing to change your thinking on. Unfortunately it does lead to problems between men and women as women have traditionally been allowed to be emotional and in some cases encouraged.

These days there is a tenancy towards encouraging children of either sex to be more open with their feelings and emotion, and that can only be a good thing. "

Yep my boys are allowed to cry and never told to "man up". Feelings are feelings regardless of gender. And yes nippy you are a male enigma

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

[Removed by poster at 20/08/20 18:43:44]

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think a lot of men grew up being told that emotions were for girls and it is a hard thing to change your thinking on. Unfortunately it does lead to problems between men and women as women have traditionally been allowed to be emotional and in some cases encouraged.

These days there is a tenancy towards encouraging children of either sex to be more open with their feelings and emotion, and that can only be a good thing.

Thanks for unbreaking blues thread....

(I was about to issue an apology )

I've been mulling my response....

And you know how I like to be under you

Shuddupppppp with your emotions and truths....! "

Can't. I'm not built that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always had the tendency to overshare emotionally, but it's helped me help some mates out over the years.

I don't believe you can overshare emotionally tbh, it's your truth and it is not what it is "

Thank you

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I've always had the tendency to overshare emotionally, but it's helped me help some mates out over the years.

I don't believe you can overshare emotionally tbh, it's your truth and it is not what it is "

Exactly this. Overshare is a word used too often. There's no such thing.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I've always had the tendency to overshare emotionally, but it's helped me help some mates out over the years."

I don't think you can overshare emotionally tbh. If that is how you feel it's your truth and your feelings

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I've always had the tendency to overshare emotionally, but it's helped me help some mates out over the years.

I don't believe you can overshare emotionally tbh, it's your truth and it is not what it is

Thank you"

Welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always had the tendency to overshare emotionally, but it's helped me help some mates out over the years.

I don't believe you can overshare emotionally tbh, it's your truth and it is not what it is

Exactly this. Overshare is a word used too often. There's no such thing. "

Possibly the wrong words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hint: women, womxn and everything else in between are no different. It's not a 'man' exclusive.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Just want to add in case any men come along and read this thread. Women are perfectly capable of dealing with your feelings, we won't crumble into a mess just because you've told us you're struggling. In fact most us would rather know wtf is going on in your minds. We want to help you as you help us, relationships be it sexual or friendship are a joint 50/50 venture treat them as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just want to add in case any men come along and read this thread. Women are perfectly capable of dealing with your feelings, we won't crumble into a mess just because you've told us you're struggling. In fact most us would rather know wtf is going on in your minds. We want to help you as you help us, relationships be it sexual or friendship are a joint 50/50 venture treat them as such "

Abso-frigging-lutely!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Just want to add in case any men come along and read this thread. Women are perfectly capable of dealing with your feelings, we won't crumble into a mess just because you've told us you're struggling. In fact most us would rather know wtf is going on in your minds. We want to help you as you help us, relationships be it sexual or friendship are a joint 50/50 venture treat them as such "

Hell yes! She read my mind again that woman.... Like a sexy witch

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I feel bad for men who are told to suck it up, stiff upper lip, hold it in etc, that really can’t be good for your psyche, it must be horrible when you have suffered a loss or are going through a hard time and you still have to be “grufty-tufty manly” and unable to show your true feelings, or you feel like you can’t discuss it with other guys unless they think you are a soft pussy. I remember when my late partner lost his father and he hardly cried on the day of the funeral, weeks later we were watching a documentary on which loss of a father was being discussed and he just let out one almighty sob and cried for ages after like the flood gates had opened, so sad that he felt he had to keep it together on the day.

#blokeshavefeelingstoo

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Just want to add in case any men come along and read this thread. Women are perfectly capable of dealing with your feelings, we won't crumble into a mess just because you've told us you're struggling. In fact most us would rather know wtf is going on in your minds. We want to help you as you help us, relationships be it sexual or friendship are a joint 50/50 venture treat them as such

Hell yes! She read my mind again that woman.... Like a sexy witch "

I'm good like that I am, best burn me at the steak already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just want to add in case any men come along and read this thread. Women are perfectly capable of dealing with your feelings, we won't crumble into a mess just because you've told us you're struggling. In fact most us would rather know wtf is going on in your minds. We want to help you as you help us, relationships be it sexual or friendship are a joint 50/50 venture treat them as such "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just want to add in case any men come along and read this thread. Women are perfectly capable of dealing with your feelings, we won't crumble into a mess just because you've told us you're struggling. In fact most us would rather know wtf is going on in your minds. We want to help you as you help us, relationships be it sexual or friendship are a joint 50/50 venture treat them as such "

Thats always the interesting one. Rather deep I know,but I did share honest thoughts many many years ago and that person tried to end their life. 20 plus years ago now, but im still very guarded and think I should make the best decision as a consequence. And of course its not exclusively owned by men, but i think were more guilty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men might well be very aware of their feelings and be fine to talk about pretty much all of them but if they know they are going to hurt someone by telling the truth then some will struggle to do so even if the truth is the best thing to do.

Its not always that they want to or set out to deceive anyone, it could purely be that they dont want to hurt feelings and make the wrong call in how they react to things.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Just want to add in case any men come along and read this thread. Women are perfectly capable of dealing with your feelings, we won't crumble into a mess just because you've told us you're struggling. In fact most us would rather know wtf is going on in your minds. We want to help you as you help us, relationships be it sexual or friendship are a joint 50/50 venture treat them as such

Thats always the interesting one. Rather deep I know,but I did share honest thoughts many many years ago and that person tried to end their life. 20 plus years ago now, but im still very guarded and think I should make the best decision as a consequence. And of course its not exclusively owned by men, but i think were more guilty "

I hear you as always deepblue. But we can't let something that happened 20 odd years ago dictate how we live our lives no matter how devastating it was. The thing we spoke about the other night, my 2 best mates told me they had enough of me talking about it. And it drove me to that exact same thing because I had no vent for it. I hid my truth for years so it ate me up inside for fear of it being too much for others. It took me such a long time to be open about it and for me personally it's freed me up a lot because of it

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

In the past i have often found myself being too honest about my emotions and feelings, sometimes being told to 'man up!' which only makes me feel even worse and even less of a man! im already insecure & have no self confidence or self-esteem without somebody 'kicking me while im down'. As a result i bottle up my emotions and feelings unless i REALLY trust somebody, but that makes me distant and somewhat closed-off to getting close to people, on the rare occasions i do find somebody i trust and respect then i let my guard down and start opening up, but its still difficult as i fear if i tell them too much they will dislike me as much as i dislike myself. Having depression & anxiety is no picnic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some men might well be very aware of their feelings and be fine to talk about pretty much all of them but if they know they are going to hurt someone by telling the truth then some will struggle to do so even if the truth is the best thing to do.

Its not always that they want to or set out to deceive anyone, it could purely be that they dont want to hurt feelings and make the wrong call in how they react to things.

"

Being honest is always going to be better than being strung along. If someone (not just men) isn't sure what they want then they should be upfront and honest about that too. It's far to easy to damage other people in the process of people not knowing what they want so saying nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since my breakdown/ through I am very open with my emotions and more. Truth has always been a code of mine, one thing I carried through. I dont care what someone has done but don t hide it..just tell me...simples. I need trust in my life as it never existed in those I needed in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to have issues with discussing my emotions. During my school years I got into the awful habit of bottling everything up, and it’s a really hard habit to break. Which has the knock on effect of me holding everything in until it’s too much and it all comes flooding out, and then I come over a bit intense Bloody school has a lot to answer for.

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