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Does having a stoma put people off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey everyone just a quick question I have a stoma I'm honest and up front about it and I'm messaging people trying my hardest to have fun but I'm bmnot getting anywhere or it maybe just me.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Would not put me off.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Shouldn't make a difference no! just b u x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you both that's all I'm trying to be is myself a genuine and honest guy looking for fun.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Thank you both that's all I'm trying to be is myself a genuine and honest guy looking for fun. "

It is a bad time to look due to the virus.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know just hope it all gets better at some point I message people and hope for a reply but I do know this is not always the case.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"I know just hope it all gets better at some point I message people and hope for a reply but I do know this is not always the case. "

From what I'm told it's very difficult here for men as so many compared to women! That's all just numbers good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would imagine it could possibly be something that might put some people off. People are put off by all manner of things from facial and body hair to the colour of you're skin. If it does put them off then they're not really the type of people you want to meet anyway!

It's not worth the worry since it's entirely out if your control. Just keep on trucking and doing things your way and you will eventually find people who are interested. Make sure you enjoy the fab ride aswell as the destination.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would imagine it could possibly be something that might put some people off. People are put off by all manner of things from facial and body hair to the colour of you're skin. If it does put them off then they're not really the type of people you want to meet anyway!

It's not worth the worry since it's entirely out if your control. Just keep on trucking and doing things your way and you will eventually find people who are interested. Make sure you enjoy the fab ride aswell as the destination..... "

Great advice

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a stoma?

Help a yankee out.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is a stoma?

Help a yankee out....."

Google is your friend ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You joined at a difficult time OP. Most people are still keeping themselves to themselves because of Covid-19. And at the best of times men will outnumber women by a long way.

But be yourself, engage in the forums and even go to a social event when they restart. You never know! For now, just enjoy the online banter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I got very ill a few years ago and had to have most of my large bowel removed and now have a colostomy bag. I do apologize if this offends anyone. X

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"I got very ill a few years ago and had to have most of my large bowel removed and now have a colostomy bag. I do apologize if this offends anyone. X"

Dont feel the need to apologise xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys I really appreciate all the kind messages. X

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I got very ill a few years ago and had to have most of my large bowel removed and now have a colostomy bag. I do apologize if this offends anyone. X"

Not at all offensive although may be daunting to some who have no knowledge of a stoma. As i have been nursing for many years i have dealt with many colostomy bags so know what to expect where others may not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's very true I wish there were more ladies like you down south here I appreciate your kind words. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it would bother me as long as it was covered. Remember Op, there are other aspects of you that are much more important than your stoma like your personality and your interest in other people etc. I think it is good to mention it, but if you think of yourself only in terms of your stoma, you are probably conveying the message that the only thing that matters is your stoma and people may not treat you as a whole person? I really hope you connect x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome aboard, OP.

The simple answer is that some people will be put off by the stoma. Equally, some people will be put of by things like body size, shape, hair, beards... I could go on but you get the idea.

The stoma is totally out of your control, so the best thing is to embrace it. Be happy with yourself. Fab isn't the easiest place for single guys, at any time let alone during a pandemic.

Fab is like prospecting for gold. You will sift through a lot of shit and grit, and have a few false positives, but the nuggets are there, you just have to have patience and keep looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people don't appreciate you for who you are then fuck 'em. You are lucky to exist. Of all the sperms and eggs of not just your parents but your grandparents and their parents, going back to the dawn of time, here you are. You won the lottery my friend. Your existence is majestic, one of the lucky few to be chosen. It is a blessing, never forget that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks so much guys I appreciate you all. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick with it, no one is really meeting now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly?

I don't really have much experience with them (literally the only experience I have was when I briefly worked in a nursing home and I was left with a man who's colostomy bag had partially fallen off, not fun when you don't know what to do) and I would be concerned about an accident happening, or if I would hurt the person I was with. However if I thought I'd meet a person with one I would ask questions and even do some research on it so I understood more.

But no, I can't say it would particularly put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it wouldnt ive had sex with someone that has one before

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks so much guys I'll keep plugging away and see what happens maybe somebody will like me stoma and all ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a stoma for about 8 months due to having a part of my bowel removed...

You sir are very Very strong to have one full time I take my hat of too you..

I am sure you will meet someone soon keep going mate...

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Wouldn't put me off at all.

I think anyone shallow enough to care about a bag wouldn't be worth meeting anyway.

Count it as a twat filter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've take all tour advice on board guys and if anyone's local to me please say hello. X

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I got very ill a few years ago and had to have most of my large bowel removed and now have a colostomy bag. I do apologize if this offends anyone. X"

For gods sake NEVER apologise! That colostomy bag saved your life!

My mum has one - but she had hers done nearly 40 years ago - at a time when you had a 50% chance of survival - and nearly everyone she was in hospital with died!

Some people will meet you - some won’t. I’ve played with a chap a couple of times on here who has a colostomy bag - he seemed to be very successful from what I could tell!

You have pics which show your bag - so you’re clearly being totally upfront - good on you!

No one can promise you’ll get sex on here - but come on the forums, chat regularly, be kind and attend socials when they start up again - and I promise it’s a great way to make like minded friends.

Hugs

Peachy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've take all tour advice on board guys and if anyone's local to me please say hello. X"
mate same position when I was 38 but surgeon was a women and took a risk . I had illeostomy for a year due to MRSA all down my stomach. I have now recovered . But if I still had my bag I always said to my self live for every day as I am and was lucky to be alive. Just be true to yourself and enjoy what ever comes your way.

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

I had a colostomy bag a few years ago and i must admit i found it hard to deal with as i was allergic to the flange ,ivd been left with a long scar going top to bottom of my stomach and across i hate my scars but im alive thats the main thing ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Again thank you guys I hope to keep plugging and forfill my dream of having a threesome with a couple and finding ladies who like Me for me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one since my early teen years and never had a problem. Just good to let them know before hand as it would come as abit of a surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldnt make any difference to us if we are attracted to someone.

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh stoma ..at first I thought you meant a stammer . And you might find a woman on here who's same as you , how cool would thst be for you both. You could swap bodily fluids of a diffrent sort . Anyway good luck fella , you got just as much chance as the next guy I reckon..stay positive and wot will be will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a colostomy bag a few years ago and i must admit i found it hard to deal with as i was allergic to the flange ,ivd been left with a long scar going top to bottom of my stomach and across i hate my scars but im alive thats the main thing .."

Maybe you 2 could meet up and get to know each other a bit more . That would be great if we got to find out that love blossomed and you both lived happily ever after??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If people don't appreciate you for who you are then fuck 'em. You are lucky to exist. Of all the sperms and eggs of not just your parents but your grandparents and their parents, going back to the dawn of time, here you are. You won the lottery my friend. Your existence is majestic, one of the lucky few to be chosen. It is a blessing, never forget that."

Thats really nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t put me off at all if I was attracted to the guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone I had to ask the question asbits something I can't hide and it's amazing how many times I've been put to one side because of it.

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