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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land

In the words of Ditta Von Teese "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”

There will always be threads on here about those who prefer curvy or slimmer women, gym bodies or your average Jo body. Hairy chest or smooth the list is endless.

Do preference threads affect your confidence in a good or bad way? Do you see them as people stating their preferences alone? Or do you see them as people criticising the way you look?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up. "

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Depends on the thread.

Some are lovely and positive, some are just an excuse for passive/aggressive digs.

I enjoy the positive ones.

And I love peaches too, all the furry fruit

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Depends on the thread.

Some are lovely and positive, some are just an excuse for passive/aggressive digs.

I enjoy the positive ones.

And I love peaches too, all the furry fruit "

It is strange how the same subject can be nice or nasty.

And who can resist a peach?

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"Depends on the thread.

Some are lovely and positive, some are just an excuse for passive/aggressive digs.

I enjoy the positive ones.

And I love peaches too, all the furry fruit

It is strange how the same subject can be nice or nasty.

And who can resist a peach?

"

I imagine the simple explanation for that "strangeness" is some people can be nice or nasty.

Peaches are definitely my favourites!

;-)

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

No it is just someone expressing their preferences and no offence should be taken by any

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread "

Exactly this.

Although also, not a fan of peaches. Too sweet for me

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Depends on the thread.

Some are lovely and positive, some are just an excuse for passive/aggressive digs.

I enjoy the positive ones.

And I love peaches too, all the furry fruit

It is strange how the same subject can be nice or nasty.

And who can resist a peach?

I imagine the simple explanation for that "strangeness" is some people can be nice or nasty.

Peaches are definitely my favourites!

;-)"

That is very true actually, so it's down to people being nice or not, not the actual thread

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

I think those threads depend on my mindset.. if I'm feeling crappy then they just compound those feelings. If I'm feeling good then I take no notice.

I love peaches.. especially when they are so ripe and juicy that when you bite them the juice runs down my chin..

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread

Exactly this.

Although also, not a fan of peaches. Too sweet for me"

I love them, though not when all the juice dribbles down my chin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the song...

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"No it is just someone expressing their preferences and no offence should be taken by any"

Hard sometimes, when those kind of threads become a bit nasty. But you're right it's not a reflection on yourself

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Preference threads , of any kind, don't serve any purpose what so ever.

The most pathetic ones are from someone who has just come off a porn site and decides that asking a question to the 'ladies' .... that it will give them carte blanch to try that sex act on all women .....

Like them wimmen things they luve that.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I like the song..."

It's this morning's earworm

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Oh sorry yes....... Peaches are delicious

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Millions of peaches, peaches for free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I just see them as preferences , unless it gets personal or nasty then I’d take offence x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread "

Me too and I think a lot of time people don’t use those words intentionally to offend. It’s so difficult in this day and age to know which words to use without being offensive! I honestly think there are people who sit and wait for something to be offended by. Same with Facebook and other social media.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I think those threads depend on my mindset.. if I'm feeling crappy then they just compound those feelings. If I'm feeling good then I take no notice.

I love peaches.. especially when they are so ripe and juicy that when you bite them the juice runs down my chin.."

True it does depend on your own state of mind at the time.

Not when you've just put a clean shirt on surely?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm a particular fan of the Princess Peach

As for preferences, as others have said - people holding them doesn't bother me in the slightest, people expressing them in a derogatory way does though.

The preference not to meet bisexual men is a good example - as one myself, it bothers me not one bit if someone prefers not to meet me because of that side of my sexuality and I don't need a reason, and certainly don't cry "homophobic" because someone has that preference - however if someone states they don't want to meet me, and those like me, because I am a disease ridden cock sucking queer who can't keep my hands to myself, then I'll certainly have something to say.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I believe they are just people stating preferences.

They only seem to turn nasty when people get offended by a (perhaps unfortunately worded) remark that was obviously not meant to be offensive.

The threads about male body types never seem to descend into nastiness.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Preference threads , of any kind, don't serve any purpose what so ever.

The most pathetic ones are from someone who has just come off a porn site and decides that asking a question to the 'ladies' .... that it will give them carte blanch to try that sex act on all women .....

Like them wimmen things they luve that. "

I do wonder sometimes if they are helpful. But I think they can give people a confidence boost now and again. I think it very much depends on the tone of the thread

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"No it is just someone expressing their preferences and no offence should be taken by any

Hard sometimes, when those kind of threads become a bit nasty. But you're right it's not a reflection on yourself "

But who turns them nasty the OP or those that take offence at someone expressing a preference that doesn’t fit them or those that just wade in

As long as individuals aren’t being rude or bigoted in their views I don’t see how you could take offence. We all have different likes / dislikes that is what makes us who we are, but to be offended by someone on a forum you don’t know that doesn’t like your particular body type or a feature of it I do find strange

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Depends on the thread.

Some are lovely and positive, some are just an excuse for passive/aggressive digs.

I enjoy the positive ones.

And I love peaches too, all the furry fruit

It is strange how the same subject can be nice or nasty.

And who can resist a peach?

I imagine the simple explanation for that "strangeness" is some people can be nice or nasty.

Peaches are definitely my favourites!

;-)

That is very true actually, so it's down to people being nice or not, not the actual thread "

But how do you know if some people are nice or nasty (or nice and nasty) if all you've go to evaluate are words on a thread?

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"No I just see them as preferences , unless it gets personal or nasty then I’d take offence x"

This is how I see it, and I think it's nice to see people like your kind of body.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I see preference threads as hunting threads tbh

If you want to get a list of all the people who are self proclaimed curvy then what better way to do it

Its when the haters try to ruin the thread instead of starting their own that annoys me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it is just someone expressing their preferences and no offence should be taken by any

Hard sometimes, when those kind of threads become a bit nasty. But you're right it's not a reflection on yourself

But who turns them nasty the OP or those that take offence at someone expressing a preference that doesn’t fit them or those that just wade in

As long as individuals aren’t being rude or bigoted in their views I don’t see how you could take offence. We all have different likes / dislikes that is what makes us who we are, but to be offended by someone on a forum you don’t know that doesn’t like your particular body type or a feature of it I do find strange"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread

Me too and I think a lot of time people don’t use those words intentionally to offend. It’s so difficult in this day and age to know which words to use without being offensive! I honestly think there are people who sit and wait for something to be offended by. Same with Facebook and other social media. "

I will go one further than this and say some people type offence or try derail a thread for the shits and giggles.

Oh and I prefer Nectarines to Peaches, smoother skin

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread

Me too and I think a lot of time people don’t use those words intentionally to offend. It’s so difficult in this day and age to know which words to use without being offensive! I honestly think there are people who sit and wait for something to be offended by. Same with Facebook and other social media. "

It is sometimes difficult, one that gets my back up on the curvy ones. Is men saying they wouldn't want a bag of bones. I think some terminology is obviously inflammatory, others I think people read too much into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't read them because:

a) I know what I like anyway without having to read other people's opinions; and

b) It doesn't matter what other people think - some will like what you look like and someone won't. You can't change this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see them as a way to find new people for my hotlist.

I do like peaches.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Preference threads , of any kind, don't serve any purpose what so ever.

The most pathetic ones are from someone who has just come off a porn site and decides that asking a question to the 'ladies' .... that it will give them carte blanch to try that sex act on all women .....

Like them wimmen things they luve that.

I do wonder sometimes if they are helpful. But I think they can give people a confidence boost now and again. I think it very much depends on the tone of the thread "

Agreed to an extent. I don't see that 20 replies from men and women of highly variant ages and sexualities gives a person any insights of any value though, particularly if you accept that your subsets are gender, liars, jokers, misread the Q , didn't understand the Q , just there to keep answering the big titted lady above and she's just there to answer the attention giving male below and no one really cares..... so ..... that leave ZERO replies really

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I believe they are just people stating preferences.

They only seem to turn nasty when people get offended by a (perhaps unfortunately worded) remark that was obviously not meant to be offensive.

The threads about male body types never seem to descend into nastiness. "

I've noticed this and myself personally ones about liking redheads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see them as a way to find new people for my hotlist.

I do like peaches."

Yes a lot of threads are a good filter for sure!

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I'm a particular fan of the Princess Peach

As for preferences, as others have said - people holding them doesn't bother me in the slightest, people expressing them in a derogatory way does though.

The preference not to meet bisexual men is a good example - as one myself, it bothers me not one bit if someone prefers not to meet me because of that side of my sexuality and I don't need a reason, and certainly don't cry "homophobic" because someone has that preference - however if someone states they don't want to meet me, and those like me, because I am a disease ridden cock sucking queer who can't keep my hands to myself, then I'll certainly have something to say."

Princes peach is awesome.

Yes I agree with you, it's the way that some people justify those preferences that can be the issue

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I see preference threads as hunting threads tbh

If you want to get a list of all the people who are self proclaimed curvy then what better way to do it

Its when the haters try to ruin the thread instead of starting their own that annoys me x"

Yeah that is annoying, it's not about leaving people out just stating a preference. And agree just start another thread rather than argue over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread

Me too and I think a lot of time people don’t use those words intentionally to offend. It’s so difficult in this day and age to know which words to use without being offensive! I honestly think there are people who sit and wait for something to be offended by. Same with Facebook and other social media.

It is sometimes difficult, one that gets my back up on the curvy ones. Is men saying they wouldn't want a bag of bones. I think some terminology is obviously inflammatory, others I think people read too much into it "

“Real woman” isn’t a good one to use either. One man did and got so much grief, he was new and left after posting. He just didn’t think. He got proper slated even though he apologised. It was so bloody uncalled for. Proper nasty! No need at all.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I don't read them because:

a) I know what I like anyway without having to read other people's opinions; and

b) It doesn't matter what other people think - some will like what you look like and someone won't. You can't change this.

"

Are you Dita in disguise? But exactly, not everyone is going to find you attractive. Don't let it get to you

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread

Me too and I think a lot of time people don’t use those words intentionally to offend. It’s so difficult in this day and age to know which words to use without being offensive! I honestly think there are people who sit and wait for something to be offended by. Same with Facebook and other social media.

It is sometimes difficult, one that gets my back up on the curvy ones. Is men saying they wouldn't want a bag of bones. I think some terminology is obviously inflammatory, others I think people read too much into it

“Real woman” isn’t a good one to use either. One man did and got so much grief, he was new and left after posting. He just didn’t think. He got proper slated even though he apologised. It was so bloody uncalled for. Proper nasty! No need at all. "

I don't like that term personally. But I think once it's been highlighted on a thread then that is enough.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread

Me too and I think a lot of time people don’t use those words intentionally to offend. It’s so difficult in this day and age to know which words to use without being offensive! I honestly think there are people who sit and wait for something to be offended by. Same with Facebook and other social media.

It is sometimes difficult, one that gets my back up on the curvy ones. Is men saying they wouldn't want a bag of bones. I think some terminology is obviously inflammatory, others I think people read too much into it

“Real woman” isn’t a good one to use either. One man did and got so much grief, he was new and left after posting. He just didn’t think. He got proper slated even though he apologised. It was so bloody uncalled for. Proper nasty! No need at all. "

.... and we see it all too many times, one person can point out the error of their words, but no the pack descends and rips them to shreds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm surprised by my own attractions sometimes, and definitely don't have a type. Little things can trigger an attraction for me.

Though sometimes others preferences are a little vague? "Hot guys only" ? How do I know?

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


" I'm surprised by my own attractions sometimes, and definitely don't have a type. Little things can trigger an attraction for me.

Though sometimes others preferences are a little vague? "Hot guys only" ? How do I know? "

Maybe they carry a thermometer around with them to test it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I'm surprised by my own attractions sometimes, and definitely don't have a type. Little things can trigger an attraction for me.

Though sometimes others preferences are a little vague? "Hot guys only" ? How do I know?

Maybe they carry a thermometer around with them to test it?"

I've seen how they do that with cows

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


" I'm surprised by my own attractions sometimes, and definitely don't have a type. Little things can trigger an attraction for me.

Though sometimes others preferences are a little vague? "Hot guys only" ? How do I know?

Maybe they carry a thermometer around with them to test it?

I've seen how they do that with cows "

You not going to let me measure your hotness? Most disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread

Me too and I think a lot of time people don’t use those words intentionally to offend. It’s so difficult in this day and age to know which words to use without being offensive! I honestly think there are people who sit and wait for something to be offended by. Same with Facebook and other social media.

It is sometimes difficult, one that gets my back up on the curvy ones. Is men saying they wouldn't want a bag of bones. I think some terminology is obviously inflammatory, others I think people read too much into it

“Real woman” isn’t a good one to use either. One man did and got so much grief, he was new and left after posting. He just didn’t think. He got proper slated even though he apologised. It was so bloody uncalled for. Proper nasty! No need at all.

.... and we see it all too many times, one person can point out the error of their words, but no the pack descends and rips them to shreds. "

Yep

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread

Me too and I think a lot of time people don’t use those words intentionally to offend. It’s so difficult in this day and age to know which words to use without being offensive! I honestly think there are people who sit and wait for something to be offended by. Same with Facebook and other social media.

It is sometimes difficult, one that gets my back up on the curvy ones. Is men saying they wouldn't want a bag of bones. I think some terminology is obviously inflammatory, others I think people read too much into it

“Real woman” isn’t a good one to use either. One man did and got so much grief, he was new and left after posting. He just didn’t think. He got proper slated even though he apologised. It was so bloody uncalled for. Proper nasty! No need at all. "

I don’t like the use of that word either and have seen it used by women also to describe themselves.Funnily enough tho hardly anyone bats an eye when a women uses it. Noticed a lot of that on threads lately it’s just uncalled for..

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

I see loads listening of preferences, it’s like eBay for people... yes I like certain things about ladies but I like a lot of things the length of your legs and hair or skin colour is just a load of bollox .. so when I see ladies listening off the requirements it just gets me righty annoyed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"SNIPPED

.... and we see it all too many times, one person can point out the error of their words, but no the pack descends and rips them to shreds. "

I love it when the Mods then step in and tell people to wind their necks in and cut off the pack mentality. Doesn't happen enough as they cannot be everywhere.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up.

I agree with you, think it's a shame when wording can derail a thread

Me too and I think a lot of time people don’t use those words intentionally to offend. It’s so difficult in this day and age to know which words to use without being offensive! I honestly think there are people who sit and wait for something to be offended by. Same with Facebook and other social media.

It is sometimes difficult, one that gets my back up on the curvy ones. Is men saying they wouldn't want a bag of bones. I think some terminology is obviously inflammatory, others I think people read too much into it

“Real woman” isn’t a good one to use either. One man did and got so much grief, he was new and left after posting. He just didn’t think. He got proper slated even though he apologised. It was so bloody uncalled for. Proper nasty! No need at all. I don’t like the use of that word either and have seen it used by women also to describe themselves.Funnily enough tho hardly anyone bats an eye when a women uses it. Noticed a lot of that on threads lately it’s just uncalled for.."

I don't personally like it regardless of which gender is using it. Nothing makes someone more or less of a woman.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I don't read them because:

a) I know what I like anyway without having to read other people's opinions; and

b) It doesn't matter what other people think - some will like what you look like and someone won't. You can't change this.

"

This one here I tend to avoid those types of threads. Doesn't interest me, in either a positive or negative way.

Mrs TMN x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"

.... and we see it all too many times, one person can point out the error of their words, but no the pack descends and rips them to shreds. "

I think the first few responses to a thread often shape them more than the OP itself - people interpret in different ways and then everyone else follows suit - sadly that leads to the pack mentality.

Similarly when someone later posts against the general consensus that has formed and it's taken as an attack when it's just a different opinion.

It's why I'll often read the OP and then skip straight to the bottom to post my response rather than reading the whole thread

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I see loads listening of preferences, it’s like eBay for people... yes I like certain things about ladies but I like a lot of things the length of your legs and hair or skin colour is just a load of bollox .. so when I see ladies listening off the requirements it just gets me righty annoyed "

That's a fair point it's not build a bear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like the song...

It's this morning's earworm "

Sorry!

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I like the song...

It's this morning's earworm

Sorry!"

There are worst songs I'll let you off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like the song...

It's this morning's earworm

Sorry!

There are worst songs I'll let you off "

Thankyou haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like nice human beings

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I like nice human beings "

Winning answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't read any replies yet so apologies if I'm repeating anyone. For me they are what you choose to allow them to be, and this can be absolutely anything. I choose them to be simply people discussing their preferences, and occasionally I night view them as someone who's has a particular body simply showing it off or peacocking, a bit like when a guy with a massive knob as an avatar asks "ladies what is the best cock size?", he's really saying look at my dick, but his dick isn't bothering my dick so why not let him.....

I think we should stop letting stuff get to us and work on ourselves before complaining and trying to censor others.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like nice human beings

Winning answer "

Thanks, i'll send my address for prize sending purposes

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"

.... and we see it all too many times, one person can point out the error of their words, but no the pack descends and rips them to shreds.

I think the first few responses to a thread often shape them more than the OP itself - people interpret in different ways and then everyone else follows suit - sadly that leads to the pack mentality.

Similarly when someone later posts against the general consensus that has formed and it's taken as an attack when it's just a different opinion.

It's why I'll often read the OP and then skip straight to the bottom to post my response rather than reading the whole thread "

Interesting approach, GM! I usually read the whole thread before contributing, to get a sense of the conversation. Sometimes it's gone wildly off piste from the OP... But then I guess the OP isn't getting their question answered. Hmm.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like the song..."

Stranglers or Presidents?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think much about those threads.. Sometimes I join in sometimes I don't.

Fab has taught me that there's someone for everyone. Even me.

Sadly I do get my confidence dented by personal attacks in my email at times but usually the feeling does not last long

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"No. I see them as people just having preferences. I think sometimes it’s the wording people use which gets people’s backs up. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

.... and we see it all too many times, one person can point out the error of their words, but no the pack descends and rips them to shreds.

I think the first few responses to a thread often shape them more than the OP itself - people interpret in different ways and then everyone else follows suit - sadly that leads to the pack mentality.

Similarly when someone later posts against the general consensus that has formed and it's taken as an attack when it's just a different opinion.

It's why I'll often read the OP and then skip straight to the bottom to post my response rather than reading the whole thread "

I mostly do this. It bugs me the pack mentality often, just answer the question and perhaps excuse some poor wording choices. Or move along. Or be original.

Also, I can't touch peaches. Or velvet. Eurgh eurgh pukey face!

Also I take body threads with a pinch of salt. I'm comfortable in mine which I guess helps. Preferences are simply that. Preferences. Not slanders on others.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don’t really participate in those threads anymore, they always seem to start out ok and then it only seems to take one poster to use a phrase that changes the whole thread, maybe they are newbies who don’t realise the phrase they use is offensive to people. There is nothing wrong with having a preference and I don’t easily get offended but other people do, if you think it’s ok to call someone a “bag of bones” simply because they are slim or athletic then you need to have a word with yourself and we are all “real women”

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Ohh I forgot to say I prefer nectarines, peach fuzz makes my lips go funny

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Moving to the country

Gonna eat me a lot of peaches,,

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"

.... and we see it all too many times, one person can point out the error of their words, but no the pack descends and rips them to shreds.

I think the first few responses to a thread often shape them more than the OP itself - people interpret in different ways and then everyone else follows suit - sadly that leads to the pack mentality.

Similarly when someone later posts against the general consensus that has formed and it's taken as an attack when it's just a different opinion.

It's why I'll often read the OP and then skip straight to the bottom to post my response rather than reading the whole thread

Interesting approach, GM! I usually read the whole thread before contributing, to get a sense of the conversation. Sometimes it's gone wildly off piste from the OP... But then I guess the OP isn't getting their question answered. Hmm.

Mrs TMN x"

I don't always and it may depend on the OP whether I do, but I'd rather give an honest appraisal than one shaped by the thread - that said sometimes I'll start reading a thread without the intent to post and find that as I do my opinion is shaped so there's no hard and fast rule to it.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Haven't read any replies yet so apologies if I'm repeating anyone. For me they are what you choose to allow them to be, and this can be absolutely anything. I choose them to be simply people discussing their preferences, and occasionally I night view them as someone who's has a particular body simply showing it off or peacocking, a bit like when a guy with a massive knob as an avatar asks "ladies what is the best cock size?", he's really saying look at my dick, but his dick isn't bothering my dick so why not let him.....

I think we should stop letting stuff get to us and work on ourselves before complaining and trying to censor others..... "

Agreed we should stop letting others opinions matter so much

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I don't think much about those threads.. Sometimes I join in sometimes I don't.

Fab has taught me that there's someone for everyone. Even me.

Sadly I do get my confidence dented by personal attacks in my email at times but usually the feeling does not last long "

That isn't a nice thing to happen, glad the knock doesn't last that long though

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I like the song...

Stranglers or Presidents? "

President's definitely

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"

.... and we see it all too many times, one person can point out the error of their words, but no the pack descends and rips them to shreds.

I think the first few responses to a thread often shape them more than the OP itself - people interpret in different ways and then everyone else follows suit - sadly that leads to the pack mentality.

Similarly when someone later posts against the general consensus that has formed and it's taken as an attack when it's just a different opinion.

It's why I'll often read the OP and then skip straight to the bottom to post my response rather than reading the whole thread

I mostly do this. It bugs me the pack mentality often, just answer the question and perhaps excuse some poor wording choices. Or move along. Or be original.

Also, I can't touch peaches. Or velvet. Eurgh eurgh pukey face!

Also I take body threads with a pinch of salt. I'm comfortable in mine which I guess helps. Preferences are simply that. Preferences. Not slanders on others. "

Oh what, you don't like velvet? I love velvet clothes.

I love your attitude in general it's awesome

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Preference threads don't affect me either way as far as confidence is concerned. I do get a bit itchy when people start implying that one type of person is better at everything than other people just because of the way they look. This is also true of the put of my league and punching above my weight threads.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and I love peaches and nectarines, skinned, baked and served hot with Greek yogurt and flaked almonds.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I don’t really participate in those threads anymore, they always seem to start out ok and then it only seems to take one poster to use a phrase that changes the whole thread, maybe they are newbies who don’t realise the phrase they use is offensive to people. There is nothing wrong with having a preference and I don’t easily get offended but other people do, if you think it’s ok to call someone a “bag of bones” simply because they are slim or athletic then you need to have a word with yourself and we are all “real women” "

Agree

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Oh and I love peaches and nectarines, skinned, baked and served hot with Greek yogurt and flaked almonds. "

Love baked peaches yum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Especially when they are perfectly ripe

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"Depends on the thread.

Some are lovely and positive, some are just an excuse for passive/aggressive digs.

I enjoy the positive ones.

And I love peaches too, all the furry fruit

It is strange how the same subject can be nice or nasty.

And who can resist a peach?

I imagine the simple explanation for that "strangeness" is some people can be nice or nasty.

Peaches are definitely my favourites!

;-)

That is very true actually, so it's down to people being nice or not, not the actual thread

But how do you know if some people are nice or nasty (or nice and nasty) if all you've go to evaluate are words on a thread?

"

That is a good point, it's very easy to miscommunicate via words only.

So I generally give people the benefit of the doubt, unless it's obviously nasty.

Or I look at past threads they have participated in and see if they have "form"!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Oh and I love peaches and nectarines, skinned, baked and served hot with Greek yogurt and flaked almonds.

Love baked peaches yum "

Baked plums, nectarines and bananas are also delicious baked. I'm an equal opportunities person when it comes to baked fruit

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over a year ago


"Ohh I forgot to say I prefer nectarines, peach fuzz makes my lips go funny "

This!!!!^

And who thought to put a bug ugly arsed stone in the middle of a sexy squishy peach? How many unsuspecting cave man teeth has that taken out over the years? And what do you even do with the stone at the end? And why does the stone look so creepy like a dead peach bone with flesh hanging off - call in the peach vultures....!

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Oh and I love peaches and nectarines, skinned, baked and served hot with Greek yogurt and flaked almonds.

Love baked peaches yum

Baked plums, nectarines and bananas are also delicious baked. I'm an equal opportunities person when it comes to baked fruit "

Baked plums are lush too

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Ohh I forgot to say I prefer nectarines, peach fuzz makes my lips go funny

This!!!!^

And who thought to put a bug ugly arsed stone in the middle of a sexy squishy peach? How many unsuspecting cave man teeth has that taken out over the years? And what do you even do with the stone at the end? And why does the stone look so creepy like a dead peach bone with flesh hanging off - call in the peach vultures....! "

That's a lot of thought for a peach there Nip, what have they ever done to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ohh I forgot to say I prefer nectarines, peach fuzz makes my lips go funny

This!!!!^

And who thought to put a bug ugly arsed stone in the middle of a sexy squishy peach? How many unsuspecting cave man teeth has that taken out over the years? And what do you even do with the stone at the end? And why does the stone look so creepy like a dead peach bone with flesh hanging off - call in the peach vultures....!

That's a lot of thought for a peach there Nip, what have they ever done to you? "

Snuck up on me in a fruit salad and made my lips go funny more than once.....

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Ohh I forgot to say I prefer nectarines, peach fuzz makes my lips go funny

This!!!!^

And who thought to put a bug ugly arsed stone in the middle of a sexy squishy peach? How many unsuspecting cave man teeth has that taken out over the years? And what do you even do with the stone at the end? And why does the stone look so creepy like a dead peach bone with flesh hanging off - call in the peach vultures....!

That's a lot of thought for a peach there Nip, what have they ever done to you?

Snuck up on me in a fruit salad and made my lips go funny more than once..... "

Those bastard peaches, sneaking in unawares

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