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Talking to children about mental health

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Over the last couple of years my brother in laws mental health has not been great which has put a great strain on his relationship with my sister and inevitably their children are going to pick up on things.

My nephew is 15 and knows he can talk to me about anything and he does.

My niece is 9 and so smart and switched on but I'm just struggling to know how to let jer know she can talk to me the same as her brother can without making it seem like too big of a thing.

Any tips on how to subtly approach this?

I'm going to offer to take them out at the weekend, mainly to give my sister some time to process things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kid's find it hard to talk to people. Specially people they know. Just say to her. If you ever need to talk about things. I'm always here for you. She will probably say ok and run off go play. Don't worry and get yourself in a state xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be difficult all of my children youngest 9 are aware of mental health and talking about when they feel sad stressed or absolutely anything that’s concerning them as well as making them happy. I work in mental health and have seen too many children suffer because people do not talk to them about what’s normal. If we don’t help them understand your they have far less chance when they are older.

If start by talking about emotions, feeling and how they can effect people. Encourage them to do the exploring rather than talking too much. That’s what I tend to do...ask them what they think...

Good luck.xx

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

When I need to talk to my son about anything sensitive I tend to go.into mates territory rather than father son. Makes it easier for both of us and he tends to listen and take it on board..

If you want a chat etc you know where I am.. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like P said.. mate zone rather than loving aunty.

I either start conversations in a car as there is no escape.. or we go to the beach.

sometimes a nice meal together at our table where theres no technology or tv.. and we genuinely find out how we are.

sometimes i tell her about an experience ive gone through and say how important it was that i could talk to grandma (my mum)

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON


"like P said.. mate zone rather than loving aunty.

I either start conversations in a car as there is no escape.. or we go to the beach.

sometimes a nice meal together at our table where theres no technology or tv.. and we genuinely find out how we are.

sometimes i tell her about an experience ive gone through and say how important it was that i could talk to grandma (my mum) "

Yep the car trick works wonders.. on the way to a boys day out..

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I’ve used the book in my avatar to start conversations with both adults and children about sadness, grief, depression and mental health. Michael Rosen’s Sad Book.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

With my lad it’s always been quite open. However if I could sense there was something brewing it was a little nudge with ‘anything you want to talk about’ or ‘any questions / thoughts you’ve got in your head you need answers to’

It takes time for kids to talk, just be ready when they are ready and don’t push it

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON


"I’ve used the book in my avatar to start conversations with both adults and children about sadness, grief, depression and mental health. Michael Rosen’s Sad Book. "

Where can I get that book please?

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"I’ve used the book in my avatar to start conversations with both adults and children about sadness, grief, depression and mental health. Michael Rosen’s Sad Book.

Where can I get that book please?"

£6.50 on Amazon and available at all good bookshops

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

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"I’ve used the book in my avatar to start conversations with both adults and children about sadness, grief, depression and mental health. Michael Rosen’s Sad Book.

Where can I get that book please?

£6.50 on Amazon and available at all good bookshops "

I'll take a look.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"like P said.. mate zone rather than loving aunty.

I either start conversations in a car as there is no escape.. or we go to the beach.

sometimes a nice meal together at our table where theres no technology or tv.. and we genuinely find out how we are.

sometimes i tell her about an experience ive gone through and say how important it was that i could talk to grandma (my mum) "

Yeah my nephew likes to talk in the car.... Which is difficult at times because I end up getting upset and crying lol

It's equally difficult because I dint want to tread on my sisters toes. She is very much a closed book on these things, even with family and likes to just deal with things on her own.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I’ve used the book in my avatar to start conversations with both adults and children about sadness, grief, depression and mental health. Michael Rosen’s Sad Book. "

Thanks _stella, I'll take a look x

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON


"like P said.. mate zone rather than loving aunty.

I either start conversations in a car as there is no escape.. or we go to the beach.

sometimes a nice meal together at our table where theres no technology or tv.. and we genuinely find out how we are.

sometimes i tell her about an experience ive gone through and say how important it was that i could talk to grandma (my mum)

Yeah my nephew likes to talk in the car.... Which is difficult at times because I end up getting upset and crying lol

It's equally difficult because I dint want to tread on my sisters toes. She is very much a closed book on these things, even with family and likes to just deal with things on her own. "

All you have to do is plant the seed that you're there for a chat.. if she wants to she will. It'll be seen as a good thing youre looking out for them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instead of trying to be subtle, buy her sn icecream and sit her down and ask her how she is doing?

Say that if ever she needs a chat with someone, you are happy to be there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve used the book in my avatar to start conversations with both adults and children about sadness, grief, depression and mental health. Michael Rosen’s Sad Book. "

I was just about to suggest this too.

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