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Never been fisted... any tips?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

genuinely ive always been interested in it.. ive had previous partners and never been able to get passed 4 fingers.

Is it a case of not everyone can be and that i should accept defeat..

Its probably all down to the fact i watch way to much porn and im just miffed ive not managed it yet. To those ladies who have achieved it.. any tips? Was it easy for hou at first or something you really had to build too? Oh and does it feel as amazing as i think it looks??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried it once...i just dont think it's possible for me.

I'm in no rush to try again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It feels better than it looks

I believe being relaxed and highly aroused are the two key ingredients.

I'm such an old hand (pun intended) that my body is well used to it. That first moment the hand slides all the way in, knuckles pressing against clenching walls and a flex of the fingers... oosht.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Slow, lube, slow - it’s not impossible but just requires practice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It feels better than it looks

I believe being relaxed and highly aroused are the two key ingredients.

I'm such an old hand (pun intended) that my body is well used to it. That first moment the hand slides all the way in, knuckles pressing against clenching walls and a flex of the fingers... oosht."

Grrr see i wanna experience it..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Slow, lube, slow - it’s not impossible but just requires practice. "

And guess a guy with small hands perhaps. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It gave me memories of the uncomfortable childbirth ache of being somewhat overstretched, and you wouldnt want a hotel emergency happening as I dont think the hand can be retrieved in a hurry

I'm not in a rush to repeat it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Words cannot express how wide my eyes are

... What if they can't get it back out??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bite on a stick!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something I’d do with a random. But my partner does it to me, took a while to get to the point he could, but trust is a big issue for me. Lots of lube, being turned on and relaxed is the key x

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

Lots of lube, go slow, carefully manicured fingernails!

you don't want to feel like wolverines ventriloquist dummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it slow, plenty of lube and build up to it.

Not sure if everyone can do it but omfg it feels amazing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not something I’d do with a random. But my partner does it to me, took a while to get to the point he could, but trust is a big issue for me. Lots of lube, being turned on and relaxed is the key x "

Yeah trust is a huge thing too. Thanks for the response x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Take it slow, plenty of lube and build up to it.

Not sure if everyone can do it but omfg it feels amazing "

Oh i really want it one day.. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lots of lube, go slow, carefully manicured fingernails!

you don't want to feel like wolverines ventriloquist dummy "

Yeah mens nails must be short! X

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Lube lube and more lube

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lube lube and more lube "

Any kind of lube?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lube lube and more lube "

Too much lube can detract from it too though. But I guess for first times it's better than not enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure that you are with someone you trust and are relaxed with.

Be patient, have lots of play and arousal before you even begin.

Find a position that you are comfortable in and allows easy access.

Use water based lube and take things in stages.

Enjoy.......

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

The filter having flexible hands helps too and make sure you let them know exactly what feels right or wrong for that first time for either of you.

Im still quite new to it but slow and small movements in the right places is a very good thing, it helps if you give the good signals or instructions and the fister listens and reacts well to you.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Probably best to look for little hands...

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Pretty much the same as anal sex in terms of preparation. In that you are putting something large into something, which while it may be able to accommodate said thing, needs to be prepared.

As with anal building up your ability to take larger and larger things takes time and improves the elasticity of said body part, plenty of lube (fist it lube is good but contains a numbing agent which has two consequences a) you could be experiencing pain without the pain and b) it will numb the sensation somewhat)

My advice for ladies wanted to experience fisting is to get an inflatable dildo and some lube and start with that. With regular use your parts will become more stretchy (yes they “bounce back”) and you can control (through the hand pump) the width of the toy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hold your breath

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Lay back and think og England... oh and don't do it just before checkout time at hour hotel.. you never know who might walk in..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a partner you can really trust and who reads you really well first....

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back


"genuinely ive always been interested in it.. ive had previous partners and never been able to get passed 4 fingers.

Is it a case of not everyone can be and that i should accept defeat..

Its probably all down to the fact i watch way to much porn and im just miffed ive not managed it yet. To those ladies who have achieved it.. any tips? Was it easy for hou at first or something you really had to build too? Oh and does it feel as amazing as i think it looks??

"
how about trying it with a lady first as I'm sure smaller hands would help with your quest and plenty lube

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"

Words cannot express how wide my eyes are

... What if they can't get it back out?? "

Career as a glove puppet?

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

My general advice:

Trimmed and filed nails, no rings or broken skin.

Consider using suitable gloves (latex-free or vinyl).

Lube.

You need to be in the zone so think about the environment, music etc.

Consider massage as a prelude before increasing arousal by external and then internal stimulation.

Take your time.

Remember that not everyone will be able to accommodate a fist.

Get hold of a copy of A Hand in the Bush: the Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting Paperback (Deborah Addington 1999) for additional helpful hints.

Finally, have fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lay back and think og England... oh and don't do it just before checkout time at hour hotel.. you never know who might walk in.."

.. no comment haha

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Relax! And then relax some more!

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON


"Lay back and think og England... oh and don't do it just before checkout time at hour hotel.. you never know who might walk in..

.. no comment haha "

I still laugh to this day.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Relax. And lube. And time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pick a guy who lost his hand in a roundabout.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pick a guy who lost his hand in a roundabout."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lay back and think og England... oh and don't do it just before checkout time at hour hotel.. you never know who might walk in..

.. no comment haha

I still laugh to this day. "

forever grateful you threw the quilt at me to save my dignity lol

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

We are talking anal fisting aren’t we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are talking anal fisting aren’t we? "

Jesus!

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Be careful if you have a coil fitted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely the tips is exactly what you dont want......

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Mmmmmm love a nice fisting. Gavd to be nice and relaxed, really turned on and really wet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are talking anal fisting aren’t we? "

HAHAHAHA NO.. lol

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"

Words cannot express how wide my eyes are

... What if they can't get it back out?? "

You'd make a sexy glove puppet

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By *ranimallxl5Man
over a year ago

Winchester

Keep the hand closed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relax, make yourself comfortable and maybe lift your bum a little, a pillow maybe. Lots of foreplay and if you squirt, this helps a lot. Make sure their hands are clean and nails trimmed and lots of lube is applied to their hands and yourself. Start slowly and let yourself relax as they push more fingers inside you ... then as the thumb starts to join the fingers let The finger close as they slowly slip inside you. I find my thumb knuckle tends to be the the stopping point. But with a gentle twist the knuckle passes though .... the rest writes itself, lie back and enjoy xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I'll say from experience with my ex is go slow, get in the right frame of mind for being filled. Lots of lube and one remember it's your body your in control so if it gets too much stop.

(Although she wouldn't in my arse)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time, time, time, time and patience. Oh and did I mention time, you have to make sure that the body and pussy are fully relaxed before you go for the fist. K told me she couldn’t do it and once she was fully ready the look of shock on her face was incredible. Now we incorporate it into almost everyone of our full play sessions. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pick a guy who lost his hand in a roundabout."

Omg just seen this. Cant stop laughing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I did this I lost my watch

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By *tokeman4str8funMan
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle


"genuinely ive always been interested in it.. ive had previous partners and never been able to get passed 4 fingers.

Is it a case of not everyone can be and that i should accept defeat..

Definately can be done, but sometimes you need to be very aroused and wet/lubed.

I talked a girl thru doing it to herself, and in the bath.

Finger at a time, wet and after that she could do it easier and easier.

Simialr to a girl using a butt plug and 'trainingv the ass to accommodate

Its probably all down to the fact i watch way to much porn and im just miffed ive not managed it yet. To those ladies who have achieved it.. any tips? Was it easy for hou at first or something you really had to build too? Oh and does it feel as amazing as i think it looks??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last time I did this I lost my watch "

Ay i found a watch the other week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Words cannot express how wide my eyes are

... What if they can't get it back out??

You'd make a sexy glove puppet "

I'm intrigued... Can't get more than tbree fingers in myself ... I can feel a hot bath coming on

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"We are talking anal fisting aren’t we?

HAHAHAHA NO.. lol "

Don't knock it till you've tried it! (I've been recieving for years).

But for your needs, there is an inflatable, vibrating (might as well get two thrills!) Buttplug available quite cheaply. I had a female FB that used to use it vaginally in my absence. I used one myself for a long time once self fisting became more difficult. Age doesn't do much for flexibility! It's a great way to start trying. Have you not tried self fisting? Any sort of increase in girths is best done on your own, way more relaxing and you can listen to your body a lot easier, and you won't feel in any way rushed.

Just be aware you will start to look at certain everyday objects with a faraway look in your eye.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"

Words cannot express how wide my eyes are

... What if they can't get it back out??

You'd make a sexy glove puppet

I'm intrigued... Can't get more than tbree fingers in myself ... I can feel a hot bath coming on "

Doing it yourself is different, you need someone else so they can take a run up

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Lubrication

Relaxation

And an understanding "fister"

When I have done it, it has always resulted in some amazing orgasms for the receiver, and my hands are not small.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"genuinely ive always been interested in it.. ive had previous partners and never been able to get passed 4 fingers.

Is it a case of not everyone can be and that i should accept defeat..

Its probably all down to the fact i watch way to much porn and im just miffed ive not managed it yet. To those ladies who have achieved it.. any tips? Was it easy for hou at first or something you really had to build too? Oh and does it feel as amazing as i think it looks??

"

I'm an advocate of gradual progressions

Might I suggest you try mounting a cars tow ball

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By *he_virgin_maryWoman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

I've been talking to a couple about having a meet at some point and he wants to fist me.

I've not had kids so I'm pretty tight downstairs so I'm very nervous about trying it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been talking to a couple about having a meet at some point and he wants to fist me.

I've not had kids so I'm pretty tight downstairs so I'm very nervous about trying it."

Inexperience, nerves and strangers does not sound a good combination. Try it with someone who knows your body and reactions if you're going to try it.

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By *he LasciviousCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Feel free to chat to us about it.. Slowly slowly, lubey lubey... it also takes practice

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By *tsjustdMan
over a year ago

london


"genuinely ive always been interested in it.. ive had previous partners and never been able to get passed 4 fingers.

Is it a case of not everyone can be and that i should accept defeat..

Its probably all down to the fact i watch way to much porn and im just miffed ive not managed it yet. To those ladies who have achieved it.. any tips? Was it easy for hou at first or something you really had to build too? Oh and does it feel as amazing as i think it looks??

"

Willing participant here

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Used to think it was just something in porn and had very little success, but met someone really into it and have since fisted a couple more who I couldn’t before, so effectively been trained. I think key isn’t lube at all, or sizes, it’s relaxing and position and then listening and responding. When it happens it’s amazing. Once inside, experiment and find what works best for her and she will open up like you can’t imagine and give you a shower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very experienced in both give and receive. So firstly trust trust trust, secondly lube, I've found jlube really slippy and water based it will not ruin your toys either. Third more lube. Fourth yep more lube. Fifth don't rush, as you get turned on take it slow, real slow adds to the intimacy. Often getting too turned on makes both off you rush and then either you'll get hurt or it won't happen. Have I mentioned lube yet? Both my queen and myself cum so much when fisted... Omg she soaks every thing lol. Have fun but stay safe and don't rush it. Xx

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