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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is it i am doing wrong i dont seem to get any replies lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are countless reasons why your not, like loads of guys on here, especially new(ish) guys.

Maybe start by saying what you think you're doing that merits a response ?....i.e :-

Are you messaging women who usually meet guys your age / type ?

Are you explaining what it is on their profile that gives you the impression they might be interested in chatting / meeting with you ? etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, your status update probably isn't helping. Is that along the lines of the message you'd be sending?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly, your status update probably isn't helping. Is that along the lines of the message you'd be sending? "

This^ fella....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you’ve been messaging lesbians by mistake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly, your status update probably isn't helping. Is that along the lines of the message you'd be sending? "

This

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Hi Josh, now where do I begin?

You have a couple of decent pics on here, which is good

Write a bit more about yourself on your profile,humour is always good

Ladies always want to know what you can provide for them, (us blokes are in a minority), so sell yourself

It took me nearly 9 months to get ma first meet on here, and I've been on here for approaching 15 years

Get yerself known on the forums, and I'm sure you'll have every success in the future x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks buddy appreciate it !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly, your status update probably isn't helping. Is that along the lines of the message you'd be sending? "

this is very true i send messages to woman because i think im turning them on in reality i am making myself look a fool. X

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree


"What is it i am doing wrong i dont seem to get any replies lol. "

Send me one and I’ll reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly, your status update probably isn't helping. Is that along the lines of the message you'd be sending?

this is very true i send messages to woman because i think im turning them on in reality i am making myself look a fool. X "

I honestly wasn't getting in a dig or anything, just to raise awareness . I think it's how every guy initially approaches the site to be honest - act like a porn star talking to other porn stars. And it's really not like that. Bet if you just chatted as you would in a pub (or even at work!) initially you'd get further. And always, always mention something about their pics or profile you liked, not just what you want from them. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly, your status update probably isn't helping. Is that along the lines of the message you'd be sending?

this is very true i send messages to woman because i think im turning them on in reality i am making myself look a fool. X

I honestly wasn't getting in a dig or anything, just to raise awareness . I think it's how every guy initially approaches the site to be honest - act like a porn star talking to other porn stars. And it's really not like that. Bet if you just chatted as you would in a pub (or even at work!) initially you'd get further. And always, always mention something about their pics or profile you liked, not just what you want from them. Good luck "

Great advise

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lana del hey

No its fine i appreciate all the advice ive never been great at chatting to woman i dont know why that is perhaps i will try a few different messages and see where that gets me. Thank you lovely x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Hang out in the forums for a while.

I've made more friends in here than frim trying to message those i don't even know.

If i can do it, anybody can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I honestly wasn't getting in a dig or anything, just to raise awareness . I think it's how every guy initially approaches the site to be honest - act like a porn star talking to other porn stars. And it's really not like that. Bet if you just chatted as you would in a pub (or even at work!) initially you'd get further. And always, always mention something about their pics or profile you liked, not just what you want from them. Good luck "

Sound words. I chatted to a woman on here for a bit after connecting with her due to her profile mentioning her love of vexillology. After a couple of flirty calls and cam chats she texted me her address saying I want you to smash my backdoor in. Thought I’d play it cool and didn’t reply for a bit. Waited 24 hours then went round to hers and put a hammer right through her patio doors. She was fucking furious. Cost her around £1500 for some new ones. Sometimes it’s just difficult to understand them though.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

What kind of messages are you sending? We get some truly awful ones that I reckon hardly anybody would bother replying to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That is very true lmao

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Profile is your shop window. At the moment you are a dodgy vape pop-up rather than John Lewis. You are nearly there though, perhaps a few more "natural" pics of you and review your profile text. Avoid text speak and fix the grammar/punctuation (I not i, boxes not box's etc). Seems minor but you dont want to give anyone that makes it as far as your profile reason to go "nah"

Happy Fabbing!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think perhaps it may be worth watching my videos. 2nd one up from the bottom answers this exact question

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I think perhaps it may be worth watching my videos. 2nd one up from the bottom answers this exact question "

I watched the first one - Catchy tune. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I honestly wasn't getting in a dig or anything, just to raise awareness . I think it's how every guy initially approaches the site to be honest - act like a porn star talking to other porn stars. And it's really not like that. Bet if you just chatted as you would in a pub (or even at work!) initially you'd get further. And always, always mention something about their pics or profile you liked, not just what you want from them. Good luck

Sound words. I chatted to a woman on here for a bit after connecting with her due to her profile mentioning her love of vexillology. After a couple of flirty calls and cam chats she texted me her address saying I want you to smash my backdoor in. Thought I’d play it cool and didn’t reply for a bit. Waited 24 hours then went round to hers and put a hammer right through her patio doors. She was fucking furious. Cost her around £1500 for some new ones. Sometimes it’s just difficult to understand them though."

oh shush you, we're being helpful just now! I am dying to know how vexillogy was relevant to the plot there though?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol thanks _rincess peach. You love a good video dont you ?? x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Lol thanks _rincess peach. You love a good video dont you ?? x "

I enjoy attempting to educate, sad thing is it's all based on real experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the type of message I send and I'm a proper player on here. You can copy and paste it if you like:

"I'll be all over you like a tramp on chips,

or like a farmer 'cos I be milking those tits,

turning you on like my telly with a Sky remote,

picture it against my cock I'm not your average bloke,

like a plumber or sparky, I cum when I please....

and do half a job and leave your house smelling like cheese!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it i am doing wrong i dont seem to get any replies lol. "

Maybe change your username if you can?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply+quote is your friend when posting on the forums op!!!

Best of luck.

T

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"This is the type of message I send and I'm a proper player on here. You can copy and paste it if you like:

"I'll be all over you like a tramp on chips,

or like a farmer 'cos I be milking those tits,

turning you on like my telly with a Sky remote,

picture it against my cock I'm not your average bloke,

like a plumber or sparky, I cum when I please....

and do half a job and leave your house smelling like cheese!""

I'm thinking of a word, and it begins with the letter D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it i am doing wrong i dont seem to get any replies lol. "

Welcome to the club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the type of message I send and I'm a proper player on here. You can copy and paste it if you like:

"I'll be all over you like a tramp on chips,

or like a farmer 'cos I be milking those tits,

turning you on like my telly with a Sky remote,

picture it against my cock I'm not your average bloke,

like a plumber or sparky, I cum when I please....

and do half a job and leave your house smelling like cheese!"

I'm thinking of a word, and it begins with the letter D "

Ooh, ooh, I love these. Is it Detention...

Dog

Diarama

Dungeon

Diagnostic

Duracell

Dystopia

Am I close????

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"This is the type of message I send and I'm a proper player on here. You can copy and paste it if you like:

"I'll be all over you like a tramp on chips,

or like a farmer 'cos I be milking those tits,

turning you on like my telly with a Sky remote,

picture it against my cock I'm not your average bloke,

like a plumber or sparky, I cum when I please....

and do half a job and leave your house smelling like cheese!"

I'm thinking of a word, and it begins with the letter D

Ooh, ooh, I love these. Is it Detention...

Dog

Diarama

Dungeon

Diagnostic

Duracell

Dystopia

Am I close????

"

You are Distant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the type of message I send and I'm a proper player on here. You can copy and paste it if you like:

"I'll be all over you like a tramp on chips,

or like a farmer 'cos I be milking those tits,

turning you on like my telly with a Sky remote,

picture it against my cock I'm not your average bloke,

like a plumber or sparky, I cum when I please....

and do half a job and leave your house smelling like cheese!"

I'm thinking of a word, and it begins with the letter D

Ooh, ooh, I love these. Is it Detention...

Dog

Diarama

Dungeon

Diagnostic

Duracell

Dystopia

Am I close????

You are Distant "

Damn and Double Drat. Deeply disappointed and dejected doesn't describe it. Drowning sorrows with drink.

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Hey OP

Remove the disclaimer from your profile. It’s legally worthless and it makes you look naive.

You seem really nice so chat in the forum and talk to women as you would if you met them socially. Don’t “try to turn them on”. Treat them respectfully and be interested and chatty.

I hope you find you feet here. X

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By *egsterMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm in the same situation so appreciate the tips.

Mind you, I've only sent 4 messages since joining as I don't like to pester women that already get so many messages

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Regarding your disclaimer. You know that this isn't Facebook right ?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"What is it i am doing wrong i dont seem to get any replies lol. "

OP..three things..

Expectations.

Profile.

Effort.

Oh, and you have joined during some viral outbreak thing...

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By *rGenuineMan
over a year ago

Purley

Happens all the time. They delete your message and you never hear from them.

All part of this I’m afraid. Have to remember a lot of inboxes are full of messages from single men and unless you’re an adonis most will just delete.

It’s like swiping left quickly on Tinder.

Don’t take it personally.

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