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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

....do you?

Do you think and overthink about every little thing you post on here incase it is taken the wrong way or twisted somehow or added up to something that makes absolutely no sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Numerous time’s I delete my posts before posting them. I just think nah it’s not worth it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Used to. Life's too short.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Numerous time’s I delete my posts before posting them. I just think nah it’s not worth it "

I've done that so very many times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no i just say whats on my mind, however it might come across, best to be honest and forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No why be false say it how you see it if people don't like its their problem not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah. There’ll always be at least one who takes it the wrong way. To be honest I don’t say much anymore anyway. I used to but I just tend to join the fun threads now. Naughty step is wondering where the fuck I’ve gone!

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

No, just speak the truth. Not everyone will agree. We won't find everyone attractive and everyone won't find us attractive. We have lives away from here. Don't really care about Fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No why be false say it how you see it if people don't like its their problem not yours. "
true and you are well named you are a dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never give posting a second thought.

Every little thing I post is magic

Everything I do just turns folk on

Even though my life before was tragic

Now I know my forum posts goes on

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

We try our best not to offend in what we say and nothing we say is said with malice. But I don't think we tiptoe around anything we say either if someone doesn't like it then the person in question will have to deal with it. Not everyone is going to like what we have to say nor will we try and make them.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"No why be false say it how you see it if people don't like its their problem not yours. "

It's not about being false, just aboit being aware (or hyperaware sometimes) of how what you're saying might be taken by others. Text is after all not always the easiest way to get a point across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never give posting a second thought.

Every little thing I post is magic

Everything I do just turns folk on

Even though my life before was tragic

Now I know my forum posts goes on"

I like you you’re funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do consider some of more personal jokey type things I post beforehand and reword so I’m almost certain it won’t offend.

I think everyone should be mindful of others when they post things.

Of course everyone is free to post whatever they like and this is merely my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to, but I don't really care much any more. My reputation around here is shit anyway, so why bother?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it’s a daily thing where I type something, think it’ll be taken the wrong way then delete it, comes with being a cheeky little shit most of the time but with an ability to behave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no i just say whats on my mind, however it might come across, best to be honest and forward"

I used to be like this, but after 3 forum bans over 10 years I put a little more thought into what I say now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope! I tend not to get on very well with my serious thoughts and voices in my head. They're boring. I much prefer the funny thoughts and voices. They're a great laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no i just say whats on my mind, however it might come across, best to be honest and forward

I used to be like this, but after 3 forum bans over 10 years I put a little more thought into what I say now "

i didnt think about that, just got to watch your p & qs and should be great, though i do watch them most of the time

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think it's a shame when people have to overanalyze on case it causes offense. I think people could be better at asking people to clarify something. Or message on the forum to see if any harm was meant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don’t but I really should sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no i just say whats on my mind, however it might come across, best to be honest and forward

I used to be like this, but after 3 forum bans over 10 years I put a little more thought into what I say now

i didnt think about that, just got to watch your p & qs and should be great, though i do watch them most of the time "

Me too now

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

yes, many times i want to comment on a thread, carefully think about to put, start typing, making sure i phrase it correctly using the most suitable words so it cant be misunderstood, but then realise ive rambled off topic, so close the thread without commenting

(yes i did consider not posting this comment)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be controversial means you have to offend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be controversial means you have to offend"

Not necessarily. I could be posting about me waiting 27th in line to bareback gangbang a lady on here. It would cause great forum controversy but it's not wholly offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things you post on here could be misconstrued by anyone. Just like forumites likes and dislikes. Always better to talk in person. I should practice what I preach.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No not really in the lounge, I'm careful what I say details wise because its a public forum

In the virus forum its a tad different quoting science facts and figures ive deleted and restarted many a post to avoid a ding dong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do, sometimes to protect myself more than not to offend others x

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I am just honest. Sometimes blunt but always say what i feel.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"No why be false say it how you see it if people don't like its their problem not yours. "

I don't think it's false to try to be as unambiguous as possible with your communication. Sometimes thoughtless or clumsy phrasing can cause a problem... If a moments thought can avoid it, why not.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a phrase "many people get different meanings, from the same words". With that in mind, I playoff many interpretations, before sending. Took my near an hour to write this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do, sometimes to protect myself more than not to offend others x "

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"....do you?

Do you think and overthink about every little thing you post on here incase it is taken the wrong way or twisted somehow or added up to something that makes absolutely no sense? "

Nothing I post makes much sense. I find it easier that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No why be false say it how you see it if people don't like its their problem not yours.

I don't think it's false to try to be as unambiguous as possible with your communication. Sometimes thoughtless or clumsy phrasing can cause a problem... If a moments thought can avoid it, why not.? "

I've veered towards using ambiguous clumsy phrasing. People will miscontrue text on a screen, some will get it. Hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's a shame when people have to overanalyze on case it causes offense. I think people could be better at asking people to clarify something. Or message on the forum to see if any harm was meant. "

This really....

I used to think too much about what others might think but that's something I don't know so it's pretty pointless thinking about because I'd be thinking and worrying about something I know nothing about. I just try my best to make sure I'm polite and try not to offend if possible. A useful trick I employ occasionally when in doubt would be to think about what my real life friends would say about what I type here....

That said I did really struggle in a thread this morning when I wanted to talk about something related to race and felt I'd likely get shut down or misread, so I just shut up and that made me a bit .....

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Nah.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Not really,it's always interesting seeing how people take you,especially if you don't use emojis.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Anything I post is off the cuff and from the heart and what I say is what I mean - I do always try and provide balance and reasoning with the things I post on more serious subject, but I do that naturally in life too.

Occasionally I may get half way through a reply to a post and give up, either because I realise I'm rambling off tangent or because it's not worth the likely backlash.

I do think responsibility for how a post is interpreted is twofold though - both with the poster *and* anyone that reads it - all too often a well intended comment or one that just happens to be a different opinion is taken the wrong way completely when with a little thought its intent is obviously not contentious or attacking

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

depends on the subject matter.

I did find myself writing and deleting, rinse and repeat earlier on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything I post is off the cuff and from the heart and what I say is what I mean - I do always try and provide balance and reasoning with the things I post on more serious subject, but I do that naturally in life too.

Occasionally I may get half way through a reply to a post and give up, either because I realise I'm rambling off tangent or because it's not worth the likely backlash.

I do think responsibility for how a post is interpreted is twofold though - both with the poster *and* anyone that reads it - all too often a well intended comment or one that just happens to be a different opinion is taken the wrong way completely when with a little thought its intent is obviously not contentious or attacking "

If I'm in a bad mood my reaction to anything will be different to a good day.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I say it how it is

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

A lot of the time it depends on the thread poster too, and who's already commented.

There are people who know me and know how to take what I'm writing and literally read it in my voice, and those who don't.

I don't mean to offend people so have to keep some shit in check. If I called you a daft cunt OP I believe you'd take it how it was meant, whereas someone else who isn't that clued up on my nuances shall we say may get stung by the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah. I say what I want and believe I'm hard to misconstrue. Though my intent will never be harsh. I'll occasionally delete a potential post if I know I don't have time to commit to it and it's a big one.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"No why be false say it how you see it if people don't like its their problem not yours. "

The problem there Georgia is that you can end up on the forum naughty step like I did! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've adapted my language yes.

The forums are subject to discourse, those looking for arguments, those that didn't get the context of your comment and those who completely missed the funniest ever joke that I just made...in my head.

I guess sometimes you will be the only one to understand what you truly intended to say?

For what its worth, can't recall yiu saying anything mean ever?

Disclaimer..some #bekind comments are not linked to #whiteknight comments

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By *veragecouple321Couple
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

I tend to say what's on my mind, if I offend someone then so be it, I cannot and will not sugarcoat it. I'm fine with who I am and I dont care what people who dont know me think about me, words on an internet forum cannot hurt me and I think people need to stop worrying that something they said will offend somebody, I can guarantee that having any sort of opinion will offend somebody out there but their feelings aren't one of the things I will lose sleep about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

after an incident yesterday maybe i should think about what i post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No contrary to popular opinion from my lamppost thread. I just write down and hit post and wait to see what happens.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Naaa "

That was 4 letters right there that gave me a proper chuckle, I even saw you shaking your head whilst letting it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been burnt so many times so now keep schtum!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I think it's a shame when people have to overanalyze on case it causes offense. I think people could be better at asking people to clarify something. Or message on the forum to see if any harm was meant.

This really....

I used to think too much about what others might think but that's something I don't know so it's pretty pointless thinking about because I'd be thinking and worrying about something I know nothing about. I just try my best to make sure I'm polite and try not to offend if possible. A useful trick I employ occasionally when in doubt would be to think about what my real life friends would say about what I type here....

That said I did really struggle in a thread this morning when I wanted to talk about something related to race and felt I'd likely get shut down or misread, so I just shut up and that made me a bit ..... "

It's hard on here as there is no tone of the voice or facial expressions to guage what is being said. So I take that if I post something try and make my point clear and if it isn't not to be offended if I get called up on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think about anything, ever

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I try to be mindful but I don't think before I speak. I'm terrible in person.

Jo.Xx

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I can't believe there's no donuts with custard on co-op

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

No I don’t, if I have something to say I’ll say it, how people interpret it is up to them.

However I will at times just walk away, as it is really not worth the energy with some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Naaa

That was 4 letters right there that gave me a proper chuckle, I even saw you shaking your head whilst letting it out "

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By *uge G RectionMan
over a year ago

where I like to be... down south

I often put my foot in it by saying the wrong thing both in text and face to face..... but i think my charm shines through and they can see what I meant to say and not what I really did say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't believe there's no donuts with custard on co-op "

They are the best type!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It depends if I am talking then I slow down to talk to others

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Not very often. I tend to fire and forget. I will look through to see if anyone has responded but generally I move on pretty quickly.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"A lot of the time it depends on the thread poster too, and who's already commented.

There are people who know me and know how to take what I'm writing and literally read it in my voice, and those who don't.

I don't mean to offend people so have to keep some shit in check. If I called you a daft cunt OP I believe you'd take it how it was meant, whereas someone else who isn't that clued up on my nuances shall we say may get stung by the same thing "

I always take it as a compliment, compared to what you could call me

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