FabSwingers.com forum: Do you ever not message someone because...

By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Nah , if I fancy them I message them.

The end

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I message when I like the look of people or I have something I want to say in private. I don't believe in leagues.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Nah , if I fancy them I message them.

The end

Cant argue with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message anyone that interests me regardless of appearances or anything else.

Interesting is what attracts me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like someone I message them, getting a response is a different matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah. No ones out of my league

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nope. Nobody's out of my league because of now they look. Plenty are way out of my league intellectually, wouldn't stop me talking to them, I might learn something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother sending messages to people I fancy these days, they never get a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely message unless it's to thank for a fab or a wink or it's part of a forum game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't think I match what they are looking for then I won't message. Doesn't make a difference if it's due to personality or looks.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’ll send a message so they can turn me down directly, much better than just thinking they will

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I message who i want to message. Nobody is better than me and i am better than nobody. We are all human and all equals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ll send a message so they can turn me down directly, much better than just thinking they will

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I send first messages from forum threads, games etc. If I like what they've said or if I like their pics/profile. Sometimes I'll get a reply. Worst that can happen is I dont get a reply and I'm no worse off than when I started, but at least I took a chance x

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I don't tend to message people who I don't think would be interested in us. I'm not good at putting myself out there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I do not think that looks makes someone out of my league. There are some very clever people on here and THAT may stop me messaging, as I do not want to look stupid?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I don't tend to message people who I don't think would be interested in us. I'm not good at putting myself out there x"

That is a shame as you look lovely. You only live once.x

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Agreed for me I do am not great at asking people to play in messages and even less good in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are these message things you all speak off??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m brave enough to try for someone out of my league but don’t have the body that inspires a reply

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

It's very rare I message anyone first

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I rarely send a first message might wink or just fab the pictures I like but then it's often more that I'm a bit vanilla so not into the kinks that many on here have

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Nothing ventured nothing gained. I think that if you can’t cope with rejection,Fab is the last place you need to spend your time.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Nah. No ones out of my league "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to message off the back of just how they look. It'd usually be in relation to something they've said that's caught my eye, so I'd just be thinking we have something in common rather than worrying about what league we're in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never will think anyone out off my league and I just message if they don’t message back well that’s they loose to be honest with you ask if someone spend a bit off time talking to me you may find I am very nice polite person xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no such thing as leagues or hierarchy of body types. However, I would check their profile to see if I'm their usual type - e.g. if they say they have a huge thing for redheads then as a blonde I probably wouldn't bother, likely to end up wasting everyone's time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll give it a go but I rarely do cold messaging. Usually message as a response to a forum posting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I don’t tend to message first. I’m not good at making the first approach x

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I message if they are local and are looking for single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes. There are a few that i know i would get nowhere with so dont.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I'll message somebody if I think there's a possibility of an interesting conversation or if I have something to say to them. We are Fab friends with a few people who could probably get considerably better-looking lovers than us, but it's not about sex, it's about making contact with people who we like knowing. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing ventured

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it says only really hot men, I pause and don't!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

Of course I message anyone I like the look of! As long as I meet their preferences, and they’re not hundreds of miles away (in which case I usually just send a wink)

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Be brave beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are these message things you all speak off??

Was thinking the same thing myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

Sadly I fall into the former, but that's OK.

I'm wired that I think I'll be bothering them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

Sadly I fall into the former, but that's OK.

I'm wired that I think I'll be bothering them.

That'll be my self deprecating nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

Only once I texted myself, it was last friday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time especially on the wink who you would fuck threads. Much to my surprise a guy I wanted to wink but didn't for this exact reason winked me first much to my surprise xx

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Be brave beautiful

Hard sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

Only once I texted myself, it was last friday

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bada boom. But did they reply?

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

There are no leagues, just people that you think that would be a good match for you and what you hope to find on here.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

No I never think this. But, seeing as I never get any messages, it's quite clear that a lot of women on here think that I'm out of their league.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure may aswell

Getting a response is a different story lol.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Be brave beautiful

Hard sometimes

What’s the worst that could happen? They block you? Just go for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence plays a big part.

I don't send many messages unless replying to forum threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Be brave beautiful

Hard sometimes

I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

My main criteria isn’t looks, but does it look likely there will be an interesting conversation.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

We have a "type" we go for but have a broad range being open minded ...but age is our big taboo ..too young just wont do for us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

It's a combination of liking the look of someone and liking their forum posts. I'm much more likely to message someone from the forum rather than just a random 'my god your photos are fantastic' type message based on new photos. If people think they are out of me league then they're out of mine ')

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Be brave beautiful

Hard sometimes

I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had

“Hello, I’m NotSoPosh and I will literally shag anything”

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Be brave beautiful

Hard sometimes

I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had

Ooooh yes please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes worry that someone is out of my league.

But I try not to be as concerned about it now.

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

There have been the odd few that we have thought are way out of our league, maybe one day we will though...

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Be brave beautiful

Hard sometimes

I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had

“Hello, I’m NotSoPosh and I will literally shag anything”

Dude. Harsh. And I've heard that rumour too recently....

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Be brave beautiful

Hard sometimes

I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had

“Hello, I’m NotSoPosh and I will literally shag anything”

Dude. Harsh. And I've heard that rumour too recently....

That’s what Incandescent wrote for me

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Be brave beautiful

Hard sometimes

I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had

“Hello, I’m NotSoPosh and I will literally shag anything”

Dude. Harsh. And I've heard that rumour too recently....

That’s what Incandescent wrote for me

If only that were true, she's not started yet so that must have been d*unk Posh....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't message some because I don't think im in the same league

However IV made a couple of connections through the forums

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

It's all in the mind....lots don't or wont message more down to the potential of rejection and that feeling thereafter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate that term. No such as leagues. How do people know what the other is looking for? I’ve had it said to me by some lovely people and I just don’t get it. If you like someone message them I say.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

It's a bit different on here, as they spell out what league they want to play in sometimes, over 6ft5 etc. So you know not to message.

But if I meet the requirements then I give it a shot. The worse that can happen is it's deleted.

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By *r.HMan
over a year ago

A gentleman never tells

If you don't ask you don't get, sometimes you do ask and you still don't get but hey this is fab and there are very few rules here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some guys on here that are so good looking and girls so pretty that there’s not a cat in hells chance they’re going to fancy me so I admire from a distance, however if I’ve struck up a conversation through the forum I might just be brave enough to send a PM x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Be brave beautiful

Hard sometimes

I’ll be your ghost writer if you wish Posh. Lots of fun to be had

“Hello, I’m NotSoPosh and I will literally shag anything”

Dude. Harsh. And I've heard that rumour too recently....

That’s what Incandescent wrote for me

Ooooh you looking to be slapped?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Of course!

Maybe not just on looks but also if they seem far more "hardcore" and confident than I feel I am.

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By *ryingitout19Man
over a year ago

Wales

Nah, what’s the worst that can happen. They say no and you move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know......some girls are ooml......but half the fun is to try.

When you get a cheeky one line response from a heavenly babe......you feel good.

Wish more women (I know you are inundated) would have............a tiny bit more humility!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I fancy them I message them, regularly get blocked or told to poke off but it's not a big deal

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No leagues and I'll chat to most as we need to go through the two day conversation test, if it doesn't flow then you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate that term. No such as leagues. How do people know what the other is looking for? I’ve had it said to me by some lovely people and I just don’t get it. If you like someone message them I say. "

Ok it's more I feel they wouldn't look twice at me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had men message and ive looked at thier profile, seen veris from gorgeous woman and think wtf are they messaging me for

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

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Really that surprises me

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"There are some guys on here that are so good looking and girls so pretty that there’s not a cat in hells chance they’re going to fancy me so I admire from a distance, however if I’ve struck up a conversation through the forum I might just be brave enough to send a PM x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate that term. No such as leagues. How do people know what the other is looking for? I’ve had it said to me by some lovely people and I just don’t get it. If you like someone message them I say.

Ok it's more I feel they wouldn't look twice at me "

You can’t know that though. Don’t put yourself down. Fair enough if they specify certain things in their profile, ie if they’re looking for slim women or they have the word “dom” in their profile I wouldn’t message them as we wouldn’t be compatible. You never know, it’s worth a try if you like them x

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Thanks for all your replies peeps . I only asked as although I'm all bravado on here I dont actually think I'm particularly good looking, but at the same time I'm not John Merrick either .

I'm Mr . Average and im always shocked when anyone fancies me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm supremely confident in my appearance and personality and I don't think anyone is out of my league. Now ppl might have different preferences and that's a different thing. So I'm a black man, have a beard, have dreadlocs and that might not be every woman's cup of tea, and that's ok, but as long as I don't see a woman's preference contradict my characteristics then I'll give it a shot if I'm attracted to her.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Ive had men message and ive looked at thier profile, seen veris from gorgeous woman and think wtf are they messaging me for "

You are fine believe me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slim....

Are you suggesting there are people out of my league?!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Slim....

Are you suggesting there are people out of my league?!

Of course not . It's all down to how each individual feels .

I'm not always as confident as I may appear too xx

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By *agercornishmanMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

NotsoPosh I often want to send you a message but can't because you have filtered me out... What it is to be old...

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Really that surprises me

I'm a surprising kinda lass you know Grumpy....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had men message and ive looked at thier profile, seen veris from gorgeous woman and think wtf are they messaging me for "

I feel much the same as you but for an inverse reason.

I am relatively new to FAB...... have had two meets with stunners......but we won't verify one another until later and more socially acceptable. I now get frustrated women pass me by because they see 'no veris'.....but the reality is.......

Strange times to be new to FAB!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"NotsoPosh I often want to send you a message but can't because you have filtered me out... What it is to be old... "

Sorry.....

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

Absolutely, there have been a few we haven't messaged for that exact reason, yet when it comes to some of the forum games we realise we should have just messaged. We've now a couple of absolutely next level ladies on our friends list.

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By *agercornishmanMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"NotsoPosh I often want to send you a message but can't because you have filtered me out... What it is to be old...

Sorry.....

I'll just have to get over it and admire from afar....

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I rarely send a first message to anyone unless it's a forum game or I'm feeling particularly devil may care for exactly that reason. Nerves get the better of me every time

Really that surprises me

I'm a surprising kinda lass you know Grumpy....

I've gathered that

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

If I see someone that appeals I will contact. There are no leagues here, it’s just as case of being compatible in each other’s needs / requirements. It’s always worth a try!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"If I see someone that appeals I will contact. There are no leagues here, it’s just as case of being compatible in each other’s needs / requirements. It’s always worth a try!

Yeah I get that

Its just having the self confidence to do it , which believe it or not , I sometimes dont have

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Tend not to message, the odd occasion I'll think so it and just go for it...

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By *otmale5Man
over a year ago

glasgow

A friend is only a stranger you haven’t met yet.. so.... I message just looking for that initial chat.. No agenda needed .

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I sometimes don't message people because I feel I wouldn't be what they are looking for. For example, if they are gym fit, I feel they wouldn't be interested in me.

But that's just me, Mr wouldn't think that way and would be happy to send messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did recently and it's turned out well

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I did recently and it's turned out well

Yay happy for you

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Someone described my swinging preferences as like an onion

I have the top then I like bits sometimes going down the skin of the onion, some time liked chunks sometimes diced

I laughed but knew what they meant. I tend to meet club people because more or less they are the same type of people, also the chances are we can talk about clubs etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like 90%,of the blokes on this thread are not getting responses to messages, making me think that some lucky bloke is getting all the messages, thats just greedy

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Seems like 90%,of the blokes on this thread are not getting responses to messages, making me think that some lucky bloke is getting all the messages, thats just greedy

Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone on here is out of my league.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, all the time. I don't see the point in filling peoples inboxes that are premier league when I'm sunday league at best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, all the time. I don't see the point in filling peoples inboxes that are premier league when I'm sunday league at best

That pic again

. Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply sometimes because I think they are out of my league.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Yes, all the time. I don't see the point in filling peoples inboxes that are premier league when I'm sunday league at best

That pic again

. Love it "

Brilliant ain't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don’t message. Even when looking I wait for them to approach me

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I don't reply sometimes because I think they are out of my league. "

Seriously?? You're hot

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I just don’t message. Even when looking I wait for them to approach me

But those eyes * swoon *

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It is a mistake I've made in the past.

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Nah, literally nothing to lose. If they find you repulsive, hopefully they'll keep it to themselves & just delete.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

If you don’t ask you will never know what the answer is; what is the worst that can happen, they say no... at least you’ll know and can move on or enjoy something wonderful

It really is in your hands.... don’t wait, life goes faster than you think !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd message whoever I wanted. I can't massage whoever I wanted because that's illegal. As I've found to my cost.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

The one thing that often stops me messaging someone and letting them know im into them is that they don't have tv/ts on their profile.

If i knkw them from chats on the forums then this is out of the window though as I'll realise they're fine with me as i am however I look

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I rarely message anyone if I'm honest nowadays

Have done in the past if I liked them, the worse they can say is no thanks

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By *inky0CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Oh I really hate the whole hierarchy bullcrap.

Nope no such thing as out of your league!

People who believe themselves better than others -attractive or not- is such an ugly trait anyway I personally wouldn't want to go there no matter how 'fit'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

I dont think like that because I only fuck hotties, and for some unknown reason, they like me! Probably my bj skills!

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By *martGuy16Man
over a year ago

Bilston

A lot of the time I don't have the energy as it seems I have to carry the convo...which can get a bit laborious. I have a fluctuating sense of self worth when it comes to sex. In a way I've never felt good enough in that way, so I guess I feel out of a lot of people's leagues in that sense. However I am a good conversationist, though I often find I have different tastes and a lot of the time I struggle to indulge in my tastes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont message full stop.

most have a poor opinion of single men and i see no point in being message 3000 of the day.

if someone wants to find me they will.

no worries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah , if I fancy them I message them.

The end

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I rejoined the site, I used to message those I was interested in. Most messages were read and that was the end of that.

This time around has been a bit of the same! So I’ve held off

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By *martGuy16Man
over a year ago

Bilston

"i dont message full stop.

most have a poor opinion of single men and i see no point in being message 3000 of the day.

if someone wants to find me they will.

no worries."

Well said mate.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I don’t message them. It’s all too scary!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because people dont reply att all...no matter if you read profile or wherever..or excuses or accident bulk deleted by mistake or sorry but cant reply to everyone..always excuses so no point...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don’t ask you will never know what the answer is; what is the worst that can happen, they say no... at least you’ll know and can move on or enjoy something wonderful

It really is in your hands.... don’t wait, life goes faster than you think !"

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never approach women I like in case they say no thanks and I’m made to look stupid.

Often miss out because I am too reserved

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By *tokeman4str8funMan
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"Nah. No ones out of my league "

Confidence I like ??

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Always what's the worse that could happen we're are adults on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You miss 100% of the chances you never take.

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By *ola81Woman
over a year ago

pond

I stop sending messages because of rude full of demanding first replies. Can't be bother

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By *risky businessMan
over a year ago

APharaohWay

You got to be in it to win it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always what's the worse that could happen we're are adults on here

Very true, However I am very respectful in messages and I have had some horrific stuff back from couples who are obnoxious and rude. Puts you off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can I just say it doesn't matter how you look in comparison to someone, I have a crazy connection with someone who is a 10 and I'm like a 4 in comparison. But just how we are, things we have in common and sexually, same wave length. I feel so lucky, its been over 2 years and I wasn't brave enough to meet him, but we have built up something so good in that time. Don't put leagues in your way! My confidence is so low, incredibly so and I talk myself out of everything. But this one time it worked out

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By *olite1foruMan
over a year ago

south east/south west

"Nah. No ones out of my league "
and then you go and spoil it all by wearing a Man Utd shirt!! Lol

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By *uzy swallowTV/TS
over a year ago

Warminster

Everyone is attractive to someone it’s good to talk. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to have no confidence what I see of you no reason to be you look hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely message!

What's the worse the can do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I don't message people because I'm lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because........ 9 times out of 10 there’s no reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

Don't think anyone is outta anyone's league here in this joint ,l think everyone is here to fulfill what they're here for..BUT ..I think the thing is when it comes to choices it works the other way round ,in that people aren't attracted to others for whatever reason which makes them not interested ,if that makes any sense .as in guys will always send messages to ladies because it's the site it is even if they know the chances of getting a reply are zilch so it's the lady that decides that the guy isn't in her league ,the same way a guy won't send a message to a lady he's not interested in which means he's deciding that the lady isn't in his league .. so that's how l think the "outta their league " situation works here , the recipient of the Message decides..

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By *assionate explorer 1Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

I just try bmy luck. Had a couple of great meets by punching above my weight. Don't try you don't get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m rubbish at composing messages as I’m not sure what to say. But not receiving any replies tends to put you off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I fancy them I message. I met an amazing couple on here and she was amazingly beautiful. Lots of fun to be had on both sides

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Nah , if I fancy them I message them.

The end

If you don't try you'll never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no league as far as I’m concerned. We all have our types and I’ll message a woman or couples based mainly on what they state in their profile.....after all we all look like shite the morning after dont we!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think they are way out of your league , or you would have no chance whatsoever??

Or are you a brave soul and try anyway ??

Just curious

With woman yes I think a lot of them are out of my league.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Yes ..there lots of different leagues to consider .. distance.age. Beard preferers heightists colourists so there's quite a lot of limitations

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

We used to be like that. However, we will message people if their profile and photos pique our interest and there’s nothing more intriguing than a well written message to get the flutters going. We are no beauty contest winners, but what’s the worst that can happen. We have made plenty of friends on here of whom some we will play with and others not. This lifestyle is about the socialisation, openness as well as the fun and games...

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

"I message when I like the look of people or I have something I want to say in private. I don't believe in leagues."

There are no leagues or beauty contests with us either. However that said, there have been times when we’ve chatted with some really attractive couples that we just didn’t feel a spark with. We’ve got to feel that there’s a vibe, looks are important as well as good banter and chit chat but importantly, we have to feel that vibe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be brave but I regularly feel like there are better guys than me on here which can leave me feeling like I've little to no chance with my message. So sometimes and sometimes no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to be brave but I regularly feel like there are better guys than me on here which can leave me feeling like I've little to no chance with my message. So sometimes and sometimes no

Its hard for single guys to be fair there is a lot of competition however you should always try because not every couple is looking for the one with the biggest cock or the one with the six pack and muscles we tend to find they are the type of guys who let you down or have no personality what so ever

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Nah I take a chance ,,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to be brave but I regularly feel like there are better guys than me on here which can leave me feeling like I've little to no chance with my message. So sometimes and sometimes no

Hey....take it easy on us muscle bound fools

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to be brave but I regularly feel like there are better guys than me on here which can leave me feeling like I've little to no chance with my message. So sometimes and sometimes no

Hey....take it easy on us muscle bound fools

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(only applys to some not all)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And our point proven!!

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