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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

What is it that married men love about single women? I work with a married bloke and he’s always been flirty, always asks what I’m wearing like jokingly etc, but then recently he’s text a few times and I’m slightly ashamed to say it’s gone on to much more than that. He says he would never do anything because he’s married, yet over message tells me all kinds of stuff he would like to do to me.

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

PS I always seem to attract married men. Only been with 2 married men and that’s only because I thought they were single and found out later they weren’t!

Most have said I have a “look” whatever that means. I don’t walk round work half naked or anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your profile quite starkly contradicts what you have posted here

“i really want a guy at work but he is unavailable... how long til he gives in”

you made it sound like he and other married men regularly pursue you despite you disapproving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"your profile quite starkly contradicts what you have posted here

“i really want a guy at work but he is unavailable... how long til he gives in”

you made it sound like he and other married men regularly pursue you despite you disapproving"

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

Because I do want him. But I won’t. What I mean is he’s saying he won’t, but how long until he actually wants to.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What is it that married men love about single women? I work with a married bloke and he’s always been flirty, always asks what I’m wearing like jokingly etc, but then recently he’s text a few times and I’m slightly ashamed to say it’s gone on to much more than that. He says he would never do anything because he’s married, yet over message tells me all kinds of stuff he would like to do to me.

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?"

They love their availability. He's very firmly in the wrong but it would all stop it you blocked his number.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

I wouldn’t knowingly sleep with a married man. I want him but not whilst he’s married so it won’t happen!

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?

They love their availability. He's very firmly in the wrong but it would all stop it you blocked his number."

Can’t unfortunately I have to speak to him everyday on my mobile, working from home

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I wouldn’t knowingly sleep with a married man. I want him but not whilst he’s married so it won’t happen!"

Why are you texting him then?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?

They love their availability. He's very firmly in the wrong but it would all stop it you blocked his number.

Can’t unfortunately I have to speak to him everyday on my mobile, working from home"

Tell him to keep it professional. He's married, he's being emotionally unfaithful.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

I’m just interested to know why married men don’t think texting things is as bad as actually cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m just interested to know why married men don’t think texting things is as bad as actually cheating"

why don't you think its as bad? you are engaging in the texting but say you wont take it further as he is married

you obviously have carved them out as differing levels of acceptability in your head so why be so surprised that he has done the same

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

"I’m just interested to know why married men don’t think texting things is as bad as actually cheating"

Clearly you don't either.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I’m just interested to know why married men don’t think texting things is as bad as actually cheating"

Because they're kidding themselves that it's harmless fun. I doubt their wife would think the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why just men.......

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

Jeez didn’t come here for a lecture. It’s happened a couple of times. And yes I know it’s bad, but I’m single and NGL I liked the attention!

I was after a blokes point of _iew tbh, not the marriage police

And yes I often get pursued by married men. One actually picked me up for a date and something happened and I found out on the way to the date! I told him to take me straight home.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Why just men......."

Not experienced it the other way round lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why just men.......

Not experienced it the other way round lol"

Women can be awful too.....

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

I never got the urge to do anything like that when I was married.

Maybe there’s something missing in the relationship, or they just like the idea of being single again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

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By *rkrisssMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

Ppl cheat. Soooooo much! Even more so from men. It happens, it's going to keep on happening. Someone is always going to be on the negative side of such shenanigans but, if individuals weren't to strive to better themselves we'd still be living in caves! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you read my posts they don't actually criticise your behaviour at any point ... they just challenge how his behaviour and your behaviour are similar

so rather than a lecture from the marriage police, possibly its realising his behaviour you dont approve of is reflected back on you too that you aren't keen on

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?"

Yeah stop flirting with him and text him back saying hows the wife

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy. "

Yeah you’re probably right. Kind of just went along initially because he’s been a great support to me going through something recently, so we’ve become quite close through that

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Ppl cheat. Soooooo much! Even more so from men. It happens, it's going to keep on happening. Someone is always going to be on the negative side of such shenanigans but, if individuals weren't to strive to better themselves we'd still be living in caves! Lol"

True! Lol

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy. "

Nippy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?"

Nippy replied to the OP

Why just men.......

So I was agreeing that women are capable of doing the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?"

They're always firtating with Nippy....

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Oh sorry love missed it did he sneak in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Off to Google firtating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

Nippy replied to the OP

Why just men.......

So I was agreeing that women are capable of doing the same thing."

They're great at it and they tend only to tell you after you've agreed to meet them....

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Off to Google firtating

Flirting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Off to Google firtating

Flirting "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I think it's the same way girls get glits and glam to go out it's not for anyone else but themselves therefore being a sort of ego booster same for men some men not engage completely however the flirting acts as a sort of ego boost too in a way but there is boundaries with that as you can go tooo far I hope that answers it x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Off to Google firtating

Flirting

Hes tired is zippy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Off to Google firtating

Flirting

Hope, have to showed Yasmeen your axe wound pic....?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Off to Google firtating

Flirting

Hope, have to showed Yasmeen your axe wound pic....?

Nippy time for your bed

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Tbh I think it's the same way girls get glits and glam to go out it's not for anyone else but themselves therefore being a sort of ego booster same for men some men not engage completely however the flirting acts as a sort of ego boost too in a way but there is boundaries with that as you can go tooo far I hope that answers it x"

That’s true, I’m a fair bit younger than him too so probably gave him a big head lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Off to Google firtating

Flirting

Hope, have to showed Yasmeen your axe wound pic....?

No I that was a special one just for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Off to Google firtating

Flirting

Hope, have to showed Yasmeen your axe wound pic....?

No I that was a special one just for you

Where did you even fund it....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Off to Google firtating

Flirting

Hope, have to showed Yasmeen your axe wound pic....?

No I that was a special one just for you

Where did you even fund it....?"

Find* (tired Nippy)

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By *rmainman10Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Why just men......."

I have been with 2 married woman before ... Obviously they are unhappy and not satisfied with their partners... So they want to be treated and satisfied FOR THE TIME BEING.. either it be few days or months... I just like fill in the gap and see them happy.. untill they know what they want

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Off to Google firtating

Flirting

Hope, have to showed Yasmeen your axe wound pic....?

No I that was a special one just for you

Where did you even fund it....?

Find* (tired Nippy)"

Fingers zippola

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing Devils Advocate do you think he is showing interest because you haven't knocked him back?

Unfortunately the fact that you are "leading" him on by not telling him to stop means it will be sending mixed messages to him.

Best to say to him whilst you are flattered (if that is what you want to call it) that because he is married you are not interested.

And yes married women are capable of flirtations to Nippy.

Nippy?

They're always firtating with Nippy....

Off to Google firtating

Flirting

Hope, have to showed Yasmeen your axe wound pic....?

No I that was a special one just for you

Where did you even fund it....?

Find* (tired Nippy)"

It found me

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Why just men.......

I think it’s probably a fantasy they have that some decide to act on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why just men.......

I think it’s probably a fantasy they have that some decide to act on "

I think it's more greed and a reluctance to accept reality....

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By *rmainman10Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Why just men.......

I think it’s probably a fantasy they have that some decide to act on "

Maybe so ?... But I don't know if I should feel bad or good ?.. feels good.. but bad if I'm making the issue worst.. or making it better by spicing it up a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why just men.......

I think it’s probably a fantasy they have that some decide to act on

Maybe so ?... But I don't know if I should feel bad or good ?.. feels good.. but bad if I'm making the issue worst.. or making it better by spicing it up a bit

I think that depends on your _iew of cheating in a marriage.

Would you want them to leave a partner for you?

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By *rmainman10Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Why just men.......

I think it’s probably a fantasy they have that some decide to act on

Maybe so ?... But I don't know if I should feel bad or good ?.. feels good.. but bad if I'm making the issue worst.. or making it better by spicing it up a bit

I think that depends on your _iew of cheating in a marriage.

Would you want them to leave a partner for you? "

I didn't ever want to be the cause for them to leave their partners.. and I didn't ever let that happen..

.. I just was there to give them what ever they was missing... Physically or emotionally..

.. and to be honest I felt good to see that I was able to provide that .. short or long term

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why just men.......

I think it’s probably a fantasy they have that some decide to act on

Maybe so ?... But I don't know if I should feel bad or good ?.. feels good.. but bad if I'm making the issue worst.. or making it better by spicing it up a bit

I think that depends on your _iew of cheating in a marriage.

Would you want them to leave a partner for you?

I didn't ever want to be the cause for them to leave their partners.. and I didn't ever let that happen..

.. I just was there to give them what ever they was missing... Physically or emotionally..

.. and to be honest I felt good to see that I was able to provide that .. short or long term

I think there can be a fine line between the emotion of it just being sex or something serious.

Depends on the reason why the married person is playing away.

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By *rmainman10Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Why just men.......

I think it’s probably a fantasy they have that some decide to act on

Maybe so ?... But I don't know if I should feel bad or good ?.. feels good.. but bad if I'm making the issue worst.. or making it better by spicing it up a bit

I think that depends on your _iew of cheating in a marriage.

Would you want them to leave a partner for you?

I didn't ever want to be the cause for them to leave their partners.. and I didn't ever let that happen..

.. I just was there to give them what ever they was missing... Physically or emotionally..

.. and to be honest I felt good to see that I was able to provide that .. short or long term

I think there can be a fine line between the emotion of it just being sex or something serious.

Depends on the reason why the married person is playing away."

Wise words

I did ask obviously when the moment ended.. why... And the general answer was and is what you just said.. either way... I hope they are happy where ever they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know his wife, OP? Do you enjoy what you do with her husband?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?"

If its ok to you, you wouldnt be slightly ashamed.

People (not just men) will seek out fullfillment elsewhere, when something is lacking, and to various degrees. Morally its all shades of grey, not black and white, people have their reasons for doing it. You might be enabling him, but if it wasnt You, it would probably be someone else. Either you can reconcile that with your own conscience or you cant. You appear to have cognative dissonance in relation to it though, finding it both wrong and yet exciting. I think that is very common and can be addictive, its part of the reason it happens, because its exciting to some people.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t think that monogamy is a very successful stare for many people. I’m reading Sex at dawn at the moment that analyses this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think that monogamy is a very successful stare for many people. I’m reading Sex at dawn at the moment that analyses this. "

Serial monogamy can be very successful and fulfilling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m just interested to know why married men don’t think texting things is as bad as actually cheating"

They know it’s wrong . They tell you it isn’t so you carry on taking part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m just interested to know why married men don’t think texting things is as bad as actually cheating

They know it’s wrong . They tell you it isn’t so you carry on taking part "

It takes 2 to text tango

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t knowingly sleep with a married man. I want him but not whilst he’s married so it won’t happen!"

Married men aren't bad

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Do you know his wife, OP? Do you enjoy what you do with her husband? "

No I don’t know her. I enjoy it yes

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

I enjoy the attention he’s given me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I enjoy the attention he’s given me"

I knew a woman like that she knew I was married and I had permission and no relationship would happen but she kept pushing so I broke it off.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?

If its ok to you, you wouldnt be slightly ashamed.

Had to google that one ha

I know it’s wrong, I do. But I’m not going to lie I like the attention he’s given me.

I just wondered out of interest why is it different to a married man texting things and going the whole hog. If they are bothered about their marriage then surely they wouldn’t do the texting to start with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?

If its ok to you, you wouldnt be slightly ashamed.

Had to google that one ha

I know it’s wrong, I do. But I’m not going to lie I like the attention he’s given me.

i have to ask the same question again... why is it different between you texting a married man and going the whole hog? surely if you were bothered they were married you wouldn't do the texting to start with?

i cant understand why you can draw a line for yourself but don’t get that he probably draws a line for very similar reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just married men who do the dirty to be honest

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Not just married men who do the dirty to be honest "

No it's not all genders look for excitement outside of their relationship, the question was specifically about men though.

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits...or his wife (or her husband) finds his (or her) phone.

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over a year ago

To answer your question as a married man I guess its like the thrill of the chase and wanting to know women still find us attractive.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious).

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I think he’s out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious)."

you explained fine ... my opinion/ question is not if you are right or wrong

you have openly said you enjoy texting him but would not take it further ... so my return question is why in a woman's head (yours) are the 2 things different ... it is likely the same reason they are different in his

you cant post on an open forum and specify which gender are allowed to reply

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"What is it that married men love about single women? "

I guess potentially available for a fuck ? Sounds like you have a skill for pulling losers with miserable marriages looking to cheat , you’re in the right place here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like he’s doing it for attention maybe. And sounds like you’re teasing him and giving him the attention. And to answer the question is it just as bad? No it’s not. Talking about something and doing something are totally different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married men and women both do it,

Not everyone is the same but it’s all about a moral compass. We live in a society now where we spend more time with CO workers than our partners, plus social media does not help, the rule is to nip it in the bud, flirting will always lead to something more, if not now then in the future but you begin to lose yourself and something you once didn’t approve of now becomes a normality. It’s part of the buzz but it doesn’t make it right so we need to nip it in the bud before it’s too late.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"What is it that married men love about single women?

I guess potentially available for a fuck ? Sounds like you have a skill for pulling losers with miserable marriages looking to cheat , you’re in the right place here

It seems I do!

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious).

you explained fine ... my opinion/ question is not if you are right or wrong

you cant post on an open forum and specify which gender are allowed to reply "

I don’t think it is different. But I’m not the married man

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over a year ago

"Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious)."

Cognitive dissonance.

They know it's still cheating to sext but they are lying to themselves.

You won't be the only one he's sexting. He will have tried it on with many other women. Some will have told him to fuck off and some will be fucking with him.

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over a year ago

"Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious).

you explained fine ... my opinion/ question is not if you are right or wrong

you cant post on an open forum and specify which gender are allowed to reply

I don’t think it is different. But I’m not the married man"

if you don't think its different what stops you from taking the next step?

my assumption would be texting feels harmless, its at a distance, no real risk of anything happening so it can be explained away in your mind as a bit of fantasy and a pick me up , just enjoying the attention with nothing real behind it

i think those things could easily apply to both parties

for most taking the move to real action is seen as a big step but over time as the flirting becomes normal its a natural one

in reality if i was the wife, one is not worse than the other, betrayal is betrayal and a loss of trust for any reason is pretty hard to repair

however i have met attached men in the past because it has a layer of complexity there that ensures i wont ever get attached or hurt

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious)."

Because you’re feeding his ego, that fragile place in his mind. A woman shows some interest in his mild flirtation and it makes him feel slightly better about himself.

He’ll probably compliment you to ensure you carry on with the texts, but you’ll never truly know if those compliments are genuine as no doubt he’s doing the same to his Wife.

Sooner or later it’ll stop but the big question for yourself did any of this do you any good ?

Either way good luck, no judgment here

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious).

you explained fine ... my opinion/ question is not if you are right or wrong

you cant post on an open forum and specify which gender are allowed to reply

I don’t think it is different. But I’m not the married man

if you don't think its different what stops you from taking the next step?

i think those things could easily apply to both parties

for most taking the move to real action is seen as a big step but over time as the flirting becomes normal its a natural one

in reality if i was the wife, one is not worse than the other, betrayal is betrayal and a loss of trust for any reason is pretty hard to repair

however i have met attached men in the past because it has a layer of complexity there that ensures i wont ever get attached or hurt "

I don’t know really, probably because he said he wouldn’t do anything because he’s married

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious).

Because you’re feeding his ego, that fragile place in his mind. A woman shows some interest in his mild flirtation and it makes him feel slightly better about himself.

He’ll probably compliment you to ensure you carry on with the texts, but you’ll never truly know if those compliments are genuine as no doubt he’s doing the same to his Wife.

Sooner or later it’ll stop but the big question for yourself did any of this do you any good ?

Either way good luck, no judgment here

Probably not but it certainly makes the working day go quicker!

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Why do you have it on your profile that you want this guy?

LOL we'd all like a single lady!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious).

you explained fine ... my opinion/ question is not if you are right or wrong

you cant post on an open forum and specify which gender are allowed to reply

I don’t think it is different. But I’m not the married man

if you don't think its different what stops you from taking the next step?

i think those things could easily apply to both parties

for most taking the move to real action is seen as a big step but over time as the flirting becomes normal its a natural one

in reality if i was the wife, one is not worse than the other, betrayal is betrayal and a loss of trust for any reason is pretty hard to repair

however i have met attached men in the past because it has a layer of complexity there that ensures i wont ever get attached or hurt

I don’t know really, probably because he said he wouldn’t do anything because he’s married "

Pretty sure he made statements and promises to his wife on their wedding day. Meant fuck all in the end didn't it, coz I'm pretty sure she would be heartbroken if she saw the texts/sexts between the 2 of you.

That would be all I'd need to see to walk.

Many say he'll do it anyway, so why not with you? Well that depends on your conscience and whether you'll take your part in the responsibility of someone elses tears

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious).

you explained fine ... my opinion/ question is not if you are right or wrong

you cant post on an open forum and specify which gender are allowed to reply

I don’t think it is different. But I’m not the married man

if you don't think its different what stops you from taking the next step?

i think those things could easily apply to both parties

for most taking the move to real action is seen as a big step but over time as the flirting becomes normal its a natural one

in reality if i was the wife, one is not worse than the other, betrayal is betrayal and a loss of trust for any reason is pretty hard to repair

however i have met attached men in the past because it has a layer of complexity there that ensures i wont ever get attached or hurt

I don’t know really, probably because he said he wouldn’t do anything because he’s married

That would be all I'd need to see to walk.

Many say he'll do it anyway, so why not with you? Well that depends on your conscience and whether you'll take your part in the responsibility of someone elses tears "

Ends marriages that kind of thing and you're complicit in it.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I’m just interested to know why married men don’t think texting things is as bad as actually cheating"

It's not as bad let's b honest? I talk to married attached on here but wouldn't meet them x

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Why do you have it on your profile that you want this guy?

LOL we'd all like a single lady! "

Because I do, but I’m not going to

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I’m just interested to know why married men don’t think texting things is as bad as actually cheating

It's not as bad let's b honest? I talk to married attached on here but wouldn't meet them x"

Same, not knowingly anyway!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious).

you explained fine ... my opinion/ question is not if you are right or wrong

you cant post on an open forum and specify which gender are allowed to reply

I don’t think it is different. But I’m not the married man

if you don't think its different what stops you from taking the next step?

i think those things could easily apply to both parties

for most taking the move to real action is seen as a big step but over time as the flirting becomes normal its a natural one

in reality if i was the wife, one is not worse than the other, betrayal is betrayal and a loss of trust for any reason is pretty hard to repair

however i have met attached men in the past because it has a layer of complexity there that ensures i wont ever get attached or hurt

I don’t know really, probably because he said he wouldn’t do anything because he’s married

That would be all I'd need to see to walk.

Many say he'll do it anyway, so why not with you? Well that depends on your conscience and whether you'll take your part in the responsibility of someone elses tears

Ends marriages that kind of thing and you're complicit in it. "

Hence me being single again after finding out after almost 2 years that my partners separation was totally one sided and his wife still took her vows as seriously as the day she made them.

Lockdown = exposing the real truth not just one version

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Maybe I didn’t explain very well.

Work colleague texts me filth, I have responded.

He says he won’t act on it because he is married.

My question was (to men) why does he think it’s ok to text me what he wants to do to me, but then thinks it’s wrong to act on it. I don’t see any difference.

I wasn’t asking whether I was right or wrong for texting him. I don’t need anyone’s opinion on that.

I wondered, in a mans head, why are the two things different (apart from the obvious).

you explained fine ... my opinion/ question is not if you are right or wrong

you cant post on an open forum and specify which gender are allowed to reply

I don’t think it is different. But I’m not the married man

if you don't think its different what stops you from taking the next step?

i think those things could easily apply to both parties

for most taking the move to real action is seen as a big step but over time as the flirting becomes normal its a natural one

in reality if i was the wife, one is not worse than the other, betrayal is betrayal and a loss of trust for any reason is pretty hard to repair

however i have met attached men in the past because it has a layer of complexity there that ensures i wont ever get attached or hurt

I don’t know really, probably because he said he wouldn’t do anything because he’s married

That would be all I'd need to see to walk.

Many say he'll do it anyway, so why not with you? Well that depends on your conscience and whether you'll take your part in the responsibility of someone elses tears

Ends marriages that kind of thing and you're complicit in it.

Hence me being single again after finding out after almost 2 years that my partners separation was totally one sided and his wife still took her vows as seriously as the day she made them.

Lockdown = exposing the real truth not just one version "

Ah hope you’re ok x

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By *igchest40ddWoman
over a year ago

Mansfield

My motto in life is... I TREAT people the way I like to be TREATED and the the thought of someone cheating on me wether I was in relationship or married I'd be gutted... Even reading the tex and nothing had happened its gonna course trust issues.. So I guess my point is If it was you with someone and you found the tex but nothing had happened would you like it and would u trust him still....

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"Why do you have it on your profile that you want this guy?

LOL we'd all like a single lady!

Because I do, but I’m not going to"

Then what purpose does it serve?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?"

Sounds like sexual harassment in the workplace to me, him harassing you but judging by what another has posted you’re wanting it but if he takes it far too far he’ll always get the blame and the sack. Seems it’s unfair you’re leading him on ......

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

sorry OP, but you've said you don't see any difference between acting on the wants, or texting the wants. So by that rationale you may as well be fucking him if you're prepared to do the sexting, but you won't fuck him, but it's just as bad as fucking him.

Makes no sense.

So you know it's a shit stunt to pull but are pulling it anyway?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I’m just interested to know why married men don’t think texting things is as bad as actually cheating

It's not as bad let's b honest? I talk to married attached on here but wouldn't meet them x

Same, not knowingly anyway!"

and we all love a flirt just go carefull x

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

So some think it’s the same thing as doing the deed, others don’t

Like someone said, if it’s not me it will be someone else. So yes he probably didn’t take those vows seriously.

He did say in jest that he got married abroad so not technically married, so that says it all really!

Interestingly it seems to be the single party is the one who would get the blame. But it takes two to tango.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"So some think it’s the same thing as doing the deed, others don’t

Like someone said, if it’s not me it will be someone else. So yes he probably didn’t take those vows seriously.

He did say in jest that he got married abroad so not technically married, so that says it all really!

Interestingly it seems to be the single party is the one who would get the blame. But it takes two to tango."

Not at all the single party being the one to blame, however if the single party has the facts, then they have to take their portion of the responsibility and blame, because without their presence that shit wouldn't be happening. It's a choice isn't it. A choice to do the best you can by someone else (the wife) or the choice to think fuck her, fuck her feelings, fuck the life she believes she's living.... not my problem.

One may be "fun" but the other is the decent thing to do.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

It’s my choice as a single person whether I fucked him if the opportunity was there. If I did and it made me a bad person, so be it. I’m not the married one. I won’t be sleeping with him though. He says their marriage isn’t great, but who knows. Like you say you thought your partner was properly separated, but he wasn’t.

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

The thrill of the chase maybe .... and a chancer if it gets far enough perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's bored and wants some excitement in his life.

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By *zoreanMan
over a year ago

Witney

"It’s my choice as a single person whether I fucked him if the opportunity was there. If I did and it made me a bad person, so be it. I’m not the married one. I won’t be sleeping with him though. He says their marriage isn’t great, but who knows. Like you say you thought your partner was properly separated, but he wasn’t.

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

Babe, jusrt do whatever you want honestly! If I gave 2 fucks about what other people think, I would be living under a rock! The world is your oyster and life is way too short! Have fun, and don't think twice!.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

Thank you

I need to be more like that x

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

As a married man I have never messaged women without my wife's knowledge and consent. I'm open and honest from the get go I'm married and my wife knows and she meets men she likes. We both like variety in our sex life and brings us closer together.

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over a year ago

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

To be fair I agree with this. Why seek approval from other people? Just do what you do and make your own decisions. No business of anyone else’s! Although if you post it publicly you’re making it people’s business so you need to accept those opinions whatever they are.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

I don’t know, I’m always unsure of myself in everything I do x

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over a year ago

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

I don’t know, I’m always unsure of myself in everything I do x"

Only you know what you want to do. If you like him go for it. If you’re not comfortable don’t. But you will get mixed opinions on here. If that helps you decide than I guess it was worth posting. x

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

I don’t know, I’m always unsure of myself in everything I do x

Thank you. I’ll definitely be more careful in what I post in future. Not really done the forums before x

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over a year ago

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

I don’t know, I’m always unsure of myself in everything I do x

Thank you. I’ll definitely be more careful in what I post in future. Not really done the forums before x"

Don’t be. Just accept differing opinions. It can be fun honestly! At least you know he’s married. I don’t have an issue with married men at all. I do have an issue with them pretending they’re not married which is more what people are referring to on here. I know that not everything is black or white and people have their reasons. It usually depends on those reasons whether I will give them the time of day or not. Each to their own and only you can decide what you want to do. Good luck whatever you decide

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

I don’t know, I’m always unsure of myself in everything I do x

Thank you. I’ll definitely be more careful in what I post in future. Not really done the forums before x

Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?"

People cheat all the time for loads of different reasons. Boredom, monotony, excitement and just genuinely being attracted to someone else.

If you are uncomfortable about how it’s progressing maybe just text him and say that whilst you enjoy the flirty Messages - It’s unfair on his wife. Even if he thinks it’s harmless Fun it’s kind of not as you’ve stated you want him! (But not if he’s married) so it’s gonna be bothering you and not really much fun for his wife. (Unless she wants to get involved too!

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over a year ago

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

I don’t know, I’m always unsure of myself in everything I do x

Thank you. I’ll definitely be more careful in what I post in future. Not really done the forums before x"

Don't take it personally. You asked for opinions and people gave them. We don't know you or your exact situation.

My opinions given are about your question, not about *you*.

Hope you are having a good Monday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

I don’t know, I’m always unsure of myself in everything I do x

Thank you. I’ll definitely be more careful in what I post in future. Not really done the forums before x

Thank you xxx"

Ok yeah this thread basically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

i tend to agree with this ... people all have their reasons for doing things and thats fine ... i an genuinely not judging ... but own your own actions and behaviour

OP you have contradicted yourself multiple times on this thread saying you wouldn't meet married men , you wouldn't take it further, but you don't see any difference between texting and meeting (you must if you have drawn the line) then the only reason you haven’t taken it further is because he doesn’t want to (so you would meet married men)

the more i read it seems like maybe you were hoping someone would give you a nugget of insight that would help what you want to do sit easier with you and the reality is that wont happen... the forum rarely encourages cheating and i completely understand why ... its heartbreaking to be in the receiving end of it ... however even outwith that , you probably already know exactly how you feel at what you want to do / not do next and nothing here is likely to change that for you ...

what you need to do now is be decisive one way or the other and then own that decision rather than excuse it away as a married man pursuing you ... follow through ? fine... stop it dead? also fine ... but either way the buck still starts and stops with you

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

i tend to agree with this ... people all have their reasons for doing things and thats fine ... i an genuinely not judging ... but own your own actions and behaviour

Borin’ell got it in for me haven’t you!

Thanks everyone else for your responses I appreciate the input x

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I wouldn’t knowingly sleep with a married man. I want him but not whilst he’s married so it won’t happen!

Why are you texting him then?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married men again eh

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I wouldn’t knowingly sleep with a married man. I want him but not whilst he’s married so it won’t happen!

Why are you texting him then?

Because I’m single and I like it.

I’m not going to sleep with him.

All I wanted to know was from a married mans point of _iew is texting filth and shagging in person not equal in terms of cheating.

I do know I shouldn’t text back morally. But it’s getting me off everyday! I’m single and don’t owe anyone anything.

Right or wrong that wasn’t really what I was asking

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Married men again eh

Eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married men again eh

Eh?"

It’s always men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married men again eh

Eh?

It’s always men

Oh shurrup you. She’s new to the forums. She doesn’t know how many threads there are about married men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married men again eh

Eh?

It’s always men

Oh shurrup you. She’s new to the forums. She doesn’t know how many threads there are about married men!"

That’s alright then. Continue the man bashing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married men again eh

Eh?

It’s always men

Oh shurrup you. She’s new to the forums. She doesn’t know how many threads there are about married men!

That’s alright then. Continue the man bashing

Haha. I agree with you! I never man bash. These threads all go that way though unfortunately.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Married men again eh

Eh?

It’s always men

Sorry didn’t mean to offend! Lol x

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Because I do want him. But I won’t.

This explains the emotional confusing mess some women get themselves in, and then blame others.

I agree with the above. Not the sort of person I want contact with.

It helps to understand why people contact other people.

I fully know what I am doing and why

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Sexting, if hidden from another person, i think is a form of cheating.

But like the thread says, it takes 2 to tango. If a person sextext another who has an unknowing partner, they know they are cheating....a wee bit.

Fine line between social flirting and cheating flirting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll say this....

The minute you put a wedding ring on your finger , it’s like a homing beacon to women.....

They tend to flirt with you more if they know you’re married....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The excitement, the risk, feeling wanted. Different people have different levels of self control. Some believe they're not actually cheating by messaging only. No one truly knows someone's situation or mentality though.

Most of the cheats I come across don't have a shred of remorse.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

See who you want nobody else's concern...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Sometimes though a man or a woman will look outside for what's missing in their primary relationship. Maybe this guy has tried engaging with his wife and she's made it clear she's not interested so he's looking for excitement elsewhere.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Sometimes though a man or a woman will look outside for what's missing in their primary relationship. Maybe this guy has tried engaging with his wife and she's made it clear she's not interested so he's looking for excitement elsewhere. "

Yes could well be that

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I’ll say this....

The minute you put a wedding ring on your finger , it’s like a homing beacon to women.....

They tend to flirt with you more if they know you’re married...."

He started it. I didn’t go after him.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Sexting, if hidden from another person, i think is a form of cheating.

But like the thread says, it takes 2 to tango. If a person sextext another who has an unknowing partner, they know they are cheating....a wee bit.

Fine line between social flirting and cheating flirting."

True x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes could well be that"

You're obviously flirting with this guy and if like me he's getting no fun at home, he will eventually relent and end up fucking you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh you sound like a Prick Tease, OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh you sound like a Prick Tease, OP!"

I'd agree with that.. and where do you live again? Lol

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Tbh you sound like a Prick Tease, OP!"

Dont hold back now

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I’ll say this....

The minute you put a wedding ring on your finger , it’s like a homing beacon to women.....

They tend to flirt with you more if they know you’re married....

He started it. I didn’t go after him."

Oh come on even you must see that's a lame excuse. We ain't talking about self defence when you're about to get the shit kicked outta ya, which may very well happen if his wife clocks on.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

I’m not making an excuse, the poster implied women go after married men. I’m not one of those people

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Tbh you sound like a Prick Tease, OP!

I'd agree with that.. and where do you live again? Lol"

Haha

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I wouldn’t knowingly sleep with a married man. I want him but not whilst he’s married so it won’t happen!

Why are you texting him then?

Because I’m single and I like it.

I’m not going to sleep with him.

All I wanted to know was from a married mans point of _iew is texting filth and shagging in person not equal in terms of cheating.

I do know I shouldn’t text back morally. But it’s getting me off everyday! I’m single and don’t owe anyone anything.

Right or wrong that wasn’t really what I was asking "

Single and don't owe anyone anything?

Don't owe anyone anything. That statement is one that bothers me immensely. That's a huge part of the problem with society in general. No you may not, not logically, but what about morally? What about owing yourself some dignity and self respect?

I think as a society if we were all a little more caring, compassionate and looked out for each other as a whole, the world would be a far better place to live.

I'm not popping at you personally OP. I'm trying so very hard to show care, but I admit I find it hard when you lack the substance yourself through your own actions.

Read the words on my profile and imagine they're the words of his wife.... of you, when this is all over and down with and tell me it was just a bit of fun

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Please give the OP a break. Surely this can be discussed without being personally offensive to her.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

Thanks girls x

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Tbh you sound like a Prick Tease, OP!"

That

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Tbh you sound like a Prick Tease, OP!

That

In what way does it make me a prick tease?

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Tbh you sound like a Prick Tease, OP!

That

In what way does it make me a prick tease?

If you really don’t like the question I’ve asked, or take great offence to it, then you can just move onto another thread

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"PS I always seem to attract married men. Only been with 2 married men and that’s only because I thought they were single and found out later they weren’t!

Most have said I have a “look” whatever that means. I don’t walk round work half naked or anything. "

I think sex life diminishes in a married relationship

You offer illicit excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh you sound like a Prick Tease, OP!

That

In what way does it make me a prick tease?

If you really don’t like the question I’ve asked, or take great offence to it, then you can just move onto another thread "

Its a public forum, and as such anyone can post on any thread.

The Cambridge dictionary defines a Prick Tease as "a woman who tries to make a man sexually excited but does not intend to have sex wit him".

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Tbh you sound like a Prick Tease, OP!

That

In what way does it make me a prick tease?

If you really don’t like the question I’ve asked, or take great offence to it, then you can just move onto another thread

Its a public forum, and as such anyone can post on any thread.

The Cambridge dictionary defines a Prick Tease as "a woman who tries to make a man sexually excited but does not intend to have sex wit him"."

People are free to post but being offensive to others is uncalled for, in our opinion. Each to their own and live and let live

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Please keep it civil, I have removed a post and those that included it in their reply.

Thank you

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Tbh you sound like a Prick Tease, OP!

That

In what way does it make me a prick tease?

If you really don’t like the question I’ve asked, or take great offence to it, then you can just move onto another thread

Its a public forum, and as such anyone can post on any thread.

The Cambridge dictionary defines a Prick Tease as "a woman who tries to make a man sexually excited but does not intend to have sex wit him"."

Lol

He likes it and I enjoy it. What can u say

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

As a married man i can tell you its wrong, and i see no difference between texting behind your partners back and going the whole way because thats where it will end up. You both know its wrong but both dont want to do anything about stopping it.

Put yourself in the wifes shoes and imagine how she would feel when she finds out the man she shares a bed with is messaging another woman behind her back and not only that but the other woman knows hes married and made no attempt to stop it.

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Funny how people become moral keyboard warriors.

Good luck to all.

Tis a fine line to thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whistling along nicely

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Takes two to tango.

Your holding all the cards op, he’s game and you like prick teasing him.

Hope for your sake his wife doesn’t find out that you were actively leading him on, that rarely ends well. She will likely take his side and blame you entirely. I have seen this before at work, when the wife blamed the “scarlet lady” and said that her husband “would go along with it as any red blooded male would”.

Not saying that she was right, but when the swelling in her two eye sockets, stitches were removed and cuts healed, she didn’t look too bad.

I would recommend treading with caution.

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Takes two to tango.

Your holding all the cards op, he’s game and you like prick teasing him.

Not saying that she was right, but when the swelling in her two eye sockets, stitches were removed and cuts healed, she didn’t look too bad.

I would recommend treading with caution.

I can hold my own but I get what you’re saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

i tend to agree with this ... people all have their reasons for doing things and thats fine ... i an genuinely not judging ... but own your own actions and behaviour

Borin’ell got it in for me haven’t you!

Thanks everyone else for your responses I appreciate the input x"

i actually dont at all , so i am sorry if its come across like that

ive said many times im not judging you ... just trying to point out how your posts seem to conflict each other ... maybe its because you haven't decided where your moral line is yet so are flip flopping on it

all i was really trying to say is only you can decide what you want to do, this forum isn't likely to make you feel better about it if that is what you needed but that doesn't really matter, if you are fine in your head then carry on , but telling yourself that only he is in the wrong personally i think is kidding yourself on

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I don’t think that monogamy is a very successful stare for many people. I’m reading Sex at dawn at the moment that analyses this. "

Rather dated but still relevant. I used S.A.D as the basis for a talk I gave on monogamy and infidelity about 8 - 10 yrs ago ....

Good book .....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

i tend to agree with this ... people all have their reasons for doing things and thats fine ... i an genuinely not judging ... but own your own actions and behaviour

Borin’ell got it in for me haven’t you!

Thanks everyone else for your responses I appreciate the input x

i actually dont at all , so i am sorry if its come across like that

I've read the whole thread now. Ten mins of my life that I won't get back

I support all you said and it doesn't come across as personal in the least.

That's all

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's not married men ..... it's men.

It's not single women ...... it's women.

( and vice versa )

In situations like this it's best to look at the individual not the gender nor the marital status.

The lack of any moral compass, lack of empathy , inability to take responsibility and to constantly point the finger of blame in a splendid Trumpian display of immature hurt is down to the individual not their gender or marital status.

( that's in any situation - not this one obviously )

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Does no one else read this as homewrecking or sexual harassment in the work place? Lol

You may enjoy the attention, but how would you feel about potentially ruining a marriage, especially where there could be kids involved?

I'd hate a work colleague to be sexual with me, especially if I knew they weren't single. Different kettle of fish of you were both single.

You know he's married, if his wife doesn't know, quit it. Unless he's a swinger too? What if it goes sour and you both still have to work together. Don't shit on your own doorstep?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m just interested to know why married men don’t think texting things is as bad as actually cheating"

Have you told him to stop?

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Does no one else read this as homewrecking or sexual harassment"

That's a good point

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?"

You say above he says he would never do anything. So maybe he had only limited interested in you. A flirt

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

Isn’t that just as bad as acting on it?

You say above he says he would never do anything. So maybe he had only limited interested in you. A flirt"

I wouldn’t class the things he has been saying as flirting.

Sexual harassment that’s hysterical!

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I’m just interested to know why married men don’t think texting things is as bad as actually cheating

Have you told him to stop? "

I haven’t said anything I just emailed what I needed to say about work

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By *lueeyedbrunette OP Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

As I think I’ve said before (thread too long to check) I’m not really interested in whether people think it’s right or wrong. It’s not what I asked. Nothing anyone says will steer me one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see the texting and acting out as anything different.

So yes he’s cheating on his wife, albeit not physically.

I was merely interested to know if men thought it was different.

i tend to agree with this ... people all have their reasons for doing things and thats fine ... i an genuinely not judging ... but own your own actions and behaviour

Borin’ell got it in for me haven’t you!

Thanks everyone else for your responses I appreciate the input x

i actually dont at all , so i am sorry if its come across like that

I've read the whole thread now. Ten mins of my life that I won't get back

I support all you said and it doesn't come across as personal in the least.

That's all

thanks granny

i know tone sometimes doesn’t come across well on forums

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