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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We all live busy lives and spend the days caught up in our own world and thoughts.

How much of what's going on around you do you notice?

Would you see if someone was thinking of doing something silly? Would you notice if someone was spending a long time looking at the river /lake or tracks?

If you did would you do anything?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

The suspense would kill me i'd have to shout 'urry up' ..... or give them a gentle push.....

I mean ...... there's so much to dooooo

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes I notice these things. And 100% Yes I would definitely stop to talk to them. Just a simple conversation can change a person's thought process.

Jo.Xx

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I don't spend enough time out and about to see things like that I don't think.

I'm either at the bus stop, on the bus, at work or at home.

I do think unless it's very very obvious, people are afraid to approach others as you don't know how they may react to you. I'm far more comfortable dealing with a lost dog.

However if someone is clearly upset, then yes, I have approached before now. Ended up taking her for a hot chocolate and we chatted for a couple of hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I do love looking at Rivers but it doesn't mean I want to be silly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very good at observing and listening and I like to think I notice if something doesn't feel right, especially with people I see often. If I feel safe it is safe to do so I will always intervene and try to help.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I didn't assume something harmful.

If I thought they were about to do harm to themselves i'd call the police.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Would I notice? Yes probably, I naturally observe things as I go about my life.

Would I take action? That very much depends, someone (especially a stranger) staring at a lake could just as easily be lost in thought about happy things as they could be contemplating something drastic and unless there were other signs or circumstances I wouldn't want to disturb those possibly peaceful moments - I may stand back and observe a while longer just to be sure though

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Tbh I do love looking at Rivers but it doesn't mean I want to be silly "

I thought how sad a world it must be if contemplation and peaceful moments are immediately interpreted as an intention to administer self harm.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Would I notice? Yes probably, I naturally observe things as I go about my life.

Would I take action? That very much depends, someone (especially a stranger) staring at a lake could just as easily be lost in thought about happy things as they could be contemplating something drastic and unless there were other signs or circumstances I wouldn't want to disturb those possibly peaceful moments - I may stand back and observe a while longer just to be sure though "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Meant to the last post

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

If I felt safe...... i'd say hi .....

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

I do notice and have done things to help them as well.

I saw one guy wanting to jump and someone else egging them on. put the idiot on the ground into his place.

then chatted to the other person, the police let me carry on doing it as it was working.

I've worked with some charities in the past where just listening is the best course of action.

although, not always been successful at things either

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do appreciate that quite often it can be difficult to understand someone's feelings and intentions unless they are blatantly obvious

And some may appreciate being checked on and some may not

If I was on the other side of the situation not sure how I would react

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do appreciate that quite often it can be difficult to understand someone's feelings and intentions unless they are blatantly obvious

And some may appreciate being checked on and some may not

If I was on the other side of the situation not sure how I would react "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To those of you who have been brave enough to reach out to someone in this situation, thank you

When feeling low reading stories about how people intervened can give hope

Though its not a burden I would want to place on anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To those of you who have been brave enough to reach out to someone in this situation, thank you

When feeling low reading stories about how people intervened can give hope

Though its not a burden I would want to place on anyone"

Hope all is ok Op. I do people watch a bit so hope I would probably notice if something seemed off with someone. I do find myself watching out for older people on sticks at the moment and checking they make it across roads and places they are getting too, just because I remember my Grandpa being wobbly on his. He was quite fiercly independant so I wouldnt automatically dive in unless needed, but a smile and a hello never seems to hurt.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull


"I don't spend enough time out and about to see things like that I don't think.

I'm either at the bus stop, on the bus, at work or at home.

I do think unless it's very very obvious, people are afraid to approach others as you don't know how they may react to you. I'm far more comfortable dealing with a lost dog.

However if someone is clearly upset, then yes, I have approached before now. Ended up taking her for a hot chocolate and we chatted for a couple of hours."

its acts of kindness like that, that can literally save a life! bless you miss peach

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