FabSwingers.com forum: Mutual support thread for the lonely

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Things are shite. Job gone in a few months, so called ‘friends’ gone, stress with family and ex husband, too many disrespectful guys on here.... I’ve never felt so lonely in my life. Anyone in a similar position? Let’s talk either on here or PM me. I’ve dropped all filters

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Sending hugs, in the hope they'll make you feel better

I'm pretty low, too, but think I've revealed enough publicly already, so will pm you later.

But thank you for the thread xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im usually quite positive even when times are not so good.

If anyone needs to take their mind off reality and wants to chat about anything at all drop me a message, I can talk all sorts of sh*te

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for different reasons people struggle all the time.

I went through this probably in 2019 more, but i come out the otherside and life is ok again.

I think the key thing you have to remember is, bad times are temporary and do go away. It takes time. Life will always give us good as well as bad x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think for different reasons people struggle all the time.

I went through this probably in 2019 more, but i come out the otherside and life is ok again.

I think the key thing you have to remember is, bad times are temporary and do go away. It takes time. Life will always give us good as well as bad x"

Same.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I wouldn't say I feel the loneliest I ever have, but for me the sense of loneliness comes from wondering if anyone will ever truly understand and appreciate me.

I do accept that the answer is likely to be no, but that doesn't stop the pangs of sadness and disappointment.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"Things are shite. Job gone in a few months, so called ‘friends’ gone, stress with family and ex husband, too many disrespectful guys on here.... I’ve never felt so lonely in my life. Anyone in a similar position? Let’s talk either on here or PM me. I’ve dropped all filters

If you need to talk lovely drop me a line. Unfortunately working from home (I guess I should be grateful) but I can always make time for a lady that knows her lingerie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I am happy to lend an ear via PM.

I can very much relate to family stresses especially since lockdown happened.

Using the Fab forums is my 'escape' from those stresses.

I wasn't aware of the stress in your life. If you wish to, a message from you would be most welcome in my inbox.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope things get better for you soon

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

You're on a roller coaster chick and it's presently going down hill,hopefully some day soon it'll be on the up again for you. Its just words I know but try and stay positive until thing's eventually fall into place x

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"I wouldn't say I feel the loneliest I ever have, but for me the sense of loneliness comes from wondering if anyone will ever truly understand and appreciate me.

I do accept that the answer is likely to be no, but that doesn't stop the pangs of sadness and disappointment.

thats pretty much how i feel, with the added difficulty of having isolated myself from all my family and friends a long time ago, too afraid and ashamed to let anybody into my fecked up little world

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"I wouldn't say I feel the loneliest I ever have, but for me the sense of loneliness comes from wondering if anyone will ever truly understand and appreciate me.

I do accept that the answer is likely to be no, but that doesn't stop the pangs of sadness and disappointment.

thats pretty much how i feel, with the added difficulty of having isolated myself from all my family and friends a long time ago, too afraid and ashamed to let anybody into my fecked up little world"

Never too late to start reaching out again, even if it's only baby steps at first.

Best wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry to read things are really tough for you right now. I know it might feel like it ATM, but your not alone, people do care about you Inca. your a genuinely good friend and i know for a fact you mean ALOT to people. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up

if you need a chat you know where I am

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"I wouldn't say I feel the loneliest I ever have, but for me the sense of loneliness comes from wondering if anyone will ever truly understand and appreciate me.

I do accept that the answer is likely to be no, but that doesn't stop the pangs of sadness and disappointment.

thats pretty much how i feel, with the added difficulty of having isolated myself from all my family and friends a long time ago, too afraid and ashamed to let anybody into my fecked up little world

Never too late to start reaching out again, even if it's only baby steps at first.

Best wishes "

Mental barriers are the hardest to break through and i just dont have the strength, they're all better off without me anyway

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I’m on my own, generally happy in my own world but do miss the company of a regular partner. I’m lucky this weekend as I’ll have a few friends over on Saturday as I find that particular night tough. But starting to feel this is very much my life from now on.

However I am an optimist in general, lucky that I’ve never suffered any mental health issues due to my situation, but truly hope things get better for all commenting on this thread

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"I wouldn't say I feel the loneliest I ever have, but for me the sense of loneliness comes from wondering if anyone will ever truly understand and appreciate me.

I do accept that the answer is likely to be no, but that doesn't stop the pangs of sadness and disappointment.

thats pretty much how i feel, with the added difficulty of having isolated myself from all my family and friends a long time ago, too afraid and ashamed to let anybody into my fecked up little world

Never too late to start reaching out again, even if it's only baby steps at first.

Best wishes

Mental barriers are the hardest to break through and i just dont have the strength, they're all better off without me anyway"

It very much sounds like you are suffering with depression pal. Have you spoken to your GP about your feelings and what remedies are available?

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Big hugs!! Always here if you need a chat.

I’m not in the greatest of places at the moment either xx

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

I just want to send you a virtual hug and a kiss. You are not alone and there are a lot of people in a similar position. I am working from home since February, I was looking to change companies at the start of the year, my job is boring and without any progress or career prospect and good colleagues were leaving. And then Corona came and everything closed down. Friends are in isolation, some of them I haven't seen for half a year.

My FWB moved back to her country a year ago, I had hope to find someone here on FAB, despite being outside the age filter for most of the people.

Some lucky mail exchanges, and then Corona came.

I feel lonely, I miss a hug and friendly face without a mask.

So let's hug each other and cheer up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies, my filters are on full atm but I think you can wink me.

I was in the lowest and darkest place ever this time last year and was a hairs breath from not surviving, so throw me a wink and I will chat to you if you need me x

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

I'm not normally one to publicise any emotions but in the spirit of solidarity and also to demonstrate that sharing is always better than keeping things to yourself, I thought I'd participate in this thread.

It hadn't dawned on me that I'd be turning 40 in 10 days. It really crept up on me. 40 is a big deal right? But truth is, even if there was no coronavirus, I'd probably be spending my birthday in a low key way with nobody particularly special helping to celebrate. I'd probably have lunch with my mum and sister and that'd be it. I feel pretty tragic actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel your pain op as at times I can feel lonely in a household full of people but I’m sure that with the forums to keep you occupied that you can push through to a better place.

I’m on here a lot so if you ever need a sounding board I’m available if selected and can promise nothing of a sexual nature but just a ear a shoulder and convo that will send you to sleep.

Best of luck op.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"I wouldn't say I feel the loneliest I ever have, but for me the sense of loneliness comes from wondering if anyone will ever truly understand and appreciate me.

I do accept that the answer is likely to be no, but that doesn't stop the pangs of sadness and disappointment.

thats pretty much how i feel, with the added difficulty of having isolated myself from all my family and friends a long time ago, too afraid and ashamed to let anybody into my fecked up little world

Never too late to start reaching out again, even if it's only baby steps at first.

Best wishes

Mental barriers are the hardest to break through and i just dont have the strength, they're all better off without me anyway

It very much sounds like you are suffering with depression pal. Have you spoken to your GP about your feelings and what remedies are available? "

im a long term sufferer, been on meds for about 10 years, tried various therapies for depression but they only brought on anxiety which then led to agoraphobia 18 months ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message to all, my inbox is always open if need to talk or vent, don't like to think there are people feeling isolated and alone. There have been times when I have been surrounded by friends and/or family and felt so lonely.

I'm a good listener, but I'd take any advice with a large pinch of salt!

Kind thoughts to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My pm is always open I'll always listen if anyone needs to talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww lovely, sending big ((((hugs)))). Life can be pretty shit at times. My inbox is open anytime. I can totally empathise. X

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"I wouldn't say I feel the loneliest I ever have, but for me the sense of loneliness comes from wondering if anyone will ever truly understand and appreciate me.

I do accept that the answer is likely to be no, but that doesn't stop the pangs of sadness and disappointment.

thats pretty much how i feel, with the added difficulty of having isolated myself from all my family and friends a long time ago, too afraid and ashamed to let anybody into my fecked up little world

Never too late to start reaching out again, even if it's only baby steps at first.

Best wishes

Mental barriers are the hardest to break through and i just dont have the strength, they're all better off without me anyway

It very much sounds like you are suffering with depression pal. Have you spoken to your GP about your feelings and what remedies are available?

im a long term sufferer, been on meds for about 10 years, tried various therapies for depression but they only brought on anxiety which then led to agoraphobia 18 months ago. "
Have you tried online therapy? Would that make a difference? You may feel more comfortable in your own surroundings. Situations like this really need the expertise of a competent professional.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My lovely....

((((((((((((((

)))))))))))))))

We can do more than talk, any time....

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Ah chuck that sounds pants

always here for a rant of you feel like one. Had a very shitty 6 months but dragging my arse back to the light. There’s gin in Mancunia if you feel like a break! (Don’t tell bozza)

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"Ah chuck that sounds pants

always here for a rant of you feel like one. Had a very shitty 6 months but dragging my arse back to the light. There’s gin in Mancunia if you feel like a break! (Don’t tell bozza)

2 for the price of 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember OP even on the darkest nights the sun will always rise the next morning.

Sorry to hear that things are shite, inbox always open should you need to chat x

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"I wouldn't say I feel the loneliest I ever have, but for me the sense of loneliness comes from wondering if anyone will ever truly understand and appreciate me.

I do accept that the answer is likely to be no, but that doesn't stop the pangs of sadness and disappointment.

thats pretty much how i feel, with the added difficulty of having isolated myself from all my family and friends a long time ago, too afraid and ashamed to let anybody into my fecked up little world

Never too late to start reaching out again, even if it's only baby steps at first.

Best wishes

Mental barriers are the hardest to break through and i just dont have the strength, they're all better off without me anyway

It very much sounds like you are suffering with depression pal. Have you spoken to your GP about your feelings and what remedies are available?

im a long term sufferer, been on meds for about 10 years, tried various therapies for depression but they only brought on anxiety which then led to agoraphobia 18 months ago. Have you tried online therapy? Would that make a difference? You may feel more comfortable in your own surroundings. Situations like this really need the expertise of a competent professional. "

i tried online therapy, counselling, community mental health psychiactric nurse, even tried hypn0therapy. (hyp-no a banned word! wtf?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always here for a natter for anyone who needs it

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I'm still in work so I shouldn't feel low, but even being one of lucky people I'm still lonely and at times depressed. I'm nearly 66 and if I retire I'm going be even worse,

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I've felt that overwhelming loneliness at times before. But then I have brilliant friends like you that help me feel less alone. I love you and I hope this feeling for you passes soon. You've got so much resilience and things will get better soon, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey there, you know all about what goes on behind my front door so you know I feel for you.

Phone is always on if you need anything

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I may be a few thousand miles away but I’m here for you and you are not alone.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

I think threads like this ought to be continued as a space for people who feel a need to talk to someone. It's not easy to admit these honest feelings to yourself let alone to other people, even if it is on the Internet. Personally, I haven't experienced any low feelings for a long while and what I am currently feeling is new and I hope is only fleeting. Others may find that their mental state is a longer battle. Yet it still took me by surprise and wasn't easy to admit I was feeling blue. But the OP starting this thread and others contributing led to my own post. We may not find any solutions to any issues on here but at least people may feel they are not alone.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Know that feeling been single sometime now and living on my own.

Most friends my age either moved on in life with kids all settled down or mortgages and constantly busy etc..

Unlike when I was in my 20's with a massive social circle and could call up on friends for company and having laugh and with the family living the other side of the country is hard to reach out to people for a natter or a drink

Would be nice to have a chat and some company constantly being ghosted not good for the olde confidence...

So lets all have a forum group hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all going difficult suation right now. I have try to stay positive and been doing things which makes me happy and just taking each days as it comes. If I have a bad day try to make sure my next day is better then yesterday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone want to get things off their chest and just chat away I'd be only to happy to listen and pass on any advice which may help xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My life circumstances mean I'm very isloated, and I've had a really bad afternoon after trying to do something that would be no trouble for most people. Health problems can be awful.

I'm really sorry to hear so many things are going on with you.

I don't tend to send messages first as I'm really struggling with my vision but I would love someone to give mutual support to and I've wanted a lovely woman to chat with for ages. Most make assumptions about me and avoid me lile the plague.

I'm here if you'd like to talk.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much so

I wasn’t the best before all of this to be fair but this has hit me like a train.

Motivation has been hit hard.

Hope all are well and continue to improve in whatever way you are struggling etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I missed this

Hate that you are feeling like this, here for whatever/whenever you need me

Love you

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"I wouldn't say I feel the loneliest I ever have, but for me the sense of loneliness comes from wondering if anyone will ever truly understand and appreciate me.

I do accept that the answer is likely to be no, but that doesn't stop the pangs of sadness and disappointment.

thats pretty much how i feel, with the added difficulty of having isolated myself from all my family and friends a long time ago, too afraid and ashamed to let anybody into my fecked up little world

Never too late to start reaching out again, even if it's only baby steps at first.

Best wishes

Mental barriers are the hardest to break through and i just dont have the strength, they're all better off without me anyway

It very much sounds like you are suffering with depression pal. Have you spoken to your GP about your feelings and what remedies are available?

i tried online therapy, counselling, community mental health psychiactric nurse, even tried hypn0therapy. (hyp-no a banned word! wtf?)"

Sorry to hear. But you are still here and that counts in my book. Whilst I do not know whether being on Fab helps, I hope that it can. At least reading a thread like this can give a sense that many share similar plights.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

It was really nice to get a message when I awoke this morning from someone on this thread. I won’t name who but it was appreciated, just so they know I’ll keep an eye on their status. If you need me, I’ll be there to support in any way I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm incredibly lonely. Perhaps putting that very sentence out in the public domain is therapeutic...or just pathetic.

Oh well, life goes on until it doesn't

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By *ikerdude2017Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Yeah lonely guy here too. Being single sucks. And have to be thankful for the little things.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Aw sorry to here that OP

You are not alone though. Many many people have suffered losses and isolation these past few months.

It really does show who are your real friends eh. But chin up, and realise you don't need anyone to bring you happiness. I realised that long ago....

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

I have never felt so alone and isolated as I have over the last few months, and for me watching people get together and be in bubbles and move on not only made me lonelier but it also made me feel very out of place and unwanted.

I really hope everyone has started feeling happier and more involved in the world again xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear people are feeling like this!

I hate to think of anyone feeling alone or unwanted, here everyone fits.

Inbox open if anyone wants a friendly ear and chat, I can't promise to make things better but I might be able to make you feel a little less lonely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tomorrow do something for you, unapologetically just for you, to all that have contributed to the thread. I feel terribly lonely just now even being in a relationship but gonna get out on the bike for a long ride tomorrow

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By *rink Me xxWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

This really is a shit year for a lot of us. I definitely feel lonely and overwhelmed and sad a lot of the time. Big hugs OP and lets hope things will change for the better for us all!

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