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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull

Guys

Have you ever been approached by a woman or couple on here and turned them down or is it any holes a goal ? excuse the euro 2012 pun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeh everyone thats contacted me thus far. just havent been my cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he he, you gotta get over the first part of your question first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yeh everyone thats contacted me thus far. just havent been my cup of tea "

fancy some marmite?

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By *ild Bill Thickcock.Man
over a year ago

Wet Beaver Creek

we've approached couples and then turned them down after seeing pics, and it's happened to us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had guys turn me down not all men will shag anything

but then i do tend to go for guys that i suppose i know deep down are out of my league but hey, if you dont ask you dont get, or in my case i dont get either way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yeh everyone thats contacted me thus far. just havent been my cup of tea

fancy some marmite? "

dont mind it on toast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yeh everyone thats contacted me thus far. just havent been my cup of tea

fancy some marmite?

dont mind it on toast "

oh yes and then put it back in for another toasting.

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"ive had guys turn me down not all men will shag anything

but then i do tend to go for guys that i suppose i know deep down are out of my league but hey, if you dont ask you dont get, or in my case i dont get either way lol"
cant believe any guy is out of your league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive had guys turn me down not all men will shag anything

but then i do tend to go for guys that i suppose i know deep down are out of my league but hey, if you dont ask you dont get, or in my case i dont get either way lol cant believe any guy is out of your league"

oh gosh yeah i keep forgetting about that modeling contract i have lol

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By *U1966Man
over a year ago

Devon

I have turned down a couple on here and they didnt like it

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"Guys

Have you ever been approached by a woman or couple on here and turned them down. "

Yes, and the lesson learned is you never get a second opportunity.

Well, it was more of a request for a delay but still the same lesson.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I can't get a gallop on for someone then it is gonna be a no from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Trying to work out if you're being insulting to larger build ladies, but then i read in your prof you like BBW so your heavier than my car doesn't make sense? "

BBws are not huge like this woman was.

She made me (at 6'3" 15stone) look small in comparison. Yes I do have BBWs on my profile and there is nothing wrong with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive had guys turn me down not all men will shag anything

but then i do tend to go for guys that i suppose i know deep down are out of my league but hey, if you dont ask you dont get, or in my case i dont get either way lol"

You can play guitar hero and guys turn you down?

Oh dear.

I guess you should take up FIFA 12 then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Trying to work out if you're being insulting to larger build ladies, but then i read in your prof you like BBW so your heavier than my car doesn't make sense?

BBws are not huge like this woman was.

She made me (at 6'3" 15stone) look small in comparison. Yes I do have BBWs on my profile and there is nothing wrong with them.

"

i rest my case

its hard being so right all the time you know lol

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By *teve1339Man
over a year ago

Clophill

I can't imagine anyone turning you down nn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have known to be turned down, however, I am fully aware I am not everyone's cup of tea, and am not deluded about my own greatness la di da!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubby is very much a 1 chance only with my mrs kind of guy - ibthink it is the protectiveness coming out - if he feels that a guy thinks i am not good enough for them he wont get a chance to change his mind. i am much more forgiving but as we play together only it really matters not to the guys - still no if youve turned us down. rescheduling would be different though - life does get in the way sometimes for us all!

we have had guys turn us down as is thier personal choice, we arent to everyones taste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have known to be turned down, however, I am fully aware I am not everyone's cup of tea, and am not deluded about my own greatness la di da!

"

nobody is

we all get turned down and we all turn down its just a fact of being on here, if you cant handle someone saying no to you your on the wrong site

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"

Trying to work out if you're being insulting to larger build ladies, but then i read in your prof you like BBW so your heavier than my car doesn't make sense?

BBws are not huge like this woman was.

She made me (at 6'3" 15stone) look small in comparison. Yes I do have BBWs on my profile and there is nothing wrong with them.

"

Ah so there is something wrong with those people who don't fit your criteria of a BBW! nice one!

Charming!

Nice to know you dont have an issue with insulting people.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Too right. Don't just let anyone under my flag

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i have turned down women and couples here... so had patently not read my profile... some just didn't feel right... some i may finally get round to (planning issues)

I am in no ways gods gift at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OH NOES HE IS INSULTING THE RPECIOUS WOMENZ!!"

lmfao did u really just type that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""OH NOES HE IS INSULTING THE RPECIOUS WOMENZ!!"

lmfao did u really just type that "

you leave him alone at least he knows our place lol

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

[Removed by poster at 17/06/12 22:31:44]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I dont go out of my way calling fat people "hey fatty, got a stick for that arse?" You think like a liberal democrat and talk like one."

ok i must be missing something here but stick? whats a stick got to do with fat people's arses?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Oh give it up everyone and get back to the topic. The forum is going downhill with all the bitching in every thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think women are too fussy or some just think they are better than you when actully they ain't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think women are too fussy or some just think they are better than you when actully they ain't!"

i agree but we're talking about fussy men for a change lol

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"I think women are too fussy or some just think they are better than you when actully they ain't!

i agree but we're talking about fussy men for a change lol"

I can hear you

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Yes... I have standards.

They may not be high, but they are mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes... I have standards.

They may not be high, but they are mine."

no chance of a shag then?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Yes... I have standards.

They may not be high, but they are mine.

no chance of a shag then? "

Oh go on then.. Jump on

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I have known to be turned down, however, I am fully aware I am not everyone's cup of tea, and am not deluded about my own greatness la di da!

nobody is

we all get turned down and we all turn down its just a fact of being on here, if you cant handle someone saying no to you your on the wrong site "

Sadly, going by the numerous "why won't people meet me? posts, some people struggle to grasp they won't appeal to everyone: don't get it myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

iwould say every holes a goal,not just that surely this being a swinging site you have to go a little out of your comfort zone

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

To answer the OP, yes been turned down lots of times when I have made the first contact with people.

But the way I see it you cant have it both ways - I turn people down when they dont tickle my fancy so why should I expect them not to turn me down when I dont tickle theirs?...

I just move on to someone where there is mutual fancy tickling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turned a couple down and found it really funny

I was approached with

FACE PIC ! I started a forum because of it I replied with yes thanks have you !

I got no reply funnily enough

now if a guy said face pic to a woman couple how many do you think would answer but they expected me to do as I'm told as I might get a meet haha and they wonder where we get it from with asking fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"iwould say every holes a goal,not just that surely this being a swinging site you have to go a little out of your comfort zone"

Really?

Why should being on a swingers site mean you have to go out of what you feel is comfortable?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"

now if a guy said face pic to a woman couple how many do you think would answer but they expected me to do as I'm told as I might get a meet haha and they wonder where we get it from with asking fancy a fuck"

Thats very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive turned couples and women down in the past, just havent floated my boat, not all of us have the every hole a goal mentality....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iwould say every holes a goal,not just that surely this being a swinging site you have to go a little out of your comfort zone"

explain?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes... I have standards.

They may not be high, but they are mine.

no chance of a shag then?

Oh go on then.. Jump on "

whoo hoo i know today was worth getting up for, now bend over, which do you want lube or spit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iwould say every holes a goal,not just that surely this being a swinging site you have to go a little out of your comfort zone"

you speak for yourself.......

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Lube please.

Be right back I need to clean my teeth, had an extra spicy chicken vindaloo earlier.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lube please.

Be right back I need to clean my teeth, had an extra spicy chicken vindaloo earlier.

Good luck "

didnt have garlic in it did it?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Lube please.

Be right back I need to clean my teeth, had an extra spicy chicken vindaloo earlier.

Good luck

didnt have garlic in it did it? "

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely most on here have turned someone down at some point, I still get the odd gay couple or the over 50 club winking or messaging best one was a complete liar who only showed pics from a few years earlier where she was about 4 sizes smaller ..... Don't get me wrong I love curves but she took the biscuit cake and anything else she found in the kitchen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Trying to work out if you're being insulting to larger build ladies, but then i read in your prof you like BBW so your heavier than my car doesn't make sense?

BBws are not huge like this woman was.

She made me (at 6'3" 15stone) look small in comparison. Yes I do have BBWs on my profile and there is nothing wrong with them.

Ah so there is something wrong with those people who don't fit your criteria of a BBW! nice one!

Charming!

Nice to know you dont have an issue with insulting people.

Now I didn't see this as an insult to bbws...and I am one. Not nice to the person in question however..."

I'm confused. Where are the BBW comments coming from? Is there a crossed line somewhere and comments are going in the wrong thread?

Right back to watching View and Naughtynymphos get it on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right back to watching View and Naughtynymphos get it on..."

nah he stinks of garlic its put me right off

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Right back to watching View and Naughtynymphos get it on...

nah he stinks of garlic its put me right off "

I am a time waster and have had my internet wank ....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Any chance of a verification tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a really Fussy Bussy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nothing wrong with having criteria. provided you're not impolite about it!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes been turned down by single guys a few times when we have made first contact and also at parties....

Mr B is also far more choosy than me and says no to more people than I do.

Most men we know both in swinging and outside, don't have the any hole is a goal approach.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

A few years ago i had a friend phone me to see if i wanted to go dogging and i said no cause i was watching xfactor lol

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"ive had guys turn me down not all men will shag anything

but then i do tend to go for guys that i suppose i know deep down are out of my league but hey, if you dont ask you dont get, or in my case i dont get either way lol"

I hardly believe that you don't get any interest naughty. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

nobody is

we all get turned down and we all turn down its just a fact of being on here, if you cant handle someone saying no to you your on the wrong site "

I totally agree with this.

We should all be accepting of rejection.

I cannot understand why people would sit and wait to see what pops in their inbox. I've read the posts where people say 'I've had so many message me, I don't need to go looking' but can those people honestly say that they are only attracted to guys that message them. That they don't find anyone else on the site remotely fanciable.

I have no problem with it at all. There are many beautiful adonis type guys available on the swinging scene but it really doesn't matter if they want to play or not, my own sexy middle aged man is the only one that I care about whether he finds me attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Note to self......

Dont message apollo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys

Have you ever been approached by a woman or couple on here and turned them down or is it any holes a goal ? excuse the euro 2012 pun"

I've refused both women and couples - in a nice way but at the end of the day I have preferences too!

Some have taken it the right way - others have thrown a hissy fit and stropped, asked why and eventually blocked me!

I've also refused several that haven't asked to meet yet - always good to be prepared!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an extensive sift system which if the lucky lady has made it through, then its all systems go.

The extensive system is ........ if they reply back to my initial message lol

Ps. That was a joke.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"

I've also refused several that haven't asked to meet yet - always good to be prepared!!! "

That bit made me chuckle..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iwould say every holes a goal,not just that surely this being a swinging site you have to go a little out of your comfort zone

Really?

Why should being on a swingers site mean you have to go out of what you feel is comfortable? "

Well ermmm.....swinging is going out of ur comfort zone! It wouldn't be fun if it wasn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At first I was loathe to turn anyone down, but after a few meets I quickly decided to be fussy. Enjoyed meeting so much more !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day swinging just takes away boundaries and irritating small talk leaving more time for the fun bits...... however everything else remains the same, personal taste is unchanged and if theres no sexual attraction it just ain't happening!!

You could make liver and onions as freely available as you want.......I still wouldn't eat it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys

Have you ever been approached by a woman or couple on here and turned them down or is it any holes a goal ? excuse the euro 2012 pun"

On a regular basis and half I like the other half don't do it for me. There is nothing to say guys can't pick and choose the same as women.

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