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Stop moaning about winks !

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By *nlyThaBest OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've noticed an increasing moan on peoples profiles saying dont bother just winking and they will be deleted etc, these people should get a grip and stop thinking there so special !

A wink is a good introduction to finding out if the other party is interested or not, if they wink back then you can start to mail and talk. I've spent hours writing friendly / polite messages only for them to be deleted without the manners of even a thanks but no thanks ( snotty people ) rant over, feel much better now haha

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

A wink to someone that states they don't like them is not a way to find out if they're interested

Because they won't be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So that was a rant about a moan about the winkers that wink ?

I've confused myself now

Might I suggest a prozac and a lie down in a darkened room for half an hour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A wink to someone that states they don't like them is not a way to find out if they're interested

Because they won't be "

But, but, but, but Miss !

I thought all that changed if you ignored the fact they didn't react to the first 16 ?

The 17th is 'the killer wink'

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If i want to moan about getting a wink then i will cause it means the person hasnt read the part in my profile where it says no winks

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By *nlyThaBest OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"A wink to someone that states they don't like them is not a way to find out if they're interested

Because they won't be "

Confused.com, a wink as a hi isn't a way of saying I don't like you lol !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i want to moan about getting a wink then i will cause it means the person hasnt read the part in my profile where it says no winks"

Diamond, I almost saw you flounce out of the room then as you finished typing that

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By *nlyThaBest OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So that was a rant about a moan about the winkers that wink ?

I've confused myself now

Might I suggest a prozac and a lie down in a darkened room for half an hour "

Bloody hell I'm even confused now mate ! Think I will lie down lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A wink to someone that states they don't like them is not a way to find out if they're interested

Because they won't be

Confused.com, a wink as a hi isn't a way of saying I don't like you lol ! "

but not winking back is

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By *nlyThaBest OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"A wink to someone that states they don't like them is not a way to find out if they're interested

Because they won't be

But, but, but, but Miss !

I thought all that changed if you ignored the fact they didn't react to the first 16 ?

The 17th is 'the killer wink'"

I give up on 20 as a golden rule ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i want to moan about getting a wink then i will cause it means the person hasnt read the part in my profile where it says no winks"

No no no.....you must understand! He is saying you WILL accept winks, no question, no argument. He finds it a wonderful way of expressing interest. I presume because a) it requires no effort whatsoever. b) you don't have to type. c) you can be completely illiterate as the words are filled in for you.

See? It's a marvellous way to communicate! Now be told!

Or, you can do what I've done, and block the fool, just in case he ever moves into my part of the country!

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If i want to moan about getting a wink then i will cause it means the person hasnt read the part in my profile where it says no winks"

Totally agree

Although I dont actually moab about getting them... I've never even clicked to look at them

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By *nlyThaBest OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"If i want to moan about getting a wink then i will cause it means the person hasnt read the part in my profile where it says no winks

Totally agree

Although I dont actually moab about getting them... I've never even clicked to look at them "

Fair play then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i want to moan about getting a wink then i will cause it means the person hasnt read the part in my profile where it says no winks"

But it doesnt say No Wankers....

Yaaayyy!!! Result...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"If i want to moan about getting a wink then i will cause it means the person hasnt read the part in my profile where it says no winks

Diamond, I almost saw you flounce out of the room then as you finished typing that "

lol i never flounce, might delete my profile and come back as me lol

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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love


"If i want to moan about getting a wink then i will cause it means the person hasnt read the part in my profile where it says no winks"

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

How about a greyed out box for winks?

Tick if you want and it would save having to winge /gripe in your profile.

Can't be that difficult to include and your responsibility to tick if you want winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks should be deleted from the system. What on earth are they for? Bit like a lazy person's copy / paste.

If someone is of interest to you then write a carefully thought out message referring where possible to their own profile. If they don't reply then jog on to someone else. Cos if a mice message doesn't work a lazy half arsed Wink certainly won't.

As you can guess I never use them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'mice message'?

erm rodents needed apply ...

Meant 'nice message' of course

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

What about people like me? I don't get wink alerts

I don't even know when someone had given me a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about people like me? I don't get wink alerts

I don't even know when someone had given me a wink"

Has your spelling rapidly improved today

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"What about people like me? I don't get wink alerts

I don't even know when someone had given me a wink"
as long as you know when they have given you a wank ...;-)

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"Winks should be deleted from the system. What on earth are they for? Bit like a lazy person's copy / paste.

If someone is of interest to you then write a carefully thought out message referring where possible to their own profile. If they don't reply then jog on to someone else. Cos if a mice message doesn't work a lazy half arsed Wink certainly won't.

As you can guess I never use them! "


"Winks should be deleted from the system. What on earth are they for? Bit like a lazy person's copy / paste.

If someone is of interest to you then write a carefully thought out message referring where possible to their own profile. If they don't reply then jog on to someone else. Cos if a mice message doesn't work a lazy half arsed Wink certainly won't.

As you can guess I never use them! "

Sadly some of us may remember giving and receiving a wink across a busy bar or club or just out in the street.

You may see that person over a few/many days and it may lead to a wink and then a hello etc etc.

Don't tell me you've never been attracted whilst out and given it a few seconds before turning round to see if they do too!

Or do you go straight up to someone because you like the look of them and assume its reciprocated?

Winks do no harm what so ever! I have no objection to receiving them and I will either wink back, send a polite thanks or thanks but no thanks..

I wouldn't get all bent out of shape they way some do. As far as I was aware that if your sex is not selected on a profile you can't send a message or a wink.

Maybe those who complain should set their profs up correctly,now that would be refreshing!

I do realise that some will want contact but no winks so just go to your winks page and block all and then delete or simply ignore, how hard is it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If winks dont work on POF, they will never work on here.

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I never answer winks and never wink at anyone. They are pointless. I also usually answer any mail unless it's a stupid message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed an increasing moan on peoples profiles saying dont bother just winking and they will be deleted etc, these people should get a grip and stop thinking there so special !

A wink is a good introduction to finding out if the other party is interested or not, if they wink back then you can start to mail and talk. I've spent hours writing friendly / polite messages only for them to be deleted without the manners of even a thanks but no thanks ( snotty people ) rant over, feel much better now haha "

moaners are getting desperate these days. For example a post moaning about moaning. (winks n runs)

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Winks don't bother me at all

Ive met some great people on the strength of a wink,I think they're harmless ways of flirting,but understand that some people hate them,I just find them easy to ignore without feeling guilty about it and if I like the profile ill explore a little further to see what they're all about

Now friends requests without even speaking do my nut in

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"Winks don't bother me at all

Ive met some great people on the strength of a wink,I think they're harmless ways of flirting,but understand that some people hate them,I just find them easy to ignore without feeling guilty about it and if I like the profile ill explore a little further to see what they're all about

Now friends requests without even speaking do my nut in"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Winks don't bother me at all

Ive met some great people on the strength of a wink,I think they're harmless ways of flirting,but understand that some people hate them,I just find them easy to ignore without feeling guilty about it and if I like the profile ill explore a little further to see what they're all about

Now friends requests without even speaking do my nut in

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and winks accompanied by friend requests. like it was a passport or something

don't mind the winks at all though, good way for someone to invite you to look and see if you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like winks, its a cheeky way to say hello, like smiling at someone in a club.

Its a way to intice a response?

Though once, we winked at someone on here. The mail that they sent to us, the anger it conveyed was a little shocking for us tbh.

But hey, each to their own x

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford


"Now friends requests without even speaking do my nut in

+ and winks accompanied by friend requests. like it was a passport or something

"

Amen to that. If we accept (rarely) all we do is look at their pics and delete them.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

Sadly some of us may remember giving and receiving a wink across a busy bar or club or just out in the street.

You may see that person over a few/many days and it may lead to a wink and then a hello etc etc.

Don't tell me you've never been attracted whilst out and given it a few seconds before turning round to see if they do too!

Or do you go straight up to someone because you like the look of them and assume its reciprocated?

Winks do no harm what so ever! I have no objection to receiving them and I will either wink back, send a polite thanks or thanks but no thanks..

I wouldn't get all bent out of shape they way some do. As far as I was aware that if your sex is not selected on a profile you can't send a message or a wink.

Maybe those who complain should set their profs up correctly,now that would be refreshing!

I do realise that some will want contact but no winks so just go to your winks page and block all and then delete or simply ignore, how hard is it.

"

so your side goes.... hmmm.... so much for discussion then...

heres the other side of winks....

all that winks tell me personally is that you managed to find the wink button... nothing more...

doesn't tell me if you read the profile..

doesn't give me a reason to meet somoene....

doesn't show any personality...

I don't think it is one up from a copy/paste... because at least the copy/paste shows a minimum of effort...

I ignore them.. that is my right to do, just as some use them.... and bully for them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks for everyone in this thread. Yes I am such a flirt.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"We like winks, its a cheeky way to say hello, like smiling at someone in a club.

Its a way to intice a response?

Though once, we winked at someone on here. The mail that they sent to us, the anger it conveyed was a little shocking for us tbh.

But hey, each to their own x"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If i want to moan about getting a wink then i will cause it means the person hasnt read the part in my profile where it says no winks

No no no.....you must understand! He is saying you WILL accept winks, no question, no argument. He finds it a wonderful way of expressing interest. I presume because a) it requires no effort whatsoever. b) you don't have to type. c) you can be completely illiterate as the words are filled in for you.

See? It's a marvellous way to communicate! Now be told!

Or, you can do what I've done, and block the fool, just in case he ever moves into my part of the country!"

Saved me typing.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"

Sadly some of us may remember giving and receiving a wink across a busy bar or club or just out in the street.

You may see that person over a few/many days and it may lead to a wink and then a hello etc etc.

Don't tell me you've never been attracted whilst out and given it a few seconds before turning round to see if they do too!

Or do you go straight up to someone because you like the look of them and assume its reciprocated?

Winks do no harm what so ever! I have no objection to receiving them and I will either wink back, send a polite thanks or thanks but no thanks..

I wouldn't get all bent out of shape they way some do. As far as I was aware that if your sex is not selected on a profile you can't send a message or a wink.

Maybe those who complain should set their profs up correctly,now that would be refreshing!

I do realise that some will want contact but no winks so just go to your winks page and block all and then delete or simply ignore, how hard is it.

so your side goes.... hmmm.... so much for discussion then...

heres the other side of winks....

all that winks tell me personally is that you managed to find the wink button... nothing more...

doesn't tell me if you read the profile..

doesn't give me a reason to meet somoene....

doesn't show any personality...

I don't think it is one up from a copy/paste... because at least the copy/paste shows a minimum of effort...

I ignore them.. that is my right to do, just as some use them.... and bully for them...."

All valid reasons not to like winks....

Know tell

us that you've never ever winked at someone in your vanilla life or at a swing club. Could be a raised brow or a smile when you've caught their eye or they've caught yours?

You know nothing about them do you.

You dont even know if you speak the same language.

Depending on the response you get you or they take the next step,

What is probably the most common expression between people that promotes a positive response?

I think it's a smile,well we dont have one of those as a means of first contact but we do have winks.

I suppose some will get arsey when someone who they don't know smiles at them too.

Sad really.

But they have every right to be arsey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Winks for everyone in this thread. Yes I am such a flirt. "

How dare you oppress us with your random winkage???

And where's mine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont moan about winks i dont respond to them tho

i never understand what im supposed to do when i get a wink

do i wink back? am i supposed to mail them thanking them for the wink? if someone winks me is it cause they like me? or have they just winked every women on the site in the hope at least one will wink back and if i do will they even remember winking me or will they not care who i am so long as im female and shown a interest?

Its all to confusing for me to i pass them by

I dont really want to start mailing someone just because i was the only women out of the 100 winks he block send who responded to him

so tho i dont mind they i dont respond to them in any way i just look to see if anyone nice has winked me lol

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If someone who is already on my hotlist winks at me, I wink them back.

If they want to send me a message then, fine. If they dont want to send me a message then, fine.

Other than that I just ignore them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont moan about winks i dont respond to them tho

i never understand what im supposed to do when i get a wink

do i wink back? am i supposed to mail them thanking them for the wink? if someone winks me is it cause they like me? or have they just winked every women on the site in the hope at least one will wink back and if i do will they even remember winking me or will they not care who i am so long as im female and shown a interest?

Its all to confusing for me to i pass them by

I dont really want to start mailing someone just because i was the only women out of the 100 winks he block send who responded to him

so tho i dont mind they i dont respond to them in any way i just look to see if anyone nice has winked me lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone who is already on my hotlist winks at me, I wink them back.

If they want to send me a message then, fine. If they dont want to send me a message then, fine.

Other than that I just ignore them. "

i get guys who i have met wink me

whats that all about, why would you wink someone you have already met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone who is already on my hotlist winks at me, I wink them back.

If they want to send me a message then, fine. If they dont want to send me a message then, fine.

Other than that I just ignore them.

i get guys who i have met wink me

whats that all about, why would you wink someone you have already met?"

to show you are forever in their thoughts? how romantic some guys are.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"

i get guys who i have met wink me

whats that all about, why would you wink someone you have already met?"

When that happens I just assume its a way of letting me know I havent killed them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A wink to someone that states they don't like them is not a way to find out if they're interested

Because they won't be "

ha ha just read this one again and killing myself laughing thinking about peeps who don't like winks. There is so much fkg shit in this life and they don't like winks!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ah i just thought it ment oi dont forget me i want another shag lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and i thought it was just me, i agree entirely that its such a waste of time writing and being polite and they totally ignore you

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"ah i just thought it ment oi dont forget me i want another shag lol"

and that can be the other reason

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"

i get guys who i have met wink me

whats that all about, why would you wink someone you have already met?

When that happens I just assume its a way of letting me know I havent killed them "

You need to try harder next time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A wink to someone that states they don't like them is not a way to find out if they're interested

Because they won't be "

agreed

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