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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull

How many of your meets are where you contact the other people first or do you always make your choice from who contacts you ?

Please can we have a rule where for every other meet the ladies and couples have to message a guy first and make the running, a guy can dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seldom make the first move.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Only ever contacted a guy once regarding a meet and that was over six years ago and i still see him now although not as often due to work commitments

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

[Removed by poster at 17/06/12 17:32:09]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last message I sent was 3 days ago and I rarely do.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Id guess that about 50%-ish of the people that Ive met are people where I have made the first contact.

I prefer to look for what I want, rather than wait to see what I am offered.

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"Id guess that about 50%-ish of the people that Ive met are people where I have made the first contact.

I prefer to look for what I want, rather than wait to see what I am offered."

wow fair play i didnt think a lady would be that high a % of sorting own fun but it makes sence

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

always wait for someone to contact us .. is that totally lazy ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look for men in the advanced search its a two way street why wait for the guys lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made first contact in the past...no point at the mo obviously but as soon as I'm meeting again I have a massive 'Hotlist' to pester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

last 3 meets ive had the woman has contacted me first.

i guess if she likes the look of you then she will make the first move.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Id guess that about 50%-ish of the people that Ive met are people where I have made the first contact.

I prefer to look for what I want, rather than wait to see what I am offered.

wow fair play i didnt think a lady would be that high a % of sorting own fun but it makes sence"

I removed my first post because I originally guessed at about 80%, but then I had a quick look at my friends list and its really about half and half...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I count putting up a meet as making the first move.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never make the first move, I cant cope with the messages as it is!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I contact them .. sometimes they contact me

I guess I could say ' no Im wildly popular and I pick and choose'

but that would be bollocks !!!!

I like to find people myself ...

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Sometimes I contact them .. sometimes they contact me

I guess I could say ' no Im wildly popular and I pick and choose'

but that would be bollocks !!!!

I like to find people myself ... "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Id guess that about 50%-ish of the people that Ive met are people where I have made the first contact.

I prefer to look for what I want, rather than wait to see what I am offered."

Same here

But if we are honest it's only been the last 2 years or so that we have started contacting people that we like the look of. Used to wait and see who contacted us....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I am interested in chatting to someone I will message them.

I don't get this waiting for men to make the first move business. For todays apparent 'modern woman' and being on a swinging site where nsa and sexual freedom are what its all about, I fail to understand why women won't message men and hint or just sit back and wait for whoever comes along in their inbox.

I personally think its the fear of rejection and again that seems odd when don't we all agree that its ok to reject someone and accept it ourselves

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I've made the first move a few times recently. Nothings come of it yet - soon hopefully

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

iv never made the first move,but there are a couple of Men im very interested in,so maybe i will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iv never made the first move,but there are a couple of Men im very interested in,so maybe i will "

noted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often message people I'm interested in....I can't see the point of sitting around waiting.

Faint heart never won fair master!!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"How many of your meets are where you contact the other people first or do you always make your choice from who contacts you ?

Please can we have a rule where for every other meet the ladies and couples have to message a guy first and make the running, a guy can dream

"

I never make the first move. I know I'm going to meet from the first message generally.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've never made first contact. It takes all my time reading / replying to the mails that I get...

Although, if I didnt spend as much time here in the forums I may have time to perve..... I mean browse

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