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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

My friends and I discussed what constitutes true 'swinging' . What's your thoughts/opinions/ideas about swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a slut lol x

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Being judged that you’re not a true swinger by people who claim to be true swingers

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By *asmine73Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"My friends and I discussed what constitutes true 'swinging' . What's your thoughts/opinions/ideas about swinging? "

Whatever you want it to be and whatever works for you. I do so hate people trying to define or label everything (not a dig at you op .... Just my opinion)

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I think it is whatever you want it to be no one is going to have the same opinion as you anyway

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

My experience thus far has been those that throw the term around have been the ones who use that term to cover up shitty manipulative behaviour. It's been a diversion to absolve themselves of responsibility of causing hurt or harm.

On that note, I'm really fucking glad I'm not a "true/real swinger"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience of being a swinger:

Was in a couple, we played and swapped with other couples and sometimes had singles join us

As a single:

I join in with couples, I meet singles but only in swinger clubs and usually play publically.

This is how I do it, others can do it however they choose

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Swinging , to me, HAS to involve more than one person, cos wanking and crying into your coffee doesn't count. Therefore it's not about the sexual acts.

It can't be just two people either cos otherwise the vicar and his wife have been at it for years.

I don't even think doggers can claim to be swingers but I do think that swingers can claim to be doggers. .....

Hmmmmmm I guess in the end...... no matter what your social grouping or no matter what your sexual preferences, swinging is simply SEX uncomplicated by commitment or jealousy.

It's like........ yeah your boyfriend can cook your curry tonight but if you want it cooked by your friend from work next week then that causes no problems...... sex is part of life and we all own our own body.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

B.T.W........ my post above doesn't excuse those that made commitments or promises to others from wearing the label of lying, cheating, manipulating deal breaker...

I've no time for them.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Swinging is different things for us all ....depends on what scene your into ...and what your looking for ...every body is at different stages and levels ...depending on experience /age etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything outside the definition of a monogamous relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything outside the definition of a monogamous relationship? "

As long as both partners are aware if you are part of a couple.

Otherwise surely it is cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything outside the definition of a monogamous relationship?

As long as both partners are aware if you are part of a couple.

Otherwise surely it is cheating?

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Very true

But then, Both partners or all partners?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything outside the definition of a monogamous relationship?

As long as both partners are aware if you are part of a couple.

Otherwise surely it is cheating?

Very true

But then, Both partners or all partners?

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If one partner is playing alone, then if their life partner knows and it is fine then all is cool.

If a partner is playing without the knowledge of his life partner, then surely that is cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being judged that you’re not a true swinger by people who claim to be true swingers "

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By *otmale5Man
over a year ago

glasgow

For us it was a means of socialising with friends who also enjoyed sex.. The guys had their own five aside football team and often went out for a pint together..The ladies had their wine and gossip nights .. it’s wasn’t all about sex ..

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


" it’s wasn’t all about sex .. "

Music to my ears.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I believe Sydney University have published a paper on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is whatever you want it to be no one is going to have the same opinion as you anyway "

This 100%

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

You're not a true swinger unless you've shagged someone's wife and he gave you a high five and a slice of cake after.

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4


"For us it was a means of socialising with friends who also enjoyed sex.. The guys had their own five aside football team and often went out for a pint together..The ladies had their wine and gossip nights .. it’s wasn’t all about sex .. "

As newbies, this is exactly what we’re hoping to experience, socialising with like minded friends that add a bit extra to our marriage. so fingers crossed for our swinging journey.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I go back and forth on the subject...

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4


"I go back and forth on the subject..."

And your polar opinions are?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I go back and forth on the subject...

And your polar opinions are? "

Only afew can explain it... must be too profound to explain I guess

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"You're not a true swinger unless you've shagged someone's wife and he gave you a high five and a slice of cake after. "

Rather generous of him to give you a piece of cake, hopefully washed down with a cup of tea as sex can make you rather thirsty

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"For us it was a means of socialising with friends who also enjoyed sex.. The guys had their own five aside football team and often went out for a pint together..The ladies had their wine and gossip nights .. it’s wasn’t all about sex ..

As newbies, this is exactly what we’re hoping to experience, socialising with like minded friends that add a bit extra to our marriage. so fingers crossed for our swinging journey. "

Good luck, hope you have a fabulous time on fab. Seems couples definitely get the better deal than single men

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By *cottishsparkMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"You're not a true swinger unless you've shagged someone's wife and he gave you a high five and a slice of cake after. "

Is the cake an important part of you don’t get that are you not a swinger 0.o

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I believe Sydney University have published a paper on this. "

No idea how to get hold of such journals but sounds bit of enigma.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"You're not a true swinger unless you've shagged someone's wife and he gave you a high five and a slice of cake after.

Is the cake an important part of you don’t get that are you not a swinger 0.o "

Apparently so... but hey everyone got different opinions that makes swinging indescribable

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"You're not a true swinger unless you've shagged someone's wife and he gave you a high five and a slice of cake after.

Is the cake an important part of you don’t get that are you not a swinger 0.o "

Yes it is. Without it you're just a sparkling non-monogamist.

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By *iceGuy78xMan
over a year ago

Stroud


"You're not a true swinger unless you've shagged someone's wife and he gave you a high five and a slice of cake after. "

Does a bacon sandwich the morning after count??

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"You're not a true swinger unless you've shagged someone's wife and he gave you a high five and a slice of cake after.

Does a bacon sandwich the morning after count?? "

Technically no but you can get away with it if you at least got a cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socialising and enjoying sex for what it is

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Socialising and enjoying sex for what it is"

i think that's a great and true comment. enjoying sex for what it's really for doesn't necessarily mean you need to be married or in love to enjoy sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've rigged up a biy of old climbing rope and i have a splendid swing in the woods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is whatever you want it to be no one is going to have the same opinion as you anyway

This 100%"

I agree

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I've rigged up a biy of old climbing rope and i have a splendid swing in the woods "

You engage in outdoor woodland swinging? .. Are you not concerned about other dog walkers reporting you? As is it true you can be prosecuted for indecent exposure if a member of public files a report?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"My friends and I discussed what constitutes true 'swinging' . What's your thoughts/opinions/ideas about swinging? "

It's a very broad term that involves sexual experiences with somebody other than your own partner, consented to be all relevant parties.

There are some things which definitely are swinging, such as two couples swapping partners. There are other things which some people might choose to identify as swinging and others won't, such as having multiple sexual partners.

It's a very broad term and I don't think you will get a precise definition everybody will agree on. Some people will idintify as swingers and some won't even though they do the same things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's fucking anyone you like then moving on .

Yeah you can go back if it's good , if it's shite then WHOOO CARES ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s so difficult and will upset most as some on here are not swingers whatsoever. Just people trying their luck to get laid.

The closest to traditional definition is a couple who are supposed to be monogamous and are not.

But it’s far not complicated than that.

Most single guys are here are not swingers whatsoever, just guys on a site for sex trying to have sex.

As Fab lets anyone join and give them

Money, it’s broad in its users. Therefore this site is not a good example of swingers. Although there’s are swingers on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Socialising and enjoying sex for what it is

i think that's a great and true comment. enjoying sex for what it's really for doesn't necessarily mean you need to be married or in love to enjoy sex"

So the Queen and Prince Phillip / all the world population are swingers then?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Socialising and enjoying sex for what it is

i think that's a great and true comment. enjoying sex for what it's really for doesn't necessarily mean you need to be married or in love to enjoy sex

So the Queen and Prince Phillip / all the world population are swingers then? "

Philip wouldn’t need telling twice

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By *ll.night.longCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We would say it’s experimenting in your comfort zone and being comfortable in your own skin to play with others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a thought too that just because you join swingers in sex, doesn’t make you a swinger yourself.

Again, a single guy joins a couple who are swingers and has sex with the lady of the couple. Nothing unusual here as the single guy has previously had sex with women. This time though a husband is present.

That doesn’t make him a swinger, just common sexual activity that’s a bit kinky.

This site is full of this and the reason women / couples get bombarded with messages.

It’s not black and white that’s the problem. But it cannot be plain old vanilla sex or slightly kinky sex.

Again, does having 1 threesome make it swinging or a one off? Even if it’s all singles or couples?

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By *othicslaveCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"My friends and I discussed what constitutes true 'swinging' . What's your thoughts/opinions/ideas about swinging?

Whatever you want it to be and whatever works for you. I do so hate people trying to define or label everything (not a dig at you op .... Just my opinion)"

everyone is different and situation is also, no one should be judged UNLESS its out of context or illegal or involves exploitation ect then I am not in agreement. (In its many forms) as adults we KNOW what they are...

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I think singles get a bad rap. I’m a single and many would call me ‘not a swinger’ and ‘just looking for sex’... that said I’ve been on here for about 15 years with both couples and single profiles (depending on my real life relationship status). During this time I have engaged with the scene, organised parties and events and introduced others to the scene.

I think there ARE single swingers but I think the line is if you view this as a ‘sex site’ (pet hate) or not xx

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By *otmale5Man
over a year ago

glasgow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You fuck my wife i fuck your wife true swinging simple as.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me swinging is defined as more than two people. Not necessarily a threesome it could be hotwifing etc

But two single people having sex is not swinging that's just shagging.

Swinging is where a couple may involve another couple or one or more singles or visa versa.

Again just my opinion.

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By *amie_leighWoman
over a year ago

coventry


"Swinging , to me, HAS to involve more than one person, cos wanking and crying into your coffee doesn't count. Therefore it's not about the sexual acts.

It can't be just two people either cos otherwise the vicar and his wife have been at it for years.

I don't even think doggers can claim to be swingers but I do think that swingers can claim to be doggers. .....

Hmmmmmm I guess in the end...... no matter what your social grouping or no matter what your sexual preferences, swinging is simply SEX uncomplicated by commitment or jealousy.

It's like........ yeah your boyfriend can cook your curry tonight but if you want it cooked by your friend from work next week then that causes no problems...... sex is part of life and we all own our own body. "

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