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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?"

Yes it’s not allowed. Ever.

That was a sarcastic comment btw. Of course it’s a reasonable thing to want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. But it's not everyone's way of doing things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I've done it before with someone before meeting.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"No. But it's not everyone's way of doing things."

This totally

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"No. But it's not everyone's way of doing things."

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just being made to feel a tad paranoid!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. But it's not everyone's way of doing things."

True if I was meeting you I would want a bum picture, so I knew where the majority of time my face would be spending

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a reasonable request x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but some get shy on the phone or won’t give out their number. Maybe a voice message to start with? I’ve done phone calls but until I know someone I feel a little rabbit in the headlight chatting on the phone and prefer voice messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, all fair comments. I'll step back and reconsider!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do things your way and if they don’t like it then move on.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd not meet someone who wouldn't chat on the phone first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?"
no I have phone chat with someone before I meet to make us both relax more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, all fair comments. I'll step back and reconsider!"

You really shouldn't change your way of doing things to fit others. There are plenty of people to choose from. Someone you don't need to compromise for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?"

No I don’t think so, it’s really not a big deal to chat to someone on the phone, if someone had a problem with it then obviously something isn’t quite right, then just move on to someone who will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, all fair comments. I'll step back and reconsider!"

If you're happy enough to give your number, they can ring you with their number witheld of that is their stumbling block. I'm not keen talking on the phone beforehand but have done.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

It baffles me how someone would want to meet with a view to a bunkup yet baulk at a phonecall but it happens.

If it's important for you to have that phone chat first then stick to your guns op.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm glad it baffles (some) others. Personally I think you can suss someone out far better from a one to one conversation than by messaging. Hey ho!

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

If that’s how you want to operate then that’s absolutely fine OP, do things the way you feel comfortable with. Even if other people don’t agree.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

It's 100% your choice in what you do/don't feel comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is your life, your meet.

I have been compromising on my wants when interacting with people recently and I have pissed myself off because of it.

Gloves ( and filters) are back on!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is too shy for a quick phone call they're gonna be shit in person....

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?"
We usually go for a quick phone call to find out who we may be meeting ..if they are a couple get to speak to both in advance .xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll usually do a quick video call tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My DD requested phone calls pretty soon after we connected.. I am so not a telephone person and really didn't want to do it. But he was very patient ... I eventually, reluctantly, agreed to give him my number. The first few calls were totally steered by him, to my relief.. and to my surprise we talked for hours and hours.. Which quickly turned into long calls every couple of days and i soon got over my anxiety / reluctance

Suggest you have some open, probing topics ready to keep the conversation going... My biggest anxiety was that he would call me at work... So we fixed a day and a time... It also meant i could make sure i wasn't in the supermarket or driving, so that i could immerse myself in the experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s unreasonable. If it’s what you want to do and they refuse I’d say don’t bother. Although if someone asked me to video call I wouldn’t do it. I don’t like it and I’m not comfortable with it. If they didn’t want to meet me because of that it’s not a problem though.

Up to you really x

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?"

I’d do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the past I use to ask women if they would like to chat on the phone and almost everyone of them didn't want to do it.

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By *edHeadedFunWoman
over a year ago

Didsbury

I am so awkward on the phone with people I don't know but if someone really wants a quick call prior to a social I am happy to oblige.

But when they try to turn the call into phone sex (even after warning them prior it isn't for me) I put it straight down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you're not at the stage where you can do a quick two minute call to make someone feel comfortable and safe about meeting you then chances are you're not really ready for the privilege of meeting or shagging them either. It's just basic respect. This would usually happen naturally for me anyway when getting to know someone and before even thinking of arranging a meeting and it's never been an issue..... .....being shy isn't a good enough excuse to compromise on your safety and maybe by doing the call a person will help overcome that shyness and some ice will be broken, or maybe you'll save yourself a wasted trip....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not being unreasonable. I wouldn't meet without a small video chat to make sure you are chatting with said person.

I get so anxious on the phone but I honestly couldn't meet without a quick hello!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you're not at the stage where you can do a quick two minute call to make someone feel comfortable and safe about meeting you then chances are you're not really ready for the privilege of meeting or shagging them either. It's just basic respect. This would usually happen naturally for me anyway when getting to know someone and before even thinking of arranging a meeting and it's never been an issue..... .....being shy isn't a good enough excuse to compromise on your safety and maybe by doing the call a person will help overcome that shyness and some ice will be broken, or maybe you'll save yourself a wasted trip.... "

Yesssss Nippy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you're not at the stage where you can do a quick two minute call to make someone feel comfortable and safe about meeting you then chances are you're not really ready for the privilege of meeting or shagging them either. It's just basic respect. This would usually happen naturally for me anyway when getting to know someone and before even thinking of arranging a meeting and it's never been an issue..... .....being shy isn't a good enough excuse to compromise on your safety and maybe by doing the call a person will help overcome that shyness and some ice will be broken, or maybe you'll save yourself a wasted trip....

Yesssss Nippy! "

Is that a yesssss to bum fun if I video call your anus first....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's reasonable to ask but it would put me off as I don't use the phone for that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you're not at the stage where you can do a quick two minute call to make someone feel comfortable and safe about meeting you then chances are you're not really ready for the privilege of meeting or shagging them either. It's just basic respect. This would usually happen naturally for me anyway when getting to know someone and before even thinking of arranging a meeting and it's never been an issue..... .....being shy isn't a good enough excuse to compromise on your safety and maybe by doing the call a person will help overcome that shyness and some ice will be broken, or maybe you'll save yourself a wasted trip....

Yesssss Nippy!

Is that a yesssss to bum fun if I video call your anus first....? "

I can bend over and draw eyes and a nose on my booty and then make my anus look like a mouth you would never forget the image!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it's reasonable to ask but it would put me off as I don't use the phone for that lol "

This said I would happily do a video call .... Just not a phonecall.

I feel like socials are for this though

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

To be fair, I detest talking on the phone. It was a happy day when text messages were invented. I'd much rather a face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And mines nothing to do with shyness I've always had a massive aversion to talking on the phone. I have autism and I can't read people without seeing faces.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you're not at the stage where you can do a quick two minute call to make someone feel comfortable and safe about meeting you then chances are you're not really ready for the privilege of meeting or shagging them either. It's just basic respect. This would usually happen naturally for me anyway when getting to know someone and before even thinking of arranging a meeting and it's never been an issue..... .....being shy isn't a good enough excuse to compromise on your safety and maybe by doing the call a person will help overcome that shyness and some ice will be broken, or maybe you'll save yourself a wasted trip....

Yesssss Nippy!

Is that a yesssss to bum fun if I video call your anus first....?

I can bend over and draw eyes and a nose on my booty and then make my anus look like a mouth you would never forget the image! "

Pwoawrrrrrr! and you know I'll tie strings on my cock and balls and glue on googly eyes and move them around like a marionette while I do that special fake Nippy voice for you that I did in my voice video.....;-)

(I'm actually genuinely half hard at that thought.... )

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?"

It’s not unreasonable but it’s not something I’d want to do. I’d probably counter offer a video call if I wanted to progress things.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?

It’s not unreasonable but it’s not something I’d want to do. I’d probably counter offer a video call if I wanted to progress things. "

Should say though... to me this is kind of the point of a social...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Pwoawrrrrrr! and you know I'll tie strings on my cock and balls and glue on googly eyes and move them around like a marionette while I do that special fake Nippy voice for you that I did in my voice video.....;-)

(I'm actually genuinely half hard at that thought.... ) "

I worry about me and you sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Pwoawrrrrrr! and you know I'll tie strings on my cock and balls and glue on googly eyes and move them around like a marionette while I do that special fake Nippy voice for you that I did in my voice video.....;-)

(I'm actually genuinely half hard at that thought.... )

I worry about me and you sometimes."

I think we should probably shag and get it all out the way so we can rest easy....

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I prefer to swap numbers and chat on the phone before any meet. What are you doing tonight Nippy?

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Always find that it’s an absolute must. A voice tells you a lot and a bad one can be a turn off...

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Your meet ..your rules

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?"
no you aren't. I like to message a bit here or other messaging sites before arranging a social. I can't always talk on the phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to swap numbers and chat on the phone before any meet. What are you doing tonight Nippy? "

Will you do the bum drawing thing for me....?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No. I've never met anyone without a phone chat first.

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

Back in the day it would be reverse charges, and God forbid your on a party line

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?"

Always do this, some voices I could not stand to listen too, so not going to spend an hour or so listening to it...and only speaking for myself, but it also breaks the ice in a way too

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

I wouldn't give out my phone number. Chat on here and on kik before meeting. But we always meet as a couple, so it's safer for us I guess

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I don’t meet without a call and a call will usually be within a few days of starting chatting. I can’t be bothered with endless messaging and I’m definitely not going to invest time in meeting up with someone without sussing them out with a call

It makes it clear on my profile that I expect this and almost always guys are happy with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phone conversation's are part of the build up to a successful connection. It's good to talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Phone conversation's are part of the build up to a successful connection. It's good to talk"

I make no apologies for being a bit weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?"

Yes.

No talk, suck.

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By *elly72Woman
over a year ago

glasgow


"Just being made to feel a tad paranoid!!!!"

Maybe there’s a reason to be paranoid maybe it’s your gut telling you something ain’t right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just being made to feel a tad paranoid!!!!

Maybe there’s a reason to be paranoid maybe it’s your gut telling you something ain’t right "

I get that with pork scratchings

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if you're not at the stage where you can do a quick two minute call to make someone feel comfortable and safe about meeting you then chances are you're not really ready for the privilege of meeting or shagging them either. It's just basic respect. This would usually happen naturally for me anyway when getting to know someone and before even thinking of arranging a meeting and it's never been an issue..... .....being shy isn't a good enough excuse to compromise on your safety and maybe by doing the call a person will help overcome that shyness and some ice will be broken, or maybe you'll save yourself a wasted trip.... "
Exactly! ALL of the above. Thankyou!

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

It’s not unreasonable but I’ve never be requested to have one. Plenty of chatting on a messaging platform but no voice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just being made to feel a tad paranoid!!!!"

Stick to your guns. It's the way I've always done it and always will.

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Ask yourself something ... if they can’t chat on the phone ... what are they gonna be like in person? I think it’s a reasonable request ... if someone said no I’d question it ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your meet, your choice.

I've never done calls before a meet but that's my preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?"

I will only meet after at least one phonecard, if they don't want to, we don't meet. Up to them

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

I rarely give my number out before having met someone for a coffee and or face chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?

I will only meet after at least one phonecard, if they don't want to, we don't meet. Up to them"

Okay if you I insist. Number?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?

I will only meet after at least one phonecard, if they don't want to, we don't meet. Up to them

Okay if you I insist. Number? "

Or did you want a phone card

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By *ingle_docMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Agreed

“Hi! I’d like to put my cock in you but can’t stomach a quick phone call....”

Alarm bells

I find it adds to the excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?

I will only meet after at least one phonecard, if they don't want to, we don't meet. Up to them"

I've spoken with you on the phone, just remembered.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being unreasonable in requesting a short phone conversation with someone prior to arranging a social, whenever that is?

I will only meet after at least one phonecard, if they don't want to, we don't meet. Up to them

I've spoken with you on the phone, just remembered..... "

Still waiting for the sex.....

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