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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmmm soooooo many men women dont reply Haha or even look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since I stopped sending messages about meeting, they all reply!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Hmmm soooooo many men women dont reply Haha or even look "

A lot will look at a profile in stealth mode before deciding whether to reply. I just did this with your profile OP, I won't show on your who's looked at me. Also by replying no thanks politely, this potentially opens up the why not and or abuse. Hope this answers your question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0.01 replies per 10 sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seldom message anyone first but as it happens I’ve just sent off a piece of literary genius to a forum lady I think would be very interesting to know.

I’ll keep you updated on a response if you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every single one, but I'm only messaging ppl I already know now in general.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like none

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

i reply to on average a day... about 2 out of 100 messages sent to me

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"0.01 replies per 10 sent "

Get back in those chat rooms lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

13/10

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

I let the women/couples message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"0.01 replies per 10 sent

Get back in those chat rooms lol. "

Make me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seldom message anyone first but as it happens I’ve just sent off a piece of literary genius to a forum lady I think would be very interesting to know.

I’ll keep you updated on a response if you like "

Oh dear, it seems in my meticulous preparation of said message that the lady of my desire has gone off line.

In my favour though she has viewed my profile in the last 10 minutes so I’m still reasonably hopeful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to alot of the msgs i get ( I type quick)

Most have little to say apart from " I'm horny and bored"

Yawn

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Depends on who the messages are from or who we are sending them to. To friends we always get a reply. If cold messaging we get roughly a reply to 1 in 3 messages sent.

We always reply to messages unless they are rude or the person has been rold a number of times we are not interested in which case we tend to block.

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay


"Depends on who the messages are from or who we are sending them to. To friends we always get a reply. If cold messaging we get roughly a reply to 1 in 3 messages sent.

We always reply to messages unless they are rude or the person has been rold a number of times we are not interested in which case we tend to block. "

Oooh tempted, couldn't be bothered reading all your profile though, am I supposed to put elephant or something similar in the subject?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

statistically speaking, zero.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Out or 50 I might get few replys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out or 50 I might get few replys "

Why do you think that is?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not that ugly am I?! Lol also i send polite message and not a rude character so not sure why !

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Depends on who the messages are from or who we are sending them to. To friends we always get a reply. If cold messaging we get roughly a reply to 1 in 3 messages sent.

We always reply to messages unless they are rude or the person has been rold a number of times we are not interested in which case we tend to block.

Oooh tempted, couldn't be bothered reading all your profile though, am I supposed to put elephant or something similar in the subject?"

You can put elephant in the message if you wish but no dont bother playing those games. However, if you had read the profile you would know we are not looking for single guys.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'm not that ugly am I?! Lol also i send polite message and not a rude character so not sure why ! "

its not even that... it could be a million reasons why she didn't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont msg 10 a day but probably 6/10 reply on average

Probably the same msging back

I do try reply to as many as I can x

I take no offense is someone dosnt msg back thou

We all like different shapes and sizes xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i sent 10 in a week maybeeee 1 reply if its a good week.. But like most sites ladies get flooded sooo it's to be expected.. This is my excuse and I'm sticking to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have found most reply, but women are the worst for not. just find it rude, even a no would be nice, we always reply to every message.

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Depends if we've chatted before. Those people tend to reply. From a first time message, maybe 1 in 20 or 30.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

On average, about zero.

But then many got loads of messages so it might not even be down to me some of the time

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

Quite simply men outnumber women.

So it be successful you have have a profile that stands out from the pack.

Photos, Profile content all inclusive.

Its amazing to see some men on here bemoan that nobody responds to them when their profile content is a line and a half that basically says 'Hi, I'm genuine and looking for a shag.'

Per every 100 messages I send to females and couples I'd get maybe 8-15 replies. Most of them are a polite no thanks.

I strike a genuine connection with a female/couple once every couple of months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far 1, from a reply to a forum post. Half of the small number I've sent haven't been opened as of yet

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"we have found most reply, but women are the worst for not. just find it rude, even a no would be nice, we always reply to every message."

but when you get over 50 a day, writing no thanks becomes increasingly tiring and makes you jaded... plus some men give you proper abuse for saying no thanks or they pester you constantly because you replied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some of the messages we get from guys are laughable, and to the men on here, you wouldnt believe it, but its true .im horney, of fancy a fuck etc, dont know why they think thats going to work, but we always reply, even if its a no thanks

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

even this question gets asked at least once a week on this forum...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we have found most reply, but women are the worst for not. just find it rude, even a no would be nice, we always reply to every message.

but when you get over 50 a day, writing no thanks becomes increasingly tiring and makes you jaded... plus some men give you proper abuse for saying no thanks or they pester you constantly because you replied "

we probably get similar, if we arent interested we say no thanks then block, there is no excuse for ignoring, if you say no atleast they know where they stand, and if you block them its all over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but i do understand your point, some messages are just funny, they are so rude and bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 out of 10, those that delete without reply i block so I have no need to annoy them should I forget I'd messaged them previously.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford


"Hmmm soooooo many men women dont reply Haha or even look "

To be fair when we get messages with no punctuation, ones we have to read a few times before we can understand it, we tend not to reply.

On a more serious note, we tend to get about a 50% response rate to messages we send. We understand we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea, and despite reading profiles we’re human and get it wrong sometimes.

We do reply to all the messages we receive that deserve a reply though, even if it’s a polite no thanks.

I guess the way to look at it is this, would you reply to yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"7 out of 10, those that delete without reply i block so I have no need to annoy them should I forget I'd messaged them previously.

"

On any where the receiver reads and deletes I put a note on to remind me they aren't interested and move on. The ones that are opened and not deleted I'll leave where they are so if I go to message again then that'll be my reminder and hope lives eternal that they read, we're busy and we'll come back in a bit.

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By *nblemishedhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

Honestly most of the messages guy's send out aren't worth a reply. And that's simply because they can't be bothered to read profiles.

Oh ill go on fab and get a shag within days of joining.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

It's very rare that I don't get a reply, the joys of being a woman on fab I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly most of the messages guy's send out aren't worth a reply. And that's simply because they can't be bothered to read profiles.

Oh ill go on fab and get a shag within days of joining. "

you are forgetting its not a swinging site, its instashag with no effort, init peeps

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I get a reasonable amount of replies, but usually it’s just a quick chat in response to something in the forums.

People are generally nice, I find, when I send something sensible.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"0.01 replies per 10 sent

Get back in those chat rooms lol.

Make me "

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By *anchez1197Man
over a year ago

Horsham


"0.01 replies per 10 sent "

I would day the same, most ladies dont reply to me

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

About 7

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Depends on who the messages are from or who we are sending them to. To friends we always get a reply. If cold messaging we get roughly a reply to 1 in 3 messages sent.

We always reply to messages unless they are rude or the person has been rold a number of times we are not interested in which case we tend to block.

Oooh tempted, couldn't be bothered reading all your profile though, am I supposed to put elephant or something similar in the subject?"

And there lies the problem... People not reading profiles or worse ignoring them and messaging anyway. I read profiles before deciding whether to message back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply to forum messages and i reply to all interesting messages... Everything else gets binned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky to get one out of a hundred

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

The majority of my messages get a reply

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"we have found most reply, but women are the worst for not. just find it rude, even a no would be nice, we always reply to every message."

The word no is not universally understood here. Answering messages to be polite can lead to why not or abuse, hence why quite a few of us choose to not respond. As the faq section states, no rely, no interest, it's not considered rude not to reply.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Honestly most of the messages guy's send out aren't worth a reply. And that's simply because they can't be bothered to read profiles.

Oh ill go on fab and get a shag within days of joining. "

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Ooo I wait for the yellow box to appear

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Out of 10 messages, I get about 6 replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9?

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

We reply to a few respectful, courteous messages that have remembered that we are a couple. However, we can’t stand the ‘how r u?’ ‘Whatz up?’ etc messages...

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By *meliaeWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I can go days without responding (I’m one of the read and delete people- politely responding with no thank you ended up with verbal abuse in the past). Then some days I may respond to two or three people. So maybe 1/150-200 messages get a response.

There’s various reasons, from the topic of their message (immediate face pic request, just dick pics and hi, or requests to meet immediately are straight deletes), to me not being physically attracted to them, to reading something on their profile that leads me to believe we are incompatible.

Honestly, I don’t think too much into it. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, and vice verse.

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By *rre786Man
over a year ago

Reading

I pretty much never get a response (not including forum messages, obviously).

I apriciate the polite decline messages, and would never abuse / argue.

I get that ladies often don't get time out have the desire to respond at all, in that case I have to say I prefer to see the message deleted. At least that way I know the message has been read and rejected.

Leaving them read or just unopened isn't as clear as to whether or not a message was received or just fell off the bottom of the stack...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately Males out number Women so the message ratio will uneven. I think I probably get 2/10 replies. But i try to make an effort with someone and if I like something particular about them i will discuss it/mention it.

Also it’s a shame some Males send silly messages which ruin it for the genuine, good guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not here to reply to messages. We are here to post enticing pictures and wind you up. We don't meet and we can't be arsed to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seldom message anyone first but as it happens I’ve just sent off a piece of literary genius to a forum lady I think would be very interesting to know.

I’ll keep you updated on a response if you like

Oh dear, it seems in my meticulous preparation of said message that the lady of my desire has gone off line.

In my favour though she has viewed my profile in the last 10 minutes so I’m still reasonably hopeful."

I’d forgotten about this.

She replied soon after.

We exchanged a number of messages.

We’re friends now.

I’m confident we’ll meet for tea and toast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the last 10 women messaged over a 1 month period. Non sexual messages and not requesting to meet.

I have had 8 replies, 1 is unsure about how to use the reply button(I think) and 1 just pure rude and blocked me

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"From the last 10 women messaged over a 1 month period. Non sexual messages and not requesting to meet.

I have had 8 replies, 1 is unsure about how to use the reply button(I think) and 1 just pure rude and blocked me "

Thats probably the way forward is to be not sexual and requesting a meet outright

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I rarely read messages from profiles with no avatar or just says "hi" or "you want to meet"... I really dislike the instant sexual comments or extracts from erotic novels, copy and paste longwinded messages. So many reasons why women don't answer

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get that many reply’s that’s why I’ve stopped for a bit..The messages I send are non sexual and I don’t send the dick pic..and I don’t ask are you free blah blah blah

Maybe it’s because I send a face pick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you send shit messages, you are gonna get flushed!

The amount of "nice tits" type of 1 liners I get a day are ridiculous so I would say I reply to 50% of messages.

Replies back to me are pretty high. The worst culprits for not replying are the guys who are big forum posters. Go figure

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

Depends.

Face Pic Friday I'd say gets something like a 50-75% return rate.

Outside of that generally maybe 20-30%.

Never sent an unsolicited dick pic or FAF but I assume you'd be lucky to get anything back from such a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say -2

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By *ushkinMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I came back on after a break, sent about 20 out, got one reply to say no.

Not sure what it is either, I try to make each message unique, interesting, not desperate, flirty if their profile wishes and send face pics. It's just a numbers game I guess, keep trying till you get some luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People reply???

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