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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am still feeling vulnerable and not completely healed.

Your turn.

RIP it out. Process.

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

I still feel like a failure compared to my sisters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I still feel like a failure compared to my sisters. "

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

I'm still so damn self conscious

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I could have been more successful, but I wouldn't push myself to do it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm still so damn self conscious "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I could have been more successful, but I wouldn't push myself to do it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still worry about what other people think of me...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I still worry about what other people think of me... "

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’m suffering “empty nest” syndrome

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By *r.HMan
over a year ago

A gentleman never tells

My life is a train wreck and I feel like crying most days

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I could have been more successful, but I wouldn't push myself to do it."

But you do make exceedingly good cakes, PP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m suffering “empty nest” syndrome "

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits "

Good luck and all the best wishes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My life is a train wreck and I feel like crying most days "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I could have been more successful, but I wouldn't push myself to do it.

But you do make exceedingly good cakes, PP "

Agreed. We love your apple turnovers recipe!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits

Good luck and all the best wishes"

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago. "

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits

Good luck and all the best wishes"

Thanks. Hoping it serves the purpose of making long standing problems better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've wasted my life. I've missed my chance to have a family of my own. I'm probably going to die alone.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!


"I still worry about what other people think of me... "

I think you're lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My life is a train wreck and I feel like crying most days "

Chin up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits

Good luck and all the best wishes

Thanks. Hoping it serves the purpose of making long standing problems better "

I will be thinking of you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still worry about what other people think of me... "

This always and I will never love myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've wasted my life. I've missed my chance to have a family of my own. I'm probably going to die alone."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I still worry about what other people think of me...

This always and I will never love myself "

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!


"I could have been more successful, but I wouldn't push myself to do it.

But you do make exceedingly good cakes, PP

Agreed. We love your apple turnovers recipe!"

That's brilliant, I'm glad you do x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I could have been more successful, but I wouldn't push myself to do it.

But you do make exceedingly good cakes, PP

Agreed. We love your apple turnovers recipe!

That's brilliant, I'm glad you do x"

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've wasted my life. I've missed my chance to have a family of my own. I'm probably going to die alone."

This makes me

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits

Good luck and all the best wishes

Thanks. Hoping it serves the purpose of making long standing problems better "

Good luck KC I hope it w all works out x

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By *nerealman100Man
over a year ago

Cambridge


"I still worry about what other people think of me... "

Well don't your looking good for your age and who cares when you get past 50 xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I struggle to come to terms with the huge need and injustice in the world, and that I can do almost nothing to help.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I hate myself and I can't understand why anyone would want me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've wasted my life. I've missed my chance to have a family of my own. I'm probably going to die alone.

This makes me "

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

I'm going to.end up alone and in the top shelf..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness "

Ohhhhh donut I'm sorry to here this sending you a massive virtual hug xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I struggle to come to terms with the huge need and injustice in the world, and that I can do almost nothing to help."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago. "

I can relate to this fear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate myself and I can't understand why anyone would want me"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm going to.end up alone and in the top shelf.. "

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits "

I've had this done. Inbox me if I can help reassure x turned put to be a really big positive in my life. Good luck xx

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By *ikely ladMan
over a year ago

Hounslow

I have to be hard otherwise I'll be walked all over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle to come to terms with the huge need and injustice in the world, and that I can do almost nothing to help."

Small acts make ripples in a pond Swing so just do what you can do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I hope if anyone feels particularly low they know they can ask for help on here or privately how to get support and get a friendly ear...

And sometimes you can feel alone I'm the crowd but I would not like anyone to go away from this thread feeling worse. Its just a little mind cleansing exercise to me. Hope it helps someone to get it all out.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I'm not good enough

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

My last relationship left me empty and without any sense for enjoyment. I am still functioning, sometimes at a high level at work but I don't feel much pleasure.

But after 5 years running around like a robot, I start to feel something, sometimes even joy

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By *nerealman100Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

No body to cuddle upto

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago.

I can relate to this fear "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits "

Sending positive thoughts for Friday beautiful lady

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to be hard otherwise I'll be walked all over. "

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits

Sending positive thoughts for Friday beautiful lady "

Thank you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I struggle to come to terms with the huge need and injustice in the world, and that I can do almost nothing to help.

Small acts make ripples in a pond Swing so just do what you can do "

Thank you. I am. I just feel helpless.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not good enough "

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I wish I wasn’t dyslexic. I could be so much more successful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My last relationship left me empty and without any sense for enjoyment. I am still functioning, sometimes at a high level at work but I don't feel much pleasure.

But after 5 years running around like a robot, I start to feel something, sometimes even joy "

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I hope if anyone feels particularly low they know they can ask for help on here or privately how to get support and get a friendly ear...

And sometimes you can feel alone I'm the crowd but I would not like anyone to go away from this thread feeling worse. Its just a little mind cleansing exercise to me. Hope it helps someone to get it all out. "

Sometimes the best help lies in the most unexpected places

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No body to cuddle upto "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness

Ohhhhh donut I'm sorry to here this sending you a massive virtual hug xx"

Thank you, I've always felt different and the odd one out even in a group of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago. "

It is tough but you will be amazed at your capabilities and humility when it is your own.

From experience though I would say make time for yourself and don't try to do it all on your own. You have to remember you still have a lot of your own life to live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope if anyone feels particularly low they know they can ask for help on here or privately how to get support and get a friendly ear...

And sometimes you can feel alone I'm the crowd but I would not like anyone to go away from this thread feeling worse. Its just a little mind cleansing exercise to me. Hope it helps someone to get it all out. "

Fabulous words of wisdom and support OP...

Its really good to talk. Dont anyone ever feel alone. Pick up the phone, message a friend. Even start a thread... The world is crazy right now and we all need a little loving.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wish I wasn’t dyslexic. I could be so much more successful "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hope if anyone feels particularly low they know they can ask for help on here or privately how to get support and get a friendly ear...

And sometimes you can feel alone I'm the crowd but I would not like anyone to go away from this thread feeling worse. Its just a little mind cleansing exercise to me. Hope it helps someone to get it all out.

Sometimes the best help lies in the most unexpected places"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. I can relate to so many of these! I've wasted my life... I'm lonely too and often cry... I've started to struggle with work... I don't love myself and can't see anyone else loving me either. This thread has kind of made me think maybe it's not just me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness

Ohhhhh donut I'm sorry to here this sending you a massive virtual hug xx

Thank you, I've always felt different and the odd one out even in a group of people "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago.

It is tough but you will be amazed at your capabilities and humility when it is your own.

From experience though I would say make time for yourself and don't try to do it all on your own. You have to remember you still have a lot of your own life to live."

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness

Ohhhhh donut I'm sorry to here this sending you a massive virtual hug xx

Thank you, I've always felt different and the odd one out even in a group of people "

Me too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hope if anyone feels particularly low they know they can ask for help on here or privately how to get support and get a friendly ear...

And sometimes you can feel alone I'm the crowd but I would not like anyone to go away from this thread feeling worse. Its just a little mind cleansing exercise to me. Hope it helps someone to get it all out.

Fabulous words of wisdom and support OP...

Its really good to talk. Dont anyone ever feel alone. Pick up the phone, message a friend. Even start a thread... The world is crazy right now and we all need a little loving. "

Thank you

I dont feel wise.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago. "

I can't imagine that, sorry to hear that

Sending love 3

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow. I can relate to so many of these! I've wasted my life... I'm lonely too and often cry... I've started to struggle with work... I don't love myself and can't see anyone else loving me either. This thread has kind of made me think maybe it's not just me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness

Ohhhhh donut I'm sorry to here this sending you a massive virtual hug xx

Thank you, I've always felt different and the odd one out even in a group of people

Me too x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness

Ohhhhh donut I'm sorry to here this sending you a massive virtual hug xx

Thank you, I've always felt different and the odd one out even in a group of people

Me too x"

I'm sorry to hear it it's horrible isn't it , if you ever wanna talk , please reach out xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago. "

sending you lots of strength and love for whatever lies ahead xxx

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I will always feel like I've not been a good enough mother

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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My looming 30 birthday is reminding me of how many opportunities I've avoided/told myself I wasn't good enough for because I didn't want to put myself out there and risk failing/having people judge me...to the point I get jealous of those with the courage to live out their dreams

I know that I need to just do it and live my life with no regrets but I guess easier said than done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm feeling very honoured and grateful for all sharing happening here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I will always feel like I've not been a good enough mother "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will always feel like I've not been a good enough mother "

The fact that feel that says you are a good mum. Bad mums wouldn't care. Don't be hard on yourself xxx

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness "

My hearts breaking...hope you realise there are people out there who care and want you to know that they are there for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My looming 30 birthday is reminding me of how many opportunities I've avoided/told myself I wasn't good enough for because I didn't want to put myself out there and risk failing/having people judge me...to the point I get jealous of those with the courage to live out their dreams

I know that I need to just do it and live my life with no regrets but I guess easier said than done "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My looming 30 birthday is reminding me of how many opportunities I've avoided/told myself I wasn't good enough for because I didn't want to put myself out there and risk failing/having people judge me...to the point I get jealous of those with the courage to live out their dreams

I know that I need to just do it and live my life with no regrets but I guess easier said than done "

Please reach out to me , I'm always here for you xx

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I will always feel like I've not been a good enough mother "

You are a good mum

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"I will always feel like I've not been a good enough mother "

I hope you realise just from acknowledging this you are a good mother who wants the best for their kid(s)...they have a great mother!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness

My hearts breaking...hope you realise there are people out there who care and want you to know that they are there for you "

I know its sometimes hard to remember that when I get trapped in my own head, theres days I physically dont see or speak to anyone , the only contact I have with people is on here somedays

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

I’m absolutely terrified of what the future holds but can’t help but have glimmers of excitement. Praying for a good outcome.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"My looming 30 birthday is reminding me of how many opportunities I've avoided/told myself I wasn't good enough for because I didn't want to put myself out there and risk failing/having people judge me...to the point I get jealous of those with the courage to live out their dreams

I know that I need to just do it and live my life with no regrets but I guess easier said than done "

It's hard. I get it. I'm hoping it gets easier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m absolutely terrified of what the future holds but can’t help but have glimmers of excitement. Praying for a good outcome. "

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"Wow. I can relate to so many of these! I've wasted my life... I'm lonely too and often cry... I've started to struggle with work... I don't love myself and can't see anyone else loving me either. This thread has kind of made me think maybe it's not just me.

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It's absolutely not just you, you are not alone!

I've been reminding myself that age is but a number and it's never too late to start something you want to do

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"My looming 30 birthday is reminding me of how many opportunities I've avoided/told myself I wasn't good enough for because I didn't want to put myself out there and risk failing/having people judge me...to the point I get jealous of those with the courage to live out their dreams

I know that I need to just do it and live my life with no regrets but I guess easier said than done

It's hard. I get it. I'm hoping it gets easier."

It's supposed to isn't it? Getting wiser with age and all!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I feel like I’m dangling from a thread. Not nice.

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Thu.. I could post a few bits.. but seeing all you being raw is humbling to my own mistakes in life... just shoe ho e fragile we all are some times

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"My looming 30 birthday is reminding me of how many opportunities I've avoided/told myself I wasn't good enough for because I didn't want to put myself out there and risk failing/having people judge me...to the point I get jealous of those with the courage to live out their dreams

I know that I need to just do it and live my life with no regrets but I guess easier said than done

It's hard. I get it. I'm hoping it gets easier.

It's supposed to isn't it? Getting wiser with age and all!"

I think that's a myth

I keep trying to live by "feel the fear and do it anyway" but... Ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have spent two years brushing over all the hurt and rejection....one day it will come out and I'm terrified of what will happen

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!


"My looming 30 birthday is reminding me of how many opportunities I've avoided/told myself I wasn't good enough for because I didn't want to put myself out there and risk failing/having people judge me...to the point I get jealous of those with the courage to live out their dreams

I know that I need to just do it and live my life with no regrets but I guess easier said than done

It's hard. I get it. I'm hoping it gets easier.

It's supposed to isn't it? Getting wiser with age and all!"

Put those negative thoughts to one side and chase those dreams, I settled for the easy ride and I regret it now, you're still young and you can change your destiny.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow. I can relate to so many of these! I've wasted my life... I'm lonely too and often cry... I've started to struggle with work... I don't love myself and can't see anyone else loving me either. This thread has kind of made me think maybe it's not just me.

It's absolutely not just you, you are not alone!

I've been reminding myself that age is but a number and it's never too late to start something you want to do "

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over a year ago


"I feel like I’m dangling from a thread. Not nice. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thu.. I could post a few bits.. but seeing all you being raw is humbling to my own mistakes in life... just shoe ho e fragile we all are some times

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over a year ago


"I have spent two years brushing over all the hurt and rejection....one day it will come out and I'm terrified of what will happen "

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will always feel like I've not been a good enough mother "

The good mothers always think this

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I have spent two years brushing over all the hurt and rejection....one day it will come out and I'm terrified of what will happen "

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago.

I can relate to this fear "

Bless you. I thought I was the only one x

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"My looming 30 birthday is reminding me of how many opportunities I've avoided/told myself I wasn't good enough for because I didn't want to put myself out there and risk failing/having people judge me...to the point I get jealous of those with the courage to live out their dreams

I know that I need to just do it and live my life with no regrets but I guess easier said than done

It's hard. I get it. I'm hoping it gets easier.

It's supposed to isn't it? Getting wiser with age and all!

I think that's a myth

I keep trying to live by "feel the fear and do it anyway" but... Ha"

Oh yes, I have done that before and it does feel good but then you get the fear again and get scared, gah! Well, at least other people feel the same way so it's not totally uncommon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel completely worthless and unwanted as regards sex and not just on here either.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

I still struggle to deal with the mental abuse I suffered from my ex wife.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I feel like I'll never be good enough

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits "

Just remember it will be worth it after xx I finally had everything removed last year after jumping so many hoops xx Lots of hugs xx

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"My looming 30 birthday is reminding me of how many opportunities I've avoided/told myself I wasn't good enough for because I didn't want to put myself out there and risk failing/having people judge me...to the point I get jealous of those with the courage to live out their dreams

I know that I need to just do it and live my life with no regrets but I guess easier said than done

It's hard. I get it. I'm hoping it gets easier.

It's supposed to isn't it? Getting wiser with age and all!

Put those negative thoughts to one side and chase those dreams, I settled for the easy ride and I regret it now, you're still young and you can change your destiny.x"

I follow some entrepreneurs that follow this kind of thought...almost a deathbed thought (not so cheery!) but asking yourself if you were on your deathbed would you regret not going for that opportunity, as an example!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel completely worthless and unwanted as regards sex and not just on here either. "

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By *lsa-xxxWoman
over a year ago

Tetbury

Guys please listen to Broken by lovelytheband.

Broken is beautiful.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I still struggle to deal with the mental abuse I suffered from my ex wife."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago.

I can relate to this fear

Bless you. I thought I was the only one x"

No way...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel like I'll never be good enough "

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"I still struggle to deal with the mental abuse I suffered from my ex wife."

I can't imagine this but I know this isn't covered in the media nearly enough!

In my city there's a 'menstalk' type of group, of men that supports men in mental health issues and a platform to talk, so hopefully there is something like that where you are that would help you feel comfortable talking about it. Please reach out though because you don't deserve to feel alone through this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Guys please listen to Broken by lovelytheband.

Broken is beautiful.

xxx"

What is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if I'm capable of love.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits

Just remember it will be worth it after xx I finally had everything removed last year after jumping so many hoops xx Lots of hugs xx "

Thank you. I hope it helps what it's meant to help and doesn't hinder other things

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"I feel like I'll never be good enough "

I feel you and sending love and support should you need/want it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm full of fears and insecurities. I constantly feel like I'm not good enough and I accept less than I would like.

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By *lsa-xxxWoman
over a year ago

Tetbury


"Guys please listen to Broken by lovelytheband.

Broken is beautiful.

xxx

What is it? "

A song xxx

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

In a strange way, it’s comforting to see how everybody’s got worries and regrets.

We all know that’s the case, but when it’s familiar names and characters from the forum, it’s quite a comfort. It can feel very isolating, thinking you’re the only one who’s putting a smile on each morning. Thank you for this thread, Tuberose x

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"I have spent two years brushing over all the hurt and rejection....one day it will come out and I'm terrified of what will happen "

I hope you feel supported to reach out when you need it...I'm sure a lot of people on here would be happy to help/listen should you want it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wonder if I'm capable of love. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm full of fears and insecurities. I constantly feel like I'm not good enough and I accept less than I would like. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Guys please listen to Broken by lovelytheband.

Broken is beautiful.

xxx

What is it?

A song xxx"

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago. "

I can relate to this too i have no back up plan as im the only one left to sort out the mess when it happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In a strange way, it’s comforting to see how everybody’s got worries and regrets.

We all know that’s the case, but when it’s familiar names and characters from the forum, it’s quite a comfort. It can feel very isolating, thinking you’re the only one who’s putting a smile on each morning. Thank you for this thread, Tuberose x"

I just happened to create one of hundreds platforms for people to share

So thanks to you all who braved it. Inbox open. Though I am rambling inclined today.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago.

I can relate to this too i have no back up plan as im the only one left to sort out the mess when it happens "

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"Guys please listen to Broken by lovelytheband.

Broken is beautiful.

xxx

What is it?

A song xxx

Thank you."

It's a beautiful song

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I'm really lacking motivation.

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over a year ago


"I'm really lacking motivation. "

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

I've spent as long as I can remember - right back to childhood - feeling as if there was something intrinsically 'wrong' with me.

The ensuing lack of self esteem/confidence and anxiety has affected everything - friendships (the few fleeting ones I've had), personal relationships, career (ha bloody ha), the way I see myself in the mirror (to the point of feeling nauseous for many years).

I've always been on the outside looking in, have never fitted in anywhere, don't seem able to navigate through the multitude of social situations others tackle with ease. They often baffle and/or distress me. And it's utterly exhausting trying to say or do what's conventionally expected/accepted - and usually getting nowhere. I know many people have viewed me as 'odd', 'weird' etc.

When I was (much) younger I used to think 'it' (feeling 'wrong') would magically sort itself out when I 'grew up'. Of course it didn't.

And now I feel completely ashamed to have written all that down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle every day with my grief. I get up and go through the motions but it doesn't take a lot to break me, I'll never not miss him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on my own so long now I have anxieties about socialising and getting out there.

Hugs to all of you, I've cried reading these posts.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I womt quote in case you wanted to remove it but admiring your courage to talk about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I womt quote in case you wanted to remove it but admiring your courage to talk about it "

For La Fee Verte

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I hear you La Fee Verte, and I understand

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

I don't feel I'm good enough for anyone.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

…


"I struggle every day with my grief. I get up and go through the motions but it doesn't take a lot to break me, I'll never not miss him. "

That's heartbreaking, sorry to hear that Can't offer advice but all the love and support if you need to talk xx

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago.

I can relate to this too i have no back up plan as im the only one left to sort out the mess when it happens "

I’m in the midst of it now, dealing with deafness, blindness, strokes, and dementia between the two of them. All I can say is I’m doing my best... and so will you.

I’ll screw up spectacularly, and regularly, and I’ll beat myself up, but if I can look back later and say I tried my hardest... then I’ll be proud of myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quality over Quantity !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on my own so long now I have anxieties about socialising and getting out there.

Hugs to all of you, I've cried reading these posts. "

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I know if I told anyone I know about my kink for lingerie i'd be laughed at and get the total piss taken. Trying to find women that like a guy in lingerie is not easy. Am I doing something wrong (though i know it's not a most common kind of kink) but mostly think am I just too weird...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle every day with my grief. I get up and go through the motions but it doesn't take a lot to break me, I'll never not miss him.

That's heartbreaking, sorry to hear that Can't offer advice but all the love and support if you need to talk xx"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m worrying about what my scan results will show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely crapping it about the gynae surgery I'm having on Friday. A dude is going to slice and dice my bits "

Sending you love and hope it all goes well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m worrying about what my scan results will show "

Oh bless you. Hope you are not waiting too long x

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Some brave posts here.

Thank you OP for providing a safe place for people to vent.

Hugs of support to all and anyone who needs one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m worrying about what my scan results will show

Oh bless you. Hope you are not waiting too long x"

Thanks my D day is Friday the 14th. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m worrying about what my scan results will show

Oh bless you. Hope you are not waiting too long x

Thanks my D day is Friday the 14th. X"

Oh no! I hope you take things steady and be kind to yourself

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

If we're allowed two and on a longer term theme, I worry that my daughter will resent the fact that my disability means I can't run around with her etc, like I did with her brother. I also don't want her to think that she caused my disability (it's pregnancy related). I don't know how I'll explain the origins of mummy's bad leg when she asks.

I totally get the anxieties other parents have expressed about their parenting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still in love with my ex fiancée even after 10 years first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing I think about at night

Tryed movieing on but always ends up geting in the way

Pritty much dress and meet men because I don’t want to hurt uther woman because I will never feel that way about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I worry how I’ll cope alone with my ageing parents, having lost both my sister and brother several years ago.

I can relate to this too i have no back up plan as im the only one left to sort out the mess when it happens

I’m in the midst of it now, dealing with deafness, blindness, strokes, and dementia between the two of them. All I can say is I’m doing my best... and so will you.

I’ll screw up spectacularly, and regularly, and I’ll beat myself up, but if I can look back later and say I tried my hardest... then I’ll be proud of myself. "

I'll deal with it all the best way i can but for now its a constant juggling game and trying to keep things level is a daily battle but i'll manage it...i have to.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I’m worrying about what my scan results will show "

Wishing you all the best

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By *imBanksMan
over a year ago

Letchworth

I was told I wasn't wanted by my ex. Said as such a throwaway comment with no emotion after 20 odd years. Now a once a fortnight dad to my boys.

It knocked what little confidence I had for six. I still feel inadequate and very wary of "normal" relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I wish C had let me kill myself. I tried to overdose three times during lockdown, and he stopped me.

I wish I was a better mum.

I wish I wasn’t depressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness

Ohhhhh donut I'm sorry to here this sending you a massive virtual hug xx

Thank you, I've always felt different and the odd one out even in a group of people "

You know where the inbox is xx

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"In a strange way, it’s comforting to see how everybody’s got worries and regrets.

We all know that’s the case, but when it’s familiar names and characters from the forum, it’s quite a comfort. It can feel very isolating, thinking you’re the only one who’s putting a smile on each morning. Thank you for this thread, Tuberose x"

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By *imBanksMan
over a year ago

Letchworth


"Sometimes I wish C had let me kill myself. I tried to overdose three times during lockdown, and he stopped me.

I wish I was a better mum.

I wish I wasn’t depressed. "

Oh love, I've been that low too but I'm so glad I didn't succeed.

You do the best you can and live for you, the rest will fall into place eventually x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I wish C had let me kill myself. I tried to overdose three times during lockdown, and he stopped me.

I wish I was a better mum.

I wish I wasn’t depressed. "

You are amazing and never doubt your parenting...only need to look into that little ones eyes to see how loved and cared for... You expect too much of yourself, you are enough xx

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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Thank you for this thread Tuberose, think it's something you don't realise other people may have battles their dealing with too and that you're not alone! It's nice to know we can support each other in our little ways x

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By *rystal DreamtimeTV/TS
over a year ago

horsham


"Some brave posts here.

Thank you OP for providing a safe place for people to vent.

Hugs of support to all and anyone who needs one.

"

Absolutely some very brave posts ...

whatever your struggle I wish you all the love in the world ..

I’ve had my own struggle with life in the past .. I lost my mother at 4 years of age , things got pretty tough then on in .. Hated my transvestism for so many years , I became destructive .. of myself

With the help though of so many wonderful people I’ve met through life , I’ve moved away from self loathing and I now ( and for many years ) I’ve grown to like who and what I am ..

I’m not trying to say I’m “ fixed “ or that my struggle is behind me , it still lurks in the background . just want to say that I hear you all , but do please believe in the future , and that you all are so very very special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 46 never been in love or been told that someone loves me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish that I didn't have a stupid heart condition, feeling so tired and drained is debilitating and nobody understands because they see me walking and healthy looking on the outside, I'm so scared of suddenly dying and missing out on my boys lives.

I need to have 'that' conversation with my brothers but our relationship is so fractured, not sure I can

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I wish that I didn't have a stupid heart condition, feeling so tired and drained is debilitating and nobody understands because they see me walking and healthy looking on the outside, I'm so scared of suddenly dying and missing out on my boys lives.

I need to have 'that' conversation with my brothers but our relationship is so fractured, not sure I can "

Hugs to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cry myself to sleep due to loneliness

Ohhhhh donut I'm sorry to here this sending you a massive virtual hug xx

Thank you, I've always felt different and the odd one out even in a group of people

You know where the inbox is xx"

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish that I didn't have a stupid heart condition, feeling so tired and drained is debilitating and nobody understands because they see me walking and healthy looking on the outside, I'm so scared of suddenly dying and missing out on my boys lives.

I need to have 'that' conversation with my brothers but our relationship is so fractured, not sure I can "

Ah hugs. Have that talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish that I didn't have a stupid heart condition, feeling so tired and drained is debilitating and nobody understands because they see me walking and healthy looking on the outside, I'm so scared of suddenly dying and missing out on my boys lives.

I need to have 'that' conversation with my brothers but our relationship is so fractured, not sure I can

Ah hugs. Have that talk "

I just can't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish that I didn't have a stupid heart condition, feeling so tired and drained is debilitating and nobody understands because they see me walking and healthy looking on the outside, I'm so scared of suddenly dying and missing out on my boys lives.

I need to have 'that' conversation with my brothers but our relationship is so fractured, not sure I can

Hugs to you "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chicken fillets.

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

If your not down with that I've got 2 words for ya sxck it

Austin 3:16 says I just whipped your ass

I have more if needed

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Wowee what a thread to stumble upon.. Well not so much the thread but the amazing humans sharing. What a mountain of pain, suffering, fears, desires, sadnesses, battles, adventures, stories and challenges, compassion, support, love and understanding.

What it is we overcome and travel through in life never ceases to amaze me. We become warriors ay? And each time our hearts break we learn a little more.

"I wish I could show you in your darkness, the amazing light of your being"

Me... Its my birthday tomorrow. When I was born I had a big brother waiting for me. He passed away 15 years ago. I miss him, especially on my birthdays, I miss him just there. Its just me.. and in my very bones I miss my brother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t stop seeing myself as being good enough.

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