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By *ALLYROSE OP   Woman
over a year ago

Tullamore

Ladies, how do ye cope with all the mail?

Ive a lot of unread messages. I try to reply to most. I get caught up in conversations.

I'm Just wondering how do ye do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, how do ye cope with all the mail?

Ive a lot of unread messages. I try to reply to most. I get caught up in conversations.

I'm Just wondering how do ye do it. "

I'm assuming the majority of women don't reply to all mail.

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By *ovingeachotherCouple
over a year ago

Devizes

I try my best to reply to all messages x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get your husband to trawl through all the shit leaving you to just chat to the ones that catch your fancy.

Failing that just reply to the ones you want to and delete the rest as a no reply = amp thank you.

Be lucky and stay frosty out there!!!!

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You get your husband to trawl through all the shit leaving you to just chat to the ones that catch your fancy.

Failing that just reply to the ones you want to and delete the rest as a no reply = amp thank you.

Be lucky and stay frosty out there!!!!

T"

On mine and K's old couple account I would take great delight in chatting with the idiot guys who hadn't read any of the profile, and had automaticslly assumed they were talking with K. I never corrected them but they always got very confused when I started mentioning my penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hardly ever get a mail. What's wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hardly ever get a mail. What's wrong? "

You use your filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hardly ever get a mail. What's wrong?

You use your filters "

Even women don't message me much.. I must not be what they are looking for then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh i like this thread.. could be a good giggle this evening xx

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By *uge G RectionMan
over a year ago

where I like to be... down south


"I hardly ever get a mail. What's wrong?

You use your filters

Even women don't message me much.. I must not be what they are looking for then."

Im sure there would be plenty of guys message you if it wasn't for your filters, but its your choice to use them ..... so I guess you will just have to wait OR take the first step and message first!

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By *ishygirlWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Ladies, how do ye cope with all the mail?

Ive a lot of unread messages. I try to reply to most. I get caught up in conversations.

I'm Just wondering how do ye do it. "

As I said on my profile, I try and message back to people whom I’m interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hardly ever get a mail. What's wrong?

You use your filters

Even women don't message me much.. I must not be what they are looking for then.

Im sure there would be plenty of guys message you if it wasn't for your filters, but its your choice to use them ..... so I guess you will just have to wait OR take the first step and message first!"

But if I allow men to message me, I will never log off..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters and block button reduce the volume of messages from those you're not interested in and those that keep messaging thinking a week later you've changed your mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy reply to them sorry But people who don’t are straight up rude and disrespectful and they wonder why they get so much hi how’s you message I get 200+ a day and can deal with it have a simple copy and paste no thank you message

Thanks but not interested please don’t be pushy after I have sed no thanks I will hit the block button happy swing

And for the rest it would be personal message that obviously you want to chat to

Not hard it’s real easy

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"I hardly ever get a mail. What's wrong? "

H had her own account for a while looking to chat with ladies & she got precisely zero messages unless it was forum related so she closed it down.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally delete any from a silhouette /no profile picture without opening

I have started to read others (on holiday, so more time at the moment)... I usually just delete after reading, or on a very rare occasion i find one i want to reply to and engage in conversation ...

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Very strict filters help loads

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By *dward_TeagueMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

What is this mail that you are referring to? I’m missing out here!

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

All the filters!

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By *ulahlollipopWoman
over a year ago

Reading/London


"Easy reply to them sorry But people who don’t are straight up rude and disrespectful and they wonder why they get so much hi how’s you message I get 200+ a day and can deal with it have a simple copy and paste no thank you message

Thanks but not interested please don’t be pushy after I have sed no thanks I will hit the block button happy swing

And for the rest it would be personal message that obviously you want to chat to

Not hard it’s real easy "

When you get messages from people that have clearly not read your profile and don’t match criteria (in my case eg 300 miles away); have no public pictures etc it is not remotely rude to just ignore them. I don’t owe some one a reply if they haven’t even done me the courtesy of reading my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh i should say if its a forum related mail I always read + reply !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy reply to them sorry But people who don’t are straight up rude and disrespectful and they wonder why they get so much hi how’s you message I get 200+ a day and can deal with it have a simple copy and paste no thank you message

Thanks but not interested please don’t be pushy after I have sed no thanks I will hit the block button happy swing

And for the rest it would be personal message that obviously you want to chat to

Not hard it’s real easy

When you get messages from people that have clearly not read your profile and don’t match criteria (in my case eg 300 miles away); have no public pictures etc it is not remotely rude to just ignore them. I don’t owe some one a reply if they haven’t even done me the courtesy of reading my profile "

Get them all the time maybe the reason they didn’t read ur profile is the last 40 personal message that took them 30-40 minutes to write out and took them nother 30 minutes to read a profile got binned sorry I agree with no pics but there is no excuse for it it’s simply ruind that’s why there so meny mass copy and paste message off how’s you because you just mass delete

I had it my self took 30 minutes to read a profile took 20 minutes for it to get not even get read and stright delete and yous wonder why no one puts the effort in maybe because yous don’t put the effort in to reply back what’s the point

And as for 300 odd miles sorry distinct is nothing trains and hotel are cheap of someone woth it I travel 10000 miles

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By *ulahlollipopWoman
over a year ago

Reading/London


"Easy reply to them sorry But people who don’t are straight up rude and disrespectful and they wonder why they get so much hi how’s you message I get 200+ a day and can deal with it have a simple copy and paste no thank you message

Thanks but not interested please don’t be pushy after I have sed no thanks I will hit the block button happy swing

And for the rest it would be personal message that obviously you want to chat to

Not hard it’s real easy

When you get messages from people that have clearly not read your profile and don’t match criteria (in my case eg 300 miles away); have no public pictures etc it is not remotely rude to just ignore them. I don’t owe some one a reply if they haven’t even done me the courtesy of reading my profile

Get them all the time maybe the reason they didn’t read ur profile is the last 40 personal message that took them 30-40 minutes to write out and took them nother 30 minutes to read a profile got binned sorry I agree with no pics but there is no excuse for it it’s simply ruind that’s why there so meny mass copy and paste message off how’s you because you just mass delete

I had it my self took 30 minutes to read a profile took 20 minutes for it to get not even get read and stright delete and yous wonder why no one puts the effort in maybe because yous don’t put the effort in to reply back what’s the point

And as for 300 odd miles sorry distinct is nothing trains and hotel are cheap of someone woth it I travel 10000 miles "

It’s entirely my choice how I select people I’m interested in- having preferences and Selection criteria isn’t rude, it’s to save both myself and those contacting me from wasting their time! If you spend 30 mins reading a profile, don’t fit the bill, and yet spend time sending a message to that person anyway then the fault is with you not them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy reply to them sorry But people who don’t are straight up rude and disrespectful and they wonder why they get so much hi how’s you message I get 200+ a day and can deal with it have a simple copy and paste no thank you message

Thanks but not interested please don’t be pushy after I have sed no thanks I will hit the block button happy swing

And for the rest it would be personal message that obviously you want to chat to

Not hard it’s real easy

When you get messages from people that have clearly not read your profile and don’t match criteria (in my case eg 300 miles away); have no public pictures etc it is not remotely rude to just ignore them. I don’t owe some one a reply if they haven’t even done me the courtesy of reading my profile

Get them all the time maybe the reason they didn’t read ur profile is the last 40 personal message that took them 30-40 minutes to write out and took them nother 30 minutes to read a profile got binned sorry I agree with no pics but there is no excuse for it it’s simply ruind that’s why there so meny mass copy and paste message off how’s you because you just mass delete

I had it my self took 30 minutes to read a profile took 20 minutes for it to get not even get read and stright delete and yous wonder why no one puts the effort in maybe because yous don’t put the effort in to reply back what’s the point

And as for 300 odd miles sorry distinct is nothing trains and hotel are cheap of someone woth it I travel 10000 miles

It’s entirely my choice how I select people I’m interested in- having preferences and Selection criteria isn’t rude, it’s to save both myself and those contacting me from wasting their time! If you spend 30 mins reading a profile, don’t fit the bill, and yet spend time sending a message to that person anyway then the fault is with you not them. "

I understand it’s ur choice but please don’t ever complain about people not as the reason for it is that’s exact attitude that most have on fab oooo I just mass delete when someone took hour to read it and write a message sorry but it’s the mass to blame it’s simple why make a effort if someone not going to make a effort back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy reply to them sorry But people who don’t are straight up rude and disrespectful and they wonder why they get so much hi how’s you message I get 200+ a day and can deal with it have a simple copy and paste no thank you message

Thanks but not interested please don’t be pushy after I have sed no thanks I will hit the block button happy swing

And for the rest it would be personal message that obviously you want to chat to

Not hard it’s real easy

When you get messages from people that have clearly not read your profile and don’t match criteria (in my case eg 300 miles away); have no public pictures etc it is not remotely rude to just ignore them. I don’t owe some one a reply if they haven’t even done me the courtesy of reading my profile

Get them all the time maybe the reason they didn’t read ur profile is the last 40 personal message that took them 30-40 minutes to write out and took them nother 30 minutes to read a profile got binned sorry I agree with no pics but there is no excuse for it it’s simply ruind that’s why there so meny mass copy and paste message off how’s you because you just mass delete

I had it my self took 30 minutes to read a profile took 20 minutes for it to get not even get read and stright delete and yous wonder why no one puts the effort in maybe because yous don’t put the effort in to reply back what’s the point

And as for 300 odd miles sorry distinct is nothing trains and hotel are cheap of someone woth it I travel 10000 miles

It’s entirely my choice how I select people I’m interested in- having preferences and Selection criteria isn’t rude, it’s to save both myself and those contacting me from wasting their time! If you spend 30 mins reading a profile, don’t fit the bill, and yet spend time sending a message to that person anyway then the fault is with you not them. "

Sorry but ur asking people to make a effort to read ur profile and make well thought out message maybe take that same thinking and make a effort to reply to people that make that exact effort you requested them to make sorry two way street not one way street

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By *ulahlollipopWoman
over a year ago

Reading/London


"Easy reply to them sorry But people who don’t are straight up rude and disrespectful and they wonder why they get so much hi how’s you message I get 200+ a day and can deal with it have a simple copy and paste no thank you message

Thanks but not interested please don’t be pushy after I have sed no thanks I will hit the block button happy swing

And for the rest it would be personal message that obviously you want to chat to

Not hard it’s real easy

When you get messages from people that have clearly not read your profile and don’t match criteria (in my case eg 300 miles away); have no public pictures etc it is not remotely rude to just ignore them. I don’t owe some one a reply if they haven’t even done me the courtesy of reading my profile

Get them all the time maybe the reason they didn’t read ur profile is the last 40 personal message that took them 30-40 minutes to write out and took them nother 30 minutes to read a profile got binned sorry I agree with no pics but there is no excuse for it it’s simply ruind that’s why there so meny mass copy and paste message off how’s you because you just mass delete

I had it my self took 30 minutes to read a profile took 20 minutes for it to get not even get read and stright delete and yous wonder why no one puts the effort in maybe because yous don’t put the effort in to reply back what’s the point

And as for 300 odd miles sorry distinct is nothing trains and hotel are cheap of someone woth it I travel 10000 miles

It’s entirely my choice how I select people I’m interested in- having preferences and Selection criteria isn’t rude, it’s to save both myself and those contacting me from wasting their time! If you spend 30 mins reading a profile, don’t fit the bill, and yet spend time sending a message to that person anyway then the fault is with you not them.

Sorry but ur asking people to make a effort to read ur profile and make well thought out message maybe take that same thinking and make a effort to reply to people that make that exact effort you requested them to make sorry two way street not one way street "

Those that do so get a reply! Those that don’t get no reply- that’s how a two way street works- not replying to hundreds of people that put no effort in whatsoever, don’t meet my criteria, don’t have pics or send messages like ‘nice tits’- how am I even supposed to reply to that!?

Also I’m here for fun, not because I need an admin job. You do you, I’ll do me. Peace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, how do ye cope with all the mail?

Ive a lot of unread messages. I try to reply to most. I get caught up in conversations.

I'm Just wondering how do ye do it. "

May I recommend gender re-assignment. A bit radical I know, but being Male I have found is a great way to turn your inbox into a dust bowl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy reply to them sorry But people who don’t are straight up rude and disrespectful and they wonder why they get so much hi how’s you message I get 200+ a day and can deal with it have a simple copy and paste no thank you message

Thanks but not interested please don’t be pushy after I have sed no thanks I will hit the block button happy swing

And for the rest it would be personal message that obviously you want to chat to

Not hard it’s real easy

When you get messages from people that have clearly not read your profile and don’t match criteria (in my case eg 300 miles away); have no public pictures etc it is not remotely rude to just ignore them. I don’t owe some one a reply if they haven’t even done me the courtesy of reading my profile

Get them all the time maybe the reason they didn’t read ur profile is the last 40 personal message that took them 30-40 minutes to write out and took them nother 30 minutes to read a profile got binned sorry I agree with no pics but there is no excuse for it it’s simply ruind that’s why there so meny mass copy and paste message off how’s you because you just mass delete

I had it my self took 30 minutes to read a profile took 20 minutes for it to get not even get read and stright delete and yous wonder why no one puts the effort in maybe because yous don’t put the effort in to reply back what’s the point

And as for 300 odd miles sorry distinct is nothing trains and hotel are cheap of someone woth it I travel 10000 miles

It’s entirely my choice how I select people I’m interested in- having preferences and Selection criteria isn’t rude, it’s to save both myself and those contacting me from wasting their time! If you spend 30 mins reading a profile, don’t fit the bill, and yet spend time sending a message to that person anyway then the fault is with you not them.

Sorry but ur asking people to make a effort to read ur profile and make well thought out message maybe take that same thinking and make a effort to reply to people that make that exact effort you requested them to make sorry two way street not one way street

Those that do so get a reply! Those that don’t get no reply- that’s how a two way street works- not replying to hundreds of people that put no effort in whatsoever, don’t meet my criteria, don’t have pics or send messages like ‘nice tits’- how am I even supposed to reply to that!?

Also I’m here for fun, not because I need an admin

job. You do you, I’ll do me. Peace "

You be the first woman on fab that I meet that dose then because ever message I sent one has always been mass delete even though I fallowd all they guide lines and took a time to read there profile and I not just talking my tv account I did have a man fab account 6-7 years ago when I was undecided on witch way to go messages would sit there for a week or two unread and then completely delete and at the exact same time read stats say I hate how’s you message and all this uther crap

Well maybe if you take the time to read message you would see Someone did take that time and made that effort you just didn’t

Use to by all the bs lines years a go till I hit a serton point witch is 600-700 page views a day and 200+ message and then realised it’s just a bs cop out sorry if it seems like I have a go at you I am not I have ago in general that people requeste people to make a effort but make 0 effort them selfs sorry but time for people to wake up and see the truth

And mangemt emmm nope sorry two seconds clicks note pad copy and paste a no thanks pre writing message for mass no thanks and if message back block

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By *ulahlollipopWoman
over a year ago

Reading/London


"Easy reply to them sorry But people who don’t are straight up rude and disrespectful and they wonder why they get so much hi how’s you message I get 200+ a day and can deal with it have a simple copy and paste no thank you message

Thanks but not interested please don’t be pushy after I have sed no thanks I will hit the block button happy swing

And for the rest it would be personal message that obviously you want to chat to

Not hard it’s real easy

When you get messages from people that have clearly not read your profile and don’t match criteria (in my case eg 300 miles away); have no public pictures etc it is not remotely rude to just ignore them. I don’t owe some one a reply if they haven’t even done me the courtesy of reading my profile

Get them all the time maybe the reason they didn’t read ur profile is the last 40 personal message that took them 30-40 minutes to write out and took them nother 30 minutes to read a profile got binned sorry I agree with no pics but there is no excuse for it it’s simply ruind that’s why there so meny mass copy and paste message off how’s you because you just mass delete

I had it my self took 30 minutes to read a profile took 20 minutes for it to get not even get read and stright delete and yous wonder why no one puts the effort in maybe because yous don’t put the effort in to reply back what’s the point

And as for 300 odd miles sorry distinct is nothing trains and hotel are cheap of someone woth it I travel 10000 miles

It’s entirely my choice how I select people I’m interested in- having preferences and Selection criteria isn’t rude, it’s to save both myself and those contacting me from wasting their time! If you spend 30 mins reading a profile, don’t fit the bill, and yet spend time sending a message to that person anyway then the fault is with you not them.

Sorry but ur asking people to make a effort to read ur profile and make well thought out message maybe take that same thinking and make a effort to reply to people that make that exact effort you requested them to make sorry two way street not one way street

Those that do so get a reply! Those that don’t get no reply- that’s how a two way street works- not replying to hundreds of people that put no effort in whatsoever, don’t meet my criteria, don’t have pics or send messages like ‘nice tits’- how am I even supposed to reply to that!?

Also I’m here for fun, not because I need an admin

job. You do you, I’ll do me. Peace

You be the first woman on fab that I meet that dose then because ever message I sent one has always been mass delete even though I fallowd all they guide lines and took a time to read there profile and I not just talking my tv account I did have a man fab account 6-7 years ago when I was undecided on witch way to go messages would sit there for a week or two unread and then completely delete and at the exact same time read stats say I hate how’s you message and all this uther crap

Well maybe if you take the time to read message you would see Someone did take that time and made that effort you just didn’t

Use to by all the bs lines years a go till I hit a serton point witch is 600-700 page views a day and 200+ message and then realised it’s just a bs cop out sorry if it seems like I have a go at you I am not I have ago in general that people requeste people to make a effort but make 0 effort them selfs sorry but time for people to wake up and see the truth

And mangemt emmm nope sorry two seconds clicks note pad copy and paste a no thanks pre writing message for mass no thanks and if message back block "

Sounds like you’re quite bitter about your experiences in the past and are taking it out on me. I hope you have more fun now on your new account. I’ve explained myself as much as I feel I want to now- so as I said, you do you and I’ll do me. Take care

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

To our way of thinking those that complain about hundreds of messages are just not using their filters & anyone that says “Not here to meet anyone new, just using forums & keeping in touch with friends” Etc. should simply block everyone.

Friends can still message & you can still message anyone.

Saying your not meeting & leaving messaging “Open” is tantamount to shovelling sand with a fork.

S

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By *ulahlollipopWoman
over a year ago

Reading/London


"To our way of thinking those that complain about hundreds of messages are just not using their filters & anyone that says “Not here to meet anyone new, just using forums & keeping in touch with friends” Etc. should simply block everyone.

Friends can still message & you can still message anyone.

Saying your not meeting & leaving messaging “Open” is tantamount to shovelling sand with a fork.

S"

What if they’re not complaining about lots of messages, just explaining lack of replies? What if they’re happy to chat to people anyway without hooking up? What if people have free will and are allowed to run their profiles and preferences however they wish and not just how you think they should

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"To our way of thinking those that complain about hundreds of messages are just not using their filters & anyone that says “Not here to meet anyone new, just using forums & keeping in touch with friends” Etc. should simply block everyone.

Friends can still message & you can still message anyone.

Saying your not meeting & leaving messaging “Open” is tantamount to shovelling sand with a fork.

S

What if they’re not complaining about lots of messages, just explaining lack of replies? What if they’re happy to chat to people anyway without hooking up? What if people have free will and are allowed to run their profiles and preferences however they wish and not just how you think they should "

Then we’d say continue on as you are, you seem happy doing it that way. Everyone uses the site differently & for differing reasons.

S

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Filters and liberal blocking

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