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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would you consider it double standards, if a member of the opposite sex on here was for example after someone with shaved genitalia and theirs was hairy. Or after someone gym fit and they are overweight. This is in no way a body shaming thread, I just wondered what people thought of it?

I keep seeing profiles and statuses of people moaning they are not getting what they want and am curious as to people’s opinions...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m ideal standard.

You can piss on me and I’ll flush

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Why double standards?

If they were criticising people when they were the same, that would be.

This is just a matter of what they are looking for.

Opposites attract?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live and let live

There’s double standards throughout life and I’ve found it’s best to ignore them and carry on your own way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see how it can be double standards. They are stating what they find desirable in a shagging partner. You don't have to be gym fit to find it a turn on

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I'd say it's just preferences. They obviously fit the preferences of the people they've met though, unless unless everyone has double standards!

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I see this as preferences and each to their own.

Being gym fit doesn't mean that they only like other gym fit people and vice versa, the same goes for hairy, tall, skin colour or any other 'thing/type'

If that was the case then should I only like other crossdressers?

I'm glad we can all have our choices to like what we like and hope others like us in return for who we are

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We're old and we get quite a few requests to meet from young people. It's not double standards it's people liking what they like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why double standards?

If they were criticising people when they were the same, that would be.

This is just a matter of what they are looking for.

Opposites attract?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arent we all entitled to our owm preferences ?!..

The other part then accepts them or not as surely they will have some of their own.. simple in my view

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Everybody has equal rights to have their preferences, whatever they may be. Also, everybody has equal rights to ask for whatever it is they want. Finally, everybody has equal rights to say either yes or no to what people ask for.

Remember: you have a right to ask. They have an equal right to say no (or yes).

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm a bit of a chubster. I like slim/fit men. S is slim, he likes curvy, even chubby women. Oops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it double standard to want something you're not?

I want a woman with great big tits, don't mean I'm going to have a sex change and a boob job

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

Well ... if person A is overweight and has a preference for person B who is gym fit; and person B in turn prefers overweight - then it’s a match made in heaven.

However if person A only wants people who fit person B’s description, but person B also prefers gym fit and is therefore not attracted to person A, I suppose the double standards might be person A becoming upset or offended about that?

But otherwise I see no double standards.

However this may just be utter waffle .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is it double standard to want something you're not?

I want a woman with great big tits, don't mean I'm going to have a sex change and a boob job

"

It’s not really double standards. Merely preference, but sometimes when you put a mundane thread title it gets little response.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well ... if person A is overweight and has a preference for person B who is gym fit; and person B in turn prefers overweight - then it’s a match made in heaven.

However if person A only wants people who fit person B’s description, but person B also prefers gym fit and is therefore not attracted to person A, I suppose the double standards might be person A becoming upset or offended about that?

But otherwise I see no double standards.

However this may just be utter waffle ..... "

I’m lost, who’s person A again?

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Well ... if person A is overweight and has a preference for person B who is gym fit; and person B in turn prefers overweight - then it’s a match made in heaven.

However if person A only wants people who fit person B’s description, but person B also prefers gym fit and is therefore not attracted to person A, I suppose the double standards might be person A becoming upset or offended about that?

But otherwise I see no double standards.

However this may just be utter waffle .....

I’m lost, who’s person A again? "

keep up!!

Basically what I’m saying is, if you express a body preference yourself - yet person who you are attracted to in turn doesn’t find your own body attractive and therefore turns you down - being upset or offended about that would probably be the double standards wouldn’t it. If you have a preference, you have to accept that others in turn will also have their own, and you may not be it. (Not you personally!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's wot U lik, innit?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Well ... if person A is overweight and has a preference for person B who is gym fit; and person B in turn prefers overweight - then it’s a match made in heaven.

However if person A only wants people who fit person B’s description, but person B also prefers gym fit and is therefore not attracted to person A, I suppose the double standards might be person A becoming upset or offended about that?

But otherwise I see no double standards.

However this may just be utter waffle .....

I’m lost, who’s person A again?

keep up!!

Basically what I’m saying is, if you express a body preference yourself - yet person who you are attracted to in turn doesn’t find your own body attractive and therefore turns you down - being upset or offended about that would probably be the double standards wouldn’t it. If you have a preference, you have to accept that others in turn will also have their own, and you may not be it. (Not you personally!) "

Nope, and again?

So who is person A?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep! It's like a liar demanding honesty.

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

Smokers who won't meet smokers puzzles me, there are a few, could be a box tick error of course

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well ... if person A is overweight and has a preference for person B who is gym fit; and person B in turn prefers overweight - then it’s a match made in heaven.

However if person A only wants people who fit person B’s description, but person B also prefers gym fit and is therefore not attracted to person A, I suppose the double standards might be person A becoming upset or offended about that?

But otherwise I see no double standards.

However this may just be utter waffle .....

I’m lost, who’s person A again?

keep up!!

Basically what I’m saying is, if you express a body preference yourself - yet person who you are attracted to in turn doesn’t find your own body attractive and therefore turns you down - being upset or offended about that would probably be the double standards wouldn’t it. If you have a preference, you have to accept that others in turn will also have their own, and you may not be it. (Not you personally!) "

I see

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Well ... if person A is overweight and has a preference for person B who is gym fit; and person B in turn prefers overweight - then it’s a match made in heaven.

However if person A only wants people who fit person B’s description, but person B also prefers gym fit and is therefore not attracted to person A, I suppose the double standards might be person A becoming upset or offended about that?

But otherwise I see no double standards.

However this may just be utter waffle .....

I’m lost, who’s person A again?

keep up!!

Basically what I’m saying is, if you express a body preference yourself - yet person who you are attracted to in turn doesn’t find your own body attractive and therefore turns you down - being upset or offended about that would probably be the double standards wouldn’t it. If you have a preference, you have to accept that others in turn will also have their own, and you may not be it. (Not you personally!)

Nope, and again?

So who is person A?"

Let’s call her Patricia. Person B is Frank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction is a strange thing so no OP, I don’t believe it’s double standards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well ... if person A is overweight and has a preference for person B who is gym fit; and person B in turn prefers overweight - then it’s a match made in heaven.

However if person A only wants people who fit person B’s description, but person B also prefers gym fit and is therefore not attracted to person A, I suppose the double standards might be person A becoming upset or offended about that?

But otherwise I see no double standards.

However this may just be utter waffle .....

I’m lost, who’s person A again?

keep up!!

Basically what I’m saying is, if you express a body preference yourself - yet person who you are attracted to in turn doesn’t find your own body attractive and therefore turns you down - being upset or offended about that would probably be the double standards wouldn’t it. If you have a preference, you have to accept that others in turn will also have their own, and you may not be it. (Not you personally!)

Nope, and again?

So who is person A?

Let’s call her Patricia. Person B is Frank. "

To be frank, does Patricia have big tits?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Well ... if person A is overweight and has a preference for person B who is gym fit; and person B in turn prefers overweight - then it’s a match made in heaven.

However if person A only wants people who fit person B’s description, but person B also prefers gym fit and is therefore not attracted to person A, I suppose the double standards might be person A becoming upset or offended about that?

But otherwise I see no double standards.

However this may just be utter waffle .....

I’m lost, who’s person A again?

keep up!!

Basically what I’m saying is, if you express a body preference yourself - yet person who you are attracted to in turn doesn’t find your own body attractive and therefore turns you down - being upset or offended about that would probably be the double standards wouldn’t it. If you have a preference, you have to accept that others in turn will also have their own, and you may not be it. (Not you personally!)

Nope, and again?

So who is person A?

Let’s call her Patricia. Person B is Frank. "

Is that frank as in brutally honest?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No. It's valid for everyone to have their own preferences and for like to seek like or very different/opposite.

Sameness can be lacking in stimulation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s personal taste. I love to shave my junk but a tidy bush or armpit hair does it for me.

Or is armpit hair another thread lol

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I don’t bother myself with what others think or do.

Everyone has a different want or need. I like a man right now with a bald head, should I shave my head? I like a man right now who is very fit, I’m not... I positively the opposite.

V x

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"Would you consider it double standards, if a member of the opposite sex on here was for example after someone with shaved genitalia and theirs was hairy. Or after someone gym fit and they are overweight. This is in no way a body shaming thread, I just wondered what people thought of it?

I keep seeing profiles and statuses of people moaning they are not getting what they want and am curious as to people’s opinions... "

Nah not really. They’re allowed to be who they want and like what they want.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

No I don't think its double standards, if you lined up all the people you have had sexual meets with, do they all look the same or have the same traits, I know mine don't.

Its just different preferences and connections

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would you consider it double standards, if a member of the opposite sex on here was for example after someone with shaved genitalia and theirs was hairy. Or after someone gym fit and they are overweight. This is in no way a body shaming thread, I just wondered what people thought of it?

I keep seeing profiles and statuses of people moaning they are not getting what they want and am curious as to people’s opinions...

Nah not really. They’re allowed to be who they want and like what they want. "

That’s why I asked the question of the thread. I know it sounds strange, but some people be it on here or in life seek validation from others. Or even worry about what people think, or even why others are nasty to them. And it’s just great to get answers and enlighten others on here, by opening a line of questioning and bringing it to light.

That’s what I like about fab. For every 2 people out of 10 that are judging others, there are at least 8 that really don’t.

It gives you a bit of faith in the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you consider it double standards, if a member of the opposite sex on here was for example after someone with shaved genitalia and theirs was hairy. Or after someone gym fit and they are overweight. This is in no way a body shaming thread, I just wondered what people thought of it?

I keep seeing profiles and statuses of people moaning they are not getting what they want and am curious as to people’s opinions... "

It isn’t double standards but the people who are moaning might have delusional and unrealistic expectations . We all have preferences, but they have to be realistic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see how it can be double standards. They are stating what they find desirable in a shagging partner. You don't have to be gym fit to find it a turn on "

I agree with this comment

Her x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No. That is not double standards. That's personal preference.

I might demand a bloke with a beard but I can never have my own beard.

Double standards would be me refusing to fuck a bloke with socks on and then fucking another bloke with socks on.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I like extremes, very macho or very feminine both Male and Female. I’m neither I’m somewhere in the middle of both. I also wouldn’t want it in a partner either preferably someone who also is in the middle.

However I have sexual attraction when I’m dressed so if a guy, woman or couple find I match their preferences and they match mine ...great

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"No. That is not double standards. That's personal preference.

I might demand a bloke with a beard but I can never have my own beard.

Double standards would be me refusing to fuck a bloke with socks on and then fucking another bloke with socks on."

Granny, you have just destroyed my mental image of you and your beard

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Shhhhhhhhh ..... I'm in denial.!

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Well ... if person A is overweight and has a preference for person B who is gym fit; and person B in turn prefers overweight - then it’s a match made in heaven.

However if person A only wants people who fit person B’s description, but person B also prefers gym fit and is therefore not attracted to person A, I suppose the double standards might be person A becoming upset or offended about that?

But otherwise I see no double standards.

However this may just be utter waffle .....

I’m lost, who’s person A again?

keep up!!

Basically what I’m saying is, if you express a body preference yourself - yet person who you are attracted to in turn doesn’t find your own body attractive and therefore turns you down - being upset or offended about that would probably be the double standards wouldn’t it. If you have a preference, you have to accept that others in turn will also have their own, and you may not be it. (Not you personally!)

Nope, and again?

So who is person A?

Let’s call her Patricia. Person B is Frank.

To be frank, does Patricia have big tits?"

Dunno I just made her up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly on Fab some people Have no standards.....

I have read people saying things like “ I don’t care what someone looks like , as long as we get on. I’ll shag them “

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Awww, some newbie had messaged, telling us they wanted me bouncing on their 10" cock, but deleted the profile before we had chance to reply. Such a shame

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Is it a double standard for men to insist on only meeting people without dicks when they have a dick themselves?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Is it a double standard for men to insist on only meeting people without dicks when they have a dick themselves? "

Yes. That's why we have strap ons.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I’m not complaining, I’ve met quite a few women that say they won’t meet married men on their profile!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well ... if person A is overweight and has a preference for person B who is gym fit; and person B in turn prefers overweight - then it’s a match made in heaven.

However if person A only wants people who fit person B’s description, but person B also prefers gym fit and is therefore not attracted to person A, I suppose the double standards might be person A becoming upset or offended about that?

But otherwise I see no double standards.

However this may just be utter waffle ..... "

What about person C who is a bystander but is offended by A or B's requirements or preferences. Surely they have a right (to fuck right off and keep their nose out of other peoples business)?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. Im always smooth but I wouldn’t insist a man was. In fact I prefer a man trimmed to be honest.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Is it a double standard for men to insist on only meeting people without dicks when they have a dick themselves? "

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