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By *etite_delight OP   Woman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Inspired from another thread and just curious what women and men thinks when their playmate uses supportive toys during the play to last longer, get wet, get started... such as viagra, cock rings, vibrators, lube, blindfold etc.

Does it make you doubt yourself that you are not enough? Be kind , don’t rant

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Yes. I would rather be the only thing that turned them on. One of my friends uses something beginning with p he snorts (was not allowed to use word) and it drives me mad and stinks which is a passoon killer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often feel like this

The same when guys find out I am straight, like it is their challenge to break me...It just adds to the inadequacy, I will back off at that point because it is obvious that I am not enough

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

If anyone wants to use toys or anything else to add an extra hit of something into the mix then im all for it.

It doesn't detract from play at all and often enhances it I think.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

In most instances they're used as an addition to my pleasure, in my experience. I'm not troubled by them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Inspired from another thread and just curious what women and men thinks when their playmate uses supportive toys during the play to last longer, get wet, get started... such as viagra, cock rings, vibrators, lube, blindfold etc.

Does it make you doubt yourself that you are not enough? Be kind , don’t rant "
well i would prefer it if i turn them on as yes would doubt myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above..they are an aid to pleasure and increasing that pleasure..Id be very worried if I felt threatened by a toy lolol. Besides that the ladies know their own desires and their own ways to reach even greater highs so I respect that and enjoy learning of their individual querks of pleasure

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nope. Human beings and our sex organs can be complex. I have sex with people, not sex robots. If including certain things heightens their experience or is even needed to make sex possible then I'm game.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

The mind is a tricky thing and these aids are often just the peace of mind you need. It's nothing to do with the other person.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Nothing to do with the other person being inadequate, I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it doesnt bother me particularly as I might not know all the reasons why they feel the need to involve them. It is not necessary reflection on me, but it's nice if they take time to explain why. On the other hand.. I get frustrated when someone does not want me to involve toys for example (if I feel the need!) As they claim they want to take all credit for my orgasm.. it happened more than once. It doesnt take anything away from anyone, its enriching and expanding experiences!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock rings make it feel better for me, I wear one some times, not because I cant get hard as suggested on another thread.

Toys, vibrators, dildos etc. I have no issue with, I wouldn't bring it up or introduce them but if the woman wants to then great.

It can certainly add to the experience in my opinion and has always been great fun.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Generally ok as long as they’re not poking anything up my bum for extra gains.

Also not keen on her vibing herself whilst I’m doing the fandango inside her. It’s both distracting and makes me feel like she hasn’t noticed I’m there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me one bit if a guy wants to use toys, I have many, so normally it's me that will suggest using them. Viagra - I had one FWB that liked to use it. Why would I mind it when he made him rampant!

But any other form of drugs is a total no no for me.

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

No, it doesn't bother me at all, I use them frequently to enhance the sex play.

I love to play after a good fuck and use small bullet vibrators to further buzz a lady's clit and pussy while I try to suck and lick her nipples. Sometimes, her orgasm lasts until the batteries run out and I have to finish manually with a pussy lick or a finger fuck. My former FWB really liked in and called it "super orgasm".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love all the extras!

Everything has a time and a place, I just go with the flow.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Toys are an enhancement not a replacement as far as I am concerned and talking with a partner about them and choosing them together is all part of the fun.

Other aids such as viagra, *if* they're medically necessary, I don't see the problem with either - that's the point of them, and when used in that way are no different from taking a paracetamol for a headache.

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
over a year ago

A place where others reside

It is only ever an additive for us. Lube is helpful (especially with role play and fantasy). Blindfolds are a huge part of our lives and always make things fun.

Toys are an occasional thing for us but we have a good variety if the mood takes us to try something at the time

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Doesn't bother me at all. Can be fun. Sometimes I need more lube, not because I'm not turned on or a guy doesn't excite me but because I'm a menopausal old woman

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Toys and things are good to use, it’s nice to see how someone uses them on themselves because it’ll probably help me know what turns them on.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Ain't fussed.

I am a wand fiend and won't clit orgasm without it, but fucking hell it feels so much better with a cock in my biff at the same time.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Depends really. If used occasionally as an added extra then fair enough, but if it’s being used all the time to get them off then I’d lose interest, particularly if they kept banging on about it.

If I was doing something that wasn’t doing it for them then I’d rather they tell me than try to mask the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ain't fussed.

I am a wand fiend and won't clit orgasm without it, but fucking hell it feels so much better with a cock in my biff at the same time."

It feels good for the bloke as well (not your biff specifically as I haven't any experience of it )

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Ain't fussed.

I am a wand fiend and won't clit orgasm without it, but fucking hell it feels so much better with a cock in my biff at the same time.

It feels good for the bloke as well (not your biff specifically as I haven't any experience of it )"

Add the feeling of my cunt pulsating round his cock when my popcorn kernel goes bang and boom, double whammy

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Doesn't bother me at all. Can be fun. Sometimes I need more lube, not because I'm not turned on or a guy doesn't excite me but because I'm a menopausal old woman "

I'm very far from menopausal but I use lube 99% of the time I have sex because it makes it feel better.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Ain't fussed.

I am a wand fiend and won't clit orgasm without it, but fucking hell it feels so much better with a cock in my biff at the same time."

And obviously the kazoo up your poop-chute for some tunes while you screw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a great lover of toys unless I want to experiment in, sorry on him that is...

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Ain't fussed.

I am a wand fiend and won't clit orgasm without it, but fucking hell it feels so much better with a cock in my biff at the same time.

And obviously the kazoo up your poop-chute for some tunes while you screw "

yes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never seen toys as something to be concerned over, I quite like them.

I'm happy to play, however, I'm not keen on a guy trying to persuade me to invite another female to join, when I'm ready I will suggest it.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I like toys on my own and also with another.

It isn’t about replacing anyone or that the other person isn’t good enough on their own merit to get each other off, more another element of exploration and enjoyment for both.

Some of the reactions I’ve had when introducing a new element, to time with someone has just heightened my own enjoyment and experience with them, as well as their own.

Never say never, you might just like it

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Im all for adding toys into the playing.

After all - the more pleasure we can have the better the sex. Xx

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"If anyone wants to use toys or anything else to add an extra hit of something into the mix then im all for it.

It doesn't detract from play at all and often enhances it I think."

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It makes me feel that there's a weird stigma around using lube and there really shouldn't be. Lube doesn't mean someone isn't aroused enough. They don't want to be fucked silly by you. It's a pleasant addition and heightens the pleasure felt. Sometimes, shock horror, I'm not my usual dripping like a leaky tap self (hormones, medication). I'm still gagging for it and lube helps facilitate my need for cock.

In a similar vein, I love watching people using toys. I'd have a bit of an issue if that's all they wanted to do but it's a welcome addition otherwise. Watching a man arching his back as his cock gets incredibly thick and hard as I use a fleshlight on him? Yes please. Watching a tied up woman have a wand pressed teasingly close to her clit, enough to make her want to orgasm but unable to? Yes. Please.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It makes me feel that there's a weird stigma around using lube and there really shouldn't be. Lube doesn't mean someone isn't aroused enough. They don't want to be fucked silly by you. It's a pleasant addition and heightens the pleasure felt. Sometimes, shock horror, I'm not my usual dripping like a leaky tap self (hormones, medication). I'm still gagging for it and lube helps facilitate my need for cock.

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Personally, lube is thicker than my natural wetness too. I can be absolutely soaking wet but lube will always keep things more slippery and chafe free .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. If there's something they want to use or try out that they'll enjoy I'm not going to take offence in the slightest

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"It makes me feel that there's a weird stigma around using lube and there really shouldn't be. Lube doesn't mean someone isn't aroused enough. They don't want to be fucked silly by you. It's a pleasant addition and heightens the pleasure felt. Sometimes, shock horror, I'm not my usual dripping like a leaky tap self (hormones, medication). I'm still gagging for it and lube helps facilitate my need for cock.

Personally, lube is thicker than my natural wetness too. I can be absolutely soaking wet but lube will always keep things more slippery and chafe free . "

Yes same here! Even when I'm gushing lube gives that slippery slickness that makes it even more fun.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Yes same here! Even when I'm gushing lube gives that slippery slickness that makes it even more fun."

And can give you that competitive edge in leapfrog events

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