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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Question for the ladies this one so please get in touch and be honest, but when we are talking to single women or cpls it’s all going well and then we send a face picture and it mostly ends good with a meet arranged but on the other hand I’m getting told “you are my type hun but not your fella”, it hurts me some times as we are a cpl but no one will really tell us why he’s not their type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you really like someone to tell you what exactly they dislike about their partner? I think its just easier to accept they are not their type and move on. It's just someones opinions..

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

It's really hard to find a 3 way attraction, try to not let it hurt your feelings.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would you really like someone to tell you what exactly they dislike about their partner? I think its just easier to accept they are not their type and move on. It's just someones opinions.. "

Honestly yes it’s mr who wants to know more tbh.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"It's really hard to find a 3 way attraction, try to not let it hurt your feelings."

What she said

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's really hard to find a 3 way attraction, try to not let it hurt your feelings."

He’s ok with it, it’s just me as I don’t want to feel like he’s being left out, it just throws me when they like our pictures and like his cock but then see a face pic and it goes cold

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Sorry to butt in on a ladies-centred topic - I'm content when someone takes the time to say I'm not their type. Usually there's not even a reply. It's a courtesy, not a requirement.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Sorry to butt in on a ladies-centred topic - I'm content when someone takes the time to say I'm not their type. Usually there's not even a reply. It's a courtesy, not a requirement."

Spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find with couples its only 1 I'm attracted to! Not had any as yet contact me and I like both of them..... I think its a rare find tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Singles are always easier, however finding matching couples theres less than a 20% chance of everyone liking their counterpart of the opposite sex, plus the females liking each other too.

When feeding back to people, we just say its not there for us both, we don't specify who, its been done to us before and it doesn't feel nice.

Fab is a fickle community, but there's an entitlement to that as people use it n for screening) Some of the best nights we have had have been with couples we wouldn't have thought compatible (in both directions).

We tend to use a yes, no, maybe approach now as a couple as you never can tell x

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Finding one person on here that ticks the boxes is hard , finding both in a couple is even harder !

Swinging is different for so many people. For some (like me) the physical attraction on here is very important and for others it’s simply the thrill of having a naughty encounter and yes they like to be attracted but perhaps looks are not as important as the naughtiness of it actually just being someone different

Perhaps when all this Covid stuff is over try venturing to a club as I find sometimes my best meets have been with people I wouldn’t necessarily meet on here but once you’ve had a chance to have a laugh with then in a relaxed environment you hit it off and the attraction is more than physical

Just a thought ....

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

For many people, myself included, *not* being attracted to someone is rarely down to a single feature. It's far simpler than that - in the scenario you described you look at their picture and you just don't get *that* feeling. In fact, I really don't think I have a 'type', it's more a case of 'knowing it when I see it' (or not) and it's about the overall impression you get.

It'd therefore be near impossible for me to say exactly why someone's not for me and I certainly wouldn't want to give anyone a complex by remarking specifically upon their nose, their jaw or whatever. Especially when someone else might feel very differently.

Replying that you're not their type is polite rejection and shouldn't be taken to heart as none of us can possibly be attractive to all. And obviously the odds of fancying all concerned reduce considerably once you add more bodies into the mix. I honestly believe a more thorough 'explanation' would only serve to batter his self confidence and would therefore do more harm than good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally if I'm not attracted to a person then that's all I'll say and politely apologise and wish then luck. I'd never tell them specifics because I wouldn't want to unnecessarily give someone a hang up to worry about with anyone else

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By *amantha1967Woman
over a year ago

Redditch

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By *amantha1967Woman
over a year ago

Redditch

Couldn’t agree more- always try to be polite with no’s but too many get aggressive with that

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Could it be something simple such as him having a beard which some women don't like, or his build or hair ? Not necessarily his face.

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By *sa JaneWoman
over a year ago

Cumbria

Everyone is looking for different things..I'd be interested to see his face pic as you've got me wondering now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely agree with other comments to let it go if that's said etc. It could literally be his stubble or something tiny. Move on and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you rather they said ‘yeah ok I’ll meet you but your husband? Nah he’s ugly, I’m not taking one for the team’

Just accept that they aren’t interested

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Wrong hair colour for one

Wrong eye colour for another

Too tall/too short

Too muscly/not muscly enough

Does wear glasses/doesn't wear glasses

Looks too innocent/looks too creepy

Needs to smile more/way too smiley

You see, if everyone answered the same question with a different answer all it's likely to do is create even more confusion and shred his confidence over things he can't change. And what he can't change is what other people see and want.

It isn't our place to question rejection, merely our place to accept it.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It's really hard to find a 3 way attraction, try to not let it hurt your feelings.

He’s ok with it, it’s just me as I don’t want to feel like he’s being left out, it just throws me when they like our pictures and like his cock but then see a face pic and it goes cold "

Your pictures are mostly of the woman though and don't give much indication of what the man looks like. I doubt many people sleep with someone just because they like the look of their cock.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"It's really hard to find a 3 way attraction, try to not let it hurt your feelings.

He’s ok with it, it’s just me as I don’t want to feel like he’s being left out, it just throws me when they like our pictures and like his cock but then see a face pic and it goes cold

Your pictures are mostly of the woman though and don't give much indication of what the man looks like. I doubt many people sleep with someone just because they like the look of their cock. "

That is very true !

I certainly wouldn’t

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

We'd never say just one of a couple wasn't our type. The thing is of you did know why, how would it help?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Also if things mostly end with a meet why worry? Concentrate on the good outcomes.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I can answer o/p (and I am a man but it's how it appears to me!) 99.99% of women have a "type" and 99.99% of men don't have a "type".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all some very good points for us to take onboard, of our paths do cross we hope we all have a good time of not then happy fabbing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to butt in on a ladies-centred topic - I'm content when someone takes the time to say I'm not their type. Usually there's not even a reply. It's a courtesy, not a requirement."

Wot he said !

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

As the female of a couple it’s extremely hard to find a 4 way attraction ..We are also both bi so need to be physically attracted to both equally.We don’t really have a type when it comes to women but with men we have a specific type luckily for us we both have the same taste in men .This is something the majority of couples have been told at some point.Your lucky you even have a reply that’s more than a lot of people get.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Sometimes it’s even their attitude I’m not attracted to.

There was one guy who used to message me and put other people down, pinpointing particular friends and saying how much better he was than them.

Not saying OP is like that at all but it is another thing that I take on board when choosing to meet or not x

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Maybe if you just displayed more photographs there are clever and interesting ways to hide your identity even with more photographs..

Saying that meets are hard work looking forward to clubs being ok for visitors ..

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