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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land

Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever expected to make such good friendships from joining here. Lots of friends I chat to regularly but also 2 amazing friends for life who are way way beyond fab now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been friends with a female that I didnt want to pump! Even my male friends partners!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been friends with a female that I didnt want to pump! Even my male friends partners! "

. You kill me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve made some of the best friends on here, and that without a doubt has been one of the best things to come out of Fab for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm starting to make some lovely friends I must say , although we live all over country , I'm hoping one day we can share a drink or 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been friends with a female that I didnt want to pump! Even my male friends partners!

. You kill me "

It's only funny because it true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been friends with a female that I didnt want to pump! Even my male friends partners!

. You kill me

It's only funny because it true! "

I don’t doubt it for a second!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum? "

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found some very fine friends on here..not many but more than enough..the thought of sitting around a table with fine food and drink just laughing and chatting about everything and anything..wow that would be a dream..so I ll raise a glass to those that I consider my friends for unknowingly they drew me back here.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I never came looking for friendship but it happened.

Some people you just instantly click with on here and then in person, two I now call lifers.... poor sods are stuck with me now, like a pair of comfy socks . Others have developed online or meeting face to face and I look forward to continuing those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. 2 friends in particular who will never get rid of me now and a group of ladies that provide giggles and consolation when required

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I have found some genuine friends on here and some friends with benefits.

There are lots that I’d like to have a good natter with in a pub.

I think when people first join in on the forums the fact that others appear to know each other quite well can be intimidating. And it’s easy to think some people know each other better than they do. But most people are welcoming. Especially if a new woman joins in!

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum?

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X"

I get that, it took a while for me to get to know people's personalities. One of those I'm friends with I messaged them just to say hello and that I often agreed with his viewpoints on the forum. And we went from there, sometimes we have to put ourselves out there even though it's a bit scary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum?

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X"

Hey you..best way is just chat..its not cliquey so much as many on the forums have known each other a long time..just keep chatting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hoping to be proved wrong that it’s a fickle place with lots of backstabbing and bitching which has been my previous experience.

Such a shame all the best people are far away coz a social with drinks and conversation would be ace and maybe the fun to be had after too

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

We joined for fun /sexxy times anything else would be a bonus....over time made some "friends" who we can have a meal /drink/laugh and be intimate with also ...lovely .x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X"

You'll get there. There are so many different friendships you'll come across, but so many new ones developing all the time. It's like a David Attenborough slow-mo of flowers opening up across a field. Beautiful to behold. Don't feel excluded, just be here for you.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Yes! Both Male and female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hoping to be proved wrong that it’s a fickle place with lots of backstabbing and bitching which has been my previous experience.

Such a shame all the best people are far away coz a social with drinks and conversation would be ace and maybe the fun to be had after too "

Unfortunately it is that also. Just need to have your wits about you. Some amazing people too though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum?

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X

I get that, it took a while for me to get to know people's personalities. One of those I'm friends with I messaged them just to say hello and that I often agreed with his viewpoints on the forum. And we went from there, sometimes we have to put ourselves out there even though it's a bit scary "

I just jump in on threads and say my piece, the “my mate” and other forum games get people talking though I like them x

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X

You'll get there. There are so many different friendships you'll come across, but so many new ones developing all the time. It's like a David Attenborough slow-mo of flowers opening up across a field. Beautiful to behold. Don't feel excluded, just be here for you. "

this heat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just love all the flirty banter and wind ups. I've not made any local friends on fab but there are a few women I like chatting with on here on a regular basis. Theres 2 I chat with outwith fab regular too.

I've kept the male friends at arms length on here though!

Like I said in an earlier thread, I see them all as competition!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hoping to be proved wrong that it’s a fickle place with lots of backstabbing and bitching which has been my previous experience.

Such a shame all the best people are far away coz a social with drinks and conversation would be ace and maybe the fun to be had after too

Unfortunately it is that also. Just need to have your wits about you. Some amazing people too though x"

Oh yes don’t I know it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been friends with a female that I didnt want to pump! "

Shit, I am practically the female version of you. All my men friends I would happily shag as luckily they are all shaggable.

As for friends on here, yep, ditto

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Hoping to be proved wrong that it’s a fickle place with lots of backstabbing and bitching which has been my previous experience.

Such a shame all the best people are far away coz a social with drinks and conversation would be ace and maybe the fun to be had after too "

Hey lady

I think you just have to try and ignore the parts that feel bad and embrace the parts that feel good. Which can be hard.

If you figure out how, do let me know.

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By *ookworm258Man
over a year ago

Wythenshawe

I would be happy to make more friends among the Fab community.

The issue I have is that I am a chatty person once I know someone but I find it difficult to start a new interaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean theres people I'd go out for drinks with and have a laugh with from fab, but I wouldn't call it a proper friendship. I have a small group of actual friends outside fab, friends that are there for you and you them no matter what. To me that's friendship not just people you know for giggles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hoping to be proved wrong that it’s a fickle place with lots of backstabbing and bitching which has been my previous experience.

Such a shame all the best people are far away coz a social with drinks and conversation would be ace and maybe the fun to be had after too

Hey lady

I think you just have to try and ignore the parts that feel bad and embrace the parts that feel good. Which can be hard.

If you figure out how, do let me know.

"

Its all about balance x

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I keep my family friend life seperate from my fab life, my special friends on here are close to me, but will never know anything about my family life.

Chat wise I am happy being lots of peoples acquaintances but can count the people on here who really know me on one hand and thats how I like it

I like seeing the friendships roll and evolve on the forum as the flirting changes week by week as new people come and the dynamic changes slightly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean theres people I'd go out for drinks with and have a laugh with from fab, but I wouldn't call it a proper friendship. I have a small group of actual friends outside fab, friends that are there for you and you them no matter what. To me that's friendship not just people you know for giggles. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bizarrely enough, the more I talk with connections, the less sexually focused my relationship becomes.

I've made connections on here over the years and drop texts to them and meet for a coffee when life allows.

Odd I know, but having casual sex with them, would almost feel like I was using them. I like the connections I've made. Sometimes we take people for granted on here...they're just as human as my real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've made some very good friends on here & can't wait for the time to come when we can see them all again x

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley


"Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum?

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X"

Totally agree. In fact it’s very cliquey.also some who have nothing nice to say about someone’s post (usually a single males) chips in with a sarky comment just to get involved.the OP are a lovely couple to chat to,and will catch up with them when my nerves calm down!

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Hoping to be proved wrong that it’s a fickle place with lots of backstabbing and bitching which has been my previous experience.

Such a shame all the best people are far away coz a social with drinks and conversation would be ace and maybe the fun to be had after too

Hey lady

I think you just have to try and ignore the parts that feel bad and embrace the parts that feel good. Which can be hard.

If you figure out how, do let me know.

"

Seconded. Can you let me know too please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love this. It warms my cockles too! We are all human at the end of the day, just extra sexual ones.

I've made some of my best friends through fab because they know me inside out (literally)

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I've made some wonderful friends on here, and some who I hope will turn out to be but it's early days and we are still getting to know each other.

And most definitely some lifers!

Always room for more lovely people though....

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum?

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X

Totally agree. In fact it’s very cliquey.also some who have nothing nice to say about someone’s post (usually a single males) chips in with a sarky comment just to get involved.the OP are a lovely couple to chat to,and will catch up with them when my nerves calm down! "

Thank you lovely, we look forward to meeting you soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've made some wonderful friends on here, and some who I hope will turn out to be but it's early days and we are still getting to know each other.

And most definitely some lifers!

Always room for more lovely people though.... "

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

I have people on here who I consider friends but (with the exception of the ones I’ve met in person), it’s generally speaking a very different “friendship” to my real life friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum?

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X"

We are friends Minxy Gem xx

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Gives me a warm and fuzzy feeling too. I've made some lifelong friends from here. 1 was quite surprising as we used to flirt incessantly and now he is a close and dear friend x

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I love this. It warms my cockles too! We are all human at the end of the day, just extra sexual ones.

I've made some of my best friends through fab because they know me inside out (literally) "

It's lovely isn't it? Having friends that know the part that is often hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been friends with a female that I didnt want to pump! Even my male friends partners! "

The word 'pump' makes me cringe but also giggle at the same time lol

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I've made some wonderful friends on here, and some who I hope will turn out to be but it's early days and we are still getting to know each other.

And most definitely some lifers!

Always room for more lovely people though.... "

That's it there's always room for more, you'd better have some room for me

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I've never been friends with a female that I didnt want to pump! Even my male friends partners!

. You kill me

It's only funny because it true! "

You’ve proved my theory my dear!!!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I've made some wonderful friends on here, and some who I hope will turn out to be but it's early days and we are still getting to know each other.

And most definitely some lifers!

Always room for more lovely people though....

"

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The last thing I expected when I joined was to find friendship here - true friendship that is no different from my real life friendships that transcend Fab, but I have, and these are people I know I can count on if I need them, who will lift me up, will tell me straight where I've gone wrong and will fight my corner when it's called for.

Curiously they're all women and there's not the slightest bit of sexual interest with most of them, despite the fact I've seen them in all manner of poses and states of undress.

There are blokes I chat to for sure and all of my closest "real life" friends are blokes but the men I chat to here it's more of a nod to each other every now and then kind of thing or those friendships have fallen by the wayside over time sadly.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I've made some wonderful friends on here, and some who I hope will turn out to be but it's early days and we are still getting to know each other.

And most definitely some lifers!

Always room for more lovely people though....

That's it there's always room for more, you'd better have some room for me "

Of course.... You're already on that list gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Bizarrely enough, the more I talk with connections, the less sexually focused my relationship becomes.

I've made connections on here over the years and drop texts to them and meet for a coffee when life allows.

Odd I know, but having casual sex with them, would almost feel like I was using them. I like the connections I've made. Sometimes we take people for granted on here...they're just as human as my real world."

Love this..my good friends on here I don t think we ve ever talked sex..sexuality but not sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m actually so glad that this was posted OP.

It’s been on my mind a lot today. Felt a bit excluded and that the same old names and faces popping up (I call it brown nosing) Give it time I’ll be one of them though I hope lol.

It can feel like the first day of school when you rejoin and you’re almost you know trying to work out who to be friends with and who to trust.

I am 100 organically me you’ll notice from my posts I say it how it is I’m honest and open with things and I try to be friendly to all flirty with others haha, don’t like it you know where the block button is haha!

Thanks for the welcome messages by the way you lovely bunch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum?

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X

We are friends Minxy Gem xx "

Awwwh my drinking buddy hey you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

made some amazing friends on fab once guys get the hang of its not all about sex but about comfortable around those that speak the same language they will find the social side is truly amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've made some wonderful friends on here, and some who I hope will turn out to be but it's early days and we are still getting to know each other.

And most definitely some lifers!

Always room for more lovely people though....

That's it there's always room for more, you'd better have some room for me "

I just had a wee perv of your profile and pics miss Frida wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been friends with a female that I didnt want to pump! Even my male friends partners!

. You kill me

It's only funny because it true!

You’ve proved my theory my dear!!! "

Haha....what was your theory?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, nice thread on friendship - hopefully made a good friend today

XXX

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I’m actually so glad that this was posted OP.

It’s been on my mind a lot today. Felt a bit excluded and that the same old names and faces popping up (I call it brown nosing) Give it time I’ll be one of them though I hope lol.

It can feel like the first day of school when you rejoin and you’re almost you know trying to work out who to be friends with and who to trust.

I am 100 organically me you’ll notice from my posts I say it how it is I’m honest and open with things and I try to be friendly to all flirty with others haha, don’t like it you know where the block button is haha!

Thanks for the welcome messages by the way you lovely bunch. "

You will find your way and first day at school is a good reference as it can feel like that at times.

Trust your gut, join in, but keep your wits about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum?

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X"

This.

Friendships are eluding me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My only friends are on here tbh apart from my gf and one other..not like Im weird..ok maybe a bit but I work long days in woodland and wild solitude..doesn t present much of an opportunity really

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Hoping to be proved wrong that it’s a fickle place with lots of backstabbing and bitching which has been my previous experience.

Such a shame all the best people are far away coz a social with drinks and conversation would be ace and maybe the fun to be had after too

Unfortunately it is that also. Just need to have your wits about you. Some amazing people too though x"

Yes there are

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Hoping to be proved wrong that it’s a fickle place with lots of backstabbing and bitching which has been my previous experience.

Such a shame all the best people are far away coz a social with drinks and conversation would be ace and maybe the fun to be had after too "

It is what you make it but welcome back and I hope you enjoy a better experience this time

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I’m actually so glad that this was posted OP.

It’s been on my mind a lot today. Felt a bit excluded and that the same old names and faces popping up (I call it brown nosing) Give it time I’ll be one of them though I hope lol.

It can feel like the first day of school when you rejoin and you’re almost you know trying to work out who to be friends with and who to trust.

I am 100 organically me you’ll notice from my posts I say it how it is I’m honest and open with things and I try to be friendly to all flirty with others haha, don’t like it you know where the block button is haha!

Thanks for the welcome messages by the way you lovely bunch. "

This is an awesome attitude and one I relate too. It does take time to feel your way around. But exactly in the same way it takes time to build friendship's in work it is true on here also. Oh and I'm the same heart on my sleeve no bull shit or backstabbing, life is too short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My only friends are on here tbh apart from my gf and one other..not like Im weird..ok maybe a bit but I work long days in woodland and wild solitude..doesn t present much of an opportunity really "

Don’t you talk to the Cornish piskies and bears. lol

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Hey, nice thread on friendship - hopefully made a good friend today

XXX"

Woohoo I'm super happy for you

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"I’m actually so glad that this was posted OP.

It’s been on my mind a lot today. Felt a bit excluded and that the same old names and faces popping up (I call it brown nosing) Give it time I’ll be one of them though I hope lol.

It can feel like the first day of school when you rejoin and you’re almost you know trying to work out who to be friends with and who to trust.

I am 100 organically me you’ll notice from my posts I say it how it is I’m honest and open with things and I try to be friendly to all flirty with others haha, don’t like it you know where the block button is haha!

Thanks for the welcome messages by the way you lovely bunch. "

I recently re joined after 5 months away and I hear you, it’s hard! But you will get there. It can be hard to know who to trust but my instincts serve me well on here. Welcome by the way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve made friends with a few and then there are those who I thought were friends but turned out not to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always hold myself one step back from really being friends with people, there are lots here I feel I could be good friends with, but feel I lack the energy to be a good enough friend so never take the plunge There are a couple of people that I have met and do hope will continue to be friends with, I think they may be stuck with me anyway, poor them

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

awesome to have fab friends and lovers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m actually so glad that this was posted OP.

It’s been on my mind a lot today. Felt a bit excluded and that the same old names and faces popping up (I call it brown nosing) Give it time I’ll be one of them though I hope lol.

It can feel like the first day of school when you rejoin and you’re almost you know trying to work out who to be friends with and who to trust.

I am 100 organically me you’ll notice from my posts I say it how it is I’m honest and open with things and I try to be friendly to all flirty with others haha, don’t like it you know where the block button is haha!

Thanks for the welcome messages by the way you lovely bunch.

This is an awesome attitude and one I relate too. It does take time to feel your way around. But exactly in the same way it takes time to build friendship's in work it is true on here also. Oh and I'm the same heart on my sleeve no bull shit or backstabbing, life is too short "

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My only friends are on here tbh apart from my gf and one other..not like Im weird..ok maybe a bit but I work long days in woodland and wild solitude..doesn t present much of an opportunity really

Don’t you talk to the Cornish piskies and bears. lol "

Yeah that could be the weird part of me..I talk to anything but humans..especially my trees..my beautiful trees...see...weird!

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"I’ve made friends with a few and then there are those who I thought were friends but turned out not to be "

Also this.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"My only friends are on here tbh apart from my gf and one other..not like Im weird..ok maybe a bit but I work long days in woodland and wild solitude..doesn t present much of an opportunity really

Don’t you talk to the Cornish piskies and bears. lol

Yeah that could be the weird part of me..I talk to anything but humans..especially my trees..my beautiful trees...see...weird! "

Weird is good in my book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made some lovely people on here recently who I consider friends and will always be here and around for them

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

We came on here with the attitude we have enough friends, we just want more sex, but the opposite happened. Sometimes wish we had more time for the friendships on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

This.

Friendships are eluding me. "

Don't give up, you'll find someone on your level in amongst this crazy rabble! X

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I’m yet to make any friendships on Fab though I’d like to. The forums can appear to be somewhat clicky which is the nature of many clubs and similar where folks engage a lot. The Chatroom doesn’t work for me - not a place I’d choose to hangout really. Bottom line is I’m v relaxed about what will come and in whatever form.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I've never been friends with a female that I didnt want to pump! Even my male friends partners!

. You kill me

It's only funny because it true!

You’ve proved my theory my dear!!!

Haha....what was your theory?"

Men want to ‘pump’ even female friends! Men have argued this does not happen but you’ve proved me right.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X

This.

Friendships are eluding me. "

But like any kind of friendship (real world or anywhere) they build over time, finding that person you instantly "click" with is a rarity (one to be held onto for sure but a rarity all the same).

Those "groups" of friends referred to above have all evolved over time and been forged through people just throwing caution to the wind and getting stuck in.

I'm not saying it's easy, because it's not but give it time, keep plugging away and being you and you'll find them, and often in the least expected places.

Someone I'm friends with here, at face value is polar opposites from me, but we found a friendship all the same and are actually very alike in the way we think.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"

This.

Friendships are eluding me.

Don't give up, you'll find someone on your level in amongst this crazy rabble! X "

This I didn't make friends for ages. Sometimes just takes time, but as heat as there's a whole lot of people here

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Honestly the friendships are the best things I've gotten from fab. Life can always use more friends.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley


"Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum?

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X

Totally agree. In fact it’s very cliquey.also some who have nothing nice to say about someone’s post (usually a single males) chips in with a sarky comment just to get involved.the OP are a lovely couple to chat to,and will catch up with them when my nerves calm down!

Thank you lovely, we look forward to meeting you soon "

That’s because you’re trouble!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice thread Frida! (my bestie)

I won't deny I've made a few misjudged friendships here in the past, HOWEVER I've also made a handful of really, really great friends here who I talk to most days outside of fab about non-fab things and sometimes their opinions and support have been invaluable to me. Forever friends if you will who have opened me up to new ideas and ways of thinking and I'm better for that.

If people don't like seeing me chat with my friends on my threads then they can choose to ignore them, and I think tbf some do but I also think that's cool. I'm always inclusive and reply to everyone but occasionally a conversation with a friend will develop and often that takes a thread in a new direction and we all learn something from it and have a laugh and old friends are introduced to new friends expanding our experience for the better....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been friends with a female that I didnt want to pump! Even my male friends partners!

. You kill me

It's only funny because it true!

You’ve proved my theory my dear!!!

Haha....what was your theory?

Men want to ‘pump’ even female friends! Men have argued this does not happen but you’ve proved me right. "

Not all men are the same though.....I still think if a girl smiles at me, shes wanting pumped!

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Like many others I’ve met some great people on here and developed some excellent friendships.

I didn’t have a ‘goal’ so to speak when I joined but I’ve definitely achieved something in my time here

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Looking at the thread "what's your goal on fab", many of us are looking for friendship as well as sex. And it's got me thinking, I've made several friends on here, both male and female who'd I love to sit and have a natter down the pub with. Which often spills onto the forum as chat and banter. Other friendships are not as obvious to others, but I would equally sit and talk to them all day.

When I see other friendships on here it warms my cockles, and see it as fab bringing like minded people together. And it's only human to want to connect to one another.

Guess my questions are have you found friendship on fab? Is it something you actively seek out or something that developed over time? Or do you find it nauseating when friends are chatting on the forum?

Not as yet but I’m totally open for this. So hey everyone.

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X

Totally agree. In fact it’s very cliquey.also some who have nothing nice to say about someone’s post (usually a single males) chips in with a sarky comment just to get involved.the OP are a lovely couple to chat to,and will catch up with them when my nerves calm down!

Thank you lovely, we look forward to meeting you soon

That’s because you’re trouble! "

Guilty as

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My only friends are on here tbh apart from my gf and one other..not like Im weird..ok maybe a bit but I work long days in woodland and wild solitude..doesn t present much of an opportunity really

Don’t you talk to the Cornish piskies and bears. lol

Yeah that could be the weird part of me..I talk to anything but humans..especially my trees..my beautiful trees...see...weird!

Weird is good in my book "

Weird is SPECIAL LOLOLOLOLOL..too crazy manic a response?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here 5 yrs and only made male friends. I don't trust anyone on here anymore, everybody seems to have an agenda. It is lovely when friendships form but I'm a loner, and don't want to get close to anybody on here again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been here 5 yrs and only made male friends. I don't trust anyone on here anymore, everybody seems to have an agenda. It is lovely when friendships form but I'm a loner, and don't want to get close to anybody on here again. "

You still want pumped though, right?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"

Have noticed it’s a bit cliquey with the same people popping up over and over but trying to jump in there and get involved. It must be intimidating for some newbies who don’t get how fab and the forums are.

X

This.

Friendships are eluding me.

But like any kind of friendship (real world or anywhere) they build over time, finding that person you instantly "click" with is a rarity (one to be held onto for sure but a rarity all the same).

Those "groups" of friends referred to above have all evolved over time and been forged through people just throwing caution to the wind and getting stuck in.

I'm not saying it's easy, because it's not but give it time, keep plugging away and being you and you'll find them, and often in the least expected places.

Someone I'm friends with here, at face value is polar opposites from me, but we found a friendship all the same and are actually very alike in the way we think."

This is so true. Also be brave and send those messages. I've made some great friends from seeing someone who intrigued me and plucking up the courage to drop them a message.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I’ve made friends with a few and then there are those who I thought were friends but turned out not to be "

This is true

but I believe on here we are meant to be in each others lives for a while when we need each other, then it naturally fades as we come across different people we need, sometimes its a long while friendship, sometimes its a short one.

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

I think I also find it hard to express my full self on here. In reality we are all multifaceted beings with lots of idiosyncrasies and the connection of these qualities with others is what allows us to form lasting friendships ... On here, I probably accurately portray around 5-10% of who I truly am. That’s likely why my relationships on here feel less connected or authentic than my real life friendships. But I think that’s natural. And I’m definitely open to developing the friendships on here that I’ve begun to form more deeply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve made friends with a few and then there are those who I thought were friends but turned out not to be

This is true

but I believe on here we are meant to be in each others lives for a while when we need each other, then it naturally fades as we come across different people we need, sometimes its a long while friendship, sometimes its a short one.

"

Yes that’s also true, there are those that only come to you in bad times and ignore you when they’re having a good time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"No I’m yet to make any friendships on Fab though I’d like to. The forums can appear to be somewhat clicky which is the nature of many clubs and similar where folks engage a lot. The Chatroom doesn’t work for me - not a place I’d choose to hangout really. Bottom line is I’m v relaxed about what will come and in whatever form. "

Great attitude, stick around and join in, it will happen when you least expect it

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I think I also find it hard to express my full self on here. In reality we are all multifaceted beings with lots of idiosyncrasies and the connection of these qualities with others is what allows us to form lasting friendships ... On here, I probably accurately portray around 5-10% of who I truly am. That’s likely why my relationships on here feel less connected or authentic than my real life friendships. But I think that’s natural. And I’m definitely open to developing the friendships on here that I’ve begun to form more deeply. "

Absolutely. The strongest ones for me are those I've met in person. I don't think its impossible purely online but it sure takes longer.

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those "

I have really enjoyed chatting to you and the other ladies recently.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I’ve made friends with a few and then there are those who I thought were friends but turned out not to be

Also this. "

And that's Fickle Fab for you - the plastic friendships that come and go because something shinier came along or because you had the audacity to disagree with something they said, or glance at "their" man/woman, or a myriad of other tenuous reasons....

....but get beyond that and you can find friendships that go way beyond these four walls, where people accept you for who you are, not what they'd like you to be and they're the true and lasting friendships that have meaning

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those "

I'm glad I think a bit of flirty banter is natural on here. And I'd never describe two friends chatting away as making me feel sick, although I may roll my eyes. But disappointments with friendship is inevitable on here as much as it is outside of fab. Think it's only human nature unfortunately

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"I think I also find it hard to express my full self on here. In reality we are all multifaceted beings with lots of idiosyncrasies and the connection of these qualities with others is what allows us to form lasting friendships ... On here, I probably accurately portray around 5-10% of who I truly am. That’s likely why my relationships on here feel less connected or authentic than my real life friendships. But I think that’s natural. And I’m definitely open to developing the friendships on here that I’ve begun to form more deeply.

Absolutely. The strongest ones for me are those I've met in person. I don't think its impossible purely online but it sure takes longer. "

Yes, makes perfect sense why that would be the case. I’m not the sum total of my posts and messages on here - I’m a whole person with so much more to be offered that can only truly by offered in real life interactions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those

I have really enjoyed chatting to you and the other ladies recently. "

Same!

I will be more attentive once I have steady Internet connection again

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I have found friends. And no.. I don't find it nauseating when the friends circles, banter and musings and inner chatterings and jokes pop up in threads. It warms me and makes me smile.

I can understand that some find it tricksy and exclusive.. But then those little triggers are there to be noticed from the inside, not to become blame for the outside . There's plenty of inclusive opportunity here too.. And we all have our own power of choice. X

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I always hold myself one step back from really being friends with people, there are lots here I feel I could be good friends with, but feel I lack the energy to be a good enough friend"

This for me too if i’m honest. I just don’t have the emotional energy to take the time to get to know someone. When i come on here, this is my “me time“.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those

I have really enjoyed chatting to you and the other ladies recently.

Same!

I will be more attentive once I have steady Internet connection again "

Missed the late night connection

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I’ve made friends with a few and then there are those who I thought were friends but turned out not to be

Also this.

And that's Fickle Fab for you - the plastic friendships that come and go because something shinier came along or because you had the audacity to disagree with something they said, or glance at "their" man/woman, or a myriad of other tenuous reasons....

....but get beyond that and you can find friendships that go way beyond these four walls, where people accept you for who you are, not what they'd like you to be and they're the true and lasting friendships that have meaning "

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I have found friends. And no.. I don't find it nauseating when the friends circles, banter and musings and inner chatterings and jokes pop up in threads. It warms me and makes me smile.

I can understand that some find it tricksy and exclusive.. But then those little triggers are there to be noticed from the inside, not to become blame for the outside . There's plenty of inclusive opportunity here too.. And we all have our own power of choice. X "

this is how I view things also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm glad I think a bit of flirty banter is natural on here. And I'd never describe two friends chatting away as making me feel sick, although I may roll my eyes. But disappointments with friendship is inevitable on here as much as it is outside of fab. Think it's only human nature unfortunately "

Yes it is human nature. After first impressions we look at each closely and accept sometimes that this relation is not serving us in a positive way and go our own ways. I think that's more honest than faking something to seem nice and likeable.

Eye roll goes on in here too and quick scroll

Lovely post, Frida.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I'm glad I think a bit of flirty banter is natural on here. And I'd never describe two friends chatting away as making me feel sick, although I may roll my eyes. But disappointments with friendship is inevitable on here as much as it is outside of fab. Think it's only human nature unfortunately

Yes it is human nature. After first impressions we look at each closely and accept sometimes that this relation is not serving us in a positive way and go our own ways. I think that's more honest than faking something to seem nice and likeable.

Eye roll goes on in here too and quick scroll

Lovely post, Frida. "

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over a year ago

I found my very best friend in life on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve made friends with a few and then there are those who I thought were friends but turned out not to be

Also this.

And that's Fickle Fab for you - the plastic friendships that come and go because something shinier came along or because you had the audacity to disagree with something they said, or glance at "their" man/woman, or a myriad of other tenuous reasons....

....but get beyond that and you can find friendships that go way beyond these four walls, where people accept you for who you are, not what they'd like you to be and they're the true and lasting friendships that have meaning "

This

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I think I also find it hard to express my full self on here. In reality we are all multifaceted beings with lots of idiosyncrasies and the connection of these qualities with others is what allows us to form lasting friendships ... On here, I probably accurately portray around 5-10% of who I truly am. That’s likely why my relationships on here feel less connected or authentic than my real life friendships. But I think that’s natural. And I’m definitely open to developing the friendships on here that I’ve begun to form more deeply.

Absolutely. The strongest ones for me are those I've met in person. I don't think its impossible purely online but it sure takes longer.

Yes, makes perfect sense why that would be the case. I’m not the sum total of my posts and messages on here - I’m a whole person with so much more to be offered that can only truly by offered in real life interactions. "

There are many I wish I was lucky enough to meet in real life for this reason.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"

I'm glad I think a bit of flirty banter is natural on here. And I'd never describe two friends chatting away as making me feel sick, although I may roll my eyes. But disappointments with friendship is inevitable on here as much as it is outside of fab. Think it's only human nature unfortunately

Yes it is human nature. After first impressions we look at each closely and accept sometimes that this relation is not serving us in a positive way and go our own ways. I think that's more honest than faking something to seem nice and likeable.

Eye roll goes on in here too and quick scroll

Lovely post, Frida. "

That's a good attitude to have, we can't always be friends with everyone. So I think we should cherish the ones we do. Thank you, I'm glad it's been a positive thread

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those

I have really enjoyed chatting to you and the other ladies recently.

Same!

I will be more attentive once I have steady Internet connection again "

I haven’t been on our little group for a while... work has been crazy! But I haven’t forgotten about you all x

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"I think I also find it hard to express my full self on here. In reality we are all multifaceted beings with lots of idiosyncrasies and the connection of these qualities with others is what allows us to form lasting friendships ... On here, I probably accurately portray around 5-10% of who I truly am. That’s likely why my relationships on here feel less connected or authentic than my real life friendships. But I think that’s natural. And I’m definitely open to developing the friendships on here that I’ve begun to form more deeply.

Absolutely. The strongest ones for me are those I've met in person. I don't think its impossible purely online but it sure takes longer.

Yes, makes perfect sense why that would be the case. I’m not the sum total of my posts and messages on here - I’m a whole person with so much more to be offered that can only truly by offered in real life interactions.

There are many I wish I was lucky enough to meet in real life for this reason. "

Me too lovely

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I have found friends. And no.. I don't find it nauseating when the friends circles, banter and musings and inner chatterings and jokes pop up in threads. It warms me and makes me smile.

I can understand that some find it tricksy and exclusive.. But then those little triggers are there to be noticed from the inside, not to become blame for the outside . There's plenty of inclusive opportunity here too.. And we all have our own power of choice. X "

I love this post a lot. I think I've seen every poster on this thread at some point done the inner circle jokes, flirting and musings with their friends. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. At times when it takes up a whoooole thread and bears little to no relation, I do find it a bit eyeroll inducing but otherwise it makes me smile - I like seeing relationships on here.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Nice thread Frida! (my bestie)

I won't deny I've made a few misjudged friendships here in the past, HOWEVER I've also made a handful of really, really great friends here who I talk to most days outside of fab about non-fab things and sometimes their opinions and support have been invaluable to me. Forever friends if you will who have opened me up to new ideas and ways of thinking and I'm better for that.

If people don't like seeing me chat with my friends on my threads then they can choose to ignore them, and I think tbf some do but I also think that's cool. I'm always inclusive and reply to everyone but occasionally a conversation with a friend will develop and often that takes a thread in a new direction and we all learn something from it and have a laugh and old friends are introduced to new friends expanding our experience for the better.... "

Exactly there is no need to get your knickers in a twist if people get along. Ignore it if it's not your thing, but there's no point bitching about people who are friends. See it as a nice thing, that's what I do when I see friendships on here

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over a year ago


"I have found friends. And no.. I don't find it nauseating when the friends circles, banter and musings and inner chatterings and jokes pop up in threads. It warms me and makes me smile.

I can understand that some find it tricksy and exclusive.. But then those little triggers are there to be noticed from the inside, not to become blame for the outside . There's plenty of inclusive opportunity here too.. And we all have our own power of choice. X

I love this post a lot. I think I've seen every poster on this thread at some point done the inner circle jokes, flirting and musings with their friends. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. At times when it takes up a whoooole thread and bears little to no relation, I do find it a bit eyeroll inducing but otherwise it makes me smile - I like seeing relationships on here. "

Your comments lately have been so lovely and supportive I really valued them.

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over a year ago

I’ve made some really lovely friends on here, who supported me when I really needed it.

I’ve also made some really special close friendships, and one who I consider one of my best friends as well as everything else he is to me .

Like all walks of life you will come across problems in friendships, but I think everyone comes into your life for a reason and you learn from it.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Nice thread Frida! (my bestie)

I won't deny I've made a few misjudged friendships here in the past, HOWEVER I've also made a handful of really, really great friends here who I talk to most days outside of fab about non-fab things and sometimes their opinions and support have been invaluable to me. Forever friends if you will who have opened me up to new ideas and ways of thinking and I'm better for that.

If people don't like seeing me chat with my friends on my threads then they can choose to ignore them, and I think tbf some do but I also think that's cool. I'm always inclusive and reply to everyone but occasionally a conversation with a friend will develop and often that takes a thread in a new direction and we all learn something from it and have a laugh and old friends are introduced to new friends expanding our experience for the better....

Exactly there is no need to get your knickers in a twist if people get along. Ignore it if it's not your thing, but there's no point bitching about people who are friends. See it as a nice thing, that's what I do when I see friendships on here "

I love your outlook Frida

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I found my very best friend in life on here"

This makes me happy as

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over a year ago

And just wanted to add.. there are some I really cannot wait to meet/meet again! And the thought of that helps through these challenging times too... wondering what will it be like. I am shy with camera stuff so didnt consider webcam but the longer this situation goes on the more I am warming up to the idea

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Nice thread Frida! (my bestie)

I won't deny I've made a few misjudged friendships here in the past, HOWEVER I've also made a handful of really, really great friends here who I talk to most days outside of fab about non-fab things and sometimes their opinions and support have been invaluable to me. Forever friends if you will who have opened me up to new ideas and ways of thinking and I'm better for that.

If people don't like seeing me chat with my friends on my threads then they can choose to ignore them, and I think tbf some do but I also think that's cool. I'm always inclusive and reply to everyone but occasionally a conversation with a friend will develop and often that takes a thread in a new direction and we all learn something from it and have a laugh and old friends are introduced to new friends expanding our experience for the better....

Exactly there is no need to get your knickers in a twist if people get along. Ignore it if it's not your thing, but there's no point bitching about people who are friends. See it as a nice thing, that's what I do when I see friendships on here

I love your outlook Frida "

Thank you, see the positives and I just can't see the negatives of friendship

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I’ve made friends with a few and then there are those who I thought were friends but turned out not to be

This is true

but I believe on here we are meant to be in each others lives for a while when we need each other, then it naturally fades as we come across different people we need, sometimes its a long while friendship, sometimes its a short one.

Yes that’s also true, there are those that only come to you in bad times and ignore you when they’re having a good time "

Thats when a good hard look is needed at the friendship, if its not two way flowing then is it something to keep persisting with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice thread Frida! (my bestie)

I won't deny I've made a few misjudged friendships here in the past, HOWEVER I've also made a handful of really, really great friends here who I talk to most days outside of fab about non-fab things and sometimes their opinions and support have been invaluable to me. Forever friends if you will who have opened me up to new ideas and ways of thinking and I'm better for that.

If people don't like seeing me chat with my friends on my threads then they can choose to ignore them, and I think tbf some do but I also think that's cool. I'm always inclusive and reply to everyone but occasionally a conversation with a friend will develop and often that takes a thread in a new direction and we all learn something from it and have a laugh and old friends are introduced to new friends expanding our experience for the better....

Exactly there is no need to get your knickers in a twist if people get along. Ignore it if it's not your thing, but there's no point bitching about people who are friends. See it as a nice thing, that's what I do when I see friendships on here "

It's nice to see ppl getting along, aye....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In summary everyone we just all need to _emorefrida.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I’ve made some really lovely friends on here, who supported me when I really needed it.

I’ve also made some really special close friendships, and one who I consider one of my best friends as well as everything else he is to me .

Like all walks of life you will come across problems in friendships, but I think everyone comes into your life for a reason and you learn from it. "

Hippy you are awesome as, always so positive it's lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those

I have really enjoyed chatting to you and the other ladies recently.

Same!

I will be more attentive once I have steady Internet connection again

Missed the late night connection "

Didnt go unnoticed

Of course I did!

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Nice thread Frida! (my bestie)

I won't deny I've made a few misjudged friendships here in the past, HOWEVER I've also made a handful of really, really great friends here who I talk to most days outside of fab about non-fab things and sometimes their opinions and support have been invaluable to me. Forever friends if you will who have opened me up to new ideas and ways of thinking and I'm better for that.

If people don't like seeing me chat with my friends on my threads then they can choose to ignore them, and I think tbf some do but I also think that's cool. I'm always inclusive and reply to everyone but occasionally a conversation with a friend will develop and often that takes a thread in a new direction and we all learn something from it and have a laugh and old friends are introduced to new friends expanding our experience for the better....

Exactly there is no need to get your knickers in a twist if people get along. Ignore it if it's not your thing, but there's no point bitching about people who are friends. See it as a nice thing, that's what I do when I see friendships on here

It's nice to see ppl getting along, aye.... "

Just a bit, it makes me happy

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

I have met some wonderful people on here and look forward to catching up with them again Sometime.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"In summary everyone we just all need to _emorefrida. "

Mwah xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve made friends with a few and then there are those who I thought were friends but turned out not to be

This is true

but I believe on here we are meant to be in each others lives for a while when we need each other, then it naturally fades as we come across different people we need, sometimes its a long while friendship, sometimes its a short one.

Yes that’s also true, there are those that only come to you in bad times and ignore you when they’re having a good time

Thats when a good hard look is needed at the friendship, if its not two way flowing then is it something to keep persisting with"

No it’s not x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those

I have really enjoyed chatting to you and the other ladies recently.

Same!

I will be more attentive once I have steady Internet connection again

I haven’t been on our little group for a while... work has been crazy! But I haven’t forgotten about you all x "

this shall pass!

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I have met some wonderful people on here and look forward to catching up with them again Sometime.

"

That's wonderful and all good things come to those to wait

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those

I have really enjoyed chatting to you and the other ladies recently.

Same!

I will be more attentive once I have steady Internet connection again

Missed the late night connection "

I really must check in more regularly, always end up

trying to catch up with 300+ messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In summary everyone we just all need to _emorefrida.

Mwah xxxx"

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In summary everyone we just all need to _emorefrida.

Mwah xxxx"

X

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those

I have really enjoyed chatting to you and the other ladies recently.

Same!

I will be more attentive once I have steady Internet connection again

I haven’t been on our little group for a while... work has been crazy! But I haven’t forgotten about you all x

this shall pass! "

And this is why I need our little group!! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice thread Frida! (my bestie)

I won't deny I've made a few misjudged friendships here in the past, HOWEVER I've also made a handful of really, really great friends here who I talk to most days outside of fab about non-fab things and sometimes their opinions and support have been invaluable to me. Forever friends if you will who have opened me up to new ideas and ways of thinking and I'm better for that.

If people don't like seeing me chat with my friends on my threads then they can choose to ignore them, and I think tbf some do but I also think that's cool. I'm always inclusive and reply to everyone but occasionally a conversation with a friend will develop and often that takes a thread in a new direction and we all learn something from it and have a laugh and old friends are introduced to new friends expanding our experience for the better....

Exactly there is no need to get your knickers in a twist if people get along. Ignore it if it's not your thing, but there's no point bitching about people who are friends. See it as a nice thing, that's what I do when I see friendships on here

It's nice to see ppl getting along, aye....

Just a bit, it makes me happy "

No need for the fear or jealousy or for anyone to feel sick about others being close or enjoying themselves.... ....just tap into the conversation and contribute where we can and suddenly we're ALL friends, innit....

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land

This thread has warmed the cockles of my heart, sorry if I haven't replied yet it's gone a lot faster than I anticipated. But what I'll say is it's amazing to see the friendships fab has allowed us to build. Yes it can be hard and yes we need to work at it. But it is there so don't be disheartened

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Nice thread Frida! (my bestie)

I won't deny I've made a few misjudged friendships here in the past, HOWEVER I've also made a handful of really, really great friends here who I talk to most days outside of fab about non-fab things and sometimes their opinions and support have been invaluable to me. Forever friends if you will who have opened me up to new ideas and ways of thinking and I'm better for that.

If people don't like seeing me chat with my friends on my threads then they can choose to ignore them, and I think tbf some do but I also think that's cool. I'm always inclusive and reply to everyone but occasionally a conversation with a friend will develop and often that takes a thread in a new direction and we all learn something from it and have a laugh and old friends are introduced to new friends expanding our experience for the better....

Exactly there is no need to get your knickers in a twist if people get along. Ignore it if it's not your thing, but there's no point bitching about people who are friends. See it as a nice thing, that's what I do when I see friendships on here

It's nice to see ppl getting along, aye....

Just a bit, it makes me happy

No need for the fear or jealousy or for anyone to feel sick about others being close or enjoying themselves.... ....just tap into the conversation and contribute where we can and suddenly we're ALL friends, innit.... "

Exactly that Nip, no need for bitterness or bitching. Just be true self and people will see you and either decide your for them or not. Enjoy your life and friendships

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those

I have really enjoyed chatting to you and the other ladies recently.

Same!

I will be more attentive once I have steady Internet connection again

I haven’t been on our little group for a while... work has been crazy! But I haven’t forgotten about you all x

this shall pass!

And this is why I need our little group!! x"

.... damn you two, you got me soft side showing..... briefly

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Yes.. a lovely group of ladies.

And some others I speak to individually. Always searched for a friendship based relationships on here. Some didnt turn out to be and had hidden agenda, but that's life. Disappointments do happen, but that's why those who remain and make it easy to be around them are true gems.

As for nauseating part, I do not like 'groupie' mentality, so just avoid those kind of conversations with private jokes etc. Friendly banter is good though and happy to join those

I have really enjoyed chatting to you and the other ladies recently.

Same!

I will be more attentive once I have steady Internet connection again

I haven’t been on our little group for a while... work has been crazy! But I haven’t forgotten about you all x

this shall pass!

And this is why I need our little group!! x

.... damn you two, you got me soft side showing..... briefly "

Honestly you ladies are awesome. I often turn to that group for advice / a rant / a cry first before my family and closest friends!

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I’ve made some of the best friends on here, and that without a doubt has been one of the best things to come out of Fab for me "

That's amazing to hear, and fab is brill for finding friends

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"We joined for fun /sexxy times anything else would be a bonus....over time made some "friends" who we can have a meal /drink/laugh and be intimate with also ...lovely .x "

This sounds perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve made some really lovely friends on here, who supported me when I really needed it.

I’ve also made some really special close friendships, and one who I consider one of my best friends as well as everything else he is to me .

Like all walks of life you will come across problems in friendships, but I think everyone comes into your life for a reason and you learn from it.

Hippy you are awesome as, always so positive it's lovely "

Thank you lovely. What a gorgeous thread to read

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Yes! Both Male and female "

Same it's brilliant isn't it?

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I’ve made some really lovely friends on here, who supported me when I really needed it.

I’ve also made some really special close friendships, and one who I consider one of my best friends as well as everything else he is to me .

Like all walks of life you will come across problems in friendships, but I think everyone comes into your life for a reason and you learn from it.

Hippy you are awesome as, always so positive it's lovely

Thank you lovely. What a gorgeous thread to read "

I know it's been really really lovely

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I would be happy to make more friends among the Fab community.

The issue I have is that I am a chatty person once I know someone but I find it difficult to start a new interaction.

"

Try messaging if a thread interests you, this is how I found some of my friends. Some threads move too fast to establish connection

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I always hold myself one step back from really being friends with people, there are lots here I feel I could be good friends with, but feel I lack the energy to be a good enough friend

This for me too if i’m honest. I just don’t have the emotional energy to take the time to get to know someone. When i come on here, this is my “me time“."

This is totally understandable also

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Made a few friends I chat with regular and they aren't forum users either

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

To be honest, not really. Not yet anyway. Totally open to it, but it just hasn’t happened just yet. I have good friends who are on here, but I didn’t meet them here.

I find not getting notifications on the phone can be annoying for that as it stifles conversation.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I'm not the type of person who can call someone I've had a few online conversations with a friend, so I'd say I've mainly made acquaintances ...some more fleeting than others. They're almost exclusively male, I think I must be a tad too forthright and blunt for some of the ladies on here, although I definitely feel that some of that is purely to do with some of my friendships and not actually anything to do with me as a person.

Saying that, I have made a handful of friends, proper friends who have earnt my trust...including someone who I talk to every single day and I would class as one of my best friends.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Made a few friends I chat with regular and they aren't forum users either"

Friendship is friendship I have both and they are both equal in value

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"To be honest, not really. Not yet anyway. Totally open to it, but it just hasn’t happened just yet. I have good friends who are on here, but I didn’t meet them here.

I find not getting notifications on the phone can be annoying for that as it stifles conversation. "

Yes it does make things awkward I would agree with you

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I'm not the type of person who can call someone I've had a few online conversations with a friend, so I'd say I've mainly made acquaintances ...some more fleeting than others. They're almost exclusively male, I think I must be a tad too forthright and blunt for some of the ladies on here, although I definitely feel that some of that is purely to do with some of my friendships and not actually anything to do with me as a person.

Saying that, I have made a handful of friends, proper friends who have earnt my trust...including someone who I talk to every single day and I would class as one of my best friends."

I definitely don’t see you as blunt or forthright

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I'm not the type of person who can call someone I've had a few online conversations with a friend, so I'd say I've mainly made acquaintances ...some more fleeting than others. They're almost exclusively male, I think I must be a tad too forthright and blunt for some of the ladies on here, although I definitely feel that some of that is purely to do with some of my friendships and not actually anything to do with me as a person.

Saying that, I have made a handful of friends, proper friends who have earnt my trust...including someone who I talk to every single day and I would class as one of my best friends."

Yeah I understand your viewpoint. And I can be a bit direct on times too. But again with friendship quality is far superior to quantity I believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest, not really. Not yet anyway. Totally open to it, but it just hasn’t happened just yet. I have good friends who are on here, but I didn’t meet them here.

I find not getting notifications on the phone can be annoying for that as it stifles conversation. "

Helps when you reply to messages lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met some of my best friends through fab, as well as my fella

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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When I first joined fab I very much compartmentalised hard; I'm an Aspie girl and I didn't (and to some degree still don't!) understand having close friends. I found it difficult to open up to people and I was rather... well bitchy in threads. Blunt.

Over time I started talking to a couple of people and we had a little Hive Mind. That group taught me it was okay to open up, to express my worries, to allow people to see a fuller version of me than the one I oft depicted on here. From that point on I started engaging with people more - I'd once poo pooed the idea of female friendship - women are bitchy, they all have ulterior motives blah blah but I realised that wasn't necessarily true. Along the way I spoke to a myriad of folk - some I clicked with, some less so. I don't hold ill will against those I didn't because I think that people come into your life for a reason and I learned and became a better person through knowing them. It's not always been easy or pleasant but that's how life goes isn't it? I'm a fan of organic friendships, where you find common ground over something random and it blossoms from there.

I'm now at a point where I have real, genuine friendships that transcend fab. The sort where I'd happily invite them to my wedding, where I can call them at any hour of the day and they'd support me through grief or an anxiety attack. They'll tell me when I'm being a twat but also show me love when I need it. And I can talk to them so openly about everything - my family life, work, sex and nothing will phase them. I like to think that they know I'm always here for them as well; whether it's to cheer them on when they make a step in the right direction or to hold their hand when they don't know what step to take.

Anyway, this is a mini love note (because I do love them) to my friends both past and present and possibly future. You lot are utterly brilliant in all your imperfect perfect ways and I wouldn't change the friendships I have had and have as a result of fab. If you think that you have something in common with someone, message them! There's nothing to lose but you might end up making a friend for life and that connection, when authentic and true is really precious.

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I've met some of my best friends through fab, as well as my fella "

See this makes me happy and meeting your fella, fab has been good to you

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm not the type of person who can call someone I've had a few online conversations with a friend, so I'd say I've mainly made acquaintances ...some more fleeting than others. They're almost exclusively male, I think I must be a tad too forthright and blunt for some of the ladies on here, although I definitely feel that some of that is purely to do with some of my friendships and not actually anything to do with me as a person.

Saying that, I have made a handful of friends, proper friends who have earnt my trust...including someone who I talk to every single day and I would class as one of my best friends.

I definitely don’t see you as blunt or forthright "

Thank you. I try not to be, but I definitely won't hold back from sharing my opinion if I feel I've got a point to add to a thread. Unfortunately some people don't like the fact that I often go against the popular opinion and don't hesitate to let me know - ahh well, we're not all compatible

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We haven't found true friendship on fab. It doesn't nauseate me when friends chat with each other, I've been kicking around the Internet for over 20 years, I know what goes on in front of and behind the scenes. It's only natural that people who know each other should interact.

There are one or two people I'd love to share a drink and chinwag with.

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By *echanictoolmanMan
over a year ago

prestwich

I’d love to make some friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have friends here, only goals/holes to fill so to speak

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"I don't have friends here, only goals/holes to fill so to speak "

but you told me we were friends ........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've met some of my best friends through fab, as well as my fella

See this makes me happy and meeting your fella, fab has been good to you "

It really has!

I first joined 13 years ago and honestly can't imagine what my life would be without the people I've met from here in it!

The swinging is great, but my tribe of weirdos is my biggest win for sure

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Thank you. I try not to be, but I definitely won't hold back from sharing my opinion if I feel I've got a point to add to a thread. Unfortunately some people don't like the fact that I often go against the popular opinion and don't hesitate to let me know - ahh well, we're not all compatible "

And that last bit is the key - disagreeing with someone's opinion is a sign of possible incompatibility nothing more nothing less, not a reason to spit dummies and throw toys out of the pram.

I disagree with friends all the time but talk the disagreement through or find a middle ground and agree to disagree and *that* is the sign of a strong and true friendship when you can disagree and yet the bond remains intact.

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Thank you. I try not to be, but I definitely won't hold back from sharing my opinion if I feel I've got a point to add to a thread. Unfortunately some people don't like the fact that I often go against the popular opinion and don't hesitate to let me know - ahh well, we're not all compatible

And that last bit is the key - disagreeing with someone's opinion is a sign of possible incompatibility nothing more nothing less, not a reason to spit dummies and throw toys out of the pram.

I disagree with friends all the time but talk the disagreement through or find a middle ground and agree to disagree and *that* is the sign of a strong and true friendship when you can disagree and yet the bond remains intact. "

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I don't have friends here, only goals/holes to fill so to speak

but you told me we were friends ........ "

That's only because he wanted to borrow your Kia for a night of fun round the back of Aldi

It's fickle FAB again...except this time it's his username that the FAB refers to

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I don't have friends here, only goals/holes to fill so to speak "

Shut up you idiot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have friends here, only goals/holes to fill so to speak

but you told me we were friends ........ "

I just want to fill your holes (not at the same time I have feelings)

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"I don't have friends here, only goals/holes to fill so to speak

but you told me we were friends ........

That's only because he wanted to borrow your Kia for a night of fun round the back of Aldi

It's fickle FAB again...except this time it's his username that the FAB refers to "

He still hasn’t returned my Kia.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have friends here, only goals/holes to fill so to speak "

I’m devastated. Crying into my cappuccino here

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"I’d love to make some friends "

Get involved you'll get there

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"I don't have friends here, only goals/holes to fill so to speak

but you told me we were friends ........

I just want to fill your holes (not at the same time I have feelings) "

The romance kills me.

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"I don't have friends here, only goals/holes to fill so to speak

I’m devastated. Crying into my cappuccino here "

Another lovely friend of mine. And a fellow Manc

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By *emorefrida OP   Couple
over a year ago

La la land


"Thank you. I try not to be, but I definitely won't hold back from sharing my opinion if I feel I've got a point to add to a thread. Unfortunately some people don't like the fact that I often go against the popular opinion and don't hesitate to let me know - ahh well, we're not all compatible

And that last bit is the key - disagreeing with someone's opinion is a sign of possible incompatibility nothing more nothing less, not a reason to spit dummies and throw toys out of the pram.

I disagree with friends all the time but talk the disagreement through or find a middle ground and agree to disagree and *that* is the sign of a strong and true friendship when you can disagree and yet the bond remains intact. "

Wise words, I often disagree with my mates. I think that's an important part of friendship is the ability to be honest when you are out of order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my best friend through fab. She’s my rock and I call her my fab mummy. I have some really close friends both female and male that I met through here and they know so much more about my than my vanilla friends. I have one male friend who I tell everything to, he’s like my male Agony aunt, having him in my life makes it so much better.

I’m also really lucky that I have local people who are on fab and who are my friends. We always have a laugh a minute when we are together

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I have found some of the best friends ever on fab. People I know have my back through everything.

They've seen me through a particularly bad time in my life. They were my rocks when my dad was in intensive care.

I've also made friends I only see 2 or 3 times a year but when I see them it's like it was just yesterday.

Then there are those virtual friends that have become real life virtual friends who I may never meet but have shared each others pains and successes.

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