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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes we said WINK not WANK!! Haha, it's just one that has always puzzled us from first joining fabs all those years ago, but does anybody know why or have a theory behind why some people wink and then when you message them in reply to that wink, even if it's a "thanks for the wink" reply that person chooses to either ignore that message or in some occasions block you.

Or are we the only people who find this? We used to put it down to maybe a slip of the finger, or they winked as soon as they went onto our profile and then decided to read it to find out were not for them or the other way around, it doesn't bother us as it's just a wink but like we said it's always made us wonder why wink in the first place, with us we don't tend to wink very often without sending a message but if we don't have time at all to message then we will send a wink to show we are interested etc, and when we have time later we will message them if they haven't messaged first.

Anyway rant over haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You So are going to get a load of winks off the back of this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You So are going to get a load of winks off the back of this "

Well if we do we will just ignore and block them all!!! Haha just kidding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get winks either. I wink, you wink, we wink together... and where does it get us? Nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You So are going to get a load of winks off the back of this

Well if we do we will just ignore and block them all!!! Haha just kidding."

You shrewsbury lot are so harsh haha

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By *amaraBeaverbankWoman
over a year ago

Benidorm Spain

I never look at winks. Never used the facility either. Everyone will have their own way of using the site though I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some folk think others may respond with a wink to instigate a message?

I guess its like smiling at someone. If they smile back there's a chance of connections? If they scowl, best leave it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get it either. As you say sometimes it can be a quick way of saying hi and gauging interest. But why send and then not respond to a message, unless the message is awful lol.

I have had it a couple of times, thank them for the wink and try to start a conversation, then literally nothing.

It's frustrating but I suppose 90% of this site is, I could go on for days lol

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"I don’t get winks either. I wink, you wink, we wink together... and where does it get us? Nowhere "

My long term fwb started from a wink. So it got me a great friend and lots of sex.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If I am interested in the person winking, I will message them.

Sometimes people prefer to wink if they're unsure of the response, if they were to message.

It can be quite a useful tool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Some folk think others may respond with a wink to instigate a message?

I guess its like smiling at someone. If they smile back there's a chance of connections? If they scowl, best leave it? "

This is my thinking on the matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get winks either. I wink, you wink, we wink together... and where does it get us? Nowhere

My long term fwb started from a wink. So it got me a great friend and lots of sex. "

You outlier you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We don't wink at people, unless they wink us then we might qink back. To me, a wink means "I've looked at your profile and like the look, would you take a look at my profile and see if you'd be open to an advance".

In reality, it would make more sense to just message.

Cal

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

I've winked or had winks first from nearly all of my meets, I suppose its how some people use them, a wink is my I like you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We used to take no notice of winks when we first started on fabs as we used to think that if they we're that interested then they would message us, but then we would come across profiles that we liked the look of but for one reason or another didn't have time to send a message so we would wink (not very often) and then when we had time we would message them if they hadn't messaged us first.

Everyone has their own opinions on winks, some use them and some don't, we're sure some people on here send winks out random in a hope that some will wink back, and then other's only actually wink if they find that profile interesting.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I've winked or had winks first from nearly all of my meets, I suppose its how some people use them, a wink is my I like you "

Same, I've had some good meets from winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

I wink at people who I want to block me, seems to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get winks either. I wink, you wink, we wink together... and where does it get us? Nowhere "

I neverlook at my winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do actually have a use.

If you have (for example) blocked single guys but see a guy you like the look of, if you wink them then they are then able to message you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wink at people who I want to block me, seems to work"

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I like getting winks ..who knows where they might lead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get winks either. I wink, you wink, we wink together... and where does it get us? Nowhere

I neverlook at my winks "

I've noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like getting winks. I always take it as someone being interested and always send a message to say thanks. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. I'll send the odd wink if I dont have time to send a message just to let someone know I'm interested in chatting....never seems to work for me though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a wink innit, nowt more....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy a good wink, it can be the start to a conversation

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Some could be accidental winks, we’ve done it twice in two years. We also have returned many winks and they don’t follow up with a message, maybe others wink by accident too.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I send winks as a nod of appreciation, to profiles I like, but have next to zero chance of ever meeting, because of distance. I might also wink someone who made a pertinent comment in the forum, or someone who specifically asks for a wink as an initial form of contact. There's no harm done either way, it's all good

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Yes, I’ve had winks then messaged saying thanks and nothing further. I’ve given up trying to understand how others think on here, that’s Fab for you

However I’ve made new friends and arranged meets from a wink, so for me they’re just another communication tool, use it or don’t up to you

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

I receive occasional winks usually think ‘thats nice, but why have they winked me’

It’s a conundrum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally send a wink as a sign of interest rather than firing off a message. I know women and couples on here get 100s of messages a day and winks no doubt. But a wink shows I like what I see, I even state it on my profile.

I will only send a message if I receive one back or get a message. Thou dont really have much luck either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An ice breaker is what I see them as

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay


"I receive occasional winks usually think ‘thats nice, but why have they winked me’

It’s a conundrum "

Just added to it

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area

Think it’s something that really only works for women and perhaps couples.. no matter how men try to initiate the contact it usually gets lost in a sea of other winks and messages in the ladies inbox.

But when a guy gets a wink he usually sits up and takes notice and will usually respond to the sender....

...only to get the crushing news that “..sorry; I hit the wink button by mistake”.

Hasn’t happened to me at all...

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay


"Think it’s something that really only works for women and perhaps couples.. no matter how men try to initiate the contact it usually gets lost in a sea of other winks and messages in the ladies inbox.

But when a guy gets a wink he usually sits up and takes notice and will usually respond to the sender....

...only to get the crushing news that “..sorry; I hit the wink button by mistake”.

Hasn’t happened to me at all... "

You'd have to hit it twice by mistake so don't fall for that

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I often forget about winks & usually only remember to look at them when there's a post on the forums about them! I've also never sent a single wink!

M checks them though and will message people to thank them for the wink.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send winks as a sign of interest, if I get any I usually respond even if it’s only a thanks but no thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always fab a pic if I view a profile, but occasionally ppl have pics set so you can't fab them, so in that case I'll usually send a wink, more just to say thanks and an I woz ere type of thing....

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