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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Deleting unread messages is really very rude

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

So what do you expect a woman or couple who get hundreds of message's to do with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

Read the rules, you'll find it isn't. It's a fab fact of life, get used to it.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

No expecting or feeling you deserve reply is rude egotistical..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend of mine here gets 100 messages plus every few days and just hasn't the time to reply to em all - it's frustrating I guess but at least you know to move on and cross them off, as it were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude

No expecting or feeling you deserve reply is rude egotistical.. "

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah it’s fun

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I would have said it was rude whennI first joined as I always (still) try to reply politely to every message. BUT... When you get abuse back for simply pointing out something that you state on your profile - that they have obviously not read before sending a 'wanna fuck' message - as a reason for not meeting.... Sometimes it seems it would just be easier to delete!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I reply, they reply with a thanks for your response reply! Cos I'm not really trying to clear my inbox!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

^ that’s rude, how do you know they didn’t read it then mark it as unread

Seriously - if it’s still unread by Friday it’s obviously unimportant and should be binned.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

It’s really not

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Lanzarote

Quite often a message can be read in full without clicking on it so it may appear to look unread but actually has been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite often a message can be read in full without clicking on it so it may appear to look unread but actually has been."

Especially if it's a "wanna fuck" message, which I imagine lots would delete anyway.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Lanzarote


"Quite often a message can be read in full without clicking on it so it may appear to look unread but actually has been.

Especially if it's a "wanna fuck" message, which I imagine lots would delete anyway."

Or "hello"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite often a message can be read in full without clicking on it so it may appear to look unread but actually has been.

Especially if it's a "wanna fuck" message, which I imagine lots would delete anyway.

Or "hello""

Yeah - a lack of effort in a 'normal' message can be just as attractive as "wanna fuck".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

No, it isn't.

No one owes you a response.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

Nah.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

No it isn’t. Do you keep all your junk mail that gets posted though your letterbox?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

When you can see from the preview it's "hi" or "I'd love to fuck her arse" or "free now?", it's going straight to delete, no qualms.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

starting as thread and not responding to people's posts is really very rude

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"When you can see from the preview it's "hi" or "I'd love to fuck her arse" or "free now?", it's going straight to delete, no qualms. "

This!

And we have a subject line in our profile. You don't read, we don't read! Simples!

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"starting as thread and not responding to people's posts is really very rude "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why reply to rude or abusive messages we get loads of message we answer those that are of interest get used to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"starting as thread and not responding to people's posts is really very rude "

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

It’s not like I’m gona sit on just anybody’s face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I reply, they reply with a thanks for your response reply! Cos I'm not really trying to clear my inbox! "

I genuinely never thought about that - I'll know for future reference though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"starting as thread and not responding to people's posts is really very rude "

Cheers, tea out my nose. Lovely.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"starting as thread and not responding to people's posts is really very rude

Cheers, tea out my nose. Lovely."

I aim to please

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

You should see some of the messages we get. Most of them are just crap. If somebody doesn't put any effort into a message to us, why should we bother putting any effort into getting back to them?

If we can see from the preview that a message only says "Hi", why is it rude to just put it straight in the bin? It doesn't warrant opening it.

Instead of getting annoyed with people who don't read messages, why don't you put your efforts into encouraging people to write messages that are actually worth paying any attention to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No OP some of the message writers are just nasty and don’t even deserve their message being read.

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

How many wanna fuck messages get sent, thinking of a random message day and sending several hundred just for a laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bulk delete a lot. I must be rude. Not sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont delete messages. I leave them unread and festering in my inbox until they're mouldy and fab puts them in the bin for me

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Lanzarote

I answer loads of messages but am sitting with 422 unread. I am not superwoman and i do not have a secretary but i do have a life outside fab. I do my best to keep on top of them but it is impossible. 99% of messages i answer will answer back and it all becomes very stressful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab life mate get used to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I answer loads of messages but am sitting with 422 unread. I am not superwoman and i do not have a secretary but i do have a life outside fab. I do my best to keep on top of them but it is impossible. 99% of messages i answer will answer back and it all becomes very stressful."
. Do you need a P.A payment in kind x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I answer loads of messages but am sitting with 422 unread. I am not superwoman and i do not have a secretary but i do have a life outside fab. I do my best to keep on top of them but it is impossible. 99% of messages i answer will answer back and it all becomes very stressful."

Obviously, you should get a secretary. It would create a job and is your patriotic duty in Covid-world

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I see where you're coming from but logistically they don't have the time to read them all and deleting all is the only way to try and get back on top of them.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I see where you're coming from but logistically they don't have the time to read them all and deleting all is the only way to try and get back on top of them. "

Some of us like getting on top

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay


"I answer loads of messages but am sitting with 422 unread. I am not superwoman and i do not have a secretary but i do have a life outside fab. I do my best to keep on top of them but it is impossible. 99% of messages i answer will answer back and it all becomes very stressful."

I won't include you in my random "wanna fuck' message day so as not to add to your stress, I'm nice like that

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By *r.HMan
over a year ago

A gentleman never tells

In the voice of King Leonidas from 300 "This is FAB"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you're hiding your profile.

I find it quite rude to be honest.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

You can normally gauge from the message title and first line without opening, whether it needs to be opened or deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

We list our requirements for what we're looking for in our profile and state if you ignore reading it thoroughly and message you'll be deleted and blocked, So any guys that message after not reading our profile have been warned so were not being rude, simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can normally gauge from the message title and first line without opening, whether it needs to be opened or deleted "

Definitely!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

OK.... Imma still do it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not... Not reading my profile before messaging is rude... Reading it and messaging anyway, is rude... Getting pissy when I delete unread is rude

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

There appears to be a lot of rude ladies on this site.

Woohoo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There appears to be a lot of rude ladies on this site.

Woohoo. "

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"There appears to be a lot of rude ladies on this site.

Woohoo. "

I’d say know how to manage their time to the maximum

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By *hitehunter4bbcMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Quite often a message can be read in full without clicking on it so it may appear to look unread but actually has been."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would have said it was rude whennI first joined as I always (still) try to reply politely to every message. BUT... When you get abuse back for simply pointing out something that you state on your profile - that they have obviously not read before sending a 'wanna fuck' message - as a reason for not meeting.... Sometimes it seems it would just be easier to delete! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

Sending messages with a hidden profile is really very rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I read a message I check out the profile and if they don't interest me then I delete the message.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ones gonna reply to a hidden profile lol especially one with no pic what a clown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

And why is that ?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness. "

Tarkus, if you routinely got crass and offensive messages, suggesting how someone would like to smash your back doors in, use you, abuse you, blah blah etc, and that was the first and only message, would you really sit there and compose:

Dearest Sir,

Thank you for your kind offer to do wholly inappropriate and unwanted things to me, whether or not I want them. I can see from your profile that you are a most discerning fellow (I note the profile text which reads "will fill in later"). I am most flattered at your attention, but regret to inform you that I will be politely declining your invitation.

I do hope you find somebody to fulfill your slightly bizarre fantasies and look forward to never hearing from you ever again, if it's all the same.

With warmest regards,

Tarkus

No, you'd just delete like the rest of us do. Some things do not need a reply and sending a reply simply encourages them and goads them into sending more messages to persuade you, to tell you what you're missing, or just to inform you that you're a fat whore and they didn't really want to fuck you in the arse in any case. We message and approach VERY few people but we receive a lot of inward messages, most of which are dross.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness. "

Get many one line or rude messages then ?

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,


"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.

Get many one line or rude messages then ?"

In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hidden profiles and no avatar are pretty impersonal. I'd delete a message from someone like you tbh OP, not because I'm being mean, more for drama avoidance purposes, because your lack of profile would make me suspicious....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like throwing unopened junk mail straight in the recycling OP?

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

No, it's not, just take it on the chin and move on.

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By *az211Man
over a year ago

Bse

I’m with the OP on this I expect every single message I send to get a response as I am simply a gift from god... there might be a little sarcasm in there

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.

Get many one line or rude messages then ?

In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message."

Congratulations, we get extremely rude ones almost daily and have had abuse for being disabled. Forgive us for keeping people at e-arms length

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"starting as thread and not responding to people's posts is really very rude "

Pmsl yes!

But to OP no it's not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman I can get 100 messages a day. The majority of the messages I get are pure nonsense as well lol. I’m quite selective as to who I reply too. It’s not snobbery or anything like that. I just don’t have the time to reply to everyone.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.

Get many one line or rude messages then ?

In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message."

You are very lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.

Get many one line or rude messages then ?

In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message.

"

I feel like messaging you one so you don’t feel left out haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness. "

How many do you get?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"
sometimes I have unread messages that I've not deleted. They automatically get removed after so long.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

If you ignore them long enough you don't even need to delete them

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"

Take it easy...

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,


"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.

How many do you get?! "

Anything between 15 and 20per week, I have filtered out messages from male members so this keeps numbers down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you ignore them long enough you don't even need to delete them

"

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,


"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.

Get many one line or rude messages then ?

In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message.

Congratulations, we get extremely rude ones almost daily and have had abuse for being disabled. Forgive us for keeping people at e-arms length "

I am fortunate that I am able to filter out messages from males on here

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,


"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.

Get many one line or rude messages then ?

In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message.

I feel like messaging you one so you don’t feel left out haha "

Feel free to do so

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I see where you're coming from but logistically they don't have the time to read them all and deleting all is the only way to try and get back on top of them.

Some of us like getting on top "

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"You can normally gauge from the message title and first line without opening, whether it needs to be opened or deleted

Definitely!"

Great advice. I'm now going to put FAF at the end of messages instead of the start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And this is the exact reason for short copy and past message because I bet some whare in all those messages about 30 out off the hundred were well thought out including stuff from profile that people say they must read and also took the person 30 odd minutes to write and there is no excuse for it it’s simple stright up rude and you deserve all the want to fuck and hi how’s you message you get as it’s ur own damm fault for being so rude honest I get 200+ messages a day not hard to say no thanks if they keep pushing that’s what the fucking block button is for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.

I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.

I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.

How many do you get?!

Anything between 15 and 20per week, I have filtered out messages from male members so this keeps numbers down"

I used to get that while reading and deleting less... And I still get more than that, even though I don't meet to play... So ya know... Not really the same eh?!

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