FabSwingers.com forum: Block because you messaged

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What’s with blocking just because you message someone? Surely you could just say no thanks or just ignore but why do people block?

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I get so many messages. Become a full time job messaging everyone. Sometimes it’s just easier to block to avoid messaging again when you’re never going to be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people view blocking differently. Most view it negatively or only block if someone has been unkind, but some just view it as a way of avoiding both people wasting their time in the future. If they're never going to be interested, they block you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some people view blocking differently. Most view it negatively or only block if someone has been unkind, but some just view it as a way of avoiding both people wasting their time in the future. If they're never going to be interested, they block you."

Agree with you, its just no point of talking with that person

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What’s with blocking just because you message someone? Surely you could just say no thanks or just ignore but why do people block?

It amounts to the same thing in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ends up like tennis with abuse.

No reason or rules i should reply.

Sometimes easier to block n less hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once had someone on here where the messaging progressed and things were going well to the point we were arranging to meet. Only to find that she found my Facebook profile and said she couldn’t meet me because of who I voted for in an election lol she then proceeded to block me. Very odd I thought

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I consider myself a pretty emotional guy, but I've learned to not take fab too seriously.

Some people will accept you and others will blank you.

All we can do is be ourselves.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"What’s with blocking just because you message someone? Surely you could just say no thanks or just ignore but why do people block?

Wouldn’t worry about it - I doubt it’s personal. I tend to use it as a time saver. There’s lots and lots of profiles on fab so it’s easier just to block and then you know it’s a no go if you stumble across them again in the future.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

"What’s with blocking just because you message someone? Surely you could just say no thanks or just ignore but why do people block?

Because the sad reality is that there are loads of guys on here who persist or even get abusive when told no thank you or ignored, so women have learnt to block.

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Its simply a timesaver.

I've had several messages, weeks apart from the same people...I don't tend to block often, but when those cut and pastes come back every week...I do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All valid points. I guess I was looking it from the other side of the fence where I assumed I wasn’t being rude so kind of uncalled for. But I see your views also. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get so many messages. Become a full time job messaging everyone. Sometimes it’s just easier to block to avoid messaging again when you’re never going to be interested "

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

"All valid points. I guess I was looking it from the other side of the fence where I assumed I wasn’t being rude so kind of uncalled for. But I see your views also. Thank you. "

It's just another tool.. don't take offence... just be glad they weren't your cuppa and someone else will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once had someone on here where the messaging progressed and things were going well to the point we were arranging to meet. Only to find that she found my Facebook profile and said she couldn’t meet me because of who I voted for in an election lol she then proceeded to block me. Very odd I thought "

No, It was because you are from Kington

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Maybe your message was terrible. Most of the messages we get are pretty ropey.

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Sometimes it's easier to block as if you say no or ignore a msg or delete it you get abuse and called a bitch which really makes you consider if you should stay on here!

Single women get inundated with msgs so can't reply to every single msg as it would be a full time job lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would imagine that women do most of the blocking seeing how there’s far more men than women on these sorts of websites, and more often than not most of the first contact is done by men as well.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"What’s with blocking just because you message someone? Surely you could just say no thanks or just ignore but why do people block?

To stop you repeating messaging, that's why. The recipient isn't interested and that is that.

It's not something anyone needs to justify.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

How do you know it is because you message to, maybe they think they may know you you and don't want to take a chance.

Maybe they they know exactly what they are looking for at the moment and don't want to waste your time I'm. Nobody likes rejection, there is no need to put into words "no thank you" if they are not interested.

If they block you or don't reply then it is clear they are not interested, without them literally spelling it out.

It may seem harsh but it is actually saving your time.

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By *arystark40Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I must confess I tend to use the block button as a sort of filter.

If I see/ read a couple or female and I'm not in their age criteria or maybe they're not looking for single males. I'll block them.

Stops their status updates or (when we can) their meets showing up on my thread. It's a time saving thing really. And given I don't match their criteria there's no reason to think they would even look at my profile. I'm doing them a favour...lol

Of course I also block those that have messed me around...lol

I think my block list is several hundred currently.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Stops me for making the mistake twice .... handy button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block if they can’t take the no hint ie

I am not interested happy swinging

Pushes futher like my message didn’t mean anything

Instantly blocked

And don’t by these bs lines I get to meny message I

Stack my profile and viewes agenst most on this site and come out on top that line is a complete bs cop out can’t stand it use to by that line

Till I start posting on forum and seen a nice little thread about how meny message a day do you get let’s just say I was top 3 only out done by 2 woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask then does it mean the same thing when your message is read but not replied to? I get this a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People do stuff because they can. Why they do it you will never know OP, but if they do block you then why would you even care....

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By *elly72Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Hope you realise you had a lucky escape with that one, stalker comes to mind

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I blocked a guy this morning because of his status, rude and patronising, his only crime he looked at my profile. But I certainly didn’t want him messaging me and I could be the next on his gripe list.

I’m only interested in those who I feel will treat me and others with respect. You have frustrations and then express them, expect others will take against you and the block button will be used.

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By *ninja000Man
over a year ago

Manchester

It does get to you, and I often find myself reticent to message. Statuses like 'message for kik group' then just blocked can be soul destroying. I've added pics which makes me feel worse!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're gonna need a thicker skin on here to survive if blocking gets you upset

People use block as they wish. Time to move on to another.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"It does get to you, and I often find myself reticent to message. Statuses like 'message for kik group' then just blocked can be soul destroying. I've added pics which makes me feel worse!! "

It's only soul destroying if you let it be soul destroying and your sole purpose for being here is to get a meet any meet.

Take a more laid back approach, be yourself, set your expectations low and your attitude right, find ways to make the site work for you rather than you work for the site and it won't guarantee a thing when it comes to meets but it will improve your overall experience and perception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s with blocking just because you message someone? Surely you could just say no thanks or just ignore but why do people block?

To save you trouble messaging again.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"What’s with blocking just because you message someone? Surely you could just say no thanks or just ignore but why do people block?

Because they don't like you and don't want you messaging them ever ever again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s with blocking just because you message someone? Surely you could just say no thanks or just ignore but why do people block?

Our couples profile gets loads of messages and we don't get nearly as many as some, and even then it would be a pain to reply to every message, so a deletion followed by a block for those that can't take a hint. Nobody has to jump through anybody else's hoops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The world is full of haters who want to live in their own bubble

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

I've block a lot of people for not reading my profile, quite obviously aswell, asking me to do thing I'm not happy with and being demanding in the first message. Just a way for them to stop sending me mail.

Also if I see people being rude and uncourteous in forums I sometimes block them too.

As a single women or couple you must be swamped in mail and 99% probably doesn't interest you.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"What’s with blocking just because you message someone? Surely you could just say no thanks or just ignore but why do people block?

People usually look at profiles before answering messages.

We all have limited time to spend on fab, so, if you receive two messages say and you look at the profile, who are you going to interact with: the guy with several pictures and a detailed profile setting out what he wants/offering or the bloke with one dodgy picture and the ask what you want to know profile?

Personally I view it as if he can't be arsed, neither can I: block, forget and concentrate on those who make an effort.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

"The world is full of haters who want to live in their own bubble "

That seems really harsh to me in this particular context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I ignored 3 messages , then got a rude message for not responding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because I ignored 3 messages , then got a rude message for not responding "

Come on Bristol, I did send you 3 up close cock pics and one next to the tv remote!

Why would anyone block me for that???

Joking of course!!!!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Because I ignored 3 messages , then got a rude message for not responding

Come on Bristol, I did send you 3 up close cock pics and one next to the tv remote!

Why would anyone block me for that???

Joking of course!!!!"

Who Bristol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because I ignored 3 messages , then got a rude message for not responding

Come on Bristol, I did send you 3 up close cock pics and one next to the tv remote!

Why would anyone block me for that???

Joking of course!!!!

Who Bristol?

Curiousgirlsw - from Bristol. I was only joking x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

i block a guy if they sent a disgusting or abusive intro message and report.

I block if the guy continues to send over5 messages when i haven't even replied to the first three.

Before I started blocking men, I once had 10 messages saying "good morning" in 1 month

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Can you see now why people block people from messaging them?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Because I ignored 3 messages , then got a rude message for not responding

Come on Bristol, I did send you 3 up close cock pics and one next to the tv remote!

Why would anyone block me for that???

Joking of course!!!!

Who Bristol?

Curiousgirlsw - from Bristol. I was only joking x"

You sure? The message reads so sincere. I think I need to see the sky remote photo for clarification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we try our best to message people back even if it's to say "sorry not for us" etc, but when we get messages that are either from people who have clearly not bothered to read our profile or have sent us a copy and paste message, then we do block them straight away, as in why should we take the time to message "no thanks" when they couldn't be bothered to make an effort in the first place?

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

"i block a guy if they sent a disgusting or abusive intro message and report.

I block if the guy continues to send over5 messages when i haven't even replied to the first three.

Before I started blocking men, I once had 10 messages saying "good morning" in 1 month

Morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You sure? The message reads so sincere. I think I need to see the sky remote photo for clarification

No no not the wee stubby sky one!! The long normal tv one!! Hahaha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause I don’t want them to message again. Pretty simple really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cause I don’t want them to message again. Pretty simple really "

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

We have our rules set out clearly on our profile, yet we still have some who think they are exempt. Then when we ignore or decline, they come back hoping we forgot about it 2 days later... They get blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it happens so often even when you send a nice polite message. I have grown a thick skin and just move on. Everyone has there own reason for doing things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has also happened to us where we followed all the rules etc on the profile (secret word/face picture etc) and our message was either ignored or we had been blocked, we don't let it get to us and just move on knowing we obviously wasn't for them so no harm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has also happened to us where we followed all the rules etc on the profile (secret word/face picture etc) and our message was either ignored or we had been blocked, we don't let it get to us and just move on knowing we obviously wasn't for them so no harm done

Thats exactly my thoughts, plenty more fish in the sea lol

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

As I say in my video regarding rejection... it's not for us to question why, it's merely for us to accept.

I won't meet people who have the same name as my ex. Nothing they've done wrong, just a position I don't want to be in.

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