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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

...she cried - "more, more, more"

After reading another thread (Tuberose's 'Soul searching - Satisfaction') I thought there seemed to be quite a few people who still want 'more' and I always wonder why?

Is it FOMO? Are you the person to always be looking for that something else? You must watch/read/listen to the latest reccomended film or TV show/book/band? Are you a 'bucket list' tickboxer? Do you view life as linear with milestones to be reached? Is there an ultimate end goal where you'll be 'satisfied'?

What drives you to want more, new or different and why?

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I think life and the world we live in are transient, so I'd say that it's nigh on impossible for anyone to remain completely satisfied indefinitely. We change as people, our wants, needs and circumstances change with time, other people around us change, and the world around us is constantly changing. What made me happy when I was 18 definitely isn't what makes me happy now.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is that the fact that we are sentient beings means that we can be satisfied, but also means that we won't remain that way forever, so we go searching for a new sense of satisfaction.

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By *heerFlirtMan
over a year ago

Quite near Bath usually

I thought this thread was going to be...

"I'm going to take you, girl and hold you...

...and do all the things I told you..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was expecting to find Sam in here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought i was going to be the intro to michael jacksons thriller

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think life and the world we live in are transient, so I'd say that it's nigh on impossible for anyone to remain completely satisfied indefinitely. We change as people, our wants, needs and circumstances change with time, other people around us change, and the world around us is constantly changing. What made me happy when I was 18 definitely isn't what makes me happy now.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is that the fact that we are sentient beings means that we can be satisfied, but also means that we won't remain that way forever, so we go searching for a new sense of satisfaction. "

I agree with you that what makes us satisfied changes as we get older. I have always enjoyed reading but what I enjoy reading has changed over time.

I do feel nowadays there is more of a sense of FOMO and an almost constant need to be doing something and seeking out new and exciting things (no matter what age you are). To never be still. ALmost like a tickbox culture (1001 places/films/books to visit/watch/read before you die).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tick box or bucket list culture is definitely existent .. more of a comparison culture too.. enhanced by use of social media and extending your circle in this way..

I came to first conclusion thanks to comments on my thread, that it might be due to how ambitious one is or whether their satisfaction is internally driven or by envy of sort as well?

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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"I think life and the world we live in are transient, so I'd say that it's nigh on impossible for anyone to remain completely satisfied indefinitely. We change as people, our wants, needs and circumstances change with time, other people around us change, and the world around us is constantly changing. What made me happy when I was 18 definitely isn't what makes me happy now.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is that the fact that we are sentient beings means that we can be satisfied, but also means that we won't remain that way forever, so we go searching for a new sense of satisfaction.

I agree with you that what makes us satisfied changes as we get older. I have always enjoyed reading but what I enjoy reading has changed over time.

I do feel nowadays there is more of a sense of FOMO and an almost constant need to be doing something and seeking out new and exciting things (no matter what age you are). To never be still. ALmost like a tickbox culture (1001 places/films/books to visit/watch/read before you die)."

I think social media has a big part to play in that. People want to have the same seemingly glamorous lifestyles that they see on Instagram - in reality those lives are often anything but, with people getting into extreme debt for example, purely in a bid to get more "likes". People want to live that dream that they see on their screens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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that it might be due to how ambitious one is or whether their satisfaction is internally driven or by envy of sort as well? "

I have never been ambitious (work, even though I enjoyed it, was never more than a way to get money for me) so someones drive to be ambitious could spill into their life outside of work - striving for better and newer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I think social media has a big part to play in that. People want to have the same seemingly glamorous lifestyles that they see on Instagram - in reality those lives are often anything but, with people getting into extreme debt for example, purely in a bid to get more "likes". People want to live that dream that they see on their screens. "

Never been a social media user - had a look at them when they first started appearing but couldn't be bothered with them - although I do occasionally (very occasionally) post haiku on Twitter.

I've never really read newspapers either - if something is big enough news you will find out about it - so I've never had a sense that I should be living life a certain way or achieving this that or the other. And when I have tried to fit in it always felt like I was doing it for the sake of it.

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