FabSwingers.com forum: Are singles people true swingers

By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

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Musing again.

Do you think single people are true swingers?

What’s your take on it?

I don’t class myself as a true swinger in every sense of the word, I just like fun.

Bhubaysi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging isn’t a question of numbers.

It’s a state of mind

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Swinging isn’t a question of numbers.

It’s a state of mind"

Yep. Just do what you want and call it what you want

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Swinging isn’t a question of numbers.

It’s a state of mind"

This.

You can be single and a swinger.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Perhaps if you defined a "true swinger" it might help - even though it would only be your definition, because in my opinion the *only* definition of a "true swinger" is the one someone that labels themself a swinger holds for themselves - what others think doesn't matter

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

INFORMAL

a lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events.

"one of the oldest swingers in town"

INFORMAL

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

"a twilight world of swingers and wife-swapping"

Yep both me

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Swinging isn’t a question of numbers.

It’s a state of mind"

Love this. We only meet those who 'get it'. That's the swinging world as we know it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging isn’t a question of numbers.

It’s a state of mind"

this. Im a swingle

still swing with couples in clubs or with a FB. Ideally, like to go back to being here as a Swinging couple - fat chance though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may discover or think the swinging life is for you, but you have to start somewhere!I knew I wanted the life and tried to explore with my last partner but she wouldn't. Now single and want to embrace the swinging lifestyle

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I ain't a swinger.

There are too many rules!

I just like the social life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is true swinging? If it's only old school wife swap - where does bi play in various forms between couples come in? And is threesome only possible if one of the 4 participants agrees to just watch?

Think everyone is a true swinger (single, couple or otherwise) if they have it right in their mind.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I ain't a swinger.

There are too many rules!

I just like the social life"

I get this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like borrowing other peoples husbands, if I chose them from a key in a bowl all the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure I’d class myself as a swinger, I just like meeting new people, having a flirt and getting to know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think i class myself as one. Just like enjoying quality fun and equally like to explore

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It’s funny we who are not swingers are on a swingers web site ?

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Swinging isn’t a question of numbers.

It’s a state of mind"
Yep x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not this again...

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Not this again..."

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"It’s funny we who are not swingers are on a swingers web site ?

I'm not sure (despite it's name) it is an exclusively "swingers" website though - but again comes back to your definition of "swinger"

The word was first coined back in the 60s to describe the move away from the traditional "one partner for life" way of living, to one of free love and multiple partners, hence the term "Swinging Sixties" - so in that sense anyone who indulges in non-monogamy is by definition "a swinger"

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Swinging isn’t a question of numbers.

It’s a state of mind"

This

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Happy to do what suits me, when it suits me and with who I like, no need for a label....

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"Swinging isn’t a question of numbers.

It’s a state of mind

Yep. Just do what you want and call it what you want"

yes

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"Happy to do what suits me, when it suits me and with who I like, no need for a label....

Agree to

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

"Swinging isn’t a question of numbers.

It’s a state of mind"

This.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Is baloo the king of the swingers ?

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Interesting. Personally to us - It is the separation of sex and sexuality from relationships and the ability (freedom) to explore whilst in a fulfilling relationship - *generally* with others in a similar setup though like many we look to both singles and couples.

The 50's concept where the phrase evolved was appropriated by mainstream media looking for titillation and the "foam-at-the-mouth" belief that everyone was "at it" (early FOMO?). It tied in with a whole American and quite nasty presentation of social veneer - that behind closed doors people were corrupt, had indiscriminate sex, beat their partners and (the real agenda) were communists. UK swinging 60s was in some ways a much more innocent, broader counterculture.

Swinger or no, some of the "don't label me" is BS. People label themselves when it suits them. Some for belief, some for advantage.

Bottom line. It's a swingers site. You're here, you are...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s funny we who are not swingers are on a swingers web site ?

There will be many reasons why someone ends up on this website and, because of its 'looseness', be able to use it in a way which suits each person individually.

We probably all share a certain 'state of mind' (or wish to) which is why we gravitated here in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How others define me is solely for those others to address...

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