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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So question, whether if you're a male or a female, if you had a friend who you knew was in love with you would you

A) ignore the feelings and act like if it's nothing

B) talk to he/she about it and explain to them you can and would only see them as a friend

C) end the friendship because you know ultimately you can never give them what they truly want

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

B) talk about it. I assume you are both grown ups.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"B) talk about it. I assume you are both grown ups. "

This!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"B) talk about it. I assume you are both grown ups. "

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say definitely B..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So question, whether if you're a male or a female, if you had a friend who you knew was in love with you would you

A) ignore the feelings and act like if it's nothing

B) talk to he/she about it and explain to them you can and would only see them as a friend

C) end the friendship because you know ultimately you can never give them what they truly want"

My answer would be B and if they still sought more from me then swiftly on to C.

I've been at the opposite end of that scenario.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"B) talk about it. I assume you are both grown ups. "

However what if talking doesn't resolve it?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

talk, and make sure I was very aware of my actions.

Take notice of subtle changes or any stresses the situation seems to be bringing to the surface. If the friendship becomes unhealthy for either party then I think it's time to distance yourselves and pick up again once the rawness is over and the emotion spent

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"B) talk about it. I assume you are both grown ups.

However what if talking doesn't resolve it?"

Then the person who changed the dynamic would need to work out if they could return to it or not.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"B) talk about it. I assume you are both grown ups.

However what if talking doesn't resolve it?"

If it turns out you want different things and it’s causing one of you pain then you may need to end it. But don’t jump to conclusions either.

Talk it through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there’s a lot of factors at play, not least of which is “how would you know this”

Is it something you suspect, something they told you, have they come on to you/asked you out, do you just suspect it or has someone else let it out of the bag.

I wouldn’t suggest ended it without a word unless their attention makes you feel awkward somehow or if it’s in some way inappropriate but likewise unless there’s definitely something to be addressed, talking about it could make things worse.

Sorry I know that not exactly helpful but it would depend on too many factors to say

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

B I’ve had it before and it can make some situations awkward but they got over it eventually and we are still friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

B. I’ve dealt with this before and talking it out and a little space helped.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the comments on this guys

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