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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?

Yes but not always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In theory, but several of my fwb relationships had to end because the guy developed feelings. Apparently I have no feelings lol.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes. I have guys I have sex with and see as friends.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say yes.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?

I would say yes it can be done,but sometimes them little old feelings do creep in..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one that gets hurt is the one that cares the most.

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

"In theory, but several of my fwb relationships had to end because the guy developed feelings. Apparently I have no feelings lol."

Can't blame them Kitty be hard not to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sure hope so

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes for sure it's a mindset u go into it with the understanding but if it started to happen u stop and move on b 4 it gets messy x

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Don't see why not, just as long as you are open and honest about everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?

Yes

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife has few a few friends who fuck her,its just sex

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

tricky...

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It’s possible, but it won’t always work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings can always happen.

I have been in all scenarios.

No feelings happened and we are still friends.

They fell for me.

I fell for them.

You cannot help it if it is going to happen

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

I don't see why not.

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

Of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes yes, sometimes no, depends on the situation and the people involved.

I’ve seen it work fine for some folks, and I’ve seen some horribly messy situations amongst others.

Honesty, openness and communication is key in everything!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?

Absolutely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume so because others seem to manage it, but I have no personal experience. All my sex partners that weren’t relationships have been one offs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s hard not to develop some kind of attachment, it’s the reason I seek out married women.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My fwb and I are incredibly close but we talk to each other and maintain our boundaries together. They've evolved over time but we are friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be a minefield. People start out by saying it's just a bit of fun, but often ends badly. Sandra allowed me to take a friend of hers out one evening for a drink and casual sex. Afterwards, the friend kept telling Sandra I had feelings for her that went beyond a casual sex filled evening. I had given her no reason whatsoever to think this. She was just game playing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. We both know it will end one day.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

"Sometimes yes, sometimes no, depends on the situation and the people involved.

I’ve seen it work fine for some folks, and I’ve seen some horribly messy situations amongst others.

Honesty, openness and communication is key in everything! "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to fall for them a little bit, but I can still be in love with a friend I think right upto the very tip of the boundaries that are set. It can be hard though, depends on how good you are at denying what it is you probably need compared to what you are getting. Keep talking to them.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?

Yes - absolutely. It just takes total honesty from both parties. Still no guarantee though of course. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am that weird one who is likely to catch feelings.

I had a FWB which I thought I had feelings for, but he didn't feel the same way and I was able to get over it and we are still friends years later.

Then I had another FWB who I've caught feelings for and it looked like our friendship will end because of it because he wasn't ready for another relationship after a bad breakup. I persevered and we will soon be celebrating our third anniversary

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

I have a female fwb and I don’t have those type of feelings for her, I see her as a friend but with added extras. But I am in a relationship with a man so that might be why my feelings haven’t developed beyond friends. I don’t know how I’d feel if I was single, obviously.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Lanzarote

Yes. I have friend who i know is very fond of me as i am him but not in a romantic way.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

You can of course, but both need to be completely honest with each other

I have feelings for friends, care about them, so why would it be any different for fwb ?

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over a year ago

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

I think I'm a bit in love with all my mates, wouldn't be mates otherwise. Some of us are just better at compartmentalising sex. Almost inevitably that will happen to some extent in a fwb situation. Just have to be open & honest as friends if deeper feelings are simmering.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Yes indeed. You just need to know from the get go where the lines are and where they end.

And have a great laugh along the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not always....

Its usually the one who cares most, has invested most, that has most to lose.

Life can't always be put in neat tidy boxes, nor can people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's wrong with feelings?

As long as you know where the line is drawn.

I love my friends wether I'm having sex with them or not. If I had a falling out with a girlfriend I'd still be really upset. Cant see the difference really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope so as this is what am looking for !

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Not always....

Its usually the one who cares most, has invested most, that has most to lose.

Life can't always be put in neat tidy boxes, nor can people."

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?

Yes, certainly, but not everybody.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Defenitly yes

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By *ome99Man
over a year ago

slough

Yes of course as long as both parties on the same page. No feelings should come up but you can’t help but care for someone. We are only human.

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By *uttercup and WestleyCouple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Yes. I think they can still care and have feelings without falling madly in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it all depends how long you are keeping up the benefits part of the friendship and the reason for stopping. But from personal experience I say you can

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

Yes but I class them as a f*ck buddy.

I want to fall in love with my fwb's that's what makes the friendship relationship so special, even if they are married we can have feelings but It is how you act with those feelings thats important

Embrace love don't possess people is our take on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes but I class them as a f*ck buddy.

I want to fall in love with my fwb's that's what makes the friendship relationship so special, even if they are married we can have feelings but It is how you act with those feelings thats important

Embrace love don't possess people is our take on it"

This definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In theory, but several of my fwb relationships had to end because the guy developed feelings. Apparently I have no feelings lol."

Same! My first ended because he started telling me he loved me and asking me to elope with him instead of marrying my husband

I've got one at the moment who I don't see that often but seems to be working pretty well for now.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Yes it is possible.

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?

Works both ways , depends on their attitudes

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd say no on the long term. Short term, yeah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to think so

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Absolutely. But it depends on the individuals, some people can't seperate sex and love, some people don't want too, it's about finding someone on the same wavelength

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By *iggydog78Man
over a year ago

London

Tried it no...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yes. It's my only function.

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By *urenutsMan
over a year ago

waltham cross/Harrow HA1

I does work some times. If you find the right friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but i think it’s more common that one or the other will catch feelings unfortunately.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes. All of my relationships are like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im wondering here if all the people saying yes are the cold frosty ones and their fwb's are the ones desperatly in love without being able to tell them

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

It is difficult to draw a line between pure sympathy, the desire to fuck and get fucked and developing more than just personal interest and a loving feeling.

I had a FWB some time ago which I still miss, but I don't know if I love her. It is probably the enjoyment of having a nice person around, even if it just for a cuddle and a kiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's more difficult for at least one side not to catch feelings. As get to know eachother overtime some small things could make the attraction stronger. If you already knew eachother then it might work.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

For me personally I couldn't have a long term relationship with regular sex if I didn't have strong feelings for the other person. I know that not everyone is like that though

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Me and him are fwb, in the past I thought I had more feelings than him. Now, I know it was just a passing thing.

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By *iggydog78Man
over a year ago

London

"Tried it no... "

Im talking a close friend then moved onto fwb...

If you find someone new with the intention of keeping it fwb then its a new ball game .. Have the code word "Bert" if u think the other is getting too heavy as a reality check ha!

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"Im wondering here if all the people saying yes are the cold frosty ones and their fwb's are the ones desperatly in love without being able to tell them

Don’t know really there’s only one way to find out

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Im wondering here if all the people saying yes are the cold frosty ones and their fwb's are the ones desperatly in love without being able to tell them

Lol no not at all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Im wondering here if all the people saying yes are the cold frosty ones and their fwb's are the ones desperatly in love without being able to tell them

I'm cold and frosty according to many and I couldn't be in a FWB relationship long term without seeing the other person as more than a friend.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I know many people can do it but for myself I definitely couldn't. I'm far too "emotionally" led as it is

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

It's possibly, but it can be a very very fine line to keep it that way. It's very risky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I can have sex and fun with guys without emotional attachment xx

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By *uttercup and WestleyCouple
over a year ago

Merseyside

I think it important to realise that you would have feelings and care for a FWB in a different way to the feelings for your primary partner. This would in no way diminish the feelings for your partner in the same way that caring for a vanilla friend would not.

Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.

Just my thoughts.

W X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im wondering here if all the people saying yes are the cold frosty ones and their fwb's are the ones desperatly in love without being able to tell them

I chose my fwb because he could love me and I him but we would never be in love... I don't want a full on relationship again, he does, just not with me... Makes keeping boundaries much easier aswell as dealing with the end of what we do have, when it comes

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?

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that was a bit of a fail for me on my single profile, once or twice. Maria

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s a bit of a mine field. I know first hand. Not at all easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define falling hard? I have feelings for all the people I’ve met. I probably wouldn’t meet them again if I didn’t. Feelings don’t scare me to be honest. I know what I want and what I dont want. It’s how you deal with said feelings I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?

I don’t think so. I think anything regular builds feelings of one form or another and there is a risk of one person having greater feelings than the other ..

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?

Yes. Finding a genuine FWB that stands the test of time though is pretty hard, but totally possible.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I think it important to realise that you would have feelings and care for a FWB in a different way to the feelings for your primary partner. This would in no way diminish the feelings for your partner in the same way that caring for a vanilla friend would not.

Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.

Just my thoughts.

W X"

Absolutely this.

It helps if there is a fundamental reason as to why you’d never couple up too IME.

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By *uttercup and WestleyCouple
over a year ago

Merseyside

It helps if there is a fundamental reason as to why you’d never couple up too IME. "

Like already being happily married!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.

Just my thoughts.

W X"

Very eloquently put

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes. I've done it for years

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.

Just my thoughts.

W X"

Absolutely!

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.

Just my thoughts.

W X"

Totally agree and beautifully worded.

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By *uttercup and WestleyCouple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Thanks everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally. I’ve had both. I’ve had fwb where it’s been good and the feelings have stayed away

I’ve had ones where I have developed strong feelings after seeing each other for sometime

And I had the one that I fell utterly in love with but it was so messy as he wasn’t single.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.

Just my thoughts.

W X"

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.

Just my thoughts.

W X

Exactly this.

This is all very true

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"My wife has few a few friends who fuck her,its just sex"

Fuck buddy then

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By *ndy64hMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

It would be nice to think so.

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By *erYnnMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

"I'd say yes. "

To me..?

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