FabSwingers.com forum: One upside to wearing a mask

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can easily rob a convenient store without looking like your just about to rob it!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Saves on lipstick and false teeth

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Nicely hides the odd pimple

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don't have to get rid of my moustache.

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Wonderful news.

Sadly doesn't make wearing mine any more pleasant

Can't wait for it all to end! (covid, thats not me alluring to wanting to die! Lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have really pretty eyes but an ugly mug you can chat up men fit men briefly for an ego trip!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have to do half my make up, my skin on the bottom half of my face has never looked better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can send a facepic without fear of rejection based on my looks or worry I send it by accident to my Nan...who may or may not be on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have really pretty eyes but an ugly mug you can chat up men fit men briefly for an ego trip!

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I really do think a facepic of you doing handstands would ace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months"

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I can send a facepic without fear of rejection based on my looks or worry I send it by accident to my Nan...who may or may not be on here."

She is

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Cant smell other people's bad breath..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get told less to put a second bag over my head....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Means I have to check out ladies bums more as I can't see their smile!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

Fucking hell I hate that so much.

I'm a human being with a full range of human experience. Some of it is awful. Sometimes it is that bad. I'm so sorry I'm insufficiently ornamental for you.

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months"

Random men tell you to smile? How rude.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

On the flip side, I don’t feel the need to pretend smile at randoms. I can just leave my resting bitch face to do it’s thing and be at peace.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It lets you get some practice for breath play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x"

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

Working in mental health care wearing a mask sucks though. People find it hard to open up to someone they can’t see. Understandably!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

At work you can tell arsehole customers to fuck off. Or have a nice day (you cunt ~ no words come out obvs) and they won't know

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

Also you don’t have to put make up on from the nose down. Handy I find when I’m rushing in a morning!

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

I'm surprised you get off of random guys.

More it's friends or family that say it to me when they can see I'm down - I'm generally always smiling and relatively cheerful.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

I'm surprised you get off of random guys.

More it's friends or family that say it to me when they can see I'm down - I'm generally always smiling and relatively cheerful. "

I've got resting bitch face. I get it a lot from strangers.

I'm not unhappy. This is just my face. Strangers can mind their own business.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I love doing Darth Vader impressions in the shop while I asphyxiate over the fish finger freezer.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger "

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

People who command strangers to rearrange their faces deserve to feel awkward, because they're being awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

I'm surprised you get off of random guys.

More it's friends or family that say it to me when they can see I'm down - I'm generally always smiling and relatively cheerful.

I've got resting bitch face. I get it a lot from strangers.

I'm not unhappy. This is just my face. Strangers can mind their own business."

I've got thin lips and the corners turn down. But its not as though if you are sad you go round looking like the sad emoji.

People who smile all the time are a bit unnerving.

It's why I can't watch Strictly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm waxing my pcos beard much less frequently thanks to mask wearing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I like wearing a mask because it makes me feel like Optimus Prime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you."

Can you see how that goes both ways?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?"

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can do my Hannibal Lecter impression at my manager and she will never know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Exactly!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Quite.

Someone's facial arrangement is none of your business.

The person ordering someone else to smile created the awkward.

Return awkward to sender.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Exactly! "

Maybe he was genuinely trying to be nice?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Exactly!

Maybe he was genuinely trying to be nice? "

What's nice about ordering someone to rearrange their face?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Exactly!

Maybe he was genuinely trying to be nice? "

He needs a different approach to nice.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Exactly!

Maybe he was genuinely trying to be nice?

What's nice about ordering someone to rearrange their face?"

I don’t say successfully....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Exactly!

Maybe he was genuinely trying to be nice?

What's nice about ordering someone to rearrange their face?

I don’t say successfully.... "

Maybe we should teach people how to be nice. Including by pushing back on this kind of nonsense.

"Have a nice day!" Or smile yourself. Don't tell people to do things.

It's not surgical rocket immunology. It's easy.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Exactly!

Maybe he was genuinely trying to be nice?

What's nice about ordering someone to rearrange their face?

I don’t say successfully....

Maybe we should teach people how to be nice. Including by pushing back on this kind of nonsense.

"Have a nice day!" Or smile yourself. Don't tell people to do things.

It's not surgical rocket immunology. It's easy."

How would you have preferred the interaction to have gone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Exactly!

Maybe he was genuinely trying to be nice?

What's nice about ordering someone to rearrange their face?

I don’t say successfully....

Maybe we should teach people how to be nice. Including by pushing back on this kind of nonsense.

"Have a nice day!" Or smile yourself. Don't tell people to do things.

It's not surgical rocket immunology. It's easy.

How would you have preferred the interaction to have gone?"

If he wanted to smile he could. The end. It’s everyone’s choice to smile or not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one expects me to take my crash helmet off when going to pay for petrol for my bike any more

Makes it much easier - just steam up the visor!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Exactly!

Maybe he was genuinely trying to be nice?

What's nice about ordering someone to rearrange their face?

I don’t say successfully....

Maybe we should teach people how to be nice. Including by pushing back on this kind of nonsense.

"Have a nice day!" Or smile yourself. Don't tell people to do things.

It's not surgical rocket immunology. It's easy.

How would you have preferred the interaction to have gone?"

Person sees a person looking sad. Person smiles, wishes them well, or minds their own damn business

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Never ever tell a stranger to look happy. Never ever ever. Their feelings are none of your business.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Never ever tell a stranger to look happy. Never ever ever. Their feelings are none of your business."

It's well annoying.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Never ever tell a stranger to look happy. Never ever ever. Their feelings are none of your business."

Sorry you feel so sad.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I feel like Samson, I've lost my beard power.

I may have to stick some head hair on my mask.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Never ever tell a stranger to look happy. Never ever ever. Their feelings are none of your business.

Sorry you feel so sad. "

... I don't

I just think people should stop policing facial expressions.

My current emotional state is irrelevant

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"I feel like Samson, I've lost my beard power.

I may have to stick some head hair on my mask. "

A beard mask would be a great idea, you could have different styles depending on mood.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Ok lets get back to the OP please

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"I love doing Darth Vader impressions in the shop while I asphyxiate over the fish finger freezer....... "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've seen photo masks.

Some of them have maniacally happy smiles on them.

They're all creepy, but particularly the smiling ones.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"I've seen photo masks.

Some of them have maniacally happy smiles on them.

They're all creepy, but particularly the smiling ones."

Just wear them upside down...

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Never ever tell a stranger to look happy. Never ever ever. Their feelings are none of your business.

Sorry you feel so sad. "

Some people are just looking to see everything negatively, it's their outlook on everything, and possibly explains why they look sad enough to warrant the said comments!

Most people that say this generally do it with good intentions,misguided as it may be.

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I feel like Samson, I've lost my beard power.

I may have to stick some head hair on my mask. "

LOL!

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By *otmale5Man
over a year ago

glasgow

The covid mask flirt. . Upside is being able to smile at a woman in Tesco and see her eyes shine and light up as she smiles back in return.. the eyes have it for me.

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By *r_BlueEyesMan
over a year ago

Manchester

It hides half my face so makes me 50% better looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard for deaf and dumb people to communicate when people are wearing masks all the time

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Shrug. You do you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only look half as sad...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get to buy food

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If people make me feel uncomfortable why on earth should I comply, and not make them feel uncomfortable lol, fuck them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?"

It's absolutely appropriate that they be shocked into considering other people's feelings, it was a rude, inappropriate remark that they had no thought for the potential effect of. Maybe they will next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Less makeup.

I can pull faces at the dick heads and they don't know haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope. I can't see the upside

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Quite.

Someone's facial arrangement is none of your business.

The person ordering someone else to smile created the awkward.

Return awkward to sender."

I would not take it as ordering somebody to smile..I would take it as friendliness..

But hey.. we are all different

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Exactly!

Maybe he was genuinely trying to be nice?

What's nice about ordering someone to rearrange their face?

I don’t say successfully....

Maybe we should teach people how to be nice. Including by pushing back on this kind of nonsense.

"Have a nice day!" Or smile yourself. Don't tell people to do things.

It's not surgical rocket immunology. It's easy."

In a way I agree.. if I see somebody who looks like a miserable bitch then invariably she is..

Avoid like the plague..

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Another upside is I can mutter obscenities under my breath at those without masks, not Socially distancing etc, without being seen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

They said that once after I had a miscarriage and I said ‘I just had a miscarriage’ and he looked me in the eye and said ‘ok...smile more’ and walked away

Ok hun

Will do

Thanks x

Did you tell him that to make him feel awkward?

It's probably not something most folk would say to a stranger

Yep.

And? I don’t tell most strangers to smile

Quite right. He should feel awkward. It’s so rude to tell someone else to smile, he had no idea what was going on with you.

Can you see how that goes both ways?

It wouldn't have gone anyway if he'd not been rude enough to tell her to smile in the first place...

Exactly!

Maybe he was genuinely trying to be nice?

What's nice about ordering someone to rearrange their face?

I don’t say successfully....

Maybe we should teach people how to be nice. Including by pushing back on this kind of nonsense.

"Have a nice day!" Or smile yourself. Don't tell people to do things.

It's not surgical rocket immunology. It's easy.

In a way I agree.. if I see somebody who looks like a miserable bitch then invariably she is..

Avoid like the plague.. "

Here's a guy that gets it. If I look like a miserable bitch which i do unless I'm genuinely happy to see someone, It means "don't fucking talk to me!"

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"If people make me feel uncomfortable why on earth should I comply, and not make them feel uncomfortable lol, fuck them "

I'm not sure anyone has suggested you should comply, maybe I've missed a comment?

I think they were saying people weren't doing it to be intentionally rude.

Although we are all generalising, it's not like we are all talking about the same specific instance or situation,just the general types of situation that these phrases are used, maybe if we were watching a vid of a particular instance of this, consensus might be different. People may be picturing the same thing but at opposite ends of the spectrum in terms of how they imagine the interaction to play out.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

To be fair, if you engage with a stranger then you never know how they will react... However it often says so much about the person responding...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months"

Before I post on this thread I wanted to clarify is it about one upside of wearing a mask or about men telling women to smile? It would be helpful to know before I respond to the thread?

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

Before I post on this thread I wanted to clarify is it about one upside of wearing a mask or about men telling women to smile? It would be helpful to know before I respond to the thread?"

I think it's about women getting unwanted attention from men and often when they feel at their most vulnerable..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

Before I post on this thread I wanted to clarify is it about one upside of wearing a mask or about men telling women to smile? It would be helpful to know before I respond to the thread?

I think it's about women getting unwanted attention from men and often when they feel at their most vulnerable..

I’m slightly confused then as to why Ruggers said ‘Back to the OP’?

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

"Wonderful news.

Sadly doesn't make wearing mine any more pleasant

Can't wait for it all to end! (covid, thats not me alluring to wanting to die! Lol) "

Death is likely to come before the end of Covid. Man has only ever eradicated a few viruses and they took decades.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

You too? I hate that especially when they say 'cheer up, can't be that bad?'

I'm surprised you get off of random guys.

More it's friends or family that say it to me when they can see I'm down - I'm generally always smiling and relatively cheerful.

I've got resting bitch face. I get it a lot from strangers.

I'm not unhappy. This is just my face. Strangers can mind their own business."

Same here, I have been told to smile more by alot of randomers and it always annoys me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have nice eyes, so it’s make them stand out even more. But still, can’t wait for this all to end!!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Face pics don't reveal vampire teeth - ir can help or endager you, depending on your bent

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

Before I post on this thread I wanted to clarify is it about one upside of wearing a mask or about men telling women to smile? It would be helpful to know before I respond to the thread?"

Both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is men telling women to smile then it is usually about control, even if their intention is to cheer them up. Much of the reasons why are not in conscious awareness. Women were traditionally expected to be subservient and there for a man’s pleasure. They were expected to smile and not draw attention to themselves. It is much more likely that a woman will be told by a man to smile than the other way around.

There are lots of ways to brighten someone’s day, but demanding a smile isn’t one of them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it is men telling women to smile then it is usually about control, even if their intention is to cheer them up. Much of the reasons why are not in conscious awareness. Women were traditionally expected to be subservient and there for a man’s pleasure. They were expected to smile and not draw attention to themselves. It is much more likely that a woman will be told by a man to smile than the other way around.

There are lots of ways to brighten someone’s day, but demanding a smile isn’t one of them."

God I adore you

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

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"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

Before I post on this thread I wanted to clarify is it about one upside of wearing a mask or about men telling women to smile? It would be helpful to know before I respond to the thread?

I think it's about women getting unwanted attention from men and often when they feel at their most vulnerable..

I’m slightly confused then as to why Ruggers said ‘Back to the OP’?

It looks like you are questioning a mods decision ( which is against rules )but wording it this way to make it look like you are not.

For info, if a mod asked people to go back to the OP it means something has kicked off , it is taking a thread a different way and the mod wants people to go back to the fun thread that it was meant to be.

For future reference, questioning a mods decision is not allowed on the forum, use the contact button to do this or you may find yourself falling foul of the rules

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"There are lots of ways to brighten someone’s day, but demanding a smile isn’t one of them."

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the guy asking you to smile fancied you, but really wanted to clinche the deal when he saw your beautiful smile.

I’ve said “smile gorgeous” to ladies in the past, it’s not a demand, not an order, an your right I don’t know what their mood or circumstances are, but maybe and I do mean just maybe, i find it pleasurable to see ladies smile (in fact I like to see everyone smile) but that’s just me, each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Random men haven’t told me to ‘smile!’ in months

Before I post on this thread I wanted to clarify is it about one upside of wearing a mask or about men telling women to smile? It would be helpful to know before I respond to the thread?

I think it's about women getting unwanted attention from men and often when they feel at their most vulnerable..

I’m slightly confused then as to why Ruggers said ‘Back to the OP’?

It looks like you are questioning a mods decision ( which is against rules )but wording it this way to make it look like you are not.

For future reference, questioning a mods decision is not allowed on the forum, use the contact button to do this or you may find yourself falling foul of the rules"

I wasn’t sure Ruggers and I wanted to check what HMQL’s OP was about. Whether it was a more serious subject or some fun. I realised it could be interpreted in both ways. I wasn’t questioning you as I wasn’t on the thread when you posted it and didn’t know if something had happened and posts were removed. I was asking for clarity so I could post appropriately,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the guy asking you to smile fancied you, but really wanted to clinche the deal when he saw your beautiful smile.

So we should smile to make you happy?

Have you ever asked a man to smile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe the guy asking you to smile fancied you, but really wanted to clinche the deal when he saw your beautiful smile.

Nah I find it bloody annoying and creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the guy asking you to smile fancied you, but really wanted to clinche the deal when he saw your beautiful smile.

I think it is not a case of each to their own in this case. I think unconsciously when we do it we are doing it for ourselves not for the other’s benefit. It is trying to control their behaviour for our own pleasure. I would imagine many women experience the behaviour as sexist.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Maybe the guy asking you to smile fancied you, but really wanted to clinche the deal when he saw your beautiful smile.

Nah I find it bloody annoying and creepy"

See this is it, you find it that way, but not everyone else does. But you demand that people “don’t do it”.

I’d prefer social interactions rather than people never interacting for fear of being accused of being “creepy”.

I’m me, you’re you. We are different.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Maybe the guy asking you to smile fancied you, but really wanted to clinche the deal when he saw your beautiful smile.

So we should smile to make you happy?

Have you ever asked a man to smile?"

Men do it to other men all the time, as do women do it to men also.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Maybe the guy asking you to smile fancied you, but really wanted to clinche the deal when he saw your beautiful smile.

So we should smile to make you happy?

Have you ever asked a man to smile?

Men do it to other men all the time, as do women do it to men also."

This is true. People have said it to me before and I'm a man. I do find it annoying though.

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

There are lots of ways to brighten someone’s day, but demanding a smile isn’t one of them."

"It's about control"

I really don't think it is.... In fact I find that notion ridiculous lmao

You can't ascribe motives to people just because it fits your world view.

And plenty of women say it aswell, to both men and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the guy asking you to smile fancied you, but really wanted to clinche the deal when he saw your beautiful smile.

So we should smile to make you happy?

Have you ever asked a man to smile?

Men do it to other men all the time, as do women do it to men also."

That doesn't make it right.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Maybe the guy asking you to smile fancied you, but really wanted to clinche the deal when he saw your beautiful smile.

So we should smile to make you happy?

Have you ever asked a man to smile?

Men do it to other men all the time, as do women do it to men also.

That doesn't make it right.

Nor is it wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the guy asking you to smile fancied you, but really wanted to clinche the deal when he saw your beautiful smile.

So we should smile to make you happy?

Have you ever asked a man to smile?

Men do it to other men all the time, as do women do it to men also.

That doesn't make it right.

Nor is it wrong"

Why is it not wrong?

Why do you or anyone else have the right to tell me what to do with my face?

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