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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does fab give people a sense of confidence which otherwise in person wouldn’t be there? What’s your thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works both ways depending which way you're going.....

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By *ljamMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I imagine it can do, but then I imagine it could also harm confidence in some circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope! I’m as uncomfortable and awkward in real life as I am here haha

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

I think it's easier to be yourself.. as you can't see the actual reaction to what someone might think.

But sometimes you can read a reply to a thread the wrong way and it can really knock your confidence..

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"It works both ways depending which way you're going..... "

This.

You're all clever and stuff Nippy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this discussing farting during sex ?

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By *oozleMan
over a year ago

high wycombe


"Does fab give people a sense of confidence which otherwise in person wouldn’t be there? What’s your thoughts?"

I think you need to be a little confident to be on fab, but confidence can certainly grow with age/ experiences. I’m reasonably confident I myself so I don’t think fab itself made me more confident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works both ways depending which way you're going.....

This.

You're all clever and stuff Nippy "

Either that or you're stupid for believing me.....

You know I'm kitten xxxx

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"It works both ways depending which way you're going.....

This.

You're all clever and stuff Nippy

Either that or you're stupid for believing me.....

You know I'm kitten xxxx"

To be fair though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works both ways depending which way you're going.....

This.

You're all clever and stuff Nippy "

And who's that man you have strapped the the armchair or torture? I'm dead jealous....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope! I’m as uncomfortable and awkward in real life as I am here haha "

Lies!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"It works both ways depending which way you're going.....

This.

You're all clever and stuff Nippy

And who's that man you have strapped the the armchair or torture? I'm dead jealous.... "

Not actually me in the pic..... Shhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I’m very similar online as I am offline in terms of how confident I feel. Situations tend to determine how variable that is. On the whole I’m pretty confident, with one notable exception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works both ways depending which way you're going.....

This.

You're all clever and stuff Nippy

And who's that man you have strapped the the armchair or torture? I'm dead jealous....

Not actually me in the pic..... Shhhh "

That's what all ppl say when they've invited a fabber round during lockdown and it's all gone wrong when they've accidentally boob suffocated him....!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"It works both ways depending which way you're going.....

This.

You're all clever and stuff Nippy

And who's that man you have strapped the the armchair or torture? I'm dead jealous....

Not actually me in the pic..... Shhhh

That's what all ppl say when they've invited a fabber round during lockdown and it's all gone wrong when they've accidentally boob suffocated him....!"

You made it out alive.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works both ways depending which way you're going.....

This.

You're all clever and stuff Nippy

And who's that man you have strapped the the armchair or torture? I'm dead jealous....

Not actually me in the pic..... Shhhh

That's what all ppl say when they've invited a fabber round during lockdown and it's all gone wrong when they've accidentally boob suffocated him....!

You made it out alive..... "

I wanna paddle in your stream nsp....

Should have saved that for the my mate thread tbh^

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"It works both ways depending which way you're going..... "

Agreed. I think that sometimes it can give someone a confidence boost and at the same time, there's nothing wrong with that. Why shouldn't people feel more confident in who they are (obvs sometimes it's false flattery from those who want to fuck you but I'm trying to keep this reply succinct). Sometimes it can make a person feel less confident if they compare themselves to others (or how they see others as being). I don't see it as a bad thing overall, unless it makes someone act like a twunt.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"It works both ways depending which way you're going.....

This.

You're all clever and stuff Nippy

And who's that man you have strapped the the armchair or torture? I'm dead jealous....

Not actually me in the pic..... Shhhh

That's what all ppl say when they've invited a fabber round during lockdown and it's all gone wrong when they've accidentally boob suffocated him....!

You made it out alive.....

I wanna paddle in your stream nsp....

Should have saved that for the my mate thread tbh^"

We will pretend no one saw it. Then you can use it again.

And I'll come up with a witty waterfall reference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't for me, think it can for some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works both ways depending which way you're going.....

Agreed. I think that sometimes it can give someone a confidence boost and at the same time, there's nothing wrong with that. Why shouldn't people feel more confident in who they are (obvs sometimes it's false flattery from those who want to fuck you but I'm trying to keep this reply succinct). Sometimes it can make a person feel less confident if they compare themselves to others (or how they see others as being). I don't see it as a bad thing overall, unless it makes someone act like a twunt."

How they see others is so key here! I think with a little practice we can manipulate our own confidence for the better. Still, nobody likes a cocky cunt though.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That’s what I’m talking about at times you do tend to see that arrogance and cockiness and I just think like really come on you need a reality check and a few steps back.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think it depends on the individuals outlook. And with me that can vary day to day. Sometimes it can be a massive confidence boost, especially if someone gives you a nice compliment when you're having a good day. Others when you're feeling a bit shitty about yourself and you compare yourself with others it's totally not.

I think we're all guilty of feeling we don't fit in on here which is complete bull, everyone is entitled and as valid as anyone else on here. Nobody is above or below anyone else, something many of us forget

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Nope! I’m as uncomfortable and awkward in real life as I am here haha "

Same as me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not confident at all I put up a front when I'm at work but that's cos I'm in my comfort zone but I can't flirt for toffee and I can't see it if someone's flirting with me I just see it as them being friendly as I think they wouldn't want me I don't think I'm anyone's cup of tea so why would anyone flirt with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it helps my confidence but then other times it takes it right away.i suppose it’s the nature of being on here...

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think you need to stand on solid ground and not let your confidence feelings or mood be swayed too much - good or bad - by what is said here. But if people are important to you and genuine, listen to what they say, think about it , maybe reflect on it. Don’t be like those people who get a bad email and.sulk about it all day!

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By *reenEyedFellaMan
over a year ago

Derby

Confidence - yes!

I’ve always been self conscious about my height as a male. However despite everyone having their preference about the height of a sexual partner, looking through Fab has taught me that there’s no real need to make a big deal out of it. You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but there’ll always be someone who’ll want a coffee! BE A COFFEE!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

yes and no... too much ghosting or lying on here has irritated me and knocked alittle confidence off... Getting lots of compliments which i rarely get in person must be i look better naked than dressed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you need to stand on solid ground and not let your confidence feelings or mood be swayed too much - good or bad - by what is said here. But if people are important to you and genuine, listen to what they say, think about it , maybe reflect on it. Don’t be like those people who get a bad email and.sulk about it all day!

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Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it depends on the individuals outlook. And with me that can vary day to day. Sometimes it can be a massive confidence boost, especially if someone gives you a nice compliment when you're having a good day. Others when you're feeling a bit shitty about yourself and you compare yourself with others it's totally not.

I think we're all guilty of feeling we don't fit in on here which is complete bull, everyone is entitled and as valid as anyone else on here. Nobody is above or below anyone else, something many of us forget "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really have confidence anyway and I've yet to really receive a confidence boost from here. Is what it is.

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By *ustfun001Man
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Does fab give people a sense of confidence which otherwise in person wouldn’t be there? What’s your thoughts?"

I think it is a double sided sword, it can give you the confidence to go for what you want and be who you are with no judgement....

But it can knock you just as quick and twice as hard when you send message after message and you get no replies not because you are bad, ugly or crude but because the ratio and sheer volume of men / woman is s disproportionate ...

the above is probably B.S im just shit at pulling

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think it depends on the individuals outlook. And with me that can vary day to day. Sometimes it can be a massive confidence boost, especially if someone gives you a nice compliment when you're having a good day. Others when you're feeling a bit shitty about yourself and you compare yourself with others it's totally not.

I think we're all guilty of feeling we don't fit in on here which is complete bull, everyone is entitled and as valid as anyone else on here. Nobody is above or below anyone else, something many of us forget "

You stole words from my brain and put them in a sensible order!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think so, a pervy version of the armchair warrior haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it depends on the individuals outlook. And with me that can vary day to day. Sometimes it can be a massive confidence boost, especially if someone gives you a nice compliment when you're having a good day. Others when you're feeling a bit shitty about yourself and you compare yourself with others it's totally not.

I think we're all guilty of feeling we don't fit in on here which is complete bull, everyone is entitled and as valid as anyone else on here. Nobody is above or below anyone else, something many of us forget

You stole words from my brain and put them in a sensible order! "

She's clever like that! She reorders my thoughts occasionally....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Why do I get the feeling this is a veiled question and a slight dig at those who have standards?!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I think it depends on the individuals outlook. And with me that can vary day to day. Sometimes it can be a massive confidence boost, especially if someone gives you a nice compliment when you're having a good day. Others when you're feeling a bit shitty about yourself and you compare yourself with others it's totally not.

I think we're all guilty of feeling we don't fit in on here which is complete bull, everyone is entitled and as valid as anyone else on here. Nobody is above or below anyone else, something many of us forget

You stole words from my brain and put them in a sensible order! "

Promise I'm not using telepathy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do I get the feeling this is a veiled question and a slight dig at those who have standards?! "

No not really nothing like having high standards is fine it’s your preference which would determine what you would class as high standard I guess. I’m just curious to others opinion on this subject that’s all. No hidden agendas

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think it depends on the individuals outlook. And with me that can vary day to day. Sometimes it can be a massive confidence boost, especially if someone gives you a nice compliment when you're having a good day. Others when you're feeling a bit shitty about yourself and you compare yourself with others it's totally not.

I think we're all guilty of feeling we don't fit in on here which is complete bull, everyone is entitled and as valid as anyone else on here. Nobody is above or below anyone else, something many of us forget

You stole words from my brain and put them in a sensible order!

Promise I'm not using telepathy "

Easier for me if you are.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nope.

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I'd give to a special confidence injection, js....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope! I’m as uncomfortable and awkward in real life as I am here haha "

Same

I approach people I might not be brave enough to talk to in person, but I'm still super awkward about it

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Not remotely confident

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Nope, I'm far more confident in real life than I am on here. In real life I'm sure of myself, of my abilities and my place in the world. On here its very easy to feel insignificant, alone and ignored to some extent.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The scene has given me confidence. Fab is too fickle, it will give and take away.

Many will put on a defensive front.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk/write more here than I probably would in person. The mechanics of diving into conversations and pushing myself forwards to be heard is not me, so I tend to just sit back and watch and listen. I can talk into the ether here on the forum all day long.

It hasnt given me any more confidence to meet others I dont think, it does highlight insecurities I might have instead, and becomes a reason I may not meet or do something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does fab give people a sense of confidence which otherwise in person wouldn’t be there? What’s your thoughts?"

I think it does give shy people a sense of confidence ,well , personally for me ,l'm a fierce shy guy and wouldn't in a million years have the confidence to approach a lady in the real world but here l can be very respectfully relaxed and feel like l can be myself.

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