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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For a meet, not off here I might add and it’s happened mor than once do you cancel on them?

Asking for a friend

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Yes ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find someone new and don't waste the energy on it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends why they cancelled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For a meet, not off here I might add and it’s happened mor than once do you cancel on them?

Asking for a friend "

If it's happened a few times I'd probably just let them know I'm no longer interested in meeting them until a time comes when they can fully commit to it.

If they haven't been letting you know in advance etc. Then I'd just block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends why they cancelled "

Because it was raining apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends why they cancelled

Because it was raining apparently "

Okay, so I kinda get that. I don’t drive, I would either have to get the bus or train, so I’d be wet and miserable by the time I got to the meet. So yeah, I kinda get it.

I’d give them one more chance

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice


"Depends why they cancelled

Because it was raining apparently "

If you planning on a meet in the woods then that is possibly understandable, if it was in doors then not such a good reason

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By *cotsguyyMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I always go with the three strikes & out.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It’s a bit of a silly question it depends on who and why. Some people are really bad at organising stuff , some are just really busy and sometimes you need to reschedule it’s life - others are flaky or time wasters.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"For a meet, not off here I might add and it’s happened mor than once do you cancel on them?

Asking for a friend "
nope I give them another chance if they hadn't cancel before but if they cancel twice on trot I move on and leave them to it

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By *otmale5Man
over a year ago

glasgow

If there is a genuine reason for cancelling then no. If not move on ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on your gut feeling and level of interest

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"For a meet, not off here I might add and it’s happened mor than once do you cancel on them?

Asking for a friend nope I give them another chance if they hadn't cancel before but if they cancel twice on trot I move on and leave them to it "
that's for men of here Haha if it was someone I knew I be more understanding lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also i wouldn't cancel them id just say it as it is. Im not confident you'll show so I'm done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cancellation fees apply

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Just before Christmas a good friend of mine cancelled on me twice because it was raining. I was upset at the time because I felt that she thought it wasn't worth getting a bit damp to meet me. However I think our friendship is worth more than that so next time we arranged to meet I went as agreed.

I'm my opinion it entirely depends on how good a friend they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a good case for middle finger diplomacy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would depend on who it was and the reason. We all have lives outside of here and sometimes the 'real world' gets in the way. Id normally give someone a 2nd/3rd chance. Especially if we had met before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Find someone new and don't waste the energy on it.... "

This

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I take the cancellation if its not

a serious one but stop chasing them, if it naturally fades then it wasn't meant to be, I've had a few of them on here.

With most we have wanted to meet so much that the social happens very soon after making that initial connection

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Everyone deserves a chance but if it happened a second time I'd think I was being led on.

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

I just don’t arrange a third meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends why they cancelled

Because it was raining apparently "

Classic cold feet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could have been a reason

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Dpends on the reason if I think it's a genuine reason then ye they get a second chance if I think they have just gotten cold feet and especially if they leave it late to cancel then no they don't get another chance anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I matched on a well known dating app a really nice 29 year old ,she was model looking with good job ,great hair & everything and I'll be honest exactly what I like .. it fizzled out chatting then like 6 months later I get a message off her saying she's just seen me in the Hilton Spa & Gym where imma member and I thought d'ya know what ???? Fuck off .

So now you've seen me for real your interested so I jibbed her off ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For a meet, not off here I might add and it’s happened mor than once do you cancel on them?

Asking for a friend "

No, because I am an adult and don't play silly games.

Just ignore them and move on

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

As Ivy said, I tend to have a bit of rapo?rte via here,and phone calls. I've never been let down yet

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

He didn’t get another chance

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

If it happens twice...move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends really because real life does come in the way of things and if you think they are genuine they are definitely worth a second chance x

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

They only have one chance more , but luckily till today i never been left down

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"He didn’t get another chance "

Just one chance would be more than welcome with you young Lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess if you'd gone to a lot of trouble... New outfit, childcare, petcare booked hotel, time off work, binned family off etc then I'd be disappointed ... But so much happens out of our control, I'd be understanding i think and give them another chance ... But i wouldn't necessarily chase them and i would expect some apology /explanation

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I normally run a 'Two strikes and you're out' rule; real life can get in the way at times, but I would expect more of an effort to avoid this for a second attempt?

I did got to three attempts for one woman, but I had met her twice for socials. I couldn't forgive her for ghosting me on the third attempt and posting a veri from someone else for that day.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, two strikes and you're out.

Once is unfortunate, twice is poor manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For a meet, not off here I might add and it’s happened mor than once do you cancel on them?

Asking for a friend "

Depends. Could be a genuine reason.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Yeah I do give them another chance as sometimes nerves get in the way but to do it more than once is just taking the pi** so I would move on but only you can tell what your gut feeling is

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

Yes you can have one chance , but after second one, it’s pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends on the reason, how much notice they gave and if you believe it was genuine. I'd usually give a second chance, but after that, nope.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Unfortunately, it rains a fucking lot here. Be prepared for many more cancellations. Or buy them a brolly.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"I normally run a 'Two strikes and you're out' rule; real life can get in the way at times, but I would expect more of an effort to avoid this for a second attempt?

I did got to three attempts for one woman, but I had met her twice for socials. I couldn't forgive her for ghosting me on the third attempt and posting a veri from someone else for that day..... "
What if the third time wasn't ghosting you for an alternative meet? Swingers are a harsh bunch. By that I mean her, not you.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I normally run a 'Two strikes and you're out' rule; real life can get in the way at times, but I would expect more of an effort to avoid this for a second attempt?

I did got to three attempts for one woman, but I had met her twice for socials. I couldn't forgive her for ghosting me on the third attempt and posting a veri from someone else for that day..... What if the third time wasn't ghosting you for an alternative meet? Swingers are a harsh bunch. By that I mean her, not you. "

Having met her twice already for socials, and chatted extensively via kik, when she went quiet on me 3 days before our play date I thought it was a little odd, but then seeing her post a veri from another guy (for that day) was.........harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if it’s a first meet then there’s no second chance if we meet before and something comes up I can understand as everyone has a life outside sex and the bedroom but 2 in a row and ur gone for good and makeing a habit off it and I will start to not bother and see what else is out there xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally run a 'Two strikes and you're out' rule; real life can get in the way at times, but I would expect more of an effort to avoid this for a second attempt?

I did got to three attempts for one woman, but I had met her twice for socials. I couldn't forgive her for ghosting me on the third attempt and posting a veri from someone else for that day..... What if the third time wasn't ghosting you for an alternative meet? Swingers are a harsh bunch. By that I mean her, not you. "

That can happen quite a lot for me personally I normal work on a first come first served base but I will always offer seconds or thirds or fourths and it’s up to the person if they want to take someone seconds thirds or fourths or meet a nother time but will always be upfront with people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends why they cancelled

Because it was raining apparently "

Apparently ??

Could you not look out the window and see if they were fibbing ??

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By *uge G RectionMan
over a year ago

where I like to be... down south

Similar thing happened to me as well, everything was going great... we had our first date and a week later our second one (i did post about it in one of the late night threads) however since that second date it seems she was becoming very distant.... things kind of fizzled out until she found out about another date I had and suddenly is being very overly keen.

However knowing how she left me feeling, im not giving her a second chance.... been there done that in a past relationship and got seriously funked over (both mentally and financially)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation tbh...there are the ultimate times wasters.. absolutely...then there are the Genuine ones that have no choice but to cancel..ie a separated lady with kids could cancel cause her ex.was to take the kids but decided at the very last second he wouldn't ..the only unfortunate thing is you have to go through it to discover which is which ...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"For a meet, not off here I might add and it’s happened mor than once do you cancel on them?

Asking for a friend "

Do you want to meet them?

Are you cancelling through spite? As in an eye for an eye?

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Meesed me about too many times. Doesn't matter how much I like her. She's now blocked.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"For a meet, not off here I might add and it’s happened mor than once do you cancel on them?

Asking for a friend "

Yeah sack them off. Time wasters. Unless they’ve got damn good excuses they can prove. But even then they’re probably going to do it again at some point. Why waste the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont meet, there's no dissapointments then. In all ways.

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