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By *bt96 OP   Man
over a year ago

GAINSBOROUGH

how did everyone manage to get the first meet on here to get verified? nobody will meet because im not verified but how am I ever going to get verified if everyone says that... I dont get how people got started on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We did clubs or socials

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By *bt96 OP   Man
over a year ago

GAINSBOROUGH

How do you get in them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wooed the boss with a message and then she insisted I cook for her

She's still here lol

Food porn is the answer

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

If you look at profiles where they have pics, its likely the ones who you choose to look at most intently will have at least one face pic among other pics too and have a positive profile write up indicating what you have to offer any potential persons on here and what you are looking for too.

Pretty much any guy with no face pics is doomed to fail and saying you're giving up already is quite negative and will have people looking elsewhere Op.

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By *bt96 OP   Man
over a year ago

GAINSBOROUGH

I do send pics when I message just shy about them being on my profile (like a lot of men) and its not like I rushed into saying that I've been trying on here for months

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Find a local social event (when safe to have one).

Go in cam rooms

Put a social / coffee meet on profile

J x

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"how did everyone manage to get the first meet on here to get verified? nobody will meet because im not verified but how am I ever going to get verified if everyone says that... I dont get how people got started on here

"

My first was in a club and as prior to the lockdown I used to go out regularly, so verifications were quite easy to get.

However some of my meets, won’t get verified as those people don’t want others to know they’ve been with a Tgirl. So it can be difficult in other ways as well.

You can be webcam verified but these aren’t as good as actual meeting the person in reality.

My advice get to a social once they start up again.

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

clubs are the way to go when they reopen

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"how did everyone manage to get the first meet on here to get verified? nobody will meet because im not verified but how am I ever going to get verified if everyone says that... I dont get how people got started on here

"

Take a picture of your hand doing the 'thumbs up' thingy and make it your profile pic and I will come and buy you a pint and touch your bum after lockdown.

...or, just hop in the cam room and ask nicely to get verified. Seems less fun but whatevs

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By *bt96 OP   Man
over a year ago

GAINSBOROUGH

well I've updated my profile.. is that looking better or ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Xtasia that’s we’re I verified are from

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By *bt96 OP   Man
over a year ago

GAINSBOROUGH

whats xtasia?

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"whats xtasia?"

It's a club

Posting 6 times the same thing in under an hour isn't going to help to be honest

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By *bt96 OP   Man
over a year ago

GAINSBOROUGH

didn't know which would be best to post in thats all lol

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Take a look at what you can do differently to what you are doing now - the answers are all in your hands

It might be revising your profile so it reads better, adding new pics, changing your approach (blind messaging people isn't the only option), adjusting your expectations or attitude or writing different messages, or approaching a different type of person, or even a combination of all of those.

Good luck

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

The day i joined i got 7 veris as i went to a couple of clubs before i came on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pre covid I used to put up short notice town centre coffee meets. I'm a social creature and don't mind verifying newbies

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Coffee social locally.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

Veris, or lack there of, are often blamed for not getting meets, as if spending 10 minutes camming with someone is suddenly going to make all the difference. I had 5 meets before my first veri, because I really could see the point of them, having previously used another site that didn’t use them. Far more important to sort your profile out, learn how to message nicely, visit some clubs, go to some organised socials, use the forums, and engage with the lifestyle.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I met a local fella. He took me hiking.

The things i do for verifications...

I’m sure others have said, but maybe try camming with someone (Make sure you make it clear its for veri purposes so they don’t cam and run).

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how did everyone manage to get the first meet on here to get verified? nobody will meet because im not verified but how am I ever going to get verified if everyone says that... I dont get how people got started on here

"

Just lower your standards to the very bottom of the pile then slowly build them back up with the more veris you get!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone really wants to meet you, then trust Nippy, they will meet you!!! Make them REALLY WANT to meet you fella and quit complaining unless you want a pity meet?

I mean that in the nicest and most helpful way possible

Also, as a side note, when talking with people you don't really know that well - the reason they might site isn't always the real reason. Lack of veri's is often a polite excuse to say no thanks due to something more personal or difficult to say to avoid hurting your feelings.....

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coffee social locally."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A local social coffee and chat .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just simply got chatting on the forums and a certain someone took a shine and we met in person for some conversation then a week later went to a club and since then have been on a few club visits.

Not verified anymore because I deleted my old account but I'm not really looking to be verified

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By *bt96 OP   Man
over a year ago

GAINSBOROUGH


"If someone really wants to meet you, then trust Nippy, they will meet you!!! Make them REALLY WANT to meet you fella and quit complaining unless you want a pity meet?

I mean that in the nicest and most helpful way possible

Also, as a side note, when talking with people you don't really know that well - the reason they might site isn't always the real reason. Lack of veri's is often a polite excuse to say no thanks due to something more personal or difficult to say to avoid hurting your feelings.....

Good luck! "

Oh i do understand that but alot of the time ill go to message someone and it says they only accept messages from verified users? I think even unverified should still be able to send a message even if its just one...

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I went to a club and fucked everyone, got verifications to confirm this

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By *bt96 OP   Man
over a year ago

GAINSBOROUGH

im not that bothered about being verified but would like to get the chance of meeting someone so would like to have as much of a advantage as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went to a club and fucked everyone, got verifications to confirm this "

I remember that night....my arse still hurts today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone really wants to meet you, then trust Nippy, they will meet you!!! Make them REALLY WANT to meet you fella and quit complaining unless you want a pity meet?

I mean that in the nicest and most helpful way possible

Also, as a side note, when talking with people you don't really know that well - the reason they might site isn't always the real reason. Lack of veri's is often a polite excuse to say no thanks due to something more personal or difficult to say to avoid hurting your feelings.....

Good luck!

Oh i do understand that but alot of the time ill go to message someone and it says they only accept messages from verified users? I think even unverified should still be able to send a message even if its just one... "

Get on cam in the chat rooms and ask someone politely if they'd mind verifying you. They're all quite friendly. Problem solved! I would if you asked...

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